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Ozigizaga ebenebe!

RIP Chris Hanen

You need to see a sex therapist ASAP.

You should have done that prior to getting married though. Save your marriage, go and see one now.

Sarmiz24:
U are an Efulefu, just an nkita furu Uzo...
This is the reason why i can't help any Nigerian, once u are down they will 4get all d good u have done for them....
...Bunch of Ingrate.. I wish southy should kill more of u people

So you rob and loot Peter and his children and spill their blood and use his wealth to set up big companies and employ Paul and his children and expect us to defend you when your sins find you out?

Guy, if you did that heinous crime, go and do the time on your day of reckoning.

And we wonder why this country is bedeviled with attrocities and all manner of evil.

We need to reinvent shame in this country.

Tufiakwa! Chukwu aju!

Nonsense.

MedicH:
Lol because when they do they tell you they've placed bet on a game. And normally u cant understand that for ever rule there's an exception. That paracetamol is the drug of choice for headache is only because it cured 95% of cases when tested. I am yet to see a soccer lover that doesn't bet.

Trash. Hogwash.

pocohantas:
Almost like you are already having a heart attack.

And that is exactly what your final moments will look like. A lot of struggle, but it just wouldn't help.

Sisterly, what's with all these morbidity? Are you sure you are okay?

Geminita1:
Those are the kind of people you poison very slowly. So much guts to post trash in pubic. If i posted that i would have gotten 500 mentions.

So much venom in such a beautiful body. So what makes you better than him now? Smh

cindybaby22:
Nigerians girls and pride
Try to watch approaching girls prank in USA on youtube and see how white girls react to such issues with extreme humility and sense of respect, even if they are not interested. Pride is the problem of the black!

Hi Cindybaby22. Just went through some of your posts and I must admit I like your personality. Can I pm you?

SmooshCHN:
Kyrie explicitly mentioned that he wanted to leave the Cavs and it wasn't because anyone asked him to. He left the Cavs for the same reason other superstars were avoiding to play with LeBron. Now everyone's acting like he wasn't part of why everyone remember the Cavs. Dude is injured so I don't get why anyone will take Kendrick Perkins word for shít. He still has good relationship with Tatum, Smart and the other guys but the media wants to enjoy the drama. Come playoffs, Kyrie could play at the Garden and drop 50 but let's just assume he would pretend to be injured. He admitted he could have done better as a teamma on the Celtics but that's about it. He no kill person.

Bro, no one can deny Kyrie's talent or his virtuoso contributions to the Cav's one ring. We can only pine and wonder what could have been if he had stayed.

The way it's going his Cav's days may be the defining pinnacle of his career and it's sad because I was rooting for him and saw greatness in his path. But alas!

Hope he goes mamba on us all and prove critics wrong.

birdman:
nothing you said is wrong. but you omitted stuff, perhaps you were not aware of it. Essentially no one could reach Kyrie in an y meaningful way after his decision - there were a bunch of uncles running point for him at that juncture. Even if the decision was his, he could have been talked out of it. But as SAS and others alluded, his camp felt it was his time. so my q again is, where are those folks.

I know lebron hate/love is an infectious thing, and people defend or destroy other players based on how they affect lebrons rep. this has nothing with trying to absolve lebron. this is a kyrie issue - where are the uncles and family that let him think this was a good idea. thats my own.


btw its not just kyrie. look at antonio brown, terrell owens. these guys had family members literally cheering them on as the career went down in flames. i find it a disturbing trend

There is a direction that seems so beautiful and right but the end is misery and utter regret. Oh if only we took the other route! How can we know such? How can we prevent such sabotage on glory?

Decisions determine destiny.

Wisdom brings more profit than oil and precious metals ever will.

Basketball is a teacher of life lessons.

Tundesam923:
the intangibles matter too...his body language, and his persona...just screams something off

Agree. How a franchise player affects team chemistry and bonding matters. Everything is not physical(skill/talent), mind and spirit matter too.

He will need to deal with his personal demons.

Let us incurably say no to cultism. It's evil and will eventually eat this nation for breakfast.

Read this thread and learn:

https://www.nairaland.com/5207293/story-cult-p

Let the revolution begin. Say No To Cultism.

Hamachi:
No, their temperament traits and what they saw their parents doing while growing up

I don't understand what you wrote. It seems to me you didn't understand the part of my post you highlighted too.

pamelaayomide:
This fool calling me names has been banned or maybe deactivated his account.
24kmagic you are next to do so.
Your partner has deactivated, you are next.
Calling me olosho and prostitute have make you guys made it in life abi.
Men sha,they are annoying to say the least.

Can you quit responding to all these dysfunctional guys? Why engage them? Don't get distracted. Focus!

ImaIma1:
Yeah. Some people become conscious of these limitations or flaws and break free while others become set in their ways. People need to be compromising in necessary situations and to understand that it doesn't mean letting go of what they believe in. Besides, marriage for me means working together and having each other's interests at heart.

Our birthdays were celebrated. It's my parents who never celebrated theirs. At first it felt strange when my friends had parties to celebrate their parents birthdays.

I agree. And yet sometimes the problem is that the programming is so deep and unconscious that they can't see they are wrong or that it is limiting their relationship or progress as a family. You can't change what you don't know or haven't diagnosed.

It's why I said that consciousness is key to making those changes. The ability to be open and willing to learn and get feedback from others is critical in these things.

If I were to counsel anyone intending to marry, it's the very first thing I will ask them to insist on when it comes to the must-have quality of their significant other. It's on my own must- have list.

ImaIma1:
To an extent it does, but it's not only our family upbringing that moulds us. Well except we were caged at home all our lives and didn't go out to see what the world was about.

I grew up in a home where we never celebrated my parents bdays. I didn't even know their birthdays but we the kids celebrate ours.

Even if we grow up in a setting where some things were not done, other external factors could change that.

We go to school, boarding or day, university, etc, we make friends and we see how things are done. We go to church, mosque and listen to teachings on relationship/marriage, attend marriage counseling before wedding (i don't know about Muslims)

So someone cannot come and say she doesn't know she's supposed to submit because her mother didn't submit or that he doesn't know he will provide for the family because his father didn't. It doesn't add up. It's mostly someone trying to turn a blind eye, shun responsibilities or duties and conveniently using upbringing as an excuse.

That is a personal flaw except the person was home schooled and locked up at home till it was time to get married.

Nne, the primary programmer of humans is their family upbringing. The other agents of socialization you mentioned matter too but are not as fundamental and far reaching as the family. Secondly, consciousness is a factor that helps certain individuals break free from many limiting beliefs and programs from their family.

Note: On your birthday example, sometimes the birthdays you are celebrating is because you want to rebel against a parent or the family, who never celebrates it. It's still your parents running you in this case even though you might feel it's you being independent.

And yes people can change too but it's not as easy as you are making it.

RTSC:
He would pay a fine.

There are far more insidious corruption happening everyday in wall street.

It does not help Nigeria in anyway if a visionary and a patriot like onyema goes down for such a flimsy nonsense.
And that is what I expect the FG to be pushing for right now to protect him.

It is possible that air peace will not survive without his leadership.

I understand where you are coming from bro but I don't belong to the robbing-Peter- to-pay-Paul-is-okay school of thought, no matter who Paul is or how many Pauls there are.

If he is guilty of the heinous allegations, let him be prosecuted and jailed. If he is innocent, may he be set free and may God compensate him for the wrongs done to his good name.

NwaAmaikpe:




Many are the afflictions of the righteous but the Lord delivereth him from them all.
Surely, Allen will overcome.

He should not make the mistake of stepping down Because the same people who want him to step aside from his position in Air Peace until he clears his name did not ask their National leader to do the same to explain how he got the money he moved in Bullion Vans.

Back to the story.
Ibeto was the Cement company to beat, the banks came for him
Innoson became the face of Indigenous African vehicles, GTBank came for him. The court awarded the win to Innoson.
Capital Oil started making Oando and Forte Oil uncomfortable, AMCON came after him. The court once again awarded the win to Capital Oil.

Now, AirPeace is redefining the face of aviation in Nigeria and the US is now after him for laundering money.
Money that was duly transferred via the CBN to the Plane makers.
Unless I am irredeemably dumb or some hydraulic fluid is seeping out of my Cerebellum, this thing does not just add up to me.

So my questions are,
Is it now a sin to be a successful Igboman.
Is it a crime to rise against the odds of being Igbo and excel in business in the uneven Nigeria playing field?

How come things are put in place for others to excel no matter what while every known persecution trails others?

I'm not asking a lot,
I'm just saying that water has passed garri when the mosquito begins to suck breast milk meant for the baby instead of blood.

You are abusing the intelligence God gave you, bro. I am an Igbo man too but what you wrote up there is hogwash.

If his hands are clean let him be vindicated. If not, let him do the time.

For the other criminals may their time come quickly. And finally, may God expose and sanitize this nation of criminals and evil men and women.

tsmith:
From your narrative it's obvious you have been used and lied to right from the inception of your relationship. I won't question why and how you didn't know or if due diligence was taken. What's important is the way forward for you and your children.

For years you have given someone else the reigns of your life, in making decisions that may not necessary have your best interest at core nor carrying you along in this process. NOW IS THE TIME TO TAKE ALL THAT CONTROL BACK.

It'd be steep and rough, especially now saddled with 3 children, but it's not impossible and you sound like a smart and switched on person anyway. Get a job, means of income and have a VISION plus a strategy on how you want to achieve this.

Pls don't go finding him or calling him, peradventure he makes a reappearance, pls allow him (just for the sake of the kids) but ONLY ON YOUR TERMS. spell it out and let him know very clearly ACTIONS lead to CONSEQUENCES
with limited CHANCES. he flukes, it's STRIKE OUT. Just as with disciplining your kids, follow through on laid out rules. He sounds flaky and will test your waters several times, pls don't let him derail the NEW YOU.

I walked similar path, hubby wasn't even half as bad. Early years of my marriage i allowed hubby reigns of affairs from the african patriarchy POV, and playing the good wife. He's messy, a bit of a no planner and last minute.com. there were tough and expensive lessons learnt and to imagine these were things i managed just well before him.

I use the illustration, you're in a car being driving erratically by a driver, you all are going no where fast. You know it's only a matter of time, the ride was destined for doom, however you're a competent driver yourself, what do you do?

1) ask driver to park
2) you get down so you can live to see another day
3) you negotiate that the only way you're getting back into the car is if you're in the driver's seat, as you're assured you can do a better job of getting you all to your destination.

The choices were clear n non negotiable, hubby had no choice but to come on board as this girl was sure fixed and adamant. Now depending on who's area of strength the task is, the better person is driving and the other reading the map, but together we're in it. This is our approach now and it works well, we're 12 years and counting. 5years was the turning point when i filed for a divorce.

Mmmnhhhhh! May wisdom never finish from your head. I doff!

SmooshCHN:
LeBron dey play ball sha.

Say what?

KarnBarlow:
They're going for that number 1 pick. Shameless franchise

Ersan, wicked somebodi

steady986:
I think The Raptors without Kawhi would have stood a chance against GS without KD (and Klay for 1 and a half games)

Would they have beaten the Sixers and Bucks too? I don't think so.

Everyone agreed last season that Ujiri's DeRozan for Kawhi trade was the key masterpiece that won Raptors the championship.

It doesn't mean they weren't a good team before him or that he did it alone. It's just that they were not good enough and wouldn't have gone that far without him.

Let's not play convenient revisionism because we don't like a player or because time has passed and people have forgotten.

steady986:
You never can tell, after all, they faced depleted teams.

This your depleted teams narrative Not buying.

xwolverine:
The Raptors vs Lakers game will be mad entertaining. Watching the Raptors play this season has shown that they are a good team, Kawhi was just a bonus.

Montrezl Harrell vs Pascal Siakam, Landry Shamet vs Danny Green, Zubac vs Gasol, what about Fred VanVleet, Kyle Lowry and Serge Ibaka? Compared to the Clippers, that team is solid, they can afford to Load manage Kawhi. Even Carmelo Anthony would’ve made them win the chip

I do not agree. Kawhi has the it factor. A player can be very good and not have it. A team can be good and still be cut down in the playoffs when the chips are down if they don't have such a player. Without Kawhi or a Kawhiesque player Raptors wouldn't have won that championship.

TalonVonner:
I have no issue whatsoever with Kawhi missing games. His medical records are sealed of course so we dont know whats going on with him and that degenerative quad of his. The clippers are still very good without him and him resting worked out perfectly for the raptors last season. The NBA also reviewed his files and accepted that hes not healthy enough to play every game so like i said, i'm all for it. A players top priority should be his health. This is the kind of inadvertent pressure that is placed on players, the sort that led kd to coming back earlier than he should and blowing up his achilles.

Thanks. Dazall I've been trying to say.

steady986:
Kawhi is scamming everybody on the pretext of being the best player in the league Even Clippers fans are complaining.

It was reasoning like this that caused the storm in a tea cup at Spurs. A team you gave your all to prior questioning your injury, loyalty and integrity. By the time the medical proofs were brought to Spurs and Popovich was running around to save the situation, it was already too late. Trust had been killed.

Spurs lost him, Raptors got him and then a championship.

Again, I repeat, you are unique. Know thyself. Do you.

People will talk. Let them talk.

iamJ:
kwahi was gifted that ring thanks to injuries that affected Golden states


Let's not lie to ourselves, if he met a fit Golden states team, he wouldn't have stood a chance

You know this logic can be stretched ad infinitum, right? There are so many if onlys in NBA play offs history, you know. If only Kyrie wasn't injured..., if only Ewing had made that basket, if Kawhi's lucky bounce hadn't gone in, if only the ref had made the right call...

Injuries and improbable misses and lucky bounces and fortutious calls and bad ref decisions have been gifting rings to men for ages. It is and will always be part of what makes this game enigmatic and fun.

Singling out a an event to blame for a win or a loss does not make sense to me. That event is part of the game.

steady986:
I wonder how many games Kawhi is expected to miss due to load management. I'm sure it was clearly stipulated in his contract. Who does this guy even think he is? I'd say he played a good one on the Clippers cos they were so desperate. I'm very sure the Lakers wouldn't have taken that trash. You can see how they duly discarded Tyron Lue when he refused the 3 year contract.

And don't tell me load management was the reason Kawhi was able to do well in the playoffs. Apart from the fact he got lucky against the Sixers, if KD was in that final series we wouldn't even be talking about Kawhi today.

It's 2 years since your injury ffs. Smh

You are unique, unlike any other person that ever treaded this earth. Know thyself, know thyself, know thyself.

If Kawhi and his team have checked all the parameters and concluded this is best for him given his medical history, then let them do what's best for him.

They've kept him healthy so far, why change what's working?

Do Kawhi, don't do Lebron or Steph or Kobe or KD. Do you.

SmooshCHN:
Not just japa alone. I'm also conscious of where I make comments about things like these. Like I'm just supposed to throw away facts and logic and agree with whatever you feel and identify with. Now we have Transage, Transrace, etc. TED Talk had that episode basically insinuating pedophilia is a sexual orientation and people shouldn't be shamed for it.
I'm trying to change location but this new nonsense is playing a big factor in my decision. This place has bleeped up my head enough. I can't jump to where I can go to jail for not calling someone by their preferred pronoun.

I can imagine. The scary thing is the movement is spreading like wild fire without let. Soon no place will be safe. It will become the new normal.

SmooshCHN:
And why did he leave OKC? Players argue. That's what happened and he couldn't handle Draymond's comment which was the obvious truth. The Warriors won without him Draymond was at fault for his comments because they also needed him but it's KD, anything hurts him. Fans and Media resentment was the major reason he left the Warriors. Draymond's comment was just the easy answer.

While I agree that the fans and media hate was a key factor, I wouldn't discount the effect of what Draymond Green did on his final decision. D. Green's internal dagger was the wake up call he needed if the external hate from media and fans was not hitting home. I believe he mentally left the team that day.

benji93:
Man, I don't like this, and don't do it again if you hope to resolve issues like this.If you wanna arbitrate, quote both parties involved not one. Unless you know me personally, which i doubt.

I read all the exchanges bro and the toxicity in your comments made me call only you out. You kept attacking his person and identity each time. Attack the argument instead.

We've seen these things degenerate here and we don't want to go down there anymore.

I am hoping you are able to take this as a helpful feedback and not as an attempt by me to debase you.

salt1:
Thanks so much! I blame the girl for accepting to marry someone who doesn't share her godly principles. I guess she was desperate to answer Mrs.
See him exposing her and her value system to ridicule.
I hope this is a fake story. But if it's real, she will learn a bitter lesson on how not to be unequally yoked together with an unbeliever.
My spouse and I chose to honour God by waiting until after we have stood before God, said our vows before God and man, and received the blessings of family, friends and the elders of the Church. We have a very happy home.

Brotherly, I tire for the guy. God help that girl.

igwegeorgiano:
not at all. I did not considered her virginity but cos she has proved beyond doubts to be the woman I wanted but with this over righteous attitude and not taking into cognisance that I have paid her bride price and other traditional obligations is what I don't understand

You have no honour. You have no respect for her nor for God. You gave her your word! And those words mean absolutely nothing to you.

Brother, I am angry. Two, I am ashamed on your behalf.

You agreed to wait till wedding night and now you are shifting goal posts, playing the victim and manipulating and blackmailing and guilt tripping her just so you can have your way.

This case is not about whether you are legally married or not already or if she is a virgin or not, so don't try to bamboozle us with extraneous materials here as someone like me will call you out on your BS. This issue is about an agreement to wait and a promise not kept.

And the guilty party is YOU.

You see the way you do one thing is the way you do so many things. If I were her, I will begin to have serious doubts about your character and wonder if I've made a huge mistake.

Naansense and manipulation!