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cococandy:
You been under a rock?

Sixfeetbelle:
Stop replying her. Some people need the 'okay' treatment once they start acting ghetto.

I don't know who offended her but she has been throwing tantrums all over this thread

Heiterkeit:
I know bitter people when I come across them, you are one. A good man can turn bad towards a bad woman who has pretended for long to be good woman and revenge in any way he wants, which maybe the case here. People like you who always try to play smart are the ones who usually end up like the woman in this story. You like to eat your cake and have it, but are quick to cry victim when served.

Heiterkeit:
You are the hilarious one here. Maybe the woman in this story is your type who likes to eat their cake and have it. If you take someone for a fool, it is their right to pay you back in anyway they want, which could possibly be the case here. The woman and man are the ones who know what truly happened between them, so there is no point taking sides in a case like this. Do not take people for f.ool, if you do not want them to treat you the same or worse.

I do not have time for nonsense, so engage your type.

Heiterkeit:
You are a hypocrite, that is it.

purplecoco:
Is it true extroverts are not?

litigator:
I am number 3. Which number are you?

pansophist:
This is a false equivalence. Deceiving a man to father a child who is not his is not the same as a woman giving motherly care to her step child The former is beyond despicable and should not be comparable to the latter. An equal comparison will be a baby daddy and baby father, because it is impossible for a man to deceive a woman that she is the mother of his child
Never happened.

There are men who marry single moms and became good fathers to her kid(s), it's about letting your partner know what they are getting into, not by deceit. So therefore, its left for a woman to determine if she will confer parental care to her step child, especially when the man is showing his fatherly responsibilities.

Romangalactic:
For a wife who chose to remain married to me, doesn't that mean she has accepted to raise the child?
There is no realistic scenario where a husband will bring a lovechild into his house when madam wants none of it. Someone will die.

My earlier point regarding paying for childcare is when the wife decides to leave. I can very well pay for childcare from anyone. Even my own mother or sister or family member can do it free of charge but who is the man that will do this for a woman and still be the one financially responsible for her lovechild?

Romangalactic:
No one is arguing if women contribute financially in marriages or not. Like I said, I am very okay with raising a love child if the financial support on that child from the mother will be at least 90%.

Cold cash does not raise a child you say, but it is very important in raising a child whether you like it or not.
I can very well pay anyone working in childcare to raise my lovechild or even pay (child support) the biological mother of the child to do the raising but who will a wife pay to be financially responsible for her lovechild?

CAPSLOCKED:
WITH THREADS LIKE THIS, HE'S ABOUT TO MAKE THE COSTLY MISTAKE OF RAISING ANOTHER PERSON'S CHILD.
IT'S A DIFFERENT THING TO ADOPT AND RAISE A CHILD, OR MARRY A SINGLE MOM. BUT CONTINUING A MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP WITH A CHILD THAT HAS COME THROUGH INFIDELITY IS MADNESS.

Romangalactic:
Yes you're right, but what is the reason behind it? Dont you think finance has a lot to do with it

Sixfeetbelle:
She should not accept the man or listen to his reasons or any of that crap you wrote up there. He had his reasons for his actions back then and he should reap what he sowed.

There was a thread sometime ago about the wusdom of court marriages. Right there, 95% of the men were strongly against court wedding, citing issues that favored only them just because they didn't want to share their stupid properties with their wife as if marriage was an individual race. This man is among that statistics and should lay on the bed he made. .

cococandy:
Well you already know what to do.
Chances are he will get there and go crazy over light skin girls like he’s never seen a woman in his life before.
Treat people how they treat you.

He probably thought court marriage will give you a leg to stand on legally in case he wants to do you dirty. And he didn’t want to give you that. Turns out he did himself dirty.

Donald3d:
Did you make a mistake, yes.
Is it going to be hard to resolve if you chose to stay in the marriage, yes.
Is it doable, yes.

Without working on his mind, physically and spiritually. You can't fix this situation.

I feel your sermon buttresses the fact that feminism is a child's play. And gender equality shouldn't be found in our society. Now, I hope your peers will still keep mute if a man decides to buy a car for the mother that had him for 9months first , before considering the wife

Evacroft:
Men are fast to hit women because they are not physically as strong as them. But when it comes to dem dudes, they just laugh over it and say men don't hold grudge but meanwhile it cos thats another alpha male and you don't quite know if u can take him.

OP I have also seen where a little reset slap overtime turns to one blind eye/ partial deafness .violence whether from a male or female is absolutely wrong.

We don't have control over what people say or how they treat us, however we do have control over ourselves and how we react towards one another that is what men and women should train their body and mind to adapt to.

Doxadious:
Maybe you didn't read to the end... We are already dating... And I am not willing to leave her.

ibkayee:
Lots of different reasons, here are some common ones

- Guilted/shamed into doing suffer head under the guise of tradition, religion etc
- Conflicting emotions (e.g. stockholm syndrome) etc
- Financial dependency on their husbands/financial insecurity
- Threatened by their partner
- Would rather tolerate someone familiar/a toxic environment than start afresh, especially in a marriage obsessed society and a justice system that has a history of failing them

xrayj:
Strange like your profile pic

Liliantalks:
wow this is amazing ,, with how amazing music is ? Gosh new discoveries everyday . MUSIC IS LIKE MY HIGH

Liliantalks:
Good day my fellow introvert. What’s ur solitude music , mine is “photograph” by Ed sheernan and “Famous” by French Montana

michealdeco:
I don't

But I talk within me throughout the day even when speaking with someone

It's as if there's another person inside of me that I converse with

Xcelinteriors:
Please tell me the things to tell him because I don't know. I really plan to flog that stupid feeling away from him when we get home

MrBrownJay1:
we are still talking about why men and women dont have true equality...

Donald3d:
I would most definitely employ a female engineer, if she has the qualifications.

But I wouldn't hesitate to place her on compulsory leave once its discovered that she is pregnant, or I would move her to the office and keep her away from the field.

I never said female engineers should not be hired.

Have you seen a pregnant woman bending down to carry something before ? She has to bend "with her side"

Now imagine a pregnant woman lifting a bag of cement or a 30-50kg object.

They are some jobs where efficiency can't be gambled with.