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MrGidifeed:
Abdul Samad Rabiu, Founder/Executive Chairman, BUA Group with H. E. Abdulrahman Abdulrazaq, Governor of Kwara State during an offical tour of BUA's 20,000Hectare Sugar Plantation and Refinery site in Lafiagi, Kwara State, North Central Nigeria.

The $300m BUA Sugar factory and farm in Kwara is gradually nearing completion. Nigeria spends N300bn importing sugar. This plant will process 14,000 tonnes of canes daily to produce 200,000 tonnes of refined sugar, 35mw of electricity and 200,000 liters of ethanol to cut import.

Source: https://ngg.ng/2019/11/26/kawara-stata-governor-abdulrazaq-visits-the-ongoing-300m-sugar-factory-farm/

celeiyke:
*Concerns Mount over Constitutionality of Police Command Appointments

•North-west tops list with 12 CPs, South-east gets one in contravention of federal character principle enshrined in S14 (3) of 1999 Constitution as amended

•Abia, 13 others have none


•PSC pushes for implementation of policy on balance, equality of states

There are mounting concerns over the constitutionality of appointment of Commissioners of Police (CPs) to the 36 states of the federation and the Federal Capital Territory (FCT).

While some states have more than three CPs heading state police commands, many others have none contrary to the provision of Section 14 (3) of the Constitution as amended, which forbids domination of one section of the country by the other.

It states: “The composition of the Government of the Federation or any of its agencies and the conduct of its affairs shall be carried out in such a manner to reflect the federal character of Nigeria and the need to promote national unity, and also to command national loyalty thereby ensuring that there shall be no predominance of persons from a few states or from a few ethnic of other sectional groups in that government or in any of its agencies.”

Police sources that spoke to THISDAY yesterday said there were concerns in the force that it was in breach of this section of the constitution, contending that it had become necessary for the police authorities to make amends.

A breakdown of the list of commissioners of police in state command positions obtained by THISDAY shows that while Katsina has four slots, 14 other states, including Abia, Anambra, Bayelsa, Benue, Delta, Ebonyi, Ekiti, Enugu, Jigawa, Kogi, Nasarawa, Ondo, Oyo and Rivers have none.

It also showed that of the six geopolitical zones, the North-west dominated with 12 of its indigenes in such a powerful position.

Of the 12, four are from Katsina State, the home state of President Muhammadu Buhari, while Kebbi has three, Sokoto two, with Zamfara, Kano and Kaduna producing one apiece. However, Jigawa, the seventh state in the zone has no indigene holding any state command.

Trailing the North-west is the North-east with eight of its indigenes in command positions. Of the eight, two each are from Adamawa and Taraba States while Borno, Bauchi, Gombe and Yobe have one each.

With seven of their indigenes holding command positions, the South-west came third in order of ranking.

Osun has three, while Lagos and Ogun States produced two each. The three other states in the zone, Ekiti, Oyo and Ondo, have none.

As for the South-south, three of the five CPs are from Cross River, one each from Akwa Ibom and Edo, while Rivers, Delta and Bayelsa have none.

The North-central, with four CPs is next to the South-south. Niger, Plateau, FCT and Kwara have one each, while Benue, Kogi as well as Nasarawa have no indigene leading any of the 36 state commands and FCT.

At the bottom of the ranking is the South-east, which has only one CP from Imo State. The other four states in the geopolitical zone, Anambra, Abia, Enugu and Ebonyi have none.
The situation, analysts say, makes a joke of the Buhari administration’s community policing policy, which places emphasis on localization of the police.

“The whole idea is that people who are more knowledgeable about an area are better placed to police the community, hence the indigenisation of the police. Asking a Northerner from landlocked Kano State to head the policing of riverine Bayelsa State turns logic on its head,” an analyst said.

Indeed there are deafening complaints in police circles, that the entire mobile police squadrons in the South are commanded by Northern officers. “Does that make sense to you?” a serving senior officer asked THISDAY.

THISDAY checks have shown that in a bid to ensure adherence to the federal character principle and adequate representation of the 36 states of the federation in the posting of police commissioners, the PSC is pushing for the implementation of its policy that stipulates that each state of the federation must produce a commissioner of police heading a state police command at any given time.

The policy states that each state must produce a commissioner of police, who must serve at least two years in a command before redeployment. If a particular state does not have an officer of the rank of a commissioner, a neighbouring state that satisfies the requirement may take its place.
THISDAY gathered that some states produced many commissioners of police, none of whom is heading any state police command.

Said a knowledgeable source: “Some states may have let’s say four commissioners of police but none of them would be heading any state command. They may just be at the Admin Department of the Force Headquarters.
“It is an existing policy which has not been implemented. We are pushing for its implementation.”

The source said the policy envisaged that a police commissioner should serve at least two years in such a command before redeployment.

“The policy states how CPs should be appointed and tenure. That every state will have a state command CP. I mean it puts to an end to the practice where one state will produce four CPs while some will have their sons and daughters on CP ranks posted to head admin and other redundant offices.

“The policy says that command CPs will now have a tenure of not less than two years and should not be removed unless on promotion, disciplinary issues or death,” the source said.

THISDAY further learnt that the PSC is expected to post commissioners as required by the constitution but the policy on state command CPs has not been implemented by the IG.
It was learnt that the IG is allegedly frustrating the implementation of the policy.

“The policy says the commission will now post CPs to commands as it is stated in the constitution that such posting is an appointment and the responsibility of the commission.

“This policy came into effect several months ago but has not been respected by the IGP. Currently many states with officers on CP rank don’t have state command CP,” the source said.

THISDAY also learnt that most of the MOPOL commanders posted to the Southern part of the country are from the North, a situation that is at variance with the federal character principle.

“The issue of Commanders of Police Mobile Force, PMF is terribly lopsided. This is not in the policy but there is need to spread it so that every state, region should be represented. There is need for federal character in these appointments. Presently, MOPOL commanders in squadrons in the South are northerners,” a security source said.

When contacted, spokesman of PSC, Ikechukwu Ani, said the commission had since sent the policy document to the IG for implementation.

“I am aware there is a policy on that from the commission. We have since sent it to the IGP,” he said.
Force Police Public Relations Officer, Mr. Frank Mba, a deputy commissioner, told THISDAY he was attending a retreat when he was contacted for responses to the constitutional and operational issues raised.

Answers to THISDAY enquiry, listing the areas of concerns forwarded to his mobile phones yesterday afternoon were still being awaited at press time.

https://www.thisdaylive.com/index.php/2019/11/26/concerns-mount-over-constitutionality-of-police-command-appointments/

user283:
There's this lady I've been dating for two years now. We happen to be members of the same church and I ought to have taken the relationship to the next level by getting my parents to her place for our introduction last month but I had a rethink and postponed our introduction due to an issue that might cause problem in the future

I noticed my girlfriend is the stingy type. When I mean stingy, it's on the high side. Assuming she's just averagely stingy I wouldn't really be bothered but this is gross.

I work as a bank teller (contract staff) and my salary isn't really much while she works in Shoprite. Even from the little I earn, I'm always sensitive to her needs and I tip her whether she's stranded or not since I love her but how can I explain being with a lady for two solid years and I've never for once received any gift no matter how little it is? Not even something as little as toothbrush or hair cream

Initially, I didn't see this as a big deal probably because I grew up with the mentality that it's a taboo for a man to expect gifts or little support from his girlfriend when he's in dire need
but I've now grown to realize that "give and take" is one of the key elements of a good relationship

Even if I get stranded or go into debt, my girlfriend acts nonchalant and she'll be the
last person that will ever render a little financial assistance to help my situation. You might say I should sit her down and discuss about it. Yes I've already done that and I made her understand that I actually postponed our introduction for no other reason but because I'm still indecisive if I want to spend the rest of my life with a selfish woman but her response shows she takes pride in being stingy

I even used logic to whine her younger brother recently just to be sure if she's stingy to me alone but the boy confirmed it that her sister is very stingy. I decided to carry out my findings on her brother because I believe he should know her better.

You might want to talk about sex but my belief is that sex is just a mutual pleasure and does not define what a woman gives to you in a relationship especially a relationship that will lead to the altar

What's getting me worried is that we've come a long way but I don't want to end up with a selfish woman because it's written all over her that she cares so much only about her own well being

Please advice your fellow brother. Do I have a reason to be worried? I've been jumping a lagoon for a woman who can't jump a gutter for me especially when it comes to giving. Should I tolerate this level of stinginess from a woman simply because I'm a man?

P.S: I'm still with her because she has other good traits

Please pardon my typos. I wrote this in a hurry

lavylilly:
hmmmmmmmmm

lavylilly:
Greetings to you all.

I have a disturbing thought I'd like to share. Recently, i stumbled on a video which had a caption "Apart from sex, women have nothing to offer in a relationship."

I totally disagree with this.

I am not disagreeing as a feminist. I am disagreeing as a sane woman.

In as much as a lot of women folks are guilty of the caption charged against them, i think the male folks should also be blamed as an encouraging factor to this.

Gentleman, apart from calling her to come over to your place for the weekend, have her wash your clothes, keep your house clean and have massive sex. Have you tried to engage her in an intellectual/an intelligent discourse?

Apart from drilling that hole, have you tried to drill and extract her God given potentials from her?

Have you tried to discuss your dreams and aspirations with her and see how she fits in by suggesting ideas that would contribute positively to your dreams?

Apart from taking her to the club and have countless sit outs, have you ever taken her for seminars and workshops?

These are questions a lot of male folks are guilty of.

It takes two to tangle. Until you give her room to show you her potentials, you will never see her showcasing it.

The reason why she gives you just sex is because that is the only thing you require all the time from her ever since you both met.

Require more than sex, and then you will see her come out in her fullness.

(c) Precious Pearls

rexwalters:
Camel face, you hate him because you do not like the message?

hisexcellency34:
Temidayo Akinsuyi, Lagos



https://www.independent.ng/bullion-vans-tinubu-already-very-rich-before-he-became-governor-sagay/

Racoon:
https://punchng.com/nnpc-spends-n1bn-daily-petrol-subsidy-hits-n19-37-litre/

Agugbadin:
What wrong has she done that you are posting this senseless view. What she did is absolutely right and encouraged

Nollyzonenews:
President Buhari's Wife, Aisha Buhari held a prayer session for the nation in Abuja today.

She tweeted and shared some photos saying..




Source: https://ngg.ng/2019/11/11/photos-from-the-prayer-session-held-for-nigeria-by-aisha-buhari/

sainam:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/thenationonlineng.net/breaking-tam-david-west-dies-at-83/amp/

QuintessentialW:
Hello house, good morning.

I have a real concern and I want to know what is permissible from mature and discerning individuals in the house.

Myself and my siblings were raised (from when I was about 8 years old) single handedly by my mum. Even all the 7 years that my father lived with us, my mum chiefly ran the home... she was the one who paid rent and school fees and ensured quality feeding. Father was gainfully employed at the time, but he just lacked a sense of responsibility for family. He finally absconded at about the time I was 8 because he lost his job, and never looked back... he was never involved in our finances or welfare. In all those years, he visited a few times, but that was all. My mum passed on a few years ago and her brother, my uncle, assumed FULL responsibility for my siblings and I. My paternal uncles never lent a helping hand.

Now I'm in my 20s, done with schooling, working currently, and would be getting married soon. I want to know what is permissible. I'm from a minority tribe in Edo State, so I'm not Bini or Esan. My maternal family are Okpe (Urhobos). Left to me, I don't want my father collecting my bride price or walking me down the aisle. He now lives in squalor in the village. I don't want to go to the village to do my traditional wedding if I can help it.

Two years ago when I first had plans of getting married, my maternal uncle who's responsible for us had mentioned that I shouldn't take any man to my dad. My maternal family is angry with him, for what he did to my mum and us. I would love to respect my Uncle's wishes because I feel he has a say, and to show my appreciation for all he's done.

Has it ever happened that a girl's maternal family receives her bride price? Is it a taboo? If that's against tradition, is it possible to choose another location other than the village, where my dad and his kinsmen can perform the traditional rites?

Also, on my church wedding day, can my Uncle walk me down the aisle?

N:B I don't hold any grudges against father. I've been the only one amongst all my siblings who's tried to keep in touch with him. I was the one who personally went to seek him out to know where he lives... and to know my village. Whenever I can afford to, I send him money.

Still, I don't feel he deserves to give my hand in marriage. He's never been a dad, in the true sense of the word. Something happened not so long ago, and he was threatening to curse my brothers... for not looking after him. He acts really entitled.

Candid advice, please. Thank you.

dre11:
....President to decide whether to extend their tenures as done for military chiefs, or give them second terms





https://www.thisdaylive.com/index.php/2019/11/07/buhari-weighs-options-on-magu-fowlers-tenure/

Ipodisacriminal:
If that’s your belief so shall it be

As for we,we aspire better and great things

Ipodisacriminal:
Don’t be inferior bro

Even monkey aspire good for things

AXYZ:
I saw a tweet (on twitter) from a certain Ronald Nzimora and later supported by his friend, Hon. Akin Alabi as regards the above subject (as attached).

Thus, I'm compelled to ask if it's actually right for a WIFE to own properties in HER name.

1. What if the wife is richer and kept everything in her name. Don't you feel the husband will feel 'detached' and maybe unhappy?

2. What if the husband is richer and kept all the properties in his name. Don't you feel the wife will feel 'detached' and maybe unhappy?


PS. My wife and I work, and are financially independent of each other. She's been supportive
though and we buy properties in our names, e.g. Mr Kenneth Cole and Mrs Grace Cole. This is rational and not abnormal.

Writercruze:
Girls are beautiful creatures. Yet they are very complicated to handle. Sometimes, it’s almost impossible to know if a lady is into you. But in this article, you will learn how to know if a girl likes you.

Understanding a lady is more complicated than engineering mathematics. It’s a puzzle most guys find extremely difficult to crack.

Ladies manifest their love for you in different ways. Annoyingly, they expect you to understand their body language.

A friend of mine once asked a lady out, and the lady outrightly declined. He tried for a while, and she said no. The guy started dating another girl because the one he initially asked out rejected him.

Guess what happened? The girl came back to my friend that she loves him just that she was trying to play hard to get. It sounds funny, huh? Well, that’s how ladies behave…

So, here are some tricky ways to know if a girl likes you.

How to Know If a Girl Likes You

#1. When She Always Smiles at You

One of the green lights girls give when they like you is to always smile at you. Whenever you are having a conversation with her, she smiles at you a lot.

Once you see a lady smiling at you always, there are chances that she likes you. However, I would advise you not to rush things. Just take your time and follow the flow.

Like I mentioned earlier, ladies are very complicated sometimes. So, it will be unwise to ask her out because she smiled at you one or two times.

The smile must be natural and real. I mean, the ones that crinkle up her eyes

#2. She Finds Whatever You Say Funny

When a girl always laughs at whatever you say, it’s a sign that she likes you. And when both of you spend most of the time laughing and cracking jokes together, the bond will become stronger.

My friend (John) once told me that he didn’t ask his first girlfriend out. He was always cracking her up with funny jokes.

Sometimes, they will spend time together saying funny things and laughing out loud.

However, one afternoon, when they were together, the girl kissed him. Guess what? That was how the relationship started.

Surprisingly, that girl became his wife, and they are both happy together. Most times, love happens in the least expected ways.

#3. She Always Feels Uneasy When She Meets Your eyes

Another tip on how to know if a girl likes you is when she feels Uneasy whenever she meets your eyes.

Some girls will always want to shoot a short glance at you when you are with them.

But they don’t want you to know that they are looking at you. That’s why they always feel uneasy when they meet your eyes.

Although a girl can still love you and confidently look at your eyes, it’s not common…

#4. She Always Notices You

When a girl likes you, she notices you even in the crowd. She observes you from a distance and will always commend your actions.

However, ladies may notice you differently in different situations. But the important thing is that when a lady always notices you from a crowd, it’s an indication that he loves.

#5. She Always Licks Her Lips When She’s With You

You don’t need a soothsayer to know that a girl likes you when she licks her lips whenever she’s with you. It’s an obvious green light that ladies usually give when they are attracted to you.

According to experts, when a lady licks her lips, it’s a way of drawing your attention to her lips. In other words, she is inviting you to kiss her.

However, you have to be patient when interpreting some of these signs. And try as much as possible not to take action too early. Again, sometimes, when a lady licks her lips frequently, it could just be a bad habit. But if she’s doing it because she wants you to take action, you will be able to interpret it.

#6. She Always Enjoys Your Company

When a lady likes you, she will always want to be around you. She will have a great conversation with you and even tell you some of her deepest secrets. And when you speak, she will give you full attention.

#7. She Gets Really Jealous When You Flirt With Other Girls

When a lady likes you, she tends to get jealous when she sees other girls around you. She may not react immediately when she sees you flirting with other girls.

But she will bring up the topic later in the future to confirm if the lady in question is your lover. She may say something like, “Please leave me alone so that your girlfriend, I saw the other day would not break my head.”

A statement like this may seem like a joke to you. But she’s indirectly asking if you are in a relationship with the girl she saw you with the other time.

#8. She Always Put Her Hand On Your Thigh

Another tip on how to know that a girl likes you is when she put her hands on your thigh too often. If she only does it once, it could be an honest mistake. But if she repeats the same action regularly, she may be trying to send you a greenlight.

Most times, guys usually feel uncomfortable and nervous when a lady places her hand on their thigh. But the players will keep calm and look into the girl’s eyes for the next action.

#9. She Jokily Asks You Out for a Date

When a lady tells you to go out for a date with her jokily, she may be indirectly telling you to ask her out. As a rule, don’t get too excited when she casually asks you out for a date. But if she keeps pushing for it, you can make the first move.

Sometimes, a girl can even playfully tell you that “we will look good together as a couple.” Even though she says it casually, it could be an indirect way of telling you she likes you.

#10. She’s Fond of Touching Whenever You Are With Her

This is another helpful tip on how to know if a girl likes you once you notice that a girl is fond of touching you whenever you are together; it a sign that she ones to be with you.

Depending on the girl, she can come up with different excuses to touch you. Whatever her reasons are, when the touch is becoming too frequent, it’s an indication that she wants you to ask her out.

#11. Her Friends Indirectly Give You Clues That She Likes You

Sometimes, her friends may give you a lot of clues that she loves you. In fact, it’s one of the most straightforward tips on how to know if a girl likes you.

What her friends do or how they react when you are around them can give you a clue of what she’s been telling them in your absence.

Some of the ways her friends will behave to give you a clue about a lady’s fondness for you are;

1. They also glance at you when you are approaching them.

2. Sometimes, they may be smiling when they see you.

3. Her friends tend to tease her a lot when you are together.

4. She is always not comfortable around her friends when you are with her. It could be that she’s afraid that any of her friends may unconsciously tell you the truth.


Conclusion

Once you understand these tips on how to know if a girl likes you, you will not always find yourself in the friendzone. Also, if you fail to take action when a lady sends you a greenlight/signal, you will end up being a ‘bestie’.

And we all know that nothing breaks the heart more than seeing the girl you love so much in a relationship with another guy and call you her ‘bestie’.

Source ===> https://www.naijalovetips.com/how-to-know-if-a-girl-likes-you/

References:
https://dailynigerian.com/shekau-releases-new-audio-message-threatens-nigerian-boko-haram-researcher-bulama-bukarti/

goldmatrix:
"What will others say about us" is what is killing Nigeria. There's no country that loves other citizens and by extension their economy more than their except Nigeria.

None. Think first of your economy before considering any other things..

ntyce:
Stop misleading people, our border with Niger is closed however there are still numerous illegal routes used by herdsmen. Same way the illegal routes are found in Ohunbe, Imeko etc in the southwest.

ZombieTERROR:
if the APc goes south west instead of South East... Then the North takes it again ..
PDP will present a northerner... Period

iammo:
buhari promised to open a special window for ghanians soon... but really have you heard of any fulani attack after the border closure? the truth is this neghbors we have a compromising us

Dagrace01:
They have benefitted for years, let them gang up, we are game. Calculate all their population compared to that of Nigeria and you'll realize the West African market is here.

iammo:
no one is an island truly , but in international trade... we must balance out trades or loose forex... buhari should only listen when the ghana president himself comes to abuja to assure us that he is commited to end smugling through thier ports and stop harrassing Nigerians in ghana just for owning a mere shop

jarawa:
Barely two days after the Supreme Court struck out the appeal filed by the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) and its presidential candidate, Atiku Abubakar, challenging the emergence of President Muhammadu Buhari as winner of the February 23, 2019 election, agitation for the 2023 presidential ticket has commenced. Credible sources told our correspondent yesterday in Abuja that some power brokers in the party were already planning how to field another candidate in 2023. If pdp of all parties denies the SE their presidential ticket for 2023 then it's finished for them period.

It was gathered that high ranking members of the PDP, including some serving governors were plotting to field a northern candidate in 2023, while some party bigwigs from the South felt cheated by such arrangement and are challenging the move.

A Board of Trustees (BoT) member from the South who spoke with our correspondent on condition of anonymity said: “It is true that some power brokers in the PDP were not comfortable with the emergence of Atiku but we supported him as our candidate.” “So now that our case has been thrown out, there are pockets of agitations regarding which zone should produce the presidential candidate in 2023. “But I think the party also needs to handle this matter with caution because, already, many of our members are likely to jump ship to the APC. I’m also considering that option so I don’t want to comment on the matter anymore,” he said.

But PDP National Publicity Secretary Kola Ologbondiyan told our correspondent yesterday in a telephone chat that the party has not taken a decision on its 2023 presidential ticket. “There is no agitation within the PDP over the 2023 presidential ticket. It’s even too early to talk about 2023, but I can assure you that the future of the PDP is very bright. “We have not even seen the reasons they (Supreme Court) advanced for their judgement. So we have not reached discussion on that yet,” he said.

https://www.dailytrust.com.ng/pdp-atikus-defeat-sparks-agitation-over-2023-presidential-ticket.html

jarawa:
Barely two days after the Supreme Court struck out the appeal filed by the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) and its presidential candidate, Atiku Abubakar, challenging the emergence of President Muhammadu Buhari as winner of the February 23, 2019 election, agitation for the 2023 presidential ticket has commenced. Credible sources told our correspondent yesterday in Abuja that some power brokers in the party were already planning how to field another candidate in 2023. If pdp of all parties denies the SE their presidential ticket for 2023 then it's finished for them period.

It was gathered that high ranking members of the PDP, including some serving governors were plotting to field a northern candidate in 2023, while some party bigwigs from the South felt cheated by such arrangement and are challenging the move.

A Board of Trustees (BoT) member from the South who spoke with our correspondent on condition of anonymity said: “It is true that some power brokers in the PDP were not comfortable with the emergence of Atiku but we supported him as our candidate.” “So now that our case has been thrown out, there are pockets of agitations regarding which zone should produce the presidential candidate in 2023. “But I think the party also needs to handle this matter with caution because, already, many of our members are likely to jump ship to the APC. I’m also considering that option so I don’t want to comment on the matter anymore,” he said.

But PDP National Publicity Secretary Kola Ologbondiyan told our correspondent yesterday in a telephone chat that the party has not taken a decision on its 2023 presidential ticket. “There is no agitation within the PDP over the 2023 presidential ticket. It’s even too early to talk about 2023, but I can assure you that the future of the PDP is very bright. “We have not even seen the reasons they (Supreme Court) advanced for their judgement. So we have not reached discussion on that yet,” he said.

https://www.dailytrust.com.ng/pdp-atikus-defeat-sparks-agitation-over-2023-presidential-ticket.html

iammo:
when buhari holds you for blockus, you must piss blood

Igbosmoker:
Messi certainly put his boots on show against Valladolid at the Camp Nou on Tuesday, with two goals and two assists, and the day after it’s happening again. This time it’s to honour his league 36 goals last season, and which earned yet another European Golden Shoe.

He collected the trophy last October 16 for a record SIXTH time (following on from 2009/10 - 34 goals; 2011/12 -50 goals; 2012/13 – 46 goals ; 2016/17 – 37 goals and 2017/18 – 34 goals) and today donated it for display in the FC Barcelona Museum.

WANT TO SEE MESSI'S GOLDEN SHOES? THEN GET TICKETS FOR THE CAMP NOU EXPERIENCE!
In all competitions, Messi broke the 50-goal barrier for the seventh time in his career last season.

https://www.fcbarcelona.com/en/news/1475053/messis-6th-golden-shoe-on-display-in-museum

angelEmade:
I AM YORUBA BUT EVERY SENSIBLE NIGERIAN WHO WANTS NIGERIA TO REMAIN AS ONE WOULD VOTE FOR THIS IGBO PRESIDENCY SOMETHING...IN MY VIEW THIS IS THE BEST WAY TO NEUTRALIZE THE BIAFRA AGITATION.

Flashyoil1:
https://www.dailytrust.com.ng/igbo-leaders-to-meet-in-abakaliki-over-2023-presidency.html

ManirBK:
https://www.dailytrust.com.ng/border-closure-nigeria-rejects-vietnams-rice-importation-plea.html?

igwegeorgiano:
Friends on NL I greet you all. Trust your day is going well? It is with very heavy heart and confused state of mind I sent this post on this platform so you can advise me on what line of action I should take. Pastors and genuine men of God should also advise me on what to do as well.

There is this lady i have been dating for about a year and 6 months now. We love each other to the moon and most importantly we respect each other opinion and decisions. She is a born again christian who appreciates the things of God more than she appreciates me which of course I have no issues with.

When we agreed to start up a relationship after being friends for about 6 months, it was agreed that there will be no sex until the wedding night but at a point I asked her "what if we are done with traditional marriage rites are we still not gonna have sex? To my creates surprise she said we won't until church wedding is done. I did not actually took her serious.

Fast forward, on the 15th of July 2019 the traditional marriage was done in her father' compound in the east and all I was asked to pay and give was paid and given without any remainder . after the traditional marriage we went back to my house in abuja. Note that we were not staying together before now. I am base in abuja while she is in owerri. When we got home that night I told her we can now make love as husband and wife hence the traditional rites has been done and most importantly the bride price paid. To my amazement my wife bluntly refused. She told me she will never compromise her stand on pre marital sex

I have been very faithful to our agreement based on her claim that she is a virgin. But refusing me my right over her body after every thing including the bride price has been paid is something I can never subscribed to and to this end I have I have involved her parent and her pastor her decision however, still remain no sex till the wedding night. I am putting the wedding on hold for now until she willingly allow me make love to her and she seems not to be comfortable with my decision as well.

This is the dilemma I have found myself please I need your wise counsels on this. Thanks and remain bless. Moderators kindly push this post to the front page so it can have adequate views it deserves thanks