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Memberclub:
You have to marry in Nigeria.

What if they get married in any country in Europe , is the marriage valid? Can he use the marriage certificate to attend interview here in Nigeria? The thing is he doesn't want to stay idle for long here in Nigeria. If he has to come back, he wants to come close to the interview date.

heniford2:
yeah are you in Germany know

I'm not. Someone I know is

heniford2:
How may i help u

I wanted to know if you live in Germany . If yes. What does an undocumented person need to legally get married there?

Please is it possible for an undocumented person living in Germany to travel to the United States through marriage or fiance visa without having to come back to Nigeria? One of them is a US citizen and visits Germany so they can spend time together as the other is without any valid documents. They plan to marry but had no intention of coming back to Nigeria for that at least not now.Both are. Nigerians and from same tribe.

TuFab:
Gbam!
God bless you. Some women are so desperate to be called a Mrs that they would marry even a divorce/separated he-goat without finding out the cause of such separation, especially if he's rich. What they don't know is that if the marriage was that great, no sane woman would leave a great man/marriage carelessly for another woman to take her place. She must tried her best to make it work without success.
So if you go and marry another woman's vomit, all because you claim to be a better woman, be ready for a lifetime of torture, trying to be a better woman than the ex, and that is so exhausting to say it nicely.

No lie detected here. It never ends well. But cut us women some slack, as most are without experience of marital union, they usually believe whatever they were told about their partner's ex and a lot of people know to paint their ex black. It is only when they are in they see the true story. But shame won't let many leave except those that chop lever.

GreaterFuture:
With that tall daughter? 13 years marriage

they had her before the wedding

DKustodian:
Sadly, we have now accepted this not apologizing even when wrong by fathers as the norm. I'll give them the benefit of the doubt by saying they probably didn't know better. They could only do as their fathers before them did and they learned from those ones, breeding a whole generation of maladjusted fathers who felt masculinity was best demonstrated by not admitting when you're wrong and always insisting on being right even dead wrong and always trying to justify and twist the narrative to favour them. This has led to our generation being ok with being in abusive relationships, being overly subservient, lacking assertiveness and being unable to stand up for what is right. Some of us even repeat the same pattern of never apologizing when we offend people. That's why we have a maladjusted society that looks to God to solve problems that they can even when they have the tools to solve those problems personally. After all, it's never their fault but someone else's. Believe me, all join.

Thank you so much for this piece. I'm a parent but I learnt from my parent's mistake on how this lackadaisical attitude of never admitting wrong or justifying all kinds of toxic behavior especially to our kids have many negative effects on the kids in the future. Many kids learnt lack of integrity, manipulations and not taking responsibility from their parents. I cautioned my mom about the the two face attitude of parents or saying one thing and practicing another. I told her kids just don't really learn what you say most time but what you do too.And she was opening teeth there. My 6 years daughter has one time or order called me out for using words I told her are bad, I learnt from my past and apologized never to use those words again and tole her they are still bad words. The other day, I she was hurt by my reaction and told me point blank I could say sorry, which I did. I still discipline her oh, even hit her gently and and usually apologize for hitting her and also promise never to and I try to never do that but gently talk and explain to her why certain things are not acceptable which has been working. I can make strong face and tell her I'm not happy with her conduct. Anyways, qe are learning communication at work and I'm trying to practice that at home too.

charles2468:
There's one in enugu, Alliance francais, Google to get more information

Thank you so much.

Doea anyone know foreign language school in South East, preferably asaba,Onitsha or Enugu.
Thank you.

Jeromenana:
Guys please how do I get an earlier appointment date for B1/B2 Us visit visa. The dates I am seeing from my end are in august 2023 and I am trying to get March or April 2022.

please, can you show me how to book us visa appointment by myself.Thanks

dahmie2013:
Nigerians don't value what they have. 28,000 naira to cut hair

hahaha, una never see suffer for here. I used my $150 do hair and I no even carry am reach one month as the hair no fine. I'm still so annoyed. Anyways from now to this time next year, I will be braiding my own hair until I recover that loss

Bonesbreaker:
Cousin sister kia she can greet oh i hate that stuff one day i caution her about it i think she has stop it is been long i spoke to her kia leh me call self

me will just leave you and continue to our destination, you can catch up later. Next time, no be person go tell you say wave to people with mouthed hello and face your business of the day. I ain't got time for nonsense.

Omorotionmwann:
It has been 12years now since my dad has been down with Stroke which has affected his speech,his right hand and leg and some 4years ago,he couldn't walk anymore but had to be carried to sleep,sit and all physical metabolism is done where he is,even after I and my mum have spent and still spends a lot on physiotherapy,speech therapy,brain checkups at Mecure oshodi,routine and forthnight high blood pressure checkups with expensive drugs and still no changes but it gets worse,all done going around in taxi as I have no car.....

I was 18 and in 200level in a federal uni with him and my mum my only support system when all of this started,couldn't concentrate and focus on school work anymore as I am the firstborn of a 7 boys family and my attention was always needed.....Mum told me I need to drop out that she can't afford all of this alone but I was strong hearted and determined to graduate with a B.Eng...

I had issues with my lecturers as my attendance were poor and my course adviser said it to my face that I would never graduate but I never told them about my travails or they wouldn't even believe me anyways cos they were mostly SADIST,All Engineering lecturers in Uniben especially Mechanical/PRODUCTION ENGINEERING from 08/09 upward,OGUN KILL ALL OF UNA!!! Life was tough for me and my Mum....

Now that I am a Man and supposed to be focus on my life future and raising a family but this is still taking a toll on me emotionally,financially,mentally and I will come home to my mum nagging,crying that she has tried enough over the years and i might come home one day and she has left ....THIS BREAKS ME,I AM TIRED,I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO....I LOVE MY DAD,HE IS IN PAINS TOO!!!

IF I COULD SEE THE FUTURE BACK THEN WHEN IT STARTED,I WOULD HAVE ASKED THE DOCTORS FOR MERCY DEATH,DO NIGERIAN DOCTORS OR HOSPITALS GIVE OUT MERCY DEATH TO PATIENTS?

NAIRALANDERS,I AM DEPRESSED AND I NEED YOUR ADVICE

sorry for the long post. Mods please help this thread to front page for more advice

Op, what you're thinking is not out of place. However, it is not ever country that approves euthanasia. And your father's case don't sound to me like one. The thing is that Dr in Nigeria can be greedy and hardly says the truth. They will keep milking you until your are dry. I work in the hospital and terminal illness unit. Once Dr's has decided that your case is hopeless, they will talk to the family and the patients too if he is still in a position to make decision. Hospital make sure patients have living will i.e who they want making decisions for them when they are no longer able to. Anyways, the family decision makers usually agree to take the patient off any medical treatment and place him on comfort care. That means, if he is in pains, he gets meds to help him bear the pain but nothing to cure the source of pain as that is incurable. Henis also placed on dnr/dni. It means if he is dying, that means you don't do anything to resuscitate him if he is not breathing. You let him go.i have seen a patients taken off high flow oxygen with all the family around. Yes he is very alert,talks and eat but he can survive a minute without the high flow oxygen. And that would have been indefinite stay in Hospital and bed. Yes I talked to him when he was transferred to us and he told me the family is coming the next day cos he will be taken off oxygen.he watched my face and told me he is ready to go. So, talk to the Dr's. If there is no chance of recovery which it seems ,then let him be placed on comfort care. Take care of him but no treatment or any form of test. Let him go naturally. Just bath and feed him at home. Make his room comfortable and find a nurse ro teach your mom on how to take care of him so she don't break her back. Don't mind those calling God and invoking curse. It is ignorance.

nairalandankrah:
https://www.thisdaylive.com/index.php/2021/10/02/boko-haram-takes-over-500-communities-in-8-wards-of-shiroro-lga/

Chai, my beautiful shiroro,Nepa quarters with constant power. The only place I enjoyed 24 hours uninterrupted power year in,year out.

iamyemiakins:
The idiotic tiger owners turned a wild animal to a domestic animal in a very delicate zone with kids around.

I hope all the people around there have shotguns tho, if I was staying around there any little trespassing from the tigers will get them gunned down asap.

A million likes. Just mount cctv and watch him, even peeping into the school is a threat to the kids and should earn him a bullet through the skull, it's all self defense.

FalseProphet1:
This is human report, with fervent prayers you can still get pregnant even at 80.

This I have seen.

I don't know what to believe anymore. A 49 years old friend just called me that she is 4months pregnant and she is frantic. She confessed to me that she will be 50 in 3 months time although she doesn't look it.I sha referred her to planned parenthood cos this one pass me. I was more curious how that happened at her age without any reproductiive assistant. She has finished having kids although a little bush and ignorant as recent African immigrant. Her first is about 20 sef .On the other hand an early thirties friend of mine just called for some fertility vitamins I said I would recommend to her.she has been trying for few years now and nothing. She already has a child some years back. None of the two ladies feel lucky oh, both know each other but don't know their opposite problems . The way things works in this life sometimes confuses the hell outa me. Anyways sha. I'm praying for my early thirties friend. May God convert the other ladies unwanted joy to her own. I have been planning her baby shower in my head for sometimes now. I like that kind of party. I'm also waiting for my twins, preferably boys twins lol. �. God na prayers be this oh.

frozen70:
For his mother to be dragging with her son, it means that both of them are not getting along and have never gotten along all the while, even when his dad was alive

For his own interest and safety
Let him forget about that particular house and look for space to build his own house

The mother can use his siblings to fight him because of that house

His mother can maim him because of that house

The whole family can be against him because of that house

At the end, he will finish the house but may not be alive to leave there

what interests and safety?
The house belongs to his mother first.
As the first son, he can inherit after his mother dies. You can't eject your mother from her to go live in rented house. As for those shouting south east, I have seen this first hand in a case of step mother. I wish it is the woman that is asking for this advice. All she has to do is lodge a case at the customary court and this son that is behaving like a bastard will be taught some sense

NwaAmaikpe:




Burger, pizza, strawberry is not good for these girls' DNA.

17year old girl in Ezzamgbo will look like a scarecrow but a 12year old in Glasgow looks like a fattened ripe bride.

Having been raised in Nigeria, it takes the grace of God not to fall into the trap of statutory rape in the Western world.

Then you should always ask how old are you? It's not a crime to ask. It was a constant question then when I was in year 1 and 2 in the university and it was in Nigeria. Even when they render us help,give us lift,they still asked that questions and almost all then have screamed and laughed that these ones are babies and sworn off us. We don't even know why they keep asking but I do understand now.All I can tell you is that there are still men in Nigeria who knows and try to do the right thing always.

Nk

Godada:


Seriously, you should channel this energy into a business to avoid stories that touch. How can you be invested in a girl that's not invested in you? That's a surefire way to heartbreak.

Better ditch that girl and find something to do with your spare time.

gbamest

Oracleforce:
Two wrongs cannot make a right....let him do what he wants to do openly as he has started selling their property and removing her cord from his neck....with time, the wife will know where he is going or she changes her behavior...

And if she changes her behaviour, let the guy watch are discretely for years and even tempt her for years before she can trust her again...

for me, going forward, let them share the household bills accordingly. Like maybe 50:30 or something. Let everyone do their own investment separately .

Ghjj I k

ikllbrokehoes:
I fear who know fear all these vagina people

I'm sure she learnt from her dickhead boyfriend. Them dick head has been doing that shit since time immemorial

RisenPhoenix1:
At this rate, how likely is it that chicken and fish will stay at the current prices?

And by the way, how many of the online farmers and warriors know that poultry feed is made from corn, groundnut cake and soya bean cake; all from the North? Of course, we could technically import poultry feed, but we should get ready to buy 1kg of chicken at N10-15,000 when that happens. And think what would happen when scarce foreign exchange is used up to import animal as well as human feed.

So much for alternatives.

let the price arise, more farmers will emerge in a short while in the south and the price will later adjust

Monogamy:
Good

No food for lazy man. Let's see if Southern region are lazy to find means for new suppliers for food which I doubt

By the time Northerners would have change of mind, southerners must have arranged an alternative while the empowerment of mechanized farming will be going

Let's see who go laugh last

Igbo traders and yoruba market women ,oya find alternative.

Optional09:
Finally there will be peace. oh what a relief.

Let’s go back to our farms with our AKs incase if any stray cows.

Bombo scratch

1000 likes. We should go back to our farm. My grandfather never bought yam, cassava and vegetables from market for his large family. If we can farm cucumber and Mellon, why not tomatoes and onions. It's time for our agricultural schools to justify their existence

chatinent:
The wife's hands look like legs.

since you like noticing irrelevant things, you should have noticed she was holding a tiny purse in that hand hence spreading the fingers to accommodate it

Yuceeluv:
119 rooms.

For who and who?

state guests. Her official quarter is under renovation

Barbsamiin:
Beautiful.
Ladies looks beautiful without make-up, than applying those scary things leading them to turn like horrors.

haha, you no lie, the reason I ditched the nonsense

thebosstrevor1:
So you mean kids of 20 years can follow through with goals, who are we to blame for this, if not the parents.

The legal age is 18 meaning, you are responsible for yourself ,so i still don't understand how a 20 year old kid is not responsible adult

forget what the legal age says. Alot of people above legal age , even adults still needs encouragement and motivations to even start off on their goals and finish them. Kids have penchant to ignoring or forgetting to do anything they don't term fun or that is not in their immediate interest. It does make them bad, they are just acting their age. And you don't teach kids by bringing up what you did for them as the reason why they should obey you. Have good communication rapport with your child. If the father has called his son and talked to him about taking up some responsibility around the house, tell him you are delegating washing the family car to them every morning. The kids I know will be like, dad 7am is too early and every day is too much nah. Now, they already know this is their assigned duty but can negotiate on timing and frequency. Even personal goals are continually adjusted to surmount obstacles that leads to abandonment of goals . Communication is good if parties involved are not rigid african with you must do as I said mentality. I mean those that believe that their word is law. And kids don't have feelings and shouldn't have voice either.

thebosstrevor1:
So how will the boys learn responsibility and accountability if you don't allow them to do chores like washing the car

Teaching kids responsibility and accountability is not a day job, and you don't pile it up at once. You give it to them little by little cos kids even 20 years old don't have the discipline to follow through on even a goal they themselves want not to talk of the one imposed on them.What I see in this case is lack of communication and inflexibility.If the boys are having problems as a teenager doing what their father wants them to do and could not voice out their reason. The mother could talk to their father to adjust the car washing time and maybe reduce the frequency. Then it won't turn to outright refusal to their father. The boys are not trained dogs that must obey wether they like it or not. Out of love like caring for our kids or parents comes the heart not from obligation. There is no way these boys would not be responsible enough to honor their father by washing his car and being helpful to him in other ways. But for those of you shouting, I paid school fees, I fed you why dare you disobey me. You don't even care the emotional state of the person at that time but you demand obedience as payment for whatever good you did for them earlier. It is not too late to change oh. Discard that aftican mentality. Have kids and enjoy them, don't have kids because you are looking for future servants. When you are old, they will care for you and enjoy it and not see you as a burden they are forced to carry because this person paid school fees. I wonder how you will feel if they remind you that they only reason they are still taking care of you is because you paid school fees not because they love you and enjoy having you around and doing things with you. No wonder some kids just provide house and foods for their old parents. Lock them at home with help and food , no socializing with them, no play with grands kids. Just them staring into space till they die of loneliness

Serene123:
I have gone as far as secretly getting access to her WhatsApp. I didn't see any single chat with her and the guy nor another person. But the calls just keep pisisng me off.

I realised I shouldn't have gone that far. I should have just be calmed and let her do her wish

why should you let her do her wish. Couldn't she have reduced the calls for your sake or tell the guys that you don't like him calling so much if they are just friends. Two is company three crowd. She has already brought in a third in the relationship in the name of just friends. You better don't start what you cannot finish. If you didn't walk out now, you might end up walking out in the future after the wedding. Believe me, you can't take the disrespect. Talking out of experience