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I need a very solid advice.
My mum gave birth to 6 children and we are remaining five because we lost the second born(male) last year, he was about 46 years old(blessed memory).

Last year, we lost our mum to heart related illness after efforts proved abortive. My Dad is a Pastor, a big church of a plot and half land mass, but few members over the years.
I am a fresh graduate searching for job and my sister who's the third born lost her husband last year as well.

Our believe is that the area (family house) is devilish. My sisters believed that my mum's death wasn't ordinary but from that area.. Just this Monday, my dad has stroke ( his left leg and hand ), he said he had insomnia previous night(Sunday), but I quickly rush him with BP drugs.. When the nurse came to check his BP that same Monday, it wasn't high at all.. We took him away from that area.

Now, the issue is.. My dad is a CAC pastor, and most times CAC would take over the church if the owner dies.. We the children are still struggling financially and none of us is ready to become a pastor(to head the church).

I am having this thought that, to avoid such scenario (CAC taking over) why not just sell or lease it out? We have another building in Oyo state, and also a house beside the church.

I don't know if I'm thinking the wrong way though, that is why I need advice., Before I go ahead and table it before my sisters and my Dad. Myself, I don't want to continue in that area again.. Meaning nobody would stay, but our house which is beside the church, we can renovate it very well and that one in Ibadan and rent it out...
Please I need good and mature advice.
Thanks

AskProf:
Am I your typist?

Do you know the effort it takes for me to type this?

You father has stroke and you are hiding your number for what?

I reserve my pity for the old man.

This is public space, I don't want anything like scamming so I have to prevent myself.

Ok.

AskProf:
I asked OP to drop his number, that I will do the calling. For reasons known to himself alone, he kept evading it.

I told him that I am presently victim.

So, Nairalanders, have I not tried?

Why do I need to drop my number here?? If you are going through the same thing and you really want to help, You don't need my number sir.. Please if you can help, kindly quote me and give us insights and advice.. I really appreciate you sir.

shawante:
If the BP is normal why else would you need to control it. But i still insist you take him to the hospital so that he can be checked out by a proper doctor.
The doctor might see something else your sister isn't seeing, or maybe it's just old age catching up with your father.

Thank you very much..I'll take to an hospital.

shawante:
High BP is the major cause of stroke which is mainly caused by blood clot in the brain.

Please take your father to a hospital IMMEDIATELY. The earlier the better.

Is blood pressure is low, according to her , his BP is normal.

shawante:
High BP is the major cause of stroke which is mainly caused by blood clot in the brain.

Please take your father to a hospital IMMEDIATELY. The earlier the better.

When my nurse sister checked his BP, it wasn't high..
Maybe because I have already given him BP drugs.
If the BP is normal, can it be controlled? Or Hospital is Paramount.?

AskProf:
I am presently a victim. Drop your number, I will call you, now.

Please sir.. Can you tell me how you're coping with it here please

AskProf:
Is your sister really a nurse?

She should have know that the 1st step after stroke is hospital.

Stroke is not malaria. It will leave it mark if not quickly tackled.

Ok.. Thank You.
I'm very scared of stroke, but what could have caused it? Is it high BP cz he was unable to sleep last night.
And can it be quickly corrected.?

Good evening,
I will go straight to the point. My Dad is above 80 years and his mild illness is about Blood Pressure or malaria, being unable to sleep in the night, and that occurs seldomly, we got him BP drugs which has been helping matters.

But yesterday, he complained to my brother about his left leg and left hand getting hot, I was not aware. It was this morning he told me that he couldn't sleep last night, he went to pray then came back and I noticed that he wasn't walking very well, I took him inside and gave him food and his BP drug.
After some minutes, he said he cannot raise his left hand and left leg.

Please good people, what can I do right away! Presently he is with my sister who's a nurse, but any good information would be highly appreciated please.

God bless.

Good evening,
I will go straight to the point. My Dad is above 80 years and his mild illness is about Blood Pressure or malaria, being unable to sleep in the night, and that occurs seldomly, we got him BP drugs which has been helping matters.

But yesterday, he complained to my brother about his left leg and left hand getting hot, I was not aware. It was this morning he told me that he couldn't sleep last night, he went to pray then came back and I noticed that he wasn't walking very well, I took him inside and gave him food and his BP drug.
After some minutes, he said he cannot raise his left hand and left leg.

Please good people, what can I do right away! Presently he is with my sister who's a nurse, but any good information would be highly appreciated please.

God bless.

I am a chemistry graduate and unemployed, I finished service last year.
Asides venturing into business and teaching, what else can graduates for courses like Physics, chemistry, biology, plant biology, geography and so on, in their respective fields do?
They don't pay well in my community or local government area for teachers and all these big secondary schools need connection, an ordinary man has no chance.
Lastly, please enlighten me on how to search for jobs in my area of specialization, do we just submit CV online? I just need help and enlightenment from people who have been in my shoes.
Thanks
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Yemialade:
My name is Juliet and live in Ibadan
I met my boyfriend in Ibadan last year December when he came for business in my town.
We started dating and we are now planning for marriage .
I work as a teacher in a big school in Ibadan ,I just got the job after working in all this small small school .
My boyfriend is a construction manager and he has his own side business also.
So as we are planning I told my boyfriend I will move to kwara and leave my job when we get married o.
He was like I can keep my job if I like it cause I told him how I feel concerning that I just gotten the job which has huge benefit and salary increasement as I will be given promotion too.
So I was like how will I be doing it
He agreed for me to keep the job and we plan that I will be travelling twice in a month to kwara to see my husband.
But this is hard ,it is easy for men to be doing this but it is not for women.
Will this long distance marriage thing destroy my marriage as I will be a travelling wife ,what if temptation came to place for my husband when am not around just because of my job
I want to be there for my family .
What should I do in this kind of situation

Hello OP, please can I get a teaching job in Ibadan too?
I studied Education Bsc(ed).
Thanks in advance.

vibrant40:
Okay. I met this girl in an exam hall, we were both writing exams, so we did the student things, she asked me a maths question which she was kind of afraid of and me being a maths person answered her question and moved on with with my exams. After the exams she search for me to say her gratitude and we moved on. I think after the results was released and she got an A in the exams was when she had to find me and got me on Facebook. She chatted me and introduced herself, so we began chatting from there and that was how I got to know she is my kind of woman.

I asked her out, we started dating or lemme say I started dating her because at a pint she told me we were only friends during the time, be she do come to my side, we do touch and kiss but no s*x. Down the lane I got to know she had a guy whom she was dating but she could not marry because she has so many revelations and dreams that he is not the one and according to her, the guy had so many red flags. At a point I put it to her she should choose what she wanted on time, the guy or myself.


According to her she choose me. Along the line, she told me about another guy disturbing her for romantic relationship, because no matter what she will tell me anything even if she knows I am gonna hurt by that, although I do take it that she is trying to literally tell me to do quick and pop the question if I really want to marry her. All of a sudden I observe she was receiving a Seyi call till like 12midnight, and I would want to call her only for her to be busy on another call for a lengthy period.


She will not stop talking about this guy whenever we are together, how good the guy is to her, she even was like we have the same character but only that the guy is taller than I am and she had also never shy away from talking about the physically height of her dream children.


I saw all these as competition and keep letting her know how much I love and want to marry her. One afternoon, she just rang me and said just a sentence, 'I will marry you'. Well that gave me the assurance I needed, I met her mother (dad is late) and I must confess she has a very good mother, the mom checks on me everyday (infact she did while I was typing this epistle). I popped the questions and she said yes. We had our introduction and currently planing on getting married.


The problem now is, she would still not stop talking about this Seyi guy. She even called me one to tell me she went to his house, that the guy called home to come, I confronted her so many times to tell her how I felt about it, she kept saying sorry and keep repeating the same thing of no cutting loose from the guy, she even claimed that at least she is not having s*x with now that they are just talking..


Some days ago we had a serious argument about this matter and she was like maybe we should even end the relationship if I don't trust her (and this has always been her anthem whenever we have serious arguments, she would say maybe we are not compatible). She later apologized and promised not to let that happen again that she would cut loose of the guy, only for us to be talking via whatsapp last night around 11:40 for to receive this guys call and they spoke for like 10mins. I ended my call, she called back later and was like it was just an innocent talk they had....


Seriously, I am tired and confused, what should I do? Please help me with your candid advice. So sorry for the long epistle and some bad grammar.

Even when I used to be a simp, I wasn't tossed around like dice..
I didn't simp up to this level man!!! 100% sure the other guy had bleeped the hell out of her while you're trying to be kind, and being a gentleman..
Even though I simped, I still had control over my girlfriends.. I broke up with each and everyone of them when I had to and I made sure I didn't spend so much on anyone of them cz all dis girls belong to the street until you wife them.

Be man enough to control your girl, Yes I control my girlfriends too.. That way, they won't control you, they'll know their limit. Immediately a girl starts talking about this guy, how well he's built, he's rich or handsome , just know that your time with her is limited.

Kobojunkie:
Start interpreting what exactly?

Church Interpreter.. You get what I'm saying.

Honchoslim16:
If a Yoruba pastor says Esu... What do you translate it to 😂😂🤣🤣🤣

Satan na.. But interpretation deals more with confidence or boldness, no matter how learned you're, being able to translate Yoruba to English and English to Yoruba word for word is kinda sophisticated

Happy Sunday, I am a Christian and a true follower of Christ. I want to know how I can start being an interpreter, How do I start interpreting I'm English? Is it an heavy task? Interpreters in the house please how did you Start? What are the things you put in place ?

bassdow:
MultipleStreamsOfInCome

HandWork (partTime)
GovermentWork Salary (fullTime)

Most times, Govt Work na Leg..
How can someone apply for it or know when one is recruiting

dondodo:
My name is Solomon from Kogi State. A graduate of Accounting from a government University in Kogi state. Since I graduated from the university 10 years ago,I've been facing different challenges ranging from family,finance,health and so on.Luckily for me i got a good job this year and I've been thinking of settling down. Do you think it is proper for me to marry a woman at 35 or just have a baby mama? This question have been pondering my mind. Please your opinion is really needed

How old is Don Jazzy again with his wealth?

I realized I could actually add two or more businesses in my shop so I won't just sit down with the only one.
1. Nimc/NiN registration
2. Sim Registration
3. Gas filling
4. Bank Account registration

Please, I need a very good advice on these business and how I can effectively carry them out. I have a little space /shop I can use for the Gas filling, I just need the idea how to start since they are small scale businesses.
Thanks.

Go for the second girl. If u loved the first, you wouldn't have had another choice to choose from.

How can someone correct premature ejaculation?
I have no idea if excess of sugar or glucose in the body is the cause, but I hardly last 5min infact my gf literally argued that I hardly last 5min, we broke up in march but that might not be the reason tho, and those times, I would only do 1round and panran don slack and it would never hard again for a whole day!

The last time, it was just 5 thrust and this thing don release and e no hard again.. Omoh I won cry, babe just dy look me like..
I don't even want to invite babes to my house cz what if it happened exactly like this?

Is there a way I can treat this permanently? What are the causes? Please enlighten me.

Cutehector:
Shush it there.

The ones you have been dating, why haven't you manned up to marry them?

As there are very few responsible men out there, they have decided to move on with their lives.

I didn't marry them, and neither did I impregnate and dump them, so we good.
And you know that, it's not every Lady you date you can marry or take serious as a guy?

Jennyclay:
Why can’t you mind your business

If you claim you don’t have anything to do with them, then mind your business. Have you even engaged any of the single ladies you’re dating currently??

Is not as if you even have money. Biko mind your business!! Broke men everywhere!!

Good for nothing men everywhere!!! Shior!!!

Lol.. Please say what you have to say., which one is broke shaming. I am broke, yes. So?
Make I pressure myself go do ritual abi? Or broke men don't marry with the little resources they have?
I have not engage any girl yet cz I haven't gotten what I want in lady, once I got one, I'll see what I can do

I notice this particular thing, two out of every six ladies I meet are very young single mums with ages between 20-25.

I met one recently again and when we had this deep conversation she opened up that she's a single mum, and she showed me her 2 years old son's picture. The saddest part is that, all of these young single mums are into hookup, or lowkey olosho.

What is the cause? is it advisable to date or have se* with these single mums, cz I don't see it as the right thing to do. At least 3 of them had visited me, but immediately I know or they tell me they had a baby, I lose interest in them and I never had anything sexual with them infact I cut them off.

Our girls can do better than spreading legs like WiFi, and they should know if the guy is responsible.

RealSolution001:
The girl I truly love and want, always form busy busy for me. Although she has a shop that keeps her on duty morning till night, but after closing from the shop, you would have to beg her to come out to see you for once in one or two months before it happens. Even Sundays are no exception.

Meanwhile, this other girl I don't even love was giving me all the vibe including mind-blowing sex but look at it now, she's taken in for me and I am not in support of abortion.

How do I sort this thing out because I still genuinely love the other girl and I want to marry her. She's a good wife material and ticks most of my boxes. I also dont intend to birth children from different women.

No insult please.

The girl that loves u is the one that created time for u always.. it is no rocket science na.
Who tell u say that babe u love no dy knack another guy?

I want to get a laptop, maybe a used one that would last me and the battery life would be excellent.
I am currently chatting with a Jiji seller who wants to sell a Lenovo laptop B570 5th generation core i3 for 85k asking price(last price).
How well do you know all this Jiji sellers? Can I trust their products and is the price fair enough? Any advice on how to get a laptop that ranges between 75k-100k.
I can use it to learn Web/graphic Design, And great skills that can improve my knowledge and my Career.
Thank you.

FireUpNow:
OP the wife of your brother should mourn her man for now. You said the wife made your brother to be far from the family. Did you or other members of your family try to get in touch with your brother when alive? Were you people aware of his health situation when he was in the hospital? Did you people know he was admitted and if yes, did you try to find out the hospital and go there to see him? Did you try to talk to the doctor in charge of his treatment?
To me you have to conduct autopsy before you do anything. BP can kill fast if not properly managed

This wife issue has been in place more than 4 years ago. Before they started having children, my mum already advised and cautioned him about the woman, and that's after several findings about her family. But he wouldn't listen.
We didn't treat d wife anyhow, cz even despite my mum's disagreement with my brother, she still invited her every Christmas to cook with us and they all came.. infact, I did visit then once a while too, and gave his two children money(4 and 3 years old).

Infact, before my mum passed, my mum always assisted them with food stuffs, and my dad always visited them. The wife is not just a free person, the kind of lady who is not open, free minded and relatable.

Infact my mum paid for her delivery(the wife) at the hospital when they had the first born.. and she always asked her grand children to come and spend days with her cz she loves seeing grandchildren..
So what again? Despite all this, when my mum was sick none of them showed care, not even with a dime.. or even call or visit even if there's no money.
I swear my mum had nothing against her son, infact my sister's asked him to move to my Dad's house for d main time till he gets himself, but he didn't listen. My dad wanted to give him a house in one local area around Aiyetoro, my brother declined saying he didn't like the area stuff like that..

So how did we not love him? We paid part of the hospital bills, my dad paid part too.. he just didn't open up about his wellness and none of us knew about it.

I'm d last born, and I'm just getting my feet cz I just finished Sch last year, I have learnt him money before when he was broke, and I'm sure my dad would have raised him if he said anything.

My other siblings don't live close cz they're married and they live far away, it's just me, my dad and one sister here who's also facing her own challenges catering for her own children.

So, I don't think we had anything against his family I don't think we were bad..

steph0:
When your brother was alive, did you bother to inquire about his health? It was the nurses that informed you about his insomnia. Did you even know he was hypertensive prior to his death? Now you're forming closeness and just want to compound that woman's woes.

For your information, insomnia is one of the symptoms of hypertension. And uncontrolled hypertension leads to several complications and death.

If you were close to your brother as you claim, perhaps you would have known about his health issues and advised him to be compliant with his medication and clinic follow ups.

I'd also advise you to check your own blood pressure regularly, so your wife won't suffer when its time.

When he was first admitted that he took pants of blood, we contributed money.. Until he was discharged, I remember calling him a week after and he confirmed he was very fine.. my Dad checked up on him and same as my sister and he didn't complain about anything whatsoever, so how were we supposed to know he wasn't having enough rest or sleep? Or if the drugs administered to him parts were hypertensive??
That is why I needed to talk to that wife, If your husband is trying to keep shits or trying hard but he wasn't fine, she was supposed to call our attention at least to every little details..

It was after they rushed him to the hospital tht she now called us, but he was gone. I spoke with the doctor immediately, and he told me those things I said about the hypertensive drugs , that his wife said he wasn't getting enough sleep.

He was even instructed not to return to that house, but to take refuge at my Dad's house for the main time, but he himself said he's fine and well.

Even if he had financial issues, why would that lead to all these shits?

ObalendeCMS:
Oga, face your family.

Your brother that you never “cared” about while he was alive. It’s now you suddenly have interest in him.

I hate in-laws.

Toxic, jealous & entitled bastard.

Btw, I’ll love me a wife that will not give my family space.

If she'd been a good wife at least tried to convince or be a good woman, I'm sure we would have Ben convinced as well and treated her better.. it was the way people talked about her and her mum we met them..

Kobojunkie:
1. Then why blame the wife for what you admit was your brother's doing?

You did say your brother only lived a bus away. Why didn't you take this anger of yours to him before his death? Why wait till now to spew vitriol against his widow instead? No be cowardice dem dey call this ?

That's because
1. I'm the last born of the family, he is way older than me.
2. I knew it was what he chose and most especially what his wife made him to be.
3. I knew he did everything deliberately, and that's because my he believed my mum/family didn't want the both of them together .

So I know the case, I have no reason to fight him or anything.

1Sharon:
The mother of the ex wife of your brother had her reasons for rejecting your brother.

If you contest this, you're a hypocrite.

Remember she also wants the best for her daughter.

She's from Abeokuta.. you know what I mean?

dmostcheerful:
What exactly made her a bad woman?
From the look of things you people hated her first, you even disagreed with the marriage.
What where you expecting her to do?
Crawl to you people for love?
believe your mum went to make trouble in her home hoping her son will stand by her.
No wonder your brother distanced from you people's toxicity.

Abeg leave that woman to mourn her husband and plan how to look after her children.
Wicked people.

Anyways, I wish your brother out of wedlock marries a strange woman who'd not let him know his family anymore, you'll understand that women are the source of all our problems even from Adam's time.

What your parents sees sitting down, none of you can see it standing up even having to support your legs.. if you hated ur mum because she advised u about a particular woman who didn't come into the family properly or formerly, without any knowledge of whom she is and used to be, you'll understand my plight.

If your brother was doing fine before he meets a lady and suddenly things started changing for bad.. you'll understand.
That's why I will never marry any Abk girl, never!!