Simran94:

I am not in support of that ultimatum sha, it wasn’t necessary.

Back to the matter of the guy and father, what if this was a case of sexual abuse? I have seen this before it’s either step-father sexually abused his stepson or father sexually abused his son.
If this is the case, the girl has every right to know before marrying that guy.

I’m not saying she doesn’t have the right to know. I said she is handling it the wrong way totally

MITCHELL96:




You see ? That's what I'm also saying, when it's something that has to do with BLACKS, they take it personal, He Zouma has cost a lot of damage to himself, family and most importantly the club that pays him

The club has lost some deals with big brands just because of him, he's kind of lucky the club is showing some support to him, if it was some OTHER racial club, I swear, they would have terminated his contract already.

I'm disappointed in him, this is just an animal case, I was asking, what if it was a rape case ?

But that’s it, even a grave thing like rape is not getting this much buzz, contract termination and all. This backlash is racially motivated. I mean he deserves some punishment o since there are laws against such behaviour but it’s almost over exaggerated at this point

Simran94:

And how long is she supposed to sit him down and try to hear him out? She has she has asked him severally and he keeps telling her to forget about it. How would you advise your sister to get married into a home where there are lots of secrets and malice going on without knowing what the problem is?

Why is it difficult for the guy to confide in the woman he wants to marry?

There is problem is families, secretive or not. How she has transcribed this problem to her own problem baffles me. You don’t give ultimatum, who are you to do that? Hin mama sef nor give am ultimatum. Do you know what could make a son not speak with his father for years? Any idea how grave it must be? You are talking shibiri. See ehn, na she know

TeeFriz:
You see ladies and self centrism A mother called you to help intercede and all you could think of is to apply it to yourself and your relationship with your fiance. Do these people think? Even gave him ultimatum Nawa o.

Even if he isn't telling you what transpired between him and his dad, there should be other ways to get answers and know how best to bring peace between them. After all the mom brought the issue with you, why can't you start with her?

You don't even know what the dad did or what could have happened! Nawa o

May we marry knowledgeable wives o

Honestly brother, I’m in awe of how some ladies think. Are we not doomed in this country like this with these types of women flocking around

Jennyclay:
Good afternoon nairalanders and Happy new year to everyone. I promise to be brief.

My fiance and I hv been dating for 2 years. He's doing well for himself, he's humble, he's quick to apologize even when you're at fault. He calls his mom and siblings regularly, but he don't talk to his Dad. If I ask, he would say forget about him

My fiance has been keeping malice with his father for 3 years now. I don't know what transpired between them because he would never tell me. He act like his father doesn't exist.

His mom and I do talk on phone once in a while. Yesterday I called her to wish her happy new year, we spoke well and she prayed for me. Abt 10 mins later she called back, but this time she was crying, She explained how his son has not been talking to his Father, she said this year 2022 would make it 3 years, she said they have called elders and pastors to talk to him but all to no avail. She said It would be her greatest joy if I also help her talk to him since he loves me so much. We were on the phone for over 45min.

Nairalanders, he's coming to seek my hand in marriage by March but I'm scared and here are my reasons. 1) His he pretending to be nice to me 2) what if we have little misunderstanding when we get married will he forgive me or keep malice with me for years

I was so angry at him, I told him that I'm giving him now till month end to reconcile every conflict or dispute he has with his father else I'm calling our relationship a quit, because this character seems to be a redflag to me. He started begging me, he said I don't understand yet he's not telling me anything.

I'm really confused. Please help a sister.

You ladies can make rash decisions sha. You gave him an ultimatum, just imagine nonsense yarns. As his partner, you should sit him down and try to hear him out, talmbout giving ultimatum, God nor allow you use your hand end your relationship, your eye go clear then

waziri4biz:
Hey house I need your views on this matter. When my girlfriend is talking to me or texting me I usually take my time to listen over the phone and ensure she gets the undivided attention then when she notices I'm silent the next thing she starts blowing off on me like I'm pissing her off and she could even go as far as hanging up before getting to know if I was only silent because I was SINCERELY listening.

This time around she hung up and after calling her back to know if she truly hung up I ended the call because I lost it this time....

But share your views anyways

Some of y’all n****. You will be fine ehn, young in love, ur eye go soon clear

pheelhip:
It looks like a spotted hyena but not an hyena
Probably in the same class

Lmao, amazing. If only you knew hyenas are spotted. This is more of a genet

dettolgel:


Shaking your empty head you mean? na joke ooh.

Why you go get strength e don reach where you go use your head you no get power if na to post half thought out ideas you go rush sharp sharp

Sigh!

Beautifulearth:
Please how do I go about this, I just broke up with my girlfriend and my laptop which I lend her to use when hers was faulty and this babe said she’s not returning anything that we have been useful for each other in the relationship. She even threatened to set boys up against me if I dare come to her side for it and I need the laptop cos of my stuffs on it.
Her mother said I shouldn’t involve her that she didn’t give me her daughter, this is a woman I have been good to in the past

Where do y’all meet these foolish girls sef, God save you sha say u nor end for marriage with this one , be like you go forfeit laptop o

teemy:
He can still have kids.

Testicular sperm aspiration (TESA) is a sperm extraction operation where the testes can be injected and the sperm extacted with little discomfort.

Vasectomy (Less than 50k and done in under 30 mins) is just about cutting off the sperm delivery tubing called the Vas Deferens. The body still continues to produce sperm. That can be pulled out when needed.

TESA depending on where it is done can cost around 250k. That way, he can have a baby with whomever he wants and whenever he is ready for it.

https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/treatment-tests-and-therapies/sperm-retrieval-procedures#:~:text=for%20sperm%20harvesting%3A-,Testicular%20sperm%20aspiration%20(TESA),and%20tissue%2Fsperm%20are%20aspirated.

Now, this is something reasonable

dettolgel:


How did you arrive at this conclusion about a random guy on the Internet? Do you now him personally to know that he will surely regret it?

Do you know if he has a genetic disorder that he does not want to pass on? Do you know what actually drives his decision?

Nigerians and jumping to conclusions based on little or no information is like 5 & 6.

SMH, just dey waka dey go abeg. I nor get strength

DownChelsea:
who's this clichè human being?

Gtfoh.. y’all be taking a piss tho. I said what i said, comment yours and move. f*** you talking about.

MufasaLion:


He might not. Well, later in life, he might wish he had kids (maybe a thought of that just flashed through his mind for few minutes) but that doesn't make it a regret.

That’s a regret sir, no need for sugarcoating. 10-20years down the line, he will regret it and that’s fact. But then again, it’s his decision

Ogalanyaidi:
First I want peace in my home and I've been enjoying relative peace in my home.

I've been married for less than a year. I called my wife to discuss how we could keep the house clean and I went on to tell her that she puts things where they shouldn't be. She got upset and called her mum, she was crying while speaking with her mum over the phone.

Her mom called and we both made peace I discovered that she was recording our argument but I chose not to confront her there and then.

A day later, I asked why she was recording me and she lied but I gave her facts and she agreed. She said if I've nothing to fear why am I being upset about it. She said I should record her too cus she observed that when we speak to her mum after an incident I don't say the whole truth.

We both live overseas and she is the only person I've here.

I want peace in my home and I don't like trouble

Chai, this marriage thing dey fear me o

Elianawalker:
There is nothing wrong with waist beads, girls wear it for various reasons and it has nothing to do with diabolism.



If you don't like waist beads why date a girl who loves it... I wear waist beads and my man loves them on me

Nobody ask you about your own, shift

bigpicture001:
...My friend whose dad passed on two months ago and who was so sure he will henceforth become a big boy got the shock of his life when his dad's will was read to them by his father's lawyer...

In the will his dad gave him Nothing which was unusual especially being the eldest son and coming from the Igbo tribe.. his father owns two filling station, a big and very busy half-warehouse store where he sells dangote cement wholesale, three commercial houses , a sign supermarket,3 pieces of land also one SUV and two small cars.

We suspect, it may be connected to his visibly wayward lifestyle, he has twice been sent packing from two different private University in the south east over tuancy and suspected cultism....more shocking is the late father handing over the day to day running of the firm to his oldest daughter "not his wife"

The said girl is just 24 years old but graduated as second best in the dept of economic then..his father even helped her secure a lecturing job 5months before his demise..he stated that his wife will only be an important signitory for transaction worth a million and above.

He added a clause that his son can join the management of the firms and estate only when he graduates from any University with at least a pass and record less than 7police cases before he turns 28..

Even at that he can eventually take over the firm after joining management for minimum 4years...

Abeg oo. is this. Dead man not wicked... Allowing a girl lead the house when her mum is still alive.. although she is older than the guy.. sh is the first child

Allowing a girl? What sort of sob ass write-up is this. Is she less of an intellectual woman? Do you know what the father must have seen in her?

CrazyGranddad:
This woman loves you and she's trying not to be rude to that guy. She's not making any promises or commitments, but she doesn't want to block that guy from sending her money.

Bros, don't allow your woman to be in so much need so as to tell another man she's hungry. It's an indictment on you.

And u gat a brain like this?

Kaleidoscopeman:
We are getting married in 4 months. I don't check her phone except for hotspot or she is showing me something. Just one message popped and I was supposed to click something else but the message.
What's your candid opinion on the screenshot?

That’s the side piece. Lmao, well at least you ain’t the other guy, that one go cry tire in 4months time.

Efe42:
Hello guy's good evening I'm kind off little weird asking such here but I need little advice guy's I meet this girl some year's ago let's say 2 but we're just friends back then, but time flies as there say probably fast - ward to November last year we meet again this time I took her my place of resident we talk alot the following day she came we had s*x.

So she keep coming and before then I've break up with my ex girlfriend she's too proud and she's always like what's trending and I can't take's her shit any more I call for break up but my current girlfriend is very cool and gentle but so attractive.

But now she said she doesn't want sex anymore that' sex is waken her in her spiritual life prayers really hard except if I'm ready to see her parents introduction!!

I've already told her I can't be in a very were sex is unavailable but I still love her Matured minds pls...

Make una dey try proof-read una texts here. Headache here and there

ebukajay184:


https://www.instagram.com/p/CYzHvSYr_nH/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

This is such a f***** up thing to see, a sad reality. How on earth are we suppose to have a good president in this country when we still have dead brain dimwits like this scattered across the nation. We are f*****

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

I think your husband needs a therapy session seriously. All this apology and what not is just going to be what you will have to live with. Addiction to a prostitute? You are not even sacred of what he might go out there and bring home?

edunaragold:
After marriage a lot of people do expect thing to just be fine,they don't know, both couples have,another life challenges ahead of them, while some couples overcame their challenges another couples are planing to break up finally.

Since I discovered I married an Igbo Lady, and after one kid,I later learn were my mistake came from, my only mistake was that I did not set in mind another financial side were my wife would generate incomes, but am working on 3 ways i can generate petty petty income before my salary enters,no perfect marriage, but its how you use endurance to achieved the well beings of the marriage .a lot of times its after marriage that people realized their mistake despite all the marriage plans before the marriage.

When my wife started given me that attitude and excuses of am tired, leave me alone, pls stop, etc when I make advance at her, I tried to find out what is wrong, I called her attention to it politely, she told me that I was irritating her, so I quickly discovered an idle mind is the devils work shop, I tried my best in enrolling her in a catering school, she still continued in refusing me. I would pretend as if am forcing to rap her, but jokingly, she would scream rape!!! Playfully so I would stop.

Sometimes when I come back from work late or spend few times around while in the area, she would think I went to cheat, my wife is somebody that assumes especially when she saw u talking to any woman or greet, she would conclude in her heart that you guys may be dating.

After disturbing me that she wants to relocate to her own state so her business can flourish ,I called her mom to see if they can agree to it which she did, and after much advice from elderly men and woman I later came to my own finally conclusion after doing my + and - because not every advice one takes when seeking for advise ,I gave her some money to go spent time with her mom and what ever she decide she should let me know, I will be sending her some cash every months and the baby till she comes back to her senses.,they are now in the east and I stay in another state alone.

Na who sex help, another 3 ladies are disturbing to come visit me, but I decline them,I no wan cast my beloved marriage but soon i will answer them not now, especially now that am rushing and focusing to complete my house and put some tenant but all works and no play males jack a dull boy.

Now am more relaxed, marriage no b small thing o,its not a do or die affair ,don't kill your self for those you can't pls. A lot of woman change after having kids.

Since my wife left our conversion on phone is even better than when we stayed together. Sometimes you need to give a wife the opportunity to refresh them self as no woman wants to be tied own. Marriages get broken due to lack of refreshment, give your problem wife sense of refreshment, or let them miss you so they can know what they have.

Bruh, f*** you talking about. Your wife found you irritating for 7months and the solution is to send her somewhere, pay attention bruh, I don’t need to ‘tushudesale’

okine4real:
Fathers and Mothers. Pls ohh. Myself and my wife, we trying to have a child this year, and we want a Male child. Male Child or nothing else. In fact i just Pray this time it works because trouble FIT dey.

Now my question is, as anybody in the house every tried the method of making love to you wife on the day of her Ovulation and the sex happens to be a Male child?

I have read to much article and the one that got my attention the most was, IF YOU WANT A MALE CHILD, MAKE LOVE TO YOUR WIFE A DAY TO HER OVULATION DAY OR ON HER EXACT OVULATION DAY. Please whom have tired this method and what is the success rate? I nor get money for IVF, so dont tell me say make i go do am ohh, because i heard its not cheap.

Regards

Abeg help save this marriage.

Oga nothing like that. Who gives you people advices sef, my God!!

Amotolongbo:
Every man to his choice and like!

One man’s meat is another man’s poison

This like is another man’s dislike.

Hasty generalisation.
Woman should look out for what her man likes and stick to her man’s preference

How about what the woman likes. Why una dey live for man. Y’all ain’t serious o, later una go begin fight men unnecessarily, say things I did because of him. Just do what you like

siofra:
I thank God I'm a virgin. Being a virgin rocks. Proud to be a virgin and a child of God

Fine girl, how far? Let’s be having uncasual sex then na

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Jaylynn:


Lol. And I still haven't learned. May God help us all.

Lol,I thought u said you had learned and that’s why you ain’t about love and shii. Truth is you will still fall, it just happens like that. Na make person nor go love wrong person be the koko.

Jaylynn:


Really?

Lmao, small crush here and there, can do no harm. If your friend now acts on the crush, ehn ehn, you fit burst her lips

Jaylynn:


God. Other things. But love? Nah. I don't believe in love.

Don’t give up o. But I get it sha, experience they say is the best teacher.

Jaylynn:


We feel insecure sometimes. I know there was a time I was in a relationship and I thought one of my girls was crushing on my man... cause of the way they chatted and stuff. I swear, I was jealous. It's a past something, tho. Lolz. A past something

Small crush here. Lol

Jaylynn:


And there was one time I told her to break up with him, it caused a big quarrel to the extent she started thinking I was into her man and I wanted him for myself.

But why are your gender so quick to accuse one another of this sef. Any small thing, you want to collect my bf abi. Are we that cheap and easy to collect?