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RSAV:
Good evening doctors in the house.

For the past 6 to 8 months, the frequency of my treatment of malaria has increased from 2 to 3 months to every month.

Note that my environment is clean and I rarely see mosquitoes in my house.

A health worker I spoke with said I should boost my immunity which prompted me to buy and take centrum multivitamin and vitamin C (1,000mg) daily. Yet, the monthly malaria treatment persists.

What can I do or what am I not doing?

Only mosquitoes cause malaria.... Start using mosquito net

Dagger111:
In 2016 she told me her salary was N35,000. And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only N8,000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. N654,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine.

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.”

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. Her father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?”
I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?” He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked him, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”

My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Lastly she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money.
She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all.
She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a separation for a period, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions.

What will you do if you are in my position and feeling deeply hurt??

I love the way you handled the whole thing...

But, you have to calm down sooner or later

Let's hope not... they deserve to play!

The Lion of ondo state has gone to rest.... We the living shall move on!!!

White but colourful

May his soul rest in peace...

Jewessgratitud3:
Please, what is this image in my photo?


Yesterday I posted a throwback of my photo from seven years ago after Facebook posted it on my memory. After I posted it here, a Nairalander came and noticed the image asd asked me who's was that?... guys for the past seven years I never noticed that image was there for once. So I thought...
🤔 could he have edited and put it there because nairalanders never cease to amaze me. I quickly went to my photo gallery to check the original photo and still saw it there. I had to take it down and crop out that part in order not to derail my thread yesterday.

I called my twin and showed her, that wan begin dey fear 😂😂😂 say why should I bring up such pics this kind night? .. hmmm. I allayed her fears and dropped the call.

Please who can explain the image on the top left corner of this photo? The part I eclipsed in red.

It is a ghost feature on picture editing apps

Romanoff:
It was regular corn they sell on the street and it wasn't as sweet as sweet corn.

lol! You've even eaten already

funmijoyb:
Kindly help me with the meaning of liquidated used in the context


No insult

"Liquidated" in this context is a military term for termination of a 'military asset'.

The man is considered an asset for Hamas... So, Hamas' asset was liquidated by Israel.

Lol! What a funny boxing match

Romanoff:
So my Husband got a hamper this Holiday season and there was sweet corn inside of it. I was happy I wouldn't need to buy one to make fried rice.

Fast forward to when I stated cooking, something prompted me to check the container well since fake goods are trending and to my surprise, my sweet corn might be fake.

The word "Preservatives " isn't spelt correctly.

E dakun, what do you think?

Open it to check out the content... If you suspect any thing mischievous, biko discard it!

Collinsemegreat:
Hi everyone.

I am 26, had sex for the first time with a prostitute (with condom which I am not sure I wore properly).

I am a no sex before marriage before now has I am not dating ATM.

I need advice from your Christian followers how to reconcile with God as I not trying it again till marriage.

Simply ask for forgiveness, repent not to do it again (abstinence), then go ahead and forgive yourself knowing God had forgiven you (That is, forget about it and move on!).

I admire your your decision.... Cheers

letstalksense:
There is this lady I plan to marry, which I have made known to her already even before she travelled for her NYSC. Although she just came back from NYSC service recently. We are just discussing the way forward and on the process I was asking her about her sexual life and how recently she had sex. After insisting for her to answer. She opened up and told me she had a sexual relationship during her NYSC service. And the reason was because I didn't call her at a particular time so she thought I have find anther woman. And that was when I was having some personal challenges. According to her, they ended the sexual relationship in the camp. That she is sorry and all that. I didn't really expect that attitude from her as she seem to look responsible and Godlily. I was just disappointed even though I pretended like everything is well. And I was also thinking she had the courage to tell me the true.

Now I have to make my decision, but needs a matured advise and guidance from a mature mind please.

Do think I should continue my marriage plan with her?

Pease what do you advise I do?

Thanks in advance.

It is your life choice to make. No one should make it for you!!!

Good that she was honest in telling you the truth. That is a plus for me.

The next question is this; can you live with the truth?

I hope you'll not marry her now, then you travelled and you call her phone when she is busy or not with her phone. I hope your brain won't start to think of funny funny things that may not be true (e g is she with another man?)

Or she will be just mutual friend with a male colleague and you're thinking; hope they are not having sex.....


The question here is, can you trust her on your part!!!?

Testiebobo:
I really thank God for granting me the opportunity to be alive to celebrate 2023 christmas.
But there is one fucking thing i hate in my life, is that i should be pleading to someone to ask if i had offended him or her and the person still remains sturbborn and refuses to give reasons. Yesterday, i prepared party rice with fried rice and pounded yam with egusi, and distributed it to my neigbours. But one particular neigbour of mine, who is a muslim has refused to collect the rice i brought for him, but i pleaded to him that the pounded yam was not enough for everyone, dat was why i gave him rice. He later collected it sha. Most of my neigbours are muslims and they all appreciated me for yesterday gift except that bald ingrate. Well, all glory to God almighty, that am alive. This is my christmas experience for the year. Merry christmas and happy new year in advance

Stop sharing food to people except to anyone in need.
It will save you from a lot of bad belle

Congratulations to them

ChildOfDoom:
Some of us (exuberant youths) lack moderation in anything we do. I was a chronic debtor and was always in trouble from playing bet9ja. I decided to pick another addiction to help regulate my addiction to bet. Unfortunately my addiction to visiting brothels has become stronger than any addiction I ever had. Even though it improved my performance in bed, it has left me always exhausted, Hot and broke.

Whenever I am broke, I say to myself that I will change and save once I get money, but the thoughts of easy-to-tap asses and holes to drill is just too hard to resist. Now I go raw intermittently. Even catching infection (Chlamydia) or fear of HIV has not deterred me. I only change a little till I am cured

I now dread night time. The music reverberating from the brothel close by is enough to get me high anticipating my next romp with a lass. I fear my case will be like that of a nairalander who once lamented he was still visiting brothels at age 47.


10k entered my hand yesterday but it's all gone!!! No difference with betting that made me miserable. It's as if I now work to satisfy my third leg. The only difference from betting is that I still reserve small money to eat after lashing unlike when playing Virtual. But I can't save. Even when I give someone money to hold for me, I collect it back to flex

Yesterday when the money arrived, I did soapy rigorously, bought junk (with up to four carbonated drink) and even played 1k sportybet (after a long while of abstaining) all to feel remorseful and avoid any more vices. Yet I still went there to clear my head with one call girl. Same way betting made me unkempt and also to sell things, I have gradually begun that with Olosho.

PAINFUL SOLUTION

As harsh as this might sound, only when I get a permanent excruciating sickness or I have my rod permanently paralysed will I maintain focus.

Relocste from where you have brothels too close to you

Treat everyone one to the best of your ability... No one knows the future of the man beside him.

Help07:
Good day guys please I need help.

Currently I'm owing close to 15 loan sharks! Yes 15! I don't know how I found myself here owing almost 600k! My income is just below 100k and I've never defaulted these loan for once. My greatest mistake was that I always take one to pay another thinking I'll get out in time but now I'm stucked and depressed thinking about them every single day. I don't even have money for my family.

I intended to pay them their money because I don't like owing people but I really want to put an end to be collecting one to pay another and I think that's the only way out But I don't have the money for all of them at once.

So my friend is really gingering me to deny then all access on my phone to my contacts that they won't be able to call my contacts because I cannot stand the embarrassment and defamation from these sharks until I have the money to be settling them. My dignity is at stake here which can affect my job.

So I'm asking does it work? Does anyone have an experience with these? If I deny them the permissions on my phone just to buy time to pay them, would they still have a way to reach out to my contacts? I'm scared and worried because I'm mentally unstable like this

Please I need advice abeg

Denying them access on your phone will not work cos they have extracted your contacts already.
The best thing is for you to brace up for their harassment and hope to pay up the loans as soon as you can.

Like Mohammed Salah, like Ahmed Musa!!!

Autobot05:
Good morning and merry Christmas

I have this distant cousin ( Mid 20’s) and we are quite close. From my perspective She kinda suffers from a mental disorder or illness rather but y’all know African parents and their mentality na. Her parents believed it’s a spiritual thing . This cousin of mine often run away from home.

The last time she ran away from home, she copied a pastor's Number from a TV advert when watching TV at home and ran to his house when her parents tracked her down to his house through his ( the pastor’s) help too. After meeting her parents He said she should stay at his place for a while so he can tackle her case specially . Her parents often send money to the pastor during those times. After a while She suddenly packed her bag and ran back to her parents house Without any explanation and the pastor kept calling her mother frequently to bring her over that he wasn’t done with the deliverance or whatever. ( the pastor is a married man btw and stays with his wife but I don’t know if they have kids )
Fast forward to last month the parents of my cousin found out she was pregnant. After multiple interrogations She finally confessed that the pastor Raped her ( while she was at his place ) and threatened to kill her if she tells anybody
She never told anyone even after she came back to her parents house until they found out she’s pregnant. The pastor isn’t aware he is still calling for them to send her back but her mother isn’t picking his calls

I’m lost because I was so close to her. she even babysat me as a toddler and even taught me Before I was old enough to go to school and we have been close since like forever … now I even stopped speaking to her because I feel so bad she opened the door for all this mess by running from home and not telling anyone at the right time .. I’m just trying to manage my emotions because I’m short tempered and can act irrationally when Angered

What can I do in this case ? What legal steps can be taken ?

Visit a human right organization and also report to the ministry of women affairs.

The only issue will be how to prove it was a rape and not consentual.

guobe:
When I was a kid I read this book delivered from the power of darkness and also most of my peers in those days did too.
It was horrific reading it but as a kid I was already used to watching horror movies like the hammer house of horror and the likes.
It was quite intriguing then.

I did not... Very frightening book to read

Mambo4real:
DDR4 Ram 8gb and 4gb. 11,500 and 6,500 respectively.
Interested whatsap or call 08026780700

where your location and are they negotiable?

Paentera:
In documents recently obtained, it has been established that the Oyo State Governor, Seyi Makinde and his cronies are looking to demolish one of the heritages of Oyo State - the renowned Agodi Gardens, Ibadan - to give way to a residential estate for his cronies and himself.

Agodi Gardens is a botanical haven where numerous trees in existence for hundreds of years as well as flora native to this part of the world. It is one of Oyo State's prime tourist destinations and is easily at par with the status of Lekki Conservative Centre, a world wide renowned ecological conservation site.

Please we need the good people of Oyo State and eco-activists to rise to the occassion by stopping the illegal conversion of Agodi Gardens to commercial use.

An injuction order was filed by concerned individuals at the Federal High Court in Ibadan yesterday however we know that governments can be selfish and will go ahead to clear these trees without any conscience so we need the good people to lend their voices to this cause

I wonder what Seyi Makinde is thinking...

Go back to your biology class or go and pay a gynaecologist to learn.

FreeStuffsNG:
You will not believe the huge number of people who behave like OP. Smh.
He will be alright las las. Thank God it's his land and not community land like the story in the blockbuster tragicomedy film 'Ti Oluwa Ni Ile'.

I remember that old movie... Baba Wande in his young days

samicine:
My family has been a tad but dysfunctional one from time immemorial, but I've been trying my best to make it stable for a while now. I graduated April and I came back home to help out with finances and whatnot. Note, I've been helping out since I was in my final year thanks to web3 and it's opportunities. I turned 24 last month and I'm making plans for my future but my younger brother is single handedly trying to ruin my future and this family. He's a drug addict, I came home to him selling half the properties in the house, while myom folded her hands and did nothing, instead petting him. I tired talking to him and encouraging him, however he claimed to have changed door a while, but then he stole half my belongings from clothes to shoes and sold. This isn't the first time, family members has given this guy various opportunities but he has squandered it. At some point he even stole human hair worth over 1million from my cousin who's doing pretty well herself. But my mom as usual covered for him and pleaded on his behalf. Heck, during childhood this guy stole from my mother and I took the blame. We stay in the same house and I don't talk to him or anything. But yesterday, the worse happened. I'm doing pretty well for my self, this boy approached my mom and accused me of stealing money from his account, 1200. I ignored obviously, because we aren't even that close and I didn't do it. Note, he made this accusations early in the morning around 3am. Waking the whole house . I ignored. By morning , once I've woken. My clothing and shoes where missing and he wasn't around. When he came back I approached him and demanded for my items and this boy carried cutlass and almost killed me. But my mom had to get in between us. I'm the one restraining my self because I wouldn't want anything to happened to my mother if we get physical, but this boy threatened to kill me and do all manner of things to me.. because he's a cultist. I'm generally the calm one. Lol. My mother plainly told me to my face saying she didn't believe I didn't take the money. Me that has been contributing my blood and sweat to rhis house hold. Yet she keeps choosing him over me Every time, I had to move out of the house at some point years ago. I came home for Christmas now I'm leaving without no clothing or whatever To my name. I have to start from scratch. She still pets him and God every night I resist the urge to kill him and be done with this. To be honest. But yesterday was the height of it. How do I get my belongings back? How do I manage this whole issue without getting my hand dirty. He has nothing to loose and I have everything. I just need my items back and then I'd leave this family for good. I stay in Abuja by the way. I need advice, I can't leave this place without getting my belongings back. I can't keep loosing and backing down. I've been this chill because of my mother. Your advice would be most welcome.

Please, move back to abuja and have peace of mind.

TheOldGods:
wow Chinese restaurant. Well I'm in Enugu and we hardly have such here.

Visit expensive places with the mind of socializing

CandidAdmin:
Have you ever killed any animal especially christmas chickeem in a gruesome manner?

Mine was a few years ago. I wanted to give my hen its food but I didn't know it was stretching its neck in a little space underneath the door. As I trying to open the door, I noticed it wouldn't open. I tried forcing it open not knowing I was smashing its neck until I noticed.

After I had allowed it to withdraw its head, I saw it on the ground shaking. It then started jumping abount with its head dangling about before it finally died.

Omo it pained me because it was my biggest out of the five I had.
share yours

Mynd44
Nlfmod

Mine was also a chicken, back then I would buy chicken from a friend that had poultry and sell them to workers in my mum's hospital who will pay over a period of 3 months.
Some of them proffered the payments on instalments for their xmas chicken.

There came this one time that the heat was so terrible and the sun was blazing hot!!!

Some of the broilers started dying in the car of heat stroke... I literally had to pull off their heads from their body just to get them killed before they died in the car.

It was a big mess!!! That was the dayvI stopped that xmas business... I just had to quit cos it was a traumatizing wxperience for me.

One of the chicken splattered faeces on my whole body as I forcefully pulled off it's neck.

Very disgusting episode

TheOldGods:
As a guy, who is doing well and earning over a million a month. I want to make sure I find girls within my class. Unfortunately I don't know where to go or start from. Most girls I see at the mall are looking for who will buy them gelato ice cream. Where are these hardworking curvy successful girls with car going to? Is it club? Or a church? At Least even if she doesn't have a car, let her be earning half a million or 200k atleat.

Guys where Una dey find these girls?

There is a reason why some of us choose to eat in Chinese restaurants... It is not that we love the food nor it is worth the thousands we get to pay!!!

It is because you do not meet people of some certain 'Class' often in common places.

olumikom:
Good morning house,

Please I need experts advice on BMW X4 2015 2.0L, I am planning of buying this car, but someone told me we don't have BMW mechanics in Nigeria, and that the vehicle is not reliable in terms of maintenance. He said if the vehicle goes on any error code, it can not be clear or reset except if it's taking back to BMW dealer's shop.

Are those issues mentioned above true ?

Thanks in advance to all the experts in the house.

That's not true. The only problem we have is that there are few mechanics that specialize in Bmw

Keepamsafe:
I haven’t been feeling fine cos of malaria and typhoid since on Wednesday so I took Thursday and today off from work. Being sick and a bachelor, I’ve been craving things especially goat meat pepper soup but I have no one to prepare it for me amidst my sickness. So, I had to take the bull by the horn.

I wrote down a list and went to the market to buy things for goat meat pepper soup. Before leaving the house, I realized my female neighbor was at home, so I thought it was a good time to reciprocate her generosity so, I went to the market having her in mind.

Im done cooking now so i want to surprise her with my delicacy. I have dished her own share and im taking it to her now. Im thinking of adding malt too. Well, I hope she likes it.

OAM4J Mynd44 Rocktation Nlfpmod Seun Dominique lalasticlala help for wider opinion please

You've done well