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Nice team outlook

These evil people are just everywhere!!!

Shobizz:
So happy as I click the link now and it open.
For days have been getting error unable to access Nairaland.

I had to search Twitter & Facebook to know what wrong.

I didn't know how NL has become part of my daily routine till few days ago.

I kept checking daily.

Dude is still trying to seek legal redress...lol

Zero respect for his workplace!!!

Iceman2017:
Please I need your help and advice. This post might be a little bit longer.

I met my baby mama through a friend in January 2023 and we bonded So well. The relationship was so lovely and I supported her in her academics and also helped her to acquire some skills, which I will not go in details to avoid a long thread.

Fast forward to may 2023, I proposed to her and she accepted the proposal. Though she earlier told me that her mother wanted her to marry from her village but she loved me and will want to spend her life with me.

Yea, we are from different state but the same tribe. After the proposal, I told her that I want to come and see her parents for proper introduction, and she told me to wait first, that she want me to meet her mom first.
Then her mother traveled and she spent like 2 months before she came back.

Fast forward to second Sunday of July, I went to see her mother. I bought some things and went there. She accepted me and told me that they are Christian family. That they will pray and seek the will of God before she will ask me to come for other things. That I should give them time.

So, after that brief introduction, my girl change. Though we were talking everyday as usual but I noticed that she was sliding away somehow. I confronted her about that which she denied and assured me of her commitment in our relationship.

I had my birthday that same month, my girl sent me personal messages on WhatsApp and text but she failed to post me on her WhatsApp status or even Facebook. But I didn't take that serious, but my friends that have her number began to ask some questions why my woman failed to post me on her status.
They even confronted her and later she apologized to me and gave me one stupid reason that she doesn't want her people to see her post of me. Since the family is already praying, that they told her to minimise the way she Relate with me so that our steady communication will not influence her decision or affect the prayer.

By the ending of July, she ran some test and discovered that she's pregnant. She called me and even sent the PT test to me. I invited her, calmed her down and promise to be by her side.
I told her not to tell her people yet. That she should ask her people when they want me to come for the marriage rights and if they ask me to come, we must have done everything before they would know of the pregnancy. She insisted of telling them, that her mother would know. She was crying and was so much worried of what people will say, what the church will say and bla bla bla. I tried my best to calm her down.
I told her that we need to visit hospital to run a proper test instead of the urine test. She said it should be upto 2 months which I declined and I reminded her the day we had sex, that in my calculation, it should be 3 weeks.

She went home that day and the next day she went to see her elder sister. After that very day, my girl totally changed. She refused to go for the test I told her. She was like she don't want to run any test, that if I insist that it will be by Saturday of that week.
I got annoyed and later that Wednesday night, I asked if she was really pregnant, she said yes and I asked her if I'm responsible for the pregnancy. She got mad and ended the call.
The next day I went to her house, I heard her praying inside. The sister asked me to wait for her outside. After her prayer, she came out and told me that her dad is around, that since he doesn't know of me yet, that she don't want to bring me in.
The next day, she told me that no need to go for that test again, that she's no more pregnant. I was confused. I contacted her friend which she reported me to when I asked her if I'm responsible for her pregnancy. She told her friend that I got her pregnant and want to deny her.
When I told her friend what she said, she told her friend the same thing. I asked her if she took abortion pill, she said no. She was like she declared a word of faith and God has taken away the pregnancy. The whole thing sounded so stupid to me. I was more confused because she sounded with so much convintion

But I insisted on going for the test. I took her for the test and the result came out the next day and it was positive. When I collected the result, I asked her to come around so we can talk but she refused and told me that she won't come to my house again.
I tried so many times so we can talk, she kept hiding from me until after 2 weeks, she asked Me to come to her side. I went there, she took me to one church close to her house.
She told me that she don't want to go ahead with the marriage, that she want to hear from God. That if I want to travel out or do whatever I want to do, that I should go ahead and do it. That she will wait on God no matter how long it will take. After some days
I went to see her elder sister. The elder sister told me that their mother swore that anybody from my state and few other states she mentioned will not marry any of her daughter's. That any of her daughter that refused, she will never had any relationship with the very daughter and she would assume that the person is dead.
That even the very first day my girl mentioned my name to her mom. She was not happy.

To cut the whole thing short, they took the girl to a hidden location. They want her to stay there and gave birth there. When she was about two months pregnant, I asked her to go to hospital and enquire about atenental. She said I should send 20k for it. I sent her 20k

They now lied against me that I sent her 20k to go and run test to check the gender of the baby.
The mom told me to forget about the girl and the baby. That I should take it as one of the relationship things. That I shouldn't send any money again to her.
The girl has blocked me both on WhatsApp and Facebook.
I am not interested in the marriage again. All I want to know if there are legal ways I can have access to my baby. I never denied her in any way. Even In the relationship, she can't say that I wronged her.
Around early November, she returned my engagement ring. She told me that I will never see the baby nor have any relationship with the baby.
When I asked her what I did wrong. She couldn't utter a world. She kept saying unrelated things. She has been looking for excuses and reasons to hold against me.

She's 25 while I'm at my 30's.

The baby is not yours... forget it

gucci20:
Kindly rejoice with me family!! No one to celebrate it with me!!! But, I thank God for my life. Congratulations to myself!!!!

happy birthday to you!!!

FunnyDude:
I need your suggestions

I'm a family man and I need Toyota Corolla for my child school and daily runs due to fuel economy. Currently using Honda Accord but want to change it.

Which type should I buy considering durability and fuel consumption.

My budget is around 4 million Naira.

Corolla sport 2010-2012

Alagaman:
Good day to you all.

Last year, I completed my NYSC service and graduated from the university with a third-class degree. I have always had a passion for military service and, before graduation, I have been applying for several roles within the Navy, Army, and Air Force. I am delighted to say that I have been shortlisted for the Army after I applied again few months ago. Although my mother is not pleased with this career choice, she keeps saying I should have applied for short service and not with OLEVEL, But I graduated with a 3rd class, although my siblings and father support my decision.

Luckily for me, I was shortlisted to go for training in a month time, I don't know if I should proceed with the training or just stay back at home because the decision isn't going well with my mom and With the current unemployment crisis in the country, I am just totally confused and don't want to miss the opportunity. What advice can you give 😢😢

Please, if you have applied with O'level and shortlisted; DO NOT PROCEED!!!

ABORT MISSION!!!
I REPEAT, ABORT MISSION!!!

You will get frustrated as a junior and not a ranked officer!!!

Anything below short service for a graduate is a No! No!!!

Olaolar:
Why ist that landlady is now plenty more than landlord , have one's work as local agent searching for house for people in need ,, but mostly any apartments I visit landlady always be in care of the building which is not like before.
The problem is that when you ask for the landlord, the reply you have is that he is outside there, wish means he's dead .
Why what's happening, who's killing who, do wife kill their husbands to inherit the property or the landlord are the one putting their hand into something evil that shorting their life ,,.

Most men marry younger wives... Coupled with the stats that show that men are liable to die earlier than women.
Even in the wild, male animals tend to take more risks and tend to die earlier than the females.

That is surely not a church.... So many things are wrong with tht congregation and pastor

Hamachi:
From DM

If it is because your wife put to bed, get a maid and keep hustlimg till you have something better.

Very very unfortunate!!!

It is better... We Nigerians travel too much!

Mohammedakim7:
What's your review on this item.

Yes they do...

BurntDodo:
I just rounded up my NYSC/CDS and it had it ups and downs, mostly downs so I thought I'd share a couple of thoughts.

(1) I SHOULD HAVE STAYED THE ENTIRE 3 WEEKS AT CAMP. I left camp on the first day because I was sick but I think I was being soft. I should have stayed. Because of that, I didn't make a single friend and so at CDS, it was so difficult to make friends despite attending consistently. If I had stayed the entire 3 weeks at camp, chances are I'd have built strong bonds with someone that'd be posted to my LG. And so, I was alone the entire 12 months at CDS. Some days I'd talk to guys at CDS but it just never stuck.

(2) I REGRET THE FIRST 2 GIRLS I TALKED TO AT MY CDS. The first girl, I saw that she was a loner like me and I talked to her, got her number and all that but she wasn't giving me good energy. The second girl, I thought she was cute and so I struck up a conversation and got her number. On getting home, she wouldn't pick up my calls, she was acting very weird. Even at CDS, whenever I tried to talk to her she would literally use evasive manoeuvres. This girl really did a number on me I couldn't even ask her why she was acting like that. I started feeling really weird and insecure.

(3) I SHOULD HAVE TAKEN MY FINAL SHOT. There was this one girl at my CDS that was actually taking glances at me unlike the two that I went to meet out of the blue, and I really liked her too but because of what had happened before, I was uninterested and also insecure. I just kept waiting for the perfect timing. I wasted about 3 months waiting for the perfect timing. Never even got to say the word "hi" to her.

(4) I REGRET LEAVING MY POP EARLY. Immediately I picked up my certificate this morning, I headed for the gate, almost didn't even take a picture with my cert. I actually thought of waiting but I didn't think there was anybody worth waiting for to congratulate plus it would be so awkward sitting alone on a stone. I cried a little on the journey home wishing I stayed back just to watch people be happy.

I know companionship isn't the main point of the NYSC but still as a human, I long for social connections.
I didn't make the best out of the NYSC at all and it makes my stomach turn. NOT ONE FRIEND! Almost wishing for a do-over. On the journey home, it dawned on me that I had just concluded a part of my life, I wouldn't be able to wear the white and green that makes everybody stare at me, I wouldn't be able to go for CDS anymore (even though I hated it), and I wouldn't see the girls again. The worst part is for some reason, towards the weeks of final clearance, everybody started warming up to me, I was finally able to show my humour that one guy asked "Are you in this LGA?" when people ask me that, I know it's that I would have been part of their clique from day 1.

Quick question, would I be considered a psychopath if I called the 2nd girl who was evading me to ask why? Also, the girl I didn't take my shot with, I found her no on the magazine, should I call to tell her I have a crush on her maybe it doesn't have to end with CDS?

Welcome back to the real world... NYSC is your past now. Face the future!!!

Why is there always a Bush that they always run to...

I knew they would end it with "they ran into a bush".

GreaterFuture:
If my bank account has High Turnover, what bank do you advice is likely to give out credit facilities?
I'm talking turnover of 70, 80 Million upwards, Hundreds of millions, or even billions of naira, which bank do I approach for credit facility?

Also, what type of accounts are considered or have higher Probability?
Savings account, Current account or any?
corporate/company account, personal account or any?

Corporate account with Jaiz bank

Queendiamond398:
My husband prefers been busy on his phone with his numerous exes, divorcee and single ladies than gisting with me if we are together, i have always want him to have peace of mind but it seems he doesnt think of that about me

Am begining to find peace gisting with his friend anytime he comes to visit, some persons may say i saw the handwriting on the wall before i married him,Hell NO! .He succeded in making me chase all my friend both male and female away but now have numerous to chat with and laugh and please himself.

He thinks his smart but i pity him, is just my home training that is limiting me to do some kind of evil things ,we will go for party or club he will leave me and go and be sitting in midst of other ladies, while some men will come and sit with me and making advances at me and he doesnt know. Some of his friends that are as useless as him and come with their wives or Fiance doesnt know young and energetic men do have quickie with their wives at the rest room

My religion and the way i value my body can't make me to stooop so low to do all those things but why will a man choose to neglect the wive to be dieing of boredom .

Because of lack of attention my Male Colleagues always try to take advantage of that and be chatting with me till midnight without him even seeing it.

We lived in a separate room that this his attitude can make someone to be cheating without him knowing but i dont want to do that Please someone should help me out
Please am dieing slowly i have confronted him so many times but he will tell me i dont have the right to tell him what to do

That's one of the problems of staying in different rooms. Some men, choose the 'different bedroom' approach to have time for funny calls and charts alone.

You are doing well sticking to your home training. I advise you begin to have more casual friends(ladies) yourself and avoid men!!! It's easy to get attached to other men that give you attention.

And try improving your dressing and looks at home and out there!

Above all, hope for the best...

Racoon:
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Peter532:
This is getting so fustrating I don't know if they are doing it because of the colour of my teeth.

People keep covering their nose with one hand when I talk to them some move backwards. I have tried several times to perceive my mouth odour but it's normal.
I don't know if it's because it's me

See a dentist for teeth whitening and cleaning

Their problem is that they have no problems

Lol... This dude is funny

That alone cappedv his whole preaching... He was tested and failed not!

FarmBusinessNG:
I go dey for from of Dorin dey expect my share

lol... The ram is on the mainland.

He no fot send am come island

Getrich47:
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I am interested

Getrich47:
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How can i get it on lagos island?

Getrich47:
09058800009
Lagos

State your price and location in lagos

Foolishness of the highest order!!!

ahnie:
It's weekend let's have fun foodies
I decided to quickly arrange this redoil rice to hold body.


Ingredients

Blended crayfish
Bell pepper
Ginger/garlic
Redoil
Curry
Salt
Seasoning
Ochra spice.
Smoked catfish

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Mynd44
dominique

Mama! You don do well!!!

Omoyor:
Good day my beautiful people. Please share my story and hide my ID


My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost four years. We graduated together and she went to (service) NYSC before me. Then I was doing some menial job in Lagos to make ends meet.

During her stay in the NYSC camp, she used to tell me how Hot she feels. When they left the camp, she wanted to come and meet me in Lagos, but since I was staying with a friend, the place won't be convenient for her and I had to discourage from coming. Though we agreed that I would meet her where she was posted to. I had to help her but some stuffs she'd be needing since the school she was posted to gave her accommodation. Cylinder, foodstuffs and utensils. Around June, I started noticing some changes in terms of communication and her availability.

Since I didn't have any evidence to confront her, I kept quiet but I knew something was not right.

She called me one day that she's not doing long distance relationship, it's not helping her. I reminded her that we stayed 9 months during COVID-19, why this sudden change? This barely 3 months since we saw each other ( April).
I told her to give me some time so that we can meet up. She declined that I shouldn't bother. I insisted but she threatened to block me. I told her that whosever she's with is not worth the years we were together.

She latter told me that she is dating someone else and that was sorry about everything. That things are tough for her parents she needs to raise money for them and I can't help. I felt very bad that I couldn't help but why did she have to do this?

I nearly commit suicide. I was heartbroken and I felt like running to the road so I can just die. I wanted to call her mom and talk to her but I didn't see it necessary because she's not my wife. I spoke to her elder sister, who in turn spoke to her mom and they were all sorry for and that I should try to forgive and move on.


I didn't have anyone to talk to except her roommate back then in the school. Before they became roommate, we were all friends together even before I started dating her, I had met her friend/roommate first.

I started asking her friend out, she didn't say yes or no. We were still in the talking phase.

After 3 months that she left me, she started calling. Of course I refused to pick her calls. She left a Whatsapp message for me that if I'm not dating anyone now we should get back, that she couldn't love her now ex.
Because I still loved her, I gave her the chance to make up. We started dating again but I feel no emotion for her.
Like even if she's naked, I don't have an erection.

The worst thing is that the guy infected her with genital warts. Within the 3 months they dated, they had sex almost every day. It took me almost 6 months before I had sex with her

Recently, she has this male corper friend she talk to and she said that she doesn't want the guy to know that she's in a relationship. But they hang out most times and she doesn't answer my calls when they're together. I don't know what to believe anymore.

We plan to make things work out between us but the trust is already broken.

The problem now is I lost total trust in her. Even though I still have a soft spot for her, I feel like I'm going to not just cheat on her in the future, I'm going to sleep around to make her feel the pain I went through.
I don't know if I should honestly let her go.

Frank from Lagos

Hello Frank,

Please, move on and let her go!

IamWilliams:
Well done professionals

Please I need a serious advise on this

I'm currently a customer service rep in a major bank (full time staff and salary is 310k monthly) and i've spent close to 3yrs so far and aged 31. I have a BSC and MSC in Economics (BSC-2:2 grade, MSC-2:1 grade). Now, in recent time, I've been nuturing the idea of working in any of the BIG 4 with PWC been my biggest wish

Question is, Is working in PWC still possible considering that my background is just customer service or i should just forget the idea ?

Professionals in the house, I need your answer to this please

It is very possible!

How could the police be this barbaric!!!

This is not the way to go!!!

The same way they murdered the founder of Boko Haram and till now, we are srill battling with insurgency.