Diligentnigga: Good morning Nairalanders, I will make this as short as possible and please don't mind my punctuation as I am typing this in a rush
I am a graduate, though unemployed but doing one or two menial jobs to keep mind and soul together
I have this girlfriend I have been dating for almost two years now. We both love each other but the issue at hand is she's a stubborn, anger driven person that insults my parents. In fact hit me sometimes and says all manner of words at me.
Of recent, I found out she's pregnant this February. Now the issue is she's a finalist in the University as she will be serving this year October, but we had plans of not doing abortion but she's so ashamed of everything and just irrational and saying all manners like what people will say this and that, and I have told her I will stay by her through everything. I informed my mum and my immediate siblings about the pregnancy, they were angry but they were like it's fine sha since she's loved in the family
Now the issue is 1 She's very stubborn 2 she insults my parents at every small argument 3 she's anger driven, yes am anger driven to an extent also but I have never used my anger to do stupid things like hitting her before compare to many times she has Slapped, locked my shirt and punched me. 4 we had an issue last night and it was in public and she was just shouting at me, passers by and onlookers were just amused that why would a lady be like this that she now had to take a big stone and throw at me, though I dodged the stone all because i was gearing her to let's leave the public scene and go home 5 A baby is on the line cos she's pregnant and even if you will advise me to leave the relationship as it's toxic, what about the unborn child. 6 I am currently unemployed and in fact am still at home not yet balanced up well enough, but she has used nags to kill me, saying all manners at me
All insults are welcomed. Please I am in die need of advise thank you.
I take it that you are responsible for the pregnancy, now tell me,are you just discovering her nasty side?,you knew it but still foolishly went ahead to get her pregnant,if not for the pregnancy I would have advised you walk away but with the pregnancy your name is OYO.
kikake: In Ihedioha's senatorial zone, the votes written for Ihedioha were more than the registered voters.
it's ok, that's why couple with the issue of geographical spread the supreme Court should have cancelled the elections n ordered for a rerun altogether rather than the abracadabra they came up with.
Nooil: Abeg leave that thing. When men see beautiful women, they throw their brain into the ocean.
But one thing they don't know is that to keep a beautiful woman you have to be prepared to work all the days of your life even at old age.
If you don't do your job, another man (alhaji) will carry them sharp sharp. Let him go and look for work, at least the face of the fine kids should encourage him.
Aunty continue you hear,go de follow alhaji you hear,safe journey!.
elektra: The only time cheating bothers men is when it is a woman doing it. Look at this OP, he is not even the one being cheated on, but it worries him so much he had to open a thread about it.
The woman left the kids for her husband. Who should she have left them for? Are the kids not bearing the man’s name? There are many women tired from raising kids by themselves, have you ever noticed anyone of them? The moment you see one man raising his kids you come to open thread. You men should get used to raising your own bloody kids.
lady mind you when things were good the man was responsible but things just went bad beyond his control, it's not that he never cared about his wife when I things were fine with him, don't tell me you are a fare whether character.
lloyds: My mother stayed with my father for over 12years when they man was starkly broke. she even sponsored me to post graduate school becauae my father couldn't afford it.
Yet she kneels down to greet him attimes, we can't see such virtues in our microwave ladies of now a days. . They are so materialistic and shallow.
elektra: The only time cheating bothers men is when it is a woman doing it. Look at this OP, he is not even the one being cheated on, but it worries him so much he had to open a thread about it.
The woman left the kids for her husband. Who should she have left them for? Are the kids not bearing the man’s name? There are many women tired from raising kids by themselves, have you ever noticed anyone of them? The moment you see one man raising his kids you come to open thread. You men should get used to raising your own bloody kids.
lady mind you when things were good the man was responsible but things just went bad beyond his control, it's not that he never cared about his wife when I things were fine with him, don't tell me you are a fare whether character.please how was your mother able to sponsor you when your father couldn't n they were married?
elektra: The only time cheating bothers men is when it is a woman doing it. Look at this OP, he is not even the one being cheated on, but it worries him so much he had to open a thread about it.
The woman left the kids for her husband. Who should she have left them for? Are the kids not bearing the man’s name? There are many women tired from raising kids by themselves, have you ever noticed anyone of them? The moment you see one man raising his kids you come to open thread. You men should get used to raising your own bloody kids.
lady mind you when things were good the man was responsible but things just went bad beyond his control, it's not that he never cared about his wife when I things were fine with him, don't tell me you are a fare whether character.
A careful reading of this response by APC shows the party knew there are irregularities of fundamental nature in the supreme Court judgement on the I'm elections matter but since those irregularities were not directly the point of uzodima's appeal the supreme Court should overlook it n stick to their very flawed judgement because it suit Apc,how on Earth can you have a result where only uzodima's votes are recorded, where the votes cast supercede the registered voters n yet you expect it to be accepted with out questions been asked,but I don't blame Apc rather I blame the supreme Court for their very poor foresight n analysis before deciding y a judgement.
I just felt like sharing my first experience trying to woo a girl, it was like hell tho... so funny
Each time I remember this event it always make me to wonder if it was normal or maybe I wasn't bold. Some times ago I was on my way to visit a friend when I came in contact with this edo girl, she was so pretty that I kept on staring at her forgetting that i'm supposed to cross to the other side of the road cos where I stood was a very busy Junction.
I dismissed the idea of visiting my guy and followed her closely. I wanted to know her street, that was mission accomplished as I was able to get exactly where her house was and asked some dudes for few information about her.
Her name was favour, from then I started preparing to woo her after which I showed her to my friends secretly, trust niggars they started pushing me to confront her but the problem was how best to approach her and do the wooing tricks.
Two weeks later of cramming some lines and tricks, I wore better clothes with my neighbor's perfume. Minutes later I was standing at their street and it wasn't too long when she came out I guessed to buy something, I swear the more she approached was the more my heart beat increased, sweating profusely even it got to some extent that my legs wasn't steady anymore, so I pretended I didn't see her as she passed.
Oh my God, my urine was hot as I rushed to the gutter to ease myself I don't even know if removed smoke sef.. that one passed, months passed still I was not able to approach her.
One day I made up my mind to approach her. It was more like do or die, I wore my clothes dressed casually this time and memorized things again both how to greet her and all that, God made it easy as I saw her before I got to her street, she was walking and gisting with a female friend. I began to feel cold inside as I approached but I kept walking towards the due.. her friend stopped a bike and bade her good by so she turned and started walking to her street.
I quickly walked up to her and said Hi! She turned and stared directly into my eye.. Jesus I froze instantly, my people I said hi to this girl like four good times, every down thing I memorized had now flashed off, my head was empty in fact I regretted ever confronting her she stood for a while trying to figure out who I was cos the expression on her face showed it all, emm please can we be friends? That was what I heard myself say, immediately she heard that she hissed loudly and crossed to the other side of the road and walked away.. I swear I couldn't sleep that night..
Abeg my people is it that I don't have liver or its a normal thing in guys, but i see guys do wooing anyhow as if it was their calling... let's discuss about it..
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personally confidence or what to say was never my problem but the money to oil a relationship was not just available,so most times I joke with the ladies but hardly went far enough, some of the ladies that we're expectant would later get annoyed with me while the guys too were just confused about my person.A girl once offer to date me but the shame of the inability to cater for her made me to gently and tactically turn her down,my friend was so livid with me.There was this girl guys were afraid to talk to due to her dashing beauty confidence n outspoken nature,I just walked up to her n said 'Hi Diamond,you look lavishing',she looked at me sternly n said "what did you just called me'with an authoritative voice,I smiled n said I was only qualifying you by what actually match your person,she said and so you could only think of a diamond,I said well as they usually say, diamonds are beautiful n all beautiful things are attractive what more of a lady then smiled, this girl looked at me straight into my face for like 15 seconds rolled her eyes seductively n looked away,then I said hey this is my number, I know most ladies don't like giving out there's easily,you can flash me later at your leisure,she hesitated but took it from me,as I turned to walk away she ask of my name n I was like when you call or flash me then I will answer you,we later became friends n she confessed that the guys around pissed her off due to their lack of confidence,but I later chicken out as usual money yab man.know this most women like men that appear well,communicate effectively with a sense of humour n confidence but if you no get money Las Las yawa go dey my guy.
Jhayphil: There is a peculiar but heartwarming trend that continually plays out in Nigeria every time the Emirs and other traditional rulers in the North have the opportunity to host VP Yemi Osinbajo on his numerous official visits.
These royal fathers from the predominantly Muslim Northern region are usually so enamored with a Christian pastor from the South West of Nigeria and this is for no other reason than Prof. Osinbajo being the most hardworking VP we have ever had the opportunity to see as a nation.
Their admiration is usually very public and effusive; hence they can never be misquoted or misinterpreted, even by the most mischievous of reporters.
The Sultan of Sokoto, Muhammadu Sa’ad Abubakar III openly praised Osinbajo on the 29th of November, 2019, at the General Assembly of Nigerian Supreme Council for Islamic Affairs (NSCIA). He applauded the Vice President for his leadership, which he said was given to him by God.
Prof. Osinbajo was also applauded a couple of weeks earlier by the Emir of Daura Alhaji Faruk Umar on the 2nd of Nov, 2019, for his loyalty and commitment to the administration of President Muhammadu Buhari. Umar described Osinbajo as the most trustworthy vice president of Nigeria, who always has the best interest of Nigeria on his mind.
The Emir of Kano, Malam Muhammadu Sanusi II recently told Vice President Yemi Osinbajo to consider Kano State as his second home. He made this grand royal gesture of hospitality when he received Osinbajo in his palace in Kano on January 13, 2020.
These royal fathers seem to be greatly in awe of his humility, for such a learned fellow and a Senior Advocate of Nigeria; it would not be out of place were the VP to be aloof and proud of his accomplishments. However, the reverse is the case, as we have seen him show such empathy and milk of human kindness, even in the most spontaneous of moments in public when he relates with the crowds who always troop out on the roads whenever he goes on his work visits to the Northern states.
No matter how many times we hear the divisive rhetoric, one glaring fact is that these royal fathers clearly appreciate the loyalty and tacit support with which the VP carries out his duties in support of his boss. We have seen a president and vice president get involved in full blown battle of supremacy while being occupants of Aso Rock Villa, this is why the brotherly bond of trust shared by Buhari and Osinbajo from inception of their administration is very noteworthy.
Another fact worth mentioning is that even when there was a highly orchestrated and strategically executed media blitzkrieg against the VP by forces popularly called ‘the cabal’ within the corridors of power in Abuja, these Northern traditional leaders saw through it all with such uncanny wisdom and continually preached for unity between the first two citizens while admonishing their detractors.
These royal fathers have witnessed firsthand many internal power plays, even in their own palaces; hence they were not easily swayed by the loads of unfounded rumors which were deployed against the person and character of the VP.
As a man who is steadfastly working in the interest of every Nigerian, both at home and abroad, it does not take much observation to see that these Northern leaders sincerely appreciate the people-friendly policies and actions carried out by Osinbajo in the course of executing his official duties as the Vice President of Nigeria.
He is a man of his words, and he has publicly sworn twice to carry out these duties for the good of the people, irrespective of religious or regional differences.
David Omoruyi writes from Abuja.
Don't just worry,by 2023 go n ask those same emirs their thoughts about osibanjo,you hear!
BadRadio: I just cant wrap my head around it. I ve observed overtime and I am still wondering how these things happen.
You see a very good looking dude/lady getting married to a not so physically appealing and compatible dude/lady.
Some might say it could be that the lady/dude has got some monetary influence or that his/her dad is Otedola, Sir Tony Elumelu or Dangote or something like that or that he/she has inner beauty/qualities and all that.
Some might say the definition of beauty can be personal sometimes which doesn't take any particular conventional explanation and that it usually lies in the eyes of the beholder.
But let me ask all the fine boys & pretty ladies on Nairaland. "
"Can u get married to a ladyGuy that doesn't measure up or complement you with his/her looks"
I believe that every good looking guy/ lady deserves an amazingly beautiful/ handsome woman/guy to get married to, at least for the sake of posterity... let the unborn kids be proud their dad/mum made the right choice
so you don't want the ugly ones to taste something better,you bad ooh.
usba: US has spent trillion of dollars and 15 years in Afghanistan, yet they can't defeat a rag tag Taliban instead they want to negotiate with them, insurgency are difficult to defeat, but we will overcome them. Allah shall grant NA victory of BH, the new found heroes of wailing zombies.
Is Nigeria fighting Al shabab in Somalia or Boko Haram in Nigeria?, please don't make any nonsense comparison.
McCoy662: Good morning Nlanders, I have this very issue bothering me. I have been in a relationship with this girl for about 3 years now. I love her so much, and she loved me until of recent when she told me that she's no longer interested in the relationship. She told me the stern truth that she was seeing someone else.
It's not like I don't take care of her, because I have given her almost everything she requested from me. I bought 90% of her clothes myself as she can't even buy for herself if I give her the money. I pay her bills too.
Just about 2 months ago, the said guy called me and told me that his gf (my gf) said I'm her ex, and they are now together. This guy is not that rich, he's just on average income scale, he's not super handsome and the worst is that, this girl calls and comes to my house for sex anytime she feels like. But that's all, we are not friends like before, we don't go out together, she don't even oblige my requests anytime I ask her for anything. She doesn't even visit on a regular except for sex.
Right now, I'm fed up; I'm tired of being in this love triangle, though I love her so much. My guys advised me to beat her up and warn her never to come close to my house again, but I just can't. Though I feel used as a sex object, but I just can't say no to this girl's request.
I don't just know, am I being stupid?? Is there a Best way to handle this in a more diplomatic way?? I really love this girl.
This is my candid advise,I know that ordinarily if she is giving you free sex then you may be tempted to just tag her along but if you are truly not happy with the arrangement then arrange with a girl to pretend to be your girl friend n deliberately let this Bleep mate meet her in your place, tell your arrange girl to really up the show and watch what your Bleep mate does,you can decide your next move from the results.
landmark86: Nigeria's first love reality TV show, 'Ultimate Love' kicks off on Sunday, February 9, 2020
For the first time in the history of reality TV shows in Nigeria, a show (Ultimate Love) which centers on finding love will be airing.
'Ultimate Love' will see 18 housemates consisting single men and women living together in the 'Love Residence' for eight weeks. These guys are expected to find love during the show's run.
Can this reality tv show beat down BBNaija? What your taught.
what will be the prove that the house mate had find true love?,we don't want to hear arrange arrange marriage ooh!.
Take away sentiments and one would see that Atiku is by far better n more competent than buhari, nothing about buhari has ever been clear n straight forward, everything about him is so full of twist, turns n bends but finally realii is now setting in
[quote author=JosEast, post=86410487]https://www.dailytrust.com.ng/atiku-flays-buhari-over-claim-on-boko-haram-victims.html[/quote]when Boko Haram started 99%of their victims were Christians,I was in borno so I know it for a fact,then buhari n his likes never bothered much n were even sympathetic to Boko Haram,now that they have subsequently shot themselves in the foot they are cooking up useless excuses n rationalization, people can insult Atiku as they like but Atiku is certainly better n more capable than buhari taken out sentiments n propaganda.
Everything about the core northerners is aggression,shege ka fassa is an outright insult in hausa language,it actually means"bastard if you don't go ahead"this is all about intimidation, they are confident because they are sure of buhari's backing,yet buhari is to be patroitic n has integrity!.
Tetehjevvels: There is a longer video of over 2 mins I also saw.
He said it was an explosive device which he and his friends wanted to set off in the church and In Gamboru (another location)
He did not say why but I am sure the why would be revealed
look I have been in the north for so long,I know how manipulative the people there can be,they should just keep the said bomber for sometime,take good care of him n after a while try to find out more details from him.
so by in the be Interview apart from his so call name, did he also state the reason he wanted to bomb be the case church by n kill himself and how he came about the bombs?
Farki: Some of them still have a military rule mindset. They think being a soldier is all about beating, harassing and oppressing defenceless civilians and threatening them with weapons. If the civilians get weapons and start fighting back they will change uniform and run. I'm just waiting for foolish Nairalanders to come with tales of how the army keeps us 'safe'and how they are the reason we can sleep at night.
I hope this is the northern propaganda of presenting northern leaders as upright while condemning leaders from other parts of the country,can you explain exactly what yaradua did within his short stint that made him the best president ever?
Nigerian army behaving like a cult,they don't like to be questioned or criticised even when it's clear they are wrong like the case with borno state governor at near jimtilo,the army will give you a million reasons why they are not performing but they don't appreciate the value of other security bodies, nothing is now heard of the soldiers that kill policeman in taraba but if you get reverse we're to be the case they will go on rampage,with all these unconvincing attitudes they still expect all citizens to support them without questions all the time,I just wonder how that's possible.
Im 3 months old in marriage and im so unhappy about the set up (my wife too)
My wife is a student and she tried everything to shift the marriage until easter this year but i refused due to many projects for the year. so we got married 3 months ago.
I took care of her bills since she got admission and we dated for 5 years
But she is so disrespectful and want to make important decisions in marriage which ive refused to allow.
Now, she claims i forced her into marriage and she is not mentally ready because i asked her to change to my family's name.
She has been good then bad then worse..And i think her words about forcing her into marriage has irreparably hurt me.
I spent over 3m of my cash to give her the wedding she wanted (Without any support from her family) against my wish for a 1m wedding.
And despite getting the big wedding she wants before consenting to marry last year, she claims she is not mentally ready and was forced into marriage.
she has repeated this over and over and its making me go crazy..in fact im tired already
Right now she wants more time to be a wife..but im beginning to feel there is a love issue here..I feel she does not love me as she always claims
Though weve settled but we dont talk as usual..we dont even want to hear from each other...
it seems i nolonger love her like i used to..And worst still, continuing with the marriage when she claims she was forced is degrading and disreputable.
My question is, at what point should anyone seriously consider a divorce?
Personally I can't n don't support the idea of sponsoring any girl in school to marry her later,I can relate with n support you at the level of dating but anything marriage will be after graduating that's if I'm still convinced about you n certainly if I'm to marry you at all then we must have Frank talk on issues like employment n financial control n management in the family, rights n previledges of in-laws,gender equality n authority etc,if you are too shy or lacks the confidence to engage your lady frankly about these issues then your are certainly laying the foundation for problem, imagine a girl insisting on a type of wedding for me to sponsor!,I will rather let you go than allow any woman to turn me to a woman wrapper,sorry ops if not for the millions spent I would have ask you to let her go as it's clear she only wanted to use you but if you are bouyant enough you can still let her go n start afresh but this time very wisely.
chronique: Can you see how foolish these ones are? This sort of thing has been happening elsewhere but not like this. Igbo politicians just made a fool of themselves and have shown that with money, they can all be bought without any form of resistance.
It's so shameful, even with ihedioha going back to supreme Court they couldn't tarry a little while,I pray ihedioha wins at the supreme Court and let's see how the bunch of unprincipled fools will behave.
This is a dangerous move by APC which pdp should go to court to quickly checkmate by having the defectors seats declared vacant for defecting not as a result of any factions in pdp but purely out greed or coersion,as it is now buhari/Apc can easily get the supreme Court to cancel the elections altogether and ask for a rerun while the new speaker who is now of the Apc takes ove as acting governor then with federal backing, intimidation n coersion Apc will win the rerun, it's only those who lacks self opinion or analytical ability that continue to believe the scam that buhari has integrity.
Blindersoff: A brain child of Gowon back in 1970 after which successive governments came and went but none saw the need to follow through on this project until Buhari came on as President.
This plan began 50yrs ago but today the Bodo-Bonny bridge is standing and the roads are almost complete.
buhari always been over hyped by his supporters for insignificant achievements as if he has done the impossible,no Nigerian has match Gowon's level infrastructural development but little credit is given to him because he is not a northern Muslim while fundamentalists, nepotistic n very bias characters like buhari n murtala are been over hyped continuously by northern induced propaganda for political manipulations to the cheering of fools n cowards.
For God's sake,kogi, Niger,Kano n borno states had all offered free lands for the fulani herdsmen but they refused it n keep insisting on benue in a clear pursuit of pre-planned agenda, governor Ortom n the benue people should remain resolute n continue to resist the herdsmen as they certainly doesn't mean well.
Basher8583: To be honest with you.. I have no business here because it's in the east and I'm a northerner.
But the fact that the SC decision wants to be contested knowing fully well that the person contesting it had all the opportunity to provide all the evidence during the SC proceeding but didn't and now after the judgement he's seeking a redress. Was he sleeping or he is just being plain desperate.
It's his lawyers that will probably be striped of thier rights to practice law should they go ahead.
I'm a northern too but I don't support injustice, you know new facts can come up anytime,but I'm really surprised you appear to be insisting that the supreme Court decision should never be reviewed no be matter the compelling new facts,I wonder how you would feel if you were at the recieving end, you are even talking about threats to lawyers who dare, doesn't all this sound dubious?
Romance › Re: My Pregnant, Stubborn Girlfriend Slapped Me, Insults My Parents by Deepthoughts: 6:16pm On Feb 17, 2020
