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bigpicture001:
...what kind of talk is this for crying out loud..? i and my girl decided to make it official by tieing the knot especially since sh is about 3 months pregnant..

At last i journeyed to her home town and her family house just last week oo.. the parents received me well, and in the goings her dad refused to accept my dowry payment insisting i must wait for 6 more months to marry her. according to him, it is forbidden to marry a pregnant lady in their tribe.. which kain talk b that, he said giving her out now means giving two persons to me at once , that i must wait for safe drlivery nd they take the child since sh is not married yet before i can marry only his daughter...i am suspecting its because they have only one male child in their family so they want to try luck.. moreover, we dont even know the child sex yet..

Me and sh wanted to make this official so that the coming child will b legitimate and moroever what is one even waiting for..?

aveg which kain confusion be this.. anyone heard of this kind of thing before..?

I suspect your in-laws are igbos.... It is the tradition in some places in the east.

Solution: Get your fianceè to introduce you to her uncles who can mediate in the matter. You'll just have to pay some fines

theboss01:
My Samsung Galaxy note 9 started displaying "Emergency calls only" even when my sim is inside the phone and detected. I can't make or receive calls or connect to the Internet. I've done factory reset, airplane toggle on and off. Nothing has changed. Please who is experiencing same and any idea on what to do?

Time to upgrade to a higher Samsung flagship phone

I love it!

LaHeiress:
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HellVictorinho6:
whether itz a gathering of believers in Jesus or not,


Why?


I mean the last five days of each of the past 25 to 26 years have been seeming like my last days on Earth.

so what am i celebrating?

is it the constant near death experiences caused by acute poverty/disease?

who does that!

what a pure nonsense!

what sort of life am i celebrating?

is it the exposure to political/religious bunkum that preaches constant feeling of indebtedness or guilt 4 not voting XYZ or worshipping 123?

already ,certain people want me to even commit suicide but itz all due to their hate towards me.


however,not even a gathering of atheists can move me.


where were those atheists on nairaland when i got homeless again?


u guys dont really care.


i wont assemble anywhere.

i will find cartons if am still alive on sunday and ask my mum to let me be.



she must let me curse that miserable year when i came into existence.

It is all a matter of choice...

ahnie:
I use to be a staunch supporter of arsenal years ago,my heart was shattered when Chelsea then under Jose Mourinho trashed us 7 zeros I have forgotten the year ........omorr I just jejely left them before cardiac go kill my enemies.I have bn club less since then.

@ahnie you dey watch ball?

justicenms1:
Good evening dear nairalanders I know many people don't like reading long epistles so I will try to be brief,I'm 26 years old born to a higher middle class family (if there's anything like dat) however my dad lost he's job and was forced to sell his assets bad business planing and in a twinkle of an eye lost everything started living from hand to mouth well.well fastward last 6years I got admission to study law at umaru musa yaradua university started with remidials some days to my 2l second semester exam I had an accident and got a bad injury on my knee that made me stay at home for more than a year I had to drop out.wen I recovered
I began to rear chickens to take care of my self and also raise money for my tuition when my mum had an accident too in almost the same place as mine we had to sell off alot of things including my chickenes to raise money for her surgery which was successful in all these things Iv tried to remain positive and don't think much of my self as a drop out expecialy wen I see my mates graduating.well my dad got a little contract and promised heaven and earth to see to it that I finish sch so I enrolled in a foreign university that has an affiliation center in my state the money was actually in his account while we were waiting for my course form to come out for me to know aw much I will pay for the courses he used the money for something else that's how the semester finished nd I missed d exam again.i also fell very ill with some things coming out of my body I became weak lost weight,not able to sleep at night with the fact that right at my very own eyes I'm about to drop out again. I got a job with my state government using my sec sch cert they employed us as vigilance service to assist the police well we haven't been paid this is three months they keep telling us that's the norm if you get a job with the gov they don't start to pay imediately I felt so depressed and began to think about how to exit this painful and wicked world.on another thought I see wen people coming suicide people always regret y dey did nt speak up.. I decided to try fr d last time i was lookiing at d bottle of sniper wen I posted, and someone was bashing me calling me names..I desperately needed money to go for treatment I posted my number fr anyone to call me I just needed some one neutral to talk to a guy frm this forum called we spoke for a long time I remember confessing to him that I never knew an igoo man can be this nice and generous and asked me to send my account number.he sent me airtime and asked him to send him my account number i was so happy that atleast I will b going to d hospital imediately he sent d airtime he blocked me..an unknown woman chatted me up and said some one gave her my number she asked for my dad's number and he coraborated wat I told her..she asked me to go the hospital and she transferred all my medical bills to the hospital.she also made the deposit of 200k to my school account that will take care of two semesters I really thank the person that gave her my number.Not everyone is a scarmer please make sure you make due investigation to avoid been scammed into helping someone, don't also rush to lebel another person a scarmer if you are not sure he's not.
Note this woman this woman stays in Lagos
I have not seen her before I pray that one day I will have to capacity to put a smile on some one face..God bless you.

I am half for you

GLReocord:
I've seen quite a few financially boyant people always checking the Binance app on thier devices.
Is there something they are not telling us ? 🤔

A whole lot bro... But only if you have good capital

FeliciaOja:
I meet him July this year, everything about him is cool. My only worry is his fanatical support for arsenal which I consider the worst club on earth.

He keeps disturbing me of how his club will win the league, but whenever they lose he becomes super depressed and aggressive.

We have talked about this many times and he has sworn to change.
But this night he came back very late and was making so much noise, shouting and yelling
Then I googled scores and saw that his club lost today

I can't take it anymore
He is not the first guy I have dated that loved football. His own is that when his club loss it affects him very bad.

I have even suggested he should stop supporting arsenal but he won't listen.
After this night rubbish he just displayed I'm thinking of calling it quits.

Am I overreacting??

If he is an arsenal fan and had refused to change that his frustrating behavior; be ready to put up with more of such cos arsenal is known for breaking their fans heart very very well!!!

So, decide on if you can reach a compromise to live with that if not while considering his other positive attributes.

Swiftcorp:
Hello fellow NLs,

As the first child and only male, I have been fortunate to have been selected to invest our a family inheritance of N100m for a year. I'm looking for business ideas to gain as much as 50% in the next one year. I am open to any form(s) of suggestions. Thank you 🙏🏾

Go and buy hectares of land, put gate, get realtors as marketers to market the lands per plots.

Overdosed:
Thank you very much mate. Are you a student there?

I am an alumni of U.I. I didn't study pharmacy but had friends back then that did.

Be ready to read very hard cos the pass mark is 60... Anything less than 60 is a fail!!!

Well, except tht has changed now

Thank Godness that they discouraged him...lol

We learn everyday... Listen to your mechanic for free days

Overdosed:
Tho there's one question I'll like to know from Existing students.

Is pharmacy Under the college of medicine in UI?

Is there a crossing over after Year 1 like in Unilag?

Does UI offer B.Pharm of Pharm. D?

No

No, except you'll write another UTME

B.Pharm

Not just a palace but a functional monument from history...

They need their privacy

Nice concept... No 1 Dangote cement ambassador

Anansa0003:
So there's no way around it...

No way my brother... The only way is to reach a resolution with the man or be prepaid for a long court case which you will most likely lose

Anansa0003:
There's is this land Mr A bought more than 10years ago with the necessary documents apart from the C of O...and Mr A has built his house on this same land that same time..10years later , he wants to do C of O cos of some land Tussles and the likes, he discovered that the Land Has a C Of O registered with another person's Name because the Original owner of the Land sold it to someone before and the person paid and left it like that for more than 5 years and the Thief of a man resold it again to Mr A....il


Please if paraventure the Man whose name is on the C of O returns and want to claim ownership of the Land will their be any Law to stop him or since his name is on the C.OF.O Mr A has no option than to vacate his own House with nothing..

PS: Nobody knows the Man whose name is on the C.Of .O... but from findings the Man leaves abroad and has been living there for more than 20years now..




Pls I need your input...

The man with the C of O owns the property...

It is sickening to know that tribal bigotry has gone full blown in Nigeria on twitter!!!

This country should just be divided in peace and let's all rest!

That ring meant a whole lot... Reminded me of how students nearly stripped Tu-face during on of the Havannah shows in U.I back in the days.

You sell your soul at a young age all for what!!!?

Reelafonja:
Not really
Sometimes
It was a bit high of late in which am taking medications for
Am not obese

Your bp meds are the cause... So, abstain till you are married!

#PeaceOut

RSAV:
Good evening doctors in the house.

For the past 6 to 8 months, the frequency of my treatment of malaria has increased from 2 to 3 months to every month.

Note that my environment is clean and I rarely see mosquitoes in my house.

A health worker I spoke with said I should boost my immunity which prompted me to buy and take centrum multivitamin and vitamin C (1,000mg) daily. Yet, the monthly malaria treatment persists.

What can I do or what am I not doing?

Only mosquitoes cause malaria.... Start using mosquito net

Dagger111:
In 2016 she told me her salary was N35,000. And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only N8,000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. N654,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine.

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.”

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. Her father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?”
I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?” He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked him, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”

My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Lastly she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money.
She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all.
She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a separation for a period, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions.

What will you do if you are in my position and feeling deeply hurt??

I love the way you handled the whole thing...

But, you have to calm down sooner or later

Let's hope not... they deserve to play!

The Lion of ondo state has gone to rest.... We the living shall move on!!!

White but colourful

May his soul rest in peace...

Jewessgratitud3:
Please, what is this image in my photo?


Yesterday I posted a throwback of my photo from seven years ago after Facebook posted it on my memory. After I posted it here, a Nairalander came and noticed the image asd asked me who's was that?... guys for the past seven years I never noticed that image was there for once. So I thought...
🤔 could he have edited and put it there because nairalanders never cease to amaze me. I quickly went to my photo gallery to check the original photo and still saw it there. I had to take it down and crop out that part in order not to derail my thread yesterday.

I called my twin and showed her, that wan begin dey fear 😂😂😂 say why should I bring up such pics this kind night? .. hmmm. I allayed her fears and dropped the call.

Please who can explain the image on the top left corner of this photo? The part I eclipsed in red.

It is a ghost feature on picture editing apps

Romanoff:
It was regular corn they sell on the street and it wasn't as sweet as sweet corn.

lol! You've even eaten already