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Royal Roy: Welcome Mrs Damiso!!

Your contributions on family nairaland are appreciated!!

First born ladies to me are a blessing to most families!!
Most are responsible, loyal to the family & avhieve greater heights than a male first born!! (my opinion).

Wishing u a "cold free winter"!!!

afrobaby: Lolz, My dear, no secret o, na God's gift.

To categorically pin point something, I can't. Most times he says the way I handled his finances, his social needs, relate with him in the midst of people shows I am needed in his present and future life. Any lady who knows nothing more than take me out, buy this for me, this is what is in vogue, most guys do not like them. Yes, they wanna spoil and take care of your needs, but they prefer someone who will make their financial status more stable and robust.

But above all, u just need to be naturally and love him the way you love yourself.

Kingauthur: @deols u will not believe this I go for extremely handsome guys coz then I was thinking of my future children I always tell my friends that 'mi o da mi o gbodo je nkan tio da'.
But once I am into any relationship I position myself (by the help of God) in such a way that my partner sees me as a gem someone he will be proud of and will not want to loose.

For now I tried to be really nice (u can pls everybody) because they say iwalewa beauty can be vain a times
One thing I am very sure of is that my husband is devoted to me

@deols u will not believe this I go for extremely handsome guys coz then I was thinking of my future children I always tell my friends that 'mi o da mi o gbodo je nkan tio da'.
But once I am into any relationship I position myself (by the help of God) in such a way that my partner sees me as a gem someone he will be proud of and will not want to loose.

For now I tried to be really nice (u can pls everybody) because they say iwalewa beauty can be vain a times
One thing I am very sure of is that my husband is devoted to me

Royal Roy: Multi-national Nashville, welcome to the fun-room!!
I guess you must be a mobile atlas!

But how come you travelled so much all around but kept skipping your state?

Waitress, Seven bunches of plantain for this man, add okro soup for him by the side with 5 pieces of Brokoto!

bukatyne: If not for your profile on NL, I would have concluded you were Aisha.

How are you dearie?

I just want to know what is wrong with the comment and how it warrants my getting a ban.

she cannot end a marriage because her husband is enjoying one of the benefits Allah has bestowed on men alone. No matter how heartbroken or rejected she feels, she must stay married to him and get the eff over herself

Esji80: Assalamu alaikum.Sincerely U shld get an alfa/Ustaz hu preaches n adheres 2 d teachngs ov d Glorious QUR'AN n d SUNNAH ov D GREATEST MAN N D MOST ADORABLE PROPHET MUHAMMAD S.A.W dt ur parents o family do respect n listen to,to explain 2 them d consequences n effects ov marrying some1 Hu dislikes/hates HIJAB.

Ds man I strongly advice U not 2 marry him if and only if he ddnt change his bad atitude ov HATRED 2 WAT ALLAH n HIS APOSTLE MAKE MANDATORY 4 OL MUSLIM LADIES.Chck Q24:3,24:31;33:59 n 17:32. I 4gt 1 verse where Allah SWT says gud women r 4 gud men..

showietee: Ameen.

Watching “the stream“, westernization and civilitation has a part to play in our lives today... The signals are sent but more of it is to corrupt the mind of the belivers...

Women now compete wit men,men correct them in publicly...

Tussle for power...an offspring of ***************.

Be conscious of your creator as you ought to be.

talktimi: Bored stiff but anyways are there guys fighting for their interests or that of Nigerians ? A rtd military officer told me just today that the main issue is about the revocation of oil block licences that is about to take place any time soon (i have no idea the veracity of this) ive also heard its because Atiku wants control of all the nations ports, on a grander much realistic scale, it might just be because of 2015 & northern presidency. The question we should ask ourselves across all political divides is do we really matter to these politicians we fight and abuse each other over ?

Sissie: This reminds me of a time, I said women in physically abusive marriages should seek for divorce, and a guy wrote, so she will divorce him, marry another one and he does the same, she divorces again, not knowing she's getting old and men don't get old.

I couldn't even say anything because if I had answered him, I would have ranted.

Imagine how can men say things like this, the way we have conditioned ourselves is terrible, and that's why women are always at the receiving end, the highest no of people suffering in abject poverty are women.

We are Muslims and we ought to be best example of mankind. Muslims should be the kindest to women, we need 're-orientation, it's really sad. We should have respect for our women.

This is directed at no one specific, it's general. To all the men who needs to learn one or two things about women.

Ngokafor: ...ermm would have loved to talk more about the inner beauty but since you've struck that out, then I guess I'll make do with the physical....I wouldn't classify myself as beautiful as such cos that sounds so vain,but I know I can be easy on the eyes ...would he have chosen me if he didn't find me attractive??...maybe and maybe not I don't really know[b].According to him,he knows enough about women to know that as much as the outer beauty is what attracts a man at first, the inner one is what will keep him...his words not mine!! [/b]

In my opinion,judging and accepting anyone based on their outward appearance alone is so shallow cos no one can help how they look to a large extent...I have met quite a number of 'fine' people who I couldn't stand subsequently .....with a little bit of cash and self-confidence the regular 'unattractive' person can be made beautiful.

...on the other hand,no amount of money can change or polish an obnoxious character...they become worse sef with more money.

afrobaby: @Ama, welcome to the fun room, this is where it is really happening, lolz. I love amarula too, its my sleeping drink, and hubby, menh, he loves it so much.
Don't be sad about being single cause your time will come i remember when one of my siblings asked when I was gonna bring a man home, you are not getting younger u know, you know my response, I told her frankly, the masquarade that dances first becomes a spectator when others are dancing, life na turn by turn.
And to your job, my dear, we are in the same shoe, there are often time I just feel like slapping my boss or even resigning, but what can we do, it is a temporal thing.
All this single eligible and capable guys wey dey one nairaland still dey testrun or na test drive, abeg, eligible ladies dey look for una, personally, I have 3 friends who are waiting for una kind self,

@deaols,
Hubby says what got him to say this girl must not go, was my beauty and confidence. Then he would add, my chelsea and arsenal are a thing to behold and possess, lolz.
Then we got closer as friends, he saw that I was so real and natural, wifely, motherly etc, my head go just dey swell,

Chillisauce: Beauty and smiles attracted him first, before my inner beauty in terms of intelligence, humor etc.

No. 2, hips don't lie, independence, my kind of work too. Mostly works with male and everyone wanted to be the guy true story

bellong: If beauty and handsomeness was her only criterion, she would have never looked at me twice...... I do not have that striking face to wow a lady.... She saw far beyond temporary measures...



This is an ambiguous question... She said I fit in perfectly to what she wants in a man and from life.

Kingauthur: If u read my introduction u should know my own answer.
My husband did not marry me because of my look far be it.
Ye§ternite when I saw this question I asked him again and he said what I saw in u is more than outward beauty.
Funnily I never dated ordinary looking guys when I was single, if u are not extremely handsome I can't date u and they were always very devoted to me

Royal Roy: Not married or engaged to anyone but I will aTtempt this question!!

Well, I didn't think my looks mattered to them. Most of the time it has to do with my swagger, confidence & humour that gets them attracted!!
So, yea, they would have picked me over any better looking guy!



I think my ability to sustain a good constructive conversation, making them laugh & still flirting loosely while at it.
Think am good at convincing people anyway.....my special gift.

amarula: My name is Ama
I choose the username Amarula because I like the drink and it has the first three letters of my name.
I joined NL in search of a job.
I am an introvert, I love to read, listen to music, cook and hangout.
I am sadly single, sad because I love to be in relationship, give and receive love.
Love yam, rice, amala,and chicken.
Will do "anything" to protect children.
Currently in a job I don't like with a boss from hell.
People who inspire me on NL are CC, debrief, greatgod, sex killz, bellong and baba oyo.
I have an identical twin who gets on my last nerve.
And finally I am on d brink of depression.

yellowpawpaw: Thanks for ur reply on d other thread.
I suspected so.

Topic.
Yep,it matters. That was d first thing that attracted hubby.
To d 2nd kweshion, I was too open and real. I laid my cards on d table.the good,bad and ugly part of yellowpawpaw.
And too caring.
To d caring part,I was just being me not knowing that I was creating a lastin impression even to his family unknowingly.
Till date,these two r integral parts of our union. Always be open and real.
Hope I tried.

emcemayo: that said i proposed to my husband and will do it again a hunderd times over . you know the intresting part you can never ever guess and before d proposal i did enough background checks and i neva went to him myself. long story cut short na ALLAH make am easy o.but HE is so worth it all the way i no one or two people that did same tou one did not work but the brother in question turn her down honourably no be beans for woman to do proposal o but if the man is muslim and fears ALLAH true you will be thankful u did.abeg make una no vex for my long write up

Hallie27: I don't wear niqob,I wear a knee length hijab,so he says its not :smart: enough. He showed me the kind of hijab he liked and its all these micro mini hijabs that cover up to the neck only,then you wear'smart' and fitting tops and skirts underneath. He is a good person generally and everyone loves him in both families,but he feels putting on hijab doesn't make you a good muslim;and almost everyone from both families agree with him. He says abayas are also not smart enough,and you can't wear abayas to work in the uk.

showietee: Psychologically, women wants guardian and protections, so they ll a wanna be under a man but man feels free and can marry anytime.

^^^that caused the chaos.
If and only if those previous questions could be answered on neutral grounds, then you ll see proofs
If psychology is “an academic and applied discipline that involves the scientific study of mental functions and behaviors“ do we still needs professors to tell us female are saver under (man)guidance? At anytime,man could be father,husband or guidance.
The hadith on woman travelling, should it be classed economic or political?

Should i continue since you're the only one interested in it? (deviation).

onegig: I don't expect you to take anything from me or word from me. It's a forum like you said. I was just trying to call you out..We all do have passions for something but we should always be objective and not let our passions cloud our decorum.

We all have been asking for more views from other muslims and i can say categorically that the way someone here responded to a friend here made her un follow the thread. If he had rephrased the question more subtlety i guess she would still be here and her comments and understanding would have been beneficial to all.


He shouldn't make unsubstantiated claims without backing it with facts. And i do agree with you on that.. But there are better ways of asking for such facts without sounding rude or subduing that persons point of view.


About the subduing word....Not in the actual sense of the word but like trying to call the bluff of someone's point of view without bringing a better counter claim to the table than the WORD "YOU ARE WRONG" based on what i believe in.

Although i feel i should have used a better word...

onegig: You started it though....

and my post wasn't directed to you alone...It was directed to everyone who goes around subduing other peoples believe without trying to first understand them and helping them see things differently.


Good to know obsession is not in your world....I was just wondering.

You know i would be a thousandnaire now if i get N5 naira for each post you have made that had that "so called alfa" phrase,