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OladimejiRufai:
She lied to you before and she did it again despite that you asked her to come out clean.

Now this is what I observe.

Your fiancee may not be a bad girl or a "liar" in total sense. The fact that she even told you before marriage somehow proves that because she could have kept it from you forever.

But she is the type that will LIE to cover up mistakes from you or anyone and save herself from shame. This is the kind of person she is perceived to be.

So the question is are you ready to live with such a person?

It could happen that one of your uncles or brothers will visit your home, temptations will set in and they will have sex, she's the type that will hide it from you.

As she goes about her daily activities, she might meet a guy and have a fling with her, get pregnant and even give birth and present it as your own to save herself from shame.

It could happen that she hooks up with her ex especially after there's an unsettled misunderstanding with you, something plays after another and they have sex and may even be continually doing that but hide it from you.

I only gave those as examples based on possibility. Your fiancee might not be the prosmicuous type. But it still cannot be ruled out totally.

So you are the one who should ask yourself if you want to live with such a person as couples.

Good luck

What u did was uncalled for. What u did was to hit the last nail in the coffin, sad thing there is that u don't even know the lady in question.
Any person coming to Nairaland for advice on his/her relationship should expect to have such advices from people that don't bare them good fortune.

SalamRushdie:
First and foremost the NJC must remember that this meeting is not about whether Onnoghen is corrupt or not but to find out where Buhari got his imaginary powers from to claim to suspend the Head of the Judiciary and where he got another imaginary power from to dare to replace him without any input from the NJC and the National assembly as enshrined in our constitution.

The out come of this meeting must be to uphold the constitutional status quo and to fix another date to hear the trumped up corruption charges against Justice Onnoghen and to decide the punitive measure for the unbecoming behaviour of Justice Tanko.

Simple!! All other people talking rubbish here should just keep silent

So one man went on family parade and everyone is cool with it

justwise:
The same reason those Chinese and Koreans are not staying in their individual countries to make it but decided to move to Nigeria.

Did you ask them why they are not making it in their own country? Is China not far better than Nigeria?

That phrase "make it", "making it" is our main problem as Nigerians. It makes the idea of cutting corners enticing.
Many Asians that do business in Nigeria have assess to big loans which Nigerians don't get to have. The other Asians who don't get loans come in for illegal runz.
It's a mentality problem.

sunnyt1:
That lady, regardless of her age or for how long she has been married, has shown the world, in a click, that she lacks the mental maturity and emotional inteligence required for a marriage.

she has insulted the husband, her marriage and upbring.

Yep, this is a perfect example why u should post everything in social media

Anduku:
You people should allow them enjoy their marriage in peace, monitoring spirits everywhere

Next time the madam with be very careful and not make compromising statements that could be perceived as it has been. It's her fault and she has no one to blame but herself.

dre11:
Read more at: https://www.vanguardngr.com/2018/12/nobody-can-kill-me-because-im-already-dead-adeboye/

Make person tell am say make in no vex. That thing way dey kill person for gun dem never remove am

GlorifiedTunde:
We operate totally different cultures. The western ways are different from the African.

To me, it's not bad. One spouse brings the bacon home and the other helps make the home.

If only they can avoid the social media, they'll be a fine team.

Childish statement.
Nothing wrong with it as long as it works for the couple.
I know a couple who both do runs in different fields.
The man is into machine parts, cars e.t.c and the wife is into flowers, leather and decorations. Both are into big time business and divide their time between their 3 kids.
When madam is home oga is away but as soon as oga returns madam is off.
Or when oga travels he does his runz and madam own pit together and when he travels she does both hers and his. Ofcos any one that stays home minds the kids. Nothing wrong with that.

Hilarious, the guy na kingkong

Nobodys:
..lol.. you got it all wrong...that's not a person's moniker..

when you deactivate your account, your name becomes nobody...so the nobody that you've been seeing are deactivated accounts...

Ahso! Now that clearer. Thank a lot for the clarification.

Nobodys:
Thanks...and ermm I'm a girl... wonder why you guys call me bro..lol..

Gudnyt dear...

then u must be his alter ego cos d Nobody I know has no 'S' to his moniker

Liliyann:
Its quite unfortunate that most guys have abuse the word "date"!!
Stop taking girls on a date if you don't have the financial capabilities!!!
I see broke men everyday inviting ladies on a date just to impress them and when they order things,you see them coming to cry online!!
You can't invite me on a date and expect me to drink water and meat pie!!
Date is all about having fun!!!
Spending money and lavishing it on a girl!!
Men should stop being cheap!!
No lady was born to suffer!!

Modified: To all the lazy, poor and frustrated souls that are quoting me,my advice to you all is to go and make money and know what it feels like to love and spend on a girl!!

Hilarious from someone like u. Really a joke coming from u.
I just forgot to laugh.
So cos he invites her out to get to know her, he must kill and elephant?
If that's what I meant then continue with the mentality.
Let people who comment after me correct u

Bullshit! His opinion and a false one at that.
Marriage is not by force or for everyone.
A woman must not wait on a man to complete her life.
This life is too short for all that shit.
This Nigerian mentality is why Nigerians never progress forward

PUSSYBBQGRILLS:
Spare the rod and spoil the child.

Proverbs 23:13-14. It says: “Withhold not correction from the child : for if thou beatest him with the rod , he shall not die.

Be very careful what you quote. The child is just 2 years. No how she won't poo on herself.

socialmediaman:
A Buharideen said that it showed Buhari was not corrupt but he would also blame GEJ for the problems in Otueke when GEJ was president. Hypocrisy is on the next level among Nigerian young people.

Lol, the funny thing Sowore didn't do was to go to the president home, road leading to his house. My broda, what he would have seen there would have been wonders.
Who is deceiving who?
This Sowore's trip was a waste if he didn't go there

What movie is this

Nobodys:
Standards?. what standards, babe.....

You've lost hold of reality and dignity and you're talking about standards?...

I see how you go around nairaland, preaching some lame ideology of yours, polluting the mind of young vulnerable girls.... I just hope you practice what you preach, and if you do, then you shouldn't be talking about standards, babe....cause when someone mentions sex and the next thing that pops into the brain of a lady is ' MONEY' then she ain't no woman of standards...

Instead of encouraging girls to get enough money from men before spreading legs, you should encourage girls to struggle and make money for themselves....... SEX and MONEY are two different things for a woman of standards....

** no offense**.

@ Nobody, wise words bro. Didn't know u had such maturity. Will start to take U seriously as from now.
Weldone.

tendingNews:
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lawman88:
Please don't enlarge your bum bum. You are beautiful the way you are. I can never marry a lady who enlarge her bum or breasts

Not true, any health professional that sees that will know it's not from any buttoux enhancement but rather from a cancer

sweetlaw:
chill man, its not that deep

It's u that will say

sweetlaw:
lol




women still rules oooo.


like when they know you are on your way back from work

she will be like ....babe, get me roosted yam from that junction.......that black woman's own ooooo

Now that is acceptable, that one I do all often as madam wants or need it.

What I won't do is the one of cleaning her glasses when we both are chatting and nothing do her hand.
Or going to bedroom to collect her cup to fetch her water when I was in the sitting room and bring it back to her in the bedroom when nothing do her leg or she no sick. Abegi, that's excesses.

Something is wrong with you.

Na ignorance dey do am.
But me won't allow day shit.
U give Ur madam support but don't support her excesses.

SoNature:
Women always feel used and dumped whenever a relationship ends

While the reasonable ones understand that a man has an upper hand in relationships, they respect their husbands, thus they live happily ever after

But for slay queens like Tonto, they can never respect the man in their lives because they feel without them, the man can do nothing.

Now, when the man sees that his wife doesn't respect him, he will quietly seek divorce. In the end, the woman will realize she has made a terrible mistake as she has become a baby mama (fairly used).

On the other hand, the man will keep living his life like a sharp bad guy with many ladies flocking around him.

The essence of my message is, ladies, regardless of what your man does to you (as long as it's not life-threatening), divorce should never be an option.

Not a statement of fact but Ur own perception

kernniejay:
Did you say you don't have to check fluids in modern cars?? You are an accident waiting to happen.

No u don't. If u drive a modern one.
Have never had any problem so far. Not that I don't know where the stuffs are but that's due to the advice of the car companies.
Am sure if u drive a recent car u'd understand.

funmisticqueen:
yh. i would have raised the stakes tho.

There are guys that can match whatever stakes a girl lays as long as she compiles to set rules.
The guy in question could have done more if he wanted. I believe he didn't want to.

funmisticqueen:
i can take that for everything else, but not the freedom to cheat.

That's why not everyone must or can be involved in such agreements.
The clause about not cheating was to prevent just that so it's easy. If u want to cheat then u opt out from the contract.
As far as I am aware not one was forced cos both parties agreed and I was there with a lawyer for both parties concerned

funmisticqueen:
financing someone's life with 200K. Lol, he is poorer than i thought. loyalty is not that cheap.

Lol, d Lady in question isn't complaining so why should u? She smiles every month end when she gets the alert. Has been so for the past 12 months. That's so far 2.4 mil apart from a Honda SUV he gave her and his renting an apartment for her since the deal started.
Really u must be selfish if u want more from such an agreement.