@But for those that have applied, how much is acceptable for finance? Do we have to show more that GBP5000 Also when I was looking at the form, I noticed a part that said, "what do you intend to do in the UK" and provide details . I am a bsc holder so i intend to look for a job as soon I get to the UK.

Waiting for responses

brb

@poster how far have you travelled lets know how it went

Can I go to live with my parents in the UK as a child?

You can apply to join your parents in the UK if:

your parents live in the UK legally, with no time limit on their stay, or they are applying at the same time as you
one parent is living and settled in the UK or is applying for settlement at the same time as you, and has had sole responsibility for looking after you
your parents can support you without help from public funds
your parents have enough accommodation, which they own or live in, where you can live without help from public funds, and
you are their child.
For all of the above, ‘parent’ includes a step-parent where the father or mother is dead, either the father or mother of an illegitimate child and, in certain circumstances, an adoptive parent.

How can I qualify to join my parents in the UK?

You, or your parent, must show that you:

are under 18 years of age, and
cannot support yourself financially, are not married or in a civil partnership and are not living independently away from your parents.
A child cannot normally go to live in the UK if one parent is living abroad, unless the parent in the UK has sole responsibility for the child, or if there are special reasons why the child should be allowed to join the parent in the UK.

How long can I stay with my parents in the UK?

If both of your parents are settled in the UK, or if one parent already settled in the UK has sole responsibility for you, we will normally allow you to stay in the UK permanently from the date that you arrive.

If you travel to the UK with one or both of your parents, we will normally give you permission to stay in the UK for the same length of time as they are given.

Visa fee from Nigeria
Child dependant of a settled person; view to settlement
[fiancé(e)/proposed CP may receive only 6 months validity] N210,600

Application Form
http://www.ukvisas.gov.uk/resources/en/docs/1903073/vaf4a

http://www.ukvisas.gov.uk/en/howtoapply/infs/settlementguide#22694585

http://www.ukvisas.gov.uk/en/howtoapply/infs/settlementguide#22694233

http://www.ukvac-ng.com/visafees.aspx


Goodluck

This page explains how your child or children can apply to settle permanently with you in the UK if you are a permanent resident here, or if you have been given permission to settle here permanently (also known as 'indefinite leave to remain').

There are additional requirements for adopted children. If you have temporary permission to live in the UK, see the Children of temporary residents page.

Children cannot normally come to settle in the UK unless both parents are settled here or have been given permission to come and settle here. The only exceptions are where:

one parent is dead and the other is settled or coming to settle here; or
the parent who is settled or coming to settle in the UK has had sole responsibility for the child's upbringing; or
one parent is settled or coming to settle in the UK and there there are serious reasons why the child must be allowed to come here.
(The term 'parent' includes the stepfather or stepmother of a child whose father or mother is dead, both parents of an illegitimate child, and an adoptive parent in certain circumstances - see the page on adopted children.)

Your child must show that they:

are not leading an independent life;
are not married or in a civil partnership;
have not formed an independent family unit; and
are aged under 18.
If you and your child meet the above requirements, and you can show that you have accommodation where you can all live without help from public funds, you can bring your child to settle in the UK.

Before your child travels here, they must obtain permission to enter the UK. This permission is known as 'entry clearance', and will take the form of a visa or entry clearance certificate. To obtain it, the child should apply to the British diplomatic post in the country where they live. For more information, see our visa services section.

Dats my kind of woman thumbs up

@ Poster Please dont take any oath I beg u in the name of God storis of all blood oaths taken that we hear have always been disastrous. Is it not your husband who will tell you how to do the oath or take you there do you know if you are the only one taken the real oath and him just pretending thereby you becomin an acquisition for him and he doing as he pleases and since he knows u r bound to him for life he'll ride you and all u'll do is suffer in silence.

I'm saying this based on a story I heared where they made a oath and guy travels abroad for years and re marry's but girl is stuck in Nigeria and cant marry someone else. The girl took the oath with the guy trusting and loving him and to prove to him she was not going to sleep with some else while his away and vice versa but unknown to her the guys oath was not real blah blah blah as at time of the story then they were still in d media asking for help for her while d guy was married.

Your hubby might take d oath truly he might not but for anything in this world I would not do it I've never heard of oath taking going well it all goes wrong its of the Devil I believe. The marriage vows should b enough and you to follow advises already posted to calm his fears.

And besides were you not a marketer before he married you?

Goodluck I'm sure u will b fine

I fourth

Goodluck

andromida:

she does not love you anymore but she is attached to you and will rather you guys continue to suffer together than let you go until she figures out what she wants to do with herself. I cant even begin to guess why she married you in the first place but it seems you married her because you were attached to her.

ignore her completely but take care of her needs just act as if she does not exist. you have been tooooooooooooo soft with her she even thinks you are a joke. better look for some nice frends you can enjoy their company and stop staying in that miserable house through out the weekend go out, have fun enjoy your life. If she wants to look for that house in town fasttrack it no matter how it hurts. If she comes asking whats wrong tell her you are tired of her silliness and desire to be happy at this point if you like you can divorce her, if you like you can keep her. but whatever determine to live your life to the fullest and be happy i know its not easy but try otherwise one day you will sleep and not wake up due to heart complications.

[color=#990000][/color] SECONDED

come to think of it u sent N230k for the period of Dec 2009 to April 2011 thats 17 months that would be about N13529k per month do u think thats all the child spends monthly anyway u r better that others who dont thumbs up for even owning up to your responsibility.

@ Poster u have been given some good advice's here on NL. Pls do not take away the son from his gran mother who he has a relationship with please and please hun o se bi iya ko le dabi iya I guess u are yoruba and u understand what I have said. If you have a problem with the boy not been taken care off or the funds you send not being utilised properly its a simple case to sort out just pay the sch fees directly buy cloths and toys etc and send to your son periodically, if you have someone who stays in the same town with them or a neighbouring town or if your mum does ask them to take foodstuffs and provisions to the gran monthly and send money for his upkeep to his gran who he stays with . Most importantly find out time to visit him bound with your son have a relationship with him when he his older say in sec sch then you and the mother can share his holidays. In my own opinion and from other peoples experience a child is better off with the mum or mums family than a step mum.

It's so sad but dont think oe believe he did it for money or to help out if he did he would have contacted you from Nigeria. As much as it hurts he was cheating on you and you never knew it. Trust me in a couple of years when u are happily married you'll thank God your ex did what he did bcoz u are going to meet someone amazing I've been there and I know what am saying. Put yourself together stay strong focus on God and put all your strenght in your career and God will sort your love life out. Take care

@Poster if u r convinced within u that u cant have a happy ending with ur fiancee cut off d engagement its better late than never feelings would be hurt but it would be worth it in the end. With regards to ur ex I want to believe u r not seeing faults in ur fiancee bcoz u want ur ex back. I'll advise you think about your life and happiness on the long run before making your decision about your fiancee without basing your judgement on whether ur ex would take u back or not as she might not. If she does goodluck for you if she does not u would meet some1 gd as well if u set ur priorities right when looking for a wife and stop chasing after figure 8. All d best

Men Okunrin

Have faith in God all will be well

Hummm I'll advise u talk to a gd solicitor for proper advise with regards to d grant. If u can prove u and ur husband reside in d same house gd but rem u would be going with ur husbands passport r his travels stamped on it? personally I would have gotten a job to show I'm employed and not complicate issues with my Phd grants

No its not all u need to do is prove that u can afford it and show ties to Naija. Include ur share certs, property documents, gd bank statement and most importantly ur prove of employment. Appying 1 by 1 could even raise an eyebrow to me. My uncle and his wife and four kids applied same time and were granted and a lot of other pple I know as well.

@dancewith do u know d name of the hospital on MD

I'm interested in dis topic

WackyJ1:

False, Two heads they say is better than one

False Two GOOD[b][/b] heads is better than one

poster what have u now concluded or rather what r u doing

I'm still laughing

savanaha:

I was going to say the list isn't bad, all you have to do is save little by little. Then I kept scrolling down and down and down. Well since he already has two children with her there is no undoing. He should bring what he wants and write an I owe you for the rest.

[b][/b] and close case

677ano:

Your boy husband trying to let the woman bond with your child is an indication that he is likely to get back with his ex

Seconded u may be on ur way out without u realizing it. The ex might just be bonding with her future step son or daughter. If u dont put a stop to thise wisely(not by fighting) u might be in for the shock of ur life.

humm humm wonders shall never end

@ poster what have u now done? like others have asked is your sister in d Uk legally? is she here on a spousal visa courtsey her husband (if she quits d marriage she can still get a stay using domestic violence u need to proof) if ur sister is here legally call the police if she's not tell her to get iut of the house fast b4 he kills her.

Congratulations

@Beneli how r u sure Tosin's new husband does not know her past or that she has not divorce her 1st hubby officially. I would not be suprised if u get in touch with Tosin and she produces a real divorce certificate from a high court in Naija d previous husband might have been divorced without him knowing.

My advise to the poster is for her to tell her mum and she'll know how to tell his brother since d guy still feels strongly about his wife or ex wife. Tosin try sef I taught marriage was for better for worse and if ur uncle knew he had fertility problems b4 marring Tosin and did not disclose it to her b4 and decieved her into marrying him then he got what he deserved.

@BABABABA u can get 1 from the customary court in Naija