One of them let her husband take the kids away. Today, she's alone, miserable and can't even tell where her kids are. For the kids to not reach out to her in these days of social media, I wonder what awful things they must have been told about their mother.
Another took her baby daddy to court and got him to pay fees while she handled the rest. Now that the man is even out of job, she's the one hustling to care for them.
I run advocacy on issues like these as well as child literacy, legislative processes and SDGs, trust me, I know what I am talking about.
This is not about the woman, nor be the woman come complain here. It’s the guy, las las the guy nor wan shoulder any responsibilities and he is right in doing so, life too hard to dey carry another man problem for head. It’s better for them to be adviced to find a common ground with the baby daddy, than tell the couples to double dere hustle and the guy should assume responsibilities. You think taking care of kids is by buying cheese balls and birthday cakes. Nor be so o
This is the reason I called him a deadbeat. 1. It's not that he's incapable of child support. 2. He's withdrawing child support so he can take the kids away.
If man no get, we go gree say e no get.
But like I also said, they them double their hustle and take care of the kids. Especially the wife.
Abeg go rest, all these one na just English wey u dey speak. If u haven’t lived that kinda life b4, nor come dey give advice about doubling hustle and taking care of kids and all. Let dem dilly dally to whichever way fate carry dem
Andrew87: I got married to my wife. I love her both with the kids but the biological father of the kids is a bit wealthy and left the whole responsibilities to my wife since last year.
This is not funny because I am part of her although we hustle hard but it's not easy. He insists the kids must be with him if he must take care of them but a member of his family informed my wife that he plans to take them away and she will not see them.
Please friends what's ur take on this? Times are really hard.
Ebelebe, you don wear trouser. Anything wey ur eye see, e see be dat. I nor get strength for una for this country anymore, make everybody getat
South Africa will soon look like one of those post-apocalyptic movies real soon with the way they are going. People will start killing each other for food and medications real soon.
22o62021: [b] Our patents are aware of the pregnancy.
She traveled home and she told me that she has no money to come back, I sent her #12500. But I was surprised that her number stopped going through and I was restless. After the first day on the road, she called me to tell me that her step brother took her two phones inside her back and went away. I was surprised and asked her if the brother dropped her sim and she said yes. After three days on the road ,she finally came home past 11pm . When I went to open the gate for her, I saw that they were two girls outside, I let the both inside, she told me it was her step sister, I said ok because at this moment I thought maybe her sister is going somewhere else.
In the morning I woke up before then and I was at the bathroom when my girlfriend came in, I asked her , that she planned bringing her sister here without informing me , she said that it’s none of my business if she bring her sister, that her sister will not stay with me because she already has a work for her. I was angry but I kept quiet since she said that the said girl won’t be staying in my house. Before this my girlfriend stays with me but her belongings are not in my house, they are in her own place.
After about 5 days later , I got her another android phone because she was already asking for it because a guy bought a phone for her sister just in her four days in the city.
They will always come to my house to eat in the morning, on one particular day, I have yam at home and I bought everything that we will need to make porridge, I called them to come in the morning. Immediately they came, her sister opened the fridge to check for bread but couldn’t find any,my girlfriend gave her money to go buy one and eat, when they are done eating, I asked them to go cook the food, I followed my girlfriend to the kitchen but her sister stayed back, put on an earphone, on the fan and television, laid down. After 10 minutes in the kitchen I went inside to meet her and asked her to go help out in the kitchen, she just stood up and left my house. I told her that I don’t want to see her in my house again. My girlfriend after preparing the food, she fished in the flask and took it to her, I did not even ask her why because I know that she won’t have the heart to eat without her sister.
Right from that moment, my girlfriends behavior changed too, she will no longer call me on phone or come to my house, At their working place, her boss started complaining of her change in attitude since she brought her sister there.
Her boss was tired of complaining and sacked them. They came to my house when I was the kitchen, she joined me in the kitchen but her sister was inside. After cooking , we ate together in the kitchen and I went straight to stay at the balcony, she came to me and told me that they are going to her brothers place that she will be back.
It had been days now and she doesn’t pick my calls and I don’t even know where they are right now.
I have called with different numbers and she wasn’t picking.
This morning I called the numbers severally until a guy picked up, I asked after the owner of the phone and he told me that she is not around now, I told him whom I am and the said girl is pregnant for me. She was shocked and told me that they are together now in a different state with me. This is to say the said girl has ran to meet another girl with pregnancy.
My friend also called the guy and introduced himself as my elder brother, he explained everything to him and he promised to call us back when he get home, that he was not aware that she is pregnant, that he is going to send her back to where she cane from by tomorrow.
This evening they flashed me and I called them they will busy the call. Her number hasn’t been going through since then.
Many women have advised me to let her be for now that she will come back begging when she sees that no man is ready to take her in when the pregnancy starts coming out. Others said I should pet her to come back then talk sense into her.
To me right now, I have tried my best and I have chosen to stop looking for her.
Many people on this forum warned me about TIV girls and their promiscuous nature but I defended her thinking that she is different.
I have been avoiding my moms calls because I know that she will ask after her
I can’t sleep and I can no longer concentrate on anything I’m doing. It’s affecting me psychologically .[/b]
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But this evening when I came back to the shop
My boy told me that she saw her sister and called her to the shop, he asked her about my girlfriend and she said she was at home (their brothers house) she said it’s the next street after mine but I can’t locate the particular house.
But I’m sure she is no longer in this state
Omo there is no need abusing you but mehn you need prayers. As in try and read what u wrote up here, that woman wey u dey call my gf up and down will finish you. That is an example of what not to spend the rest of ur life with, but since devil dey press ur button, u don’t want to let her go. Like can’t you see this, you’ll only live to be miserable in the relationship, u kinda of are already sef sha o
I believe this lame joke has already been mentioned above. Is that all u COWgerian trolls got?
Most of y’all are just waiting on an excuse to go out there and loot. If your president falls sick, loot, South Africa lose a match, loot. Who steals traffic light? I mean a goddamn traffic light .
Daveambition: This gender sef eerh... You publicly denied knowing someone & the same person reminds the world that you was in his DMs in 2018, instead of accepting she lied. Olosho begin beauty comparison game...
Stoooopid...
How do you know she lied? Abi did u read all that with ur head upside down cos she said yh she did enter his dm but not as per hitting on him
Factfinder1: See blood everywhere see how dirty our hospitals are and that's supposed to be a theater.....if it where a sane country you will see over 6 doctors and surgeons trying to save the life of this guy but see what we have over here....It will never be better for those that has made this country the mess it is right now....rest in peace man
tensazangetsu20: A lot of Nigerian students especially those from high school still hold some archaic mentality that some courses are a sure way out of poverty. The situation of Nigeria and the future should make people dead that mentality o. If you arent from a rich family or well connected you should avoid studying some courses in Nigeria.
The following should be avoided except you are rich or well connected.
Medicine: This used to be a very sure way out of poverty. Just like 14 years back, even NYSC doctors were getting six figures. It was so good that even after NYSC and Housemanship, some doctors had bought nice cars or even built houses. The situation is totally different today. To get housemanship as a doctor na die and even when you get it you will be paid peanuts. To migrate out of the country as a doctor requires serious money which if you arent from a privileged home might be very difficult to meet. To also further as a doctor in Nigeria is very difficult as a lot of residency programs are based on who you know. Its no more about merit just as it used to be before yet every year thousands of teenagers kill themselves trying to get into medicine when they can get into other programs which are much more lucrative.
All Engineering Courses except Electrical/Computer engineering: Contrary to what a lot of people think, engineering a lot of branches of engineering are not as lucrative as people think they are. I was checking unilag's cut off the other day for my cousins and was shocked to find out that petroleum engineering has the highest cut-off point in the engineering department. That is a program that should be scrapped. Its glory days are over and never going to come back and its so restrictive yet a whole lot of brilliant people think killing themselves to study this is actually a good idea. Electrical and computer engineering are the only courses I can really advise anyone to go for as they are very much relevant in the ICT sector. Embedded systems, computer hardware, robotics alongside a host of others are mostly offshoots of these fields. Lucrative alternatives to engineering that arent as competitive are computer science, mathematics and physics. Someone intending to study civil engineering or mechanical engineering in Nigeria should go for physics. There's practically no place a mechanical or civil engineer can work in this world that someone with a degree in physics cant work.
Law: I wont say much here but if you love poverty, this is an amazing course to study. If you are from arts class, instead of law go for a degree in English. At least with a TEFL certificate and an English degree you can get good jobs teaching English in asia and latin america.
Another thing that might help is that before you study a course, go on linkedin. Create a profile, go to linkedin jobs and check specifically how many jobs exist for your course in Nigeria, Africa and globally.
Nigeria isnt funny anymore to waste time on nonsense and funny as it is, Nigeria of today is a paradise compared to the Nigeria coming so folks should help themselves.
Your vision is so myopic tho, seems you cannot think more than the present. How on Gods green earth is teaching English in Fucking Philippines or China better than being a lawyer or doctor. It might take a long while to gather money to take yourself out of Nigeria but it is sure with determination. What the Bleep is this shitty write-up
Bhadmus7: Good day Nairalanders..My Brother registered for jamb this year, and picked UNIABUJA for Medicine..but ended up scoring 248 (probably due to the mass failure, because he is very intelligent and read really hard).
The question is can he be admitted into his school of choice even with 248, judging with the mass failure this year.
NOTE: The initial plan was for him to go to Unilag and change his institution after jamb
I need your advise People Should he go on with UNIABUJA What are his chances of getting admitted into Medicine with that score. What are his chances also, pertaining to UNILAG.
I must tell you your brother is really good to even have that kinda score this year. But normally it won’t be even near enough but they just might consider the mass failure
Igbankpa: My younger brother is dating a married woman.
I've tried talking him out of that unholy relationship, whenever we have such conversations, he retracts for a while and then goes back to her.
He thinks he is in love, But I keep reminding him that what ever he feels about her is all bolllocks and can put him in harms way.
I sincerely understand why he feels the way he does towards her, considering the love and affection he gets from this woman. No stress, no drama. just attention, care and good sex and she also spoils him with gifts as well. she is a business woman and her husband lives and work in a different continent and only visits once in a while. This days he is barely around, as all they do is go from one hotel to another having fun.
I'm scared for him. The other day at work, I and my colleagues where having a conversation about African traditions and repercussions for cheating in marriage and my boss who happens to be from the same region as the woman was telling us about the punishment for cheating as obtainable in their culture which puts my brother in grave danger.
He is my immediate younger brother and he is closest to me, I'm the only one in the family that knows about this relationship, I'm thinking of informing my mum, maybe that will help in putting a stop to their affair, But that would be a breach of trust. I don't know what to do!
Kantebets: You are a fool Out of all the girls wey full street na one girl matter u come carry for head You deserve what u are getting cos u no get sense Na ur wife she be? Why won’t she post another guy when u never pay her bride price. Las las relationships na cruise But guy u be mugu
Oga nor dey shout, dude is heartbroken already, don’t put salt on his wound. You gotta stop letting your frustrations on other people. Not healthy ma nigga
I’m in an emotional trauma right now. This girl I have been dating , I want to marry and I have gone to her place and did a few of things my hand could afford traditionally .. I’m hoping to do the rest by Xmas .
She is a new graduate and she told me to open a side business for her to make small small change instead of being idle.
I told her to give me small time to save up money .
There is this guy she always talks about that is a yahoo boy and has plenty money , long story short , she came to my house last weekend , we were discussing, I wanted to use her phone and play 9ja ludo but she insisted on not giving me the phone .. she held the phone , turned her back after pressing it for long she gave it to me .
I angrily seized the phone , told her I bought the phone and sim that I’m seizing it.
We later settle and she slept early hours of the nxt day , I woke up brought her phone and it was on plane mood , I removed it from plane mood and a text msg came in from some guy .
I went to her WhatsApp to check the guy out and behold , she blocked the number on WhatsApp.
I unblocked the number and sent him message first , we started chatting , the guy was saying how he loves her and all that shit and the money he sent her to open up a side business.
I woke her up , confronted her and she said she did it for me since I was wasting time to raise money for her , she had to take it from her class mate , the said yahoo guy .
That she’s sorry not to tell me about it since .
She said I should allow her answer the guys calls so that she can get more money from the guy. I agreed and gave her the go ahead but she promised that she won’t allow any man see her unclothedness aside me her husband to be.
My mind has been heating up , why she lied to me and hid something of this nature to me .
The other mind is telling me to impregnate her then dump her when she’s 6 months pregnant that if I leave her now , the guy might take over and I will be the mugu here .
Guys what do I do , I need to wicked this girl I swear , my mind is boiling
Some one I have done 45% of her dowry is doing this to me . Kai I be mugu Oooooo
I need advise from real niggaz
She really might just be collecting money from the guy. Wrong? Yeah but worth breaking up a serious relationship for? I don’t think so. Unless she has slept with the guy, what are you boiling for? . Para and do the guy thing den amend the relationship
ngkman: Good morning and sorry to disturb you with this but I had a sleepless night and I thought to share this with someone.....who else if not my good brothers and sisters on Nairaland.
About a year ago I moved in to a new compound and discovered one of my neighbors came from the state as me and we easily bonded and became like brothers, our wives not from the same state as us too became close. A few months later, another lady from the same state as us too moved in and became a part of the relationship.
Things became sour when we started noticing what other neighbors had tried to draw our attention to, being that my said brother's wife is a chronic liar and busy body who creates tension between people with her lies.
My wife and I had a fight when she told my wife I said she was the cause of my parents HBP. What I actually said to her husband while she was in the kitchen was " my wife tells my parents about our fights and I don't like it because they are hypertensive".
Among others, if she gives you #100, she tells people it's #10000, if she eats your food, she goes out and says no maggi or this and that. She calls you a miser while she can't ordinarily do more than you.
She had even matchmaked our sister in the compound with another man, the man later told our sister his colleague had brought him to collect his share of the "kpekus" and to eat her money but he can't go through when he realized she was a good woman with a good heart.
Now this said sister went for her introduction with another man last week Saturday without telling them because of his wife and her mouth. He called me as a man and complained to me how he felt bad when he saw others congratulating her while he knew nothing about it.
This man is a good man, very good but his wife is the problem. I don't want to tell him he wasn't informed because of his wife and I don't want to lie to him as a brother.
I faked a call and said we'd talk about it today.
My good brothers and sisters and elders on Nairaland, I need your matured advice. Thanks
Dedicate your time into hustling for cash to pack out of there and find one nice private apartment or even build ur own. stop devoting time wondering whether u should gossip or not
So ur parents supported you for having premarital sex.. Well don't do that to ur future kids.
Dude, it’s really none of your business to tell people how to live their life. As in una kind are just hypocrites, face your own life and let them be if u don’t really have anything to say
backtalkG: this country na cruise.... I hope the countries whose eyes they are spoiling the image of Nigeria are saints with utopian government and perfect society
Ogbeni, time is past for whole those protecting image bs. The image is long gone and dead, let them spoil it patapata. Useless country
Asgard73: South south of Bayelsa, cross river,rivers,akwaibom ... and the east are inseparable....
The south might have reservations about eastern igbos .. but they can never ever follow yoruba and their Edo iteskiri people as south or Niger del
Today grayoso have learnt it hard that Awolowo died trying to divide this people but failed
Let them travelled to bayelsa and do june 12 protest and know if we won’t burn them alive
Are they not protesting in rivers? Mumu. You keep quiet, u nor keep quiet, that one concern you. It’s not like they need you to stand up for yourself, sit inside the mud you are,e nor remove one hair from the people wey dey protest
Neverwill: I met a man here on nairaland that nearly or should I say took advantage of me and made me nearly commit an abomination which I nearly did. I wanted to keep this to my self till he sent me a message this last night again
I would keep this brief and I hope I find closure with this as I have been so sad since Wednesday and I couldn't sleep
I had to create a New moniker to post this because this is shameful
I'm 29 and a very handsome man. I have a young family with a beautiful wife that I don't even think I deserve because she is an Angel and I have 2 beautiful girls that means everything to me.
I lost my Job during the pandemic last year and it has been hard getting another Job and it's even harder watching my kids starve and my beautiful wife cry at night
I know my responsibility as a man and top most is me providing for my girl's and their Mom.
My wife have been shouldering the feeding responsibility at home since March because after i paid my girls school fee in February my account became empty
Even though my wife does everything she has never been rude to me or shown me the normal "Nigerian" women attitude
She has never denied me sex or spoke to me rudely since August of last year. She meets men, richer men that wants a relationship with her but this lovely woman tells me all, she even gives me her phone to chat with them
In all of this I kept on looking for a job because I feel like I'm failing my girls
On Monday I was in a thread here on nairaland and I made a post that I needed a job so badly and I got an email from here and I replied the email and I and the person started talking and he invited me to his office in the island
I was excited, baby was excited and the girl's were excited as well and I got to his office the next day which was on Tuesday and I submitted my CV to him and he went through it and was impressed and we spoke even more and he said something to me 'what can you do to get this job' and I said anything because I need to start providing for my wife and the girl's as I was feeling the pressure from home and he said something again. 'You are very handsome and I would want us to be closer and if you agree to this you would get even more than a job
Then he told me his office would get back to me and he gave me #15k as transportation and while I was heading home he texted me and said if I'm free tomorrow he would like to see me
My mind told me something was off , I knew but I just couldn't imagine or believe something of that nature could happen to me, I replied his text and told him I would be free and he told me he would get back to me and Wednesday morning he sent me a text that we should meet in one of the biggest hotels in lekki
I asked him why an hotel and he said he has an appointment with a client and he would want me to see the client with him so he accesses my ability In convincing a client to partner with us
Then I got to the hotel by 10am and I called him I was there and he invited me to his room and when I got in it seemed odd
There were 2 glass and a bottle of wine and we started talking and we spoke a lot while we drank and I actually felt comfortable around him and we started talking family and he told me his wife and kids are in America
Then when it got to my turn I told him about Nike and my girls and I got very emotional and started shedding some tears because I'm failing my family even tho it's not my fault, even though I look for job everywhere and every day both on jobberman and LinkedIn and Twitter and Facebook
Then he told me how much I want the job and I said so badly and he said what can I do to get the job I said anything and he said what can I do to get a job of #150k per month gosh that broke me and I said anything at all and right there he called his personal assistant to draft an employment letter in my name and add a salary of #150k
We continued talking and he told me how much I had left in my account I told him just 3k because I gave wifey the rest of the money he gave to me to prepare something for the kids
Some few minutes later he brought out a bundle of cash and told me it's mine and the employment letter in his email which he showed me if only he has sex with me
Hmmmm
I was stunned and astonished and didn't no what to do
I needed a job so badly, my kids needed the money so badly, Nikky has carried the family enough and I needed to do something and there was an opportunity
If it was you what would you do?
I have never thought I would be in such a situation in all my life but I asked him if it would be painful and he Said no
I'm so sorry for even considering it
Then he showed me a video of how easy it would be
Hmmmm
May God forgive me
I agreed guys
I agreed I'm so sorry babe
I agreed because I have been so broken and empty emotionally and mentally
He told me to pull of my dress and I did and he did as well and I don't know what he rubbed in my ass , maybe a cream he said for easy penetration
Then he kissed me and I kissed him back and in all of this I was just mute, confused, not knowing what to do
I knew I hated what I was doing but I needed a job for my girl's and wifey
Then he told me to give him a Mouth Gig and immediately I held his penis in my hands I remembered how Nike would always say no to other men And the Love we shared and I came back to my senses
And I respectfully told him I can't and he was angry and DISAPPOINTED as I could tell from his look but he told me to leave and I asked him about the job and he told me he would get back to me
I left and immediately went to the church to pray and when I got home babe asked me about it and I said I didn't get the job and at night she wanted us to make Love but I felt too dirty to do that
yesterday morning she wanted to kiss me I felt too dirty to do that also
My kids noticed I was different and asked what's wrong and I told them daddy was sick
I'm confused, I don't know if I should tell her and I don't know how she would feel or if she would even forgive me
My kid's are on midterm and I should take them out today but no money, I can't remember when last we had a family time together in an eatry
I feel so sad right now
I feel so broken right now
God forgive me
Please let's not take advantage of people in their down moment. I nearly fell for this and would have regretted it forever
The DG NASRA, Dr. Halilu spoke about the current situation of Nigeria’s satellite, he said the satellite should have been replaced 3 years ago about 2018…. But nothing has been done
Just look at the way this man is talking cluelessly. He had to be told about that life span sef, this is an evidence that nobody is actually working in this country’s government, na just wash. Wahala dey o
I am sure you are disappointed all your threats are wishful thinking are coming to nothing. Ndo for you.
You have just seen phase 2 today - directing media houses to get off Twitter and the summoning not the diplomats.
Phase 3 is coming.
Also notice the way the traffic on Twitter has thinned out.
Lol, I swear, na indomie dey your head. See the way you are developing erection over twitter ban, Nigeria and his govt will bow out to pressure las las, power of the people is greater than the people in power, you can take that to your leaders.
Family / Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Dextre(m): 11:41am On Jul 16, 2021 
