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RoyalRoy:
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He maam, espere que la vie nous traiter vous bon ?

Nous souhaitons u un jour tres positif !
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cococandy:
I'm searching for baby girl names.
Just in case it's a girl.

TheMadame:
I find this piece utterly confusing. The author has been married for 45 years to one woman and has just discovered it is not natural. He has just discovered polygamy is better than monogamy,so men and hopefully women too should/will be allowed to go into multiple relationships. Or does it apply to men alone?

Chillis:
What you talking about?

Chillis:
Thanks babe

I wanted to do oil deep fried akara this morning, and oil deep fried ayamese stew for lunch .

My exercise has reduced a lot as I changed work act. By 2 weeks time I will be back on schedule. I haven't done my cycling for almost 2months now. I can't wait.

Only jogging maybe once a week, weight lift ..10- 20mins. Very sad.
I haven't done also my smoothie or juicing.

I still dey for bed. With the heavy rain. No exercise for me today

moca:
He was a very cute boy. Few saw his picture when I posted it.
Started convulsing and breathing hard this nite around 2.
We rushed him to the hospital with d help of our nurse nebor.
But lost him around 4:30.
May d soul of my baby rest in perfect peace,Amen.
He has been buried.
I just needed lots of avenue to offload.
Life keep on flogging me.

Bellong, u still want me to believe in God cos we prayed and prayed.
But I lost him.
Just like that in less than 3 hrs.

cococandy:
Can you speak isoko language?

Chillis:
Someone has been screaming okra okra .
So I took the pain 1hr drive to my okra shop.
Bought a supply that will last until December .

Okra loading...
Will revive my healthy eating as I'm really lacking again .

The struggle is real as I saw some african women in their 50tys struggling to walk. I ain't going down that part. Even if it means trying to take pic of my meal before eating I go do am.

Anyway wait for my okra. My version and kids versions.

No fish and pepper in theirs make I no call ambulance.


But Na tomorrow I go cook am sha. I will only soak the stockfish today..

Damiso, sorry about the other day. Pls forgive me.
Come and paste your quinoa . I never tried that and I bought a box of it. How would I enjoy it. Can I eat it like rice?

Efemenaxy pls don't let too much work stop our plan. I need motivation abeg. Those your colourful meals.
Edwife
Kimoni
Cococandy
Naijababe


Help. Before they kill me with junk food here.

Chillis:
So 20 frozen is 4k.
One snail is 200naira.

See money Na.

Snails we used to catch in our estate those days .

One 200naira
Is that not enough for 3 scombia or shinny fish

moca:
Cococandy, u know what I did?
Used big pot to cook corn.
Then store away.
If I want to eat, take out some,add little water and microwave.

Now I hv small catarrh,thanks to corn

That place is not dark but I hv stopped.
D ruffians living yonder has made it their mandatory job to always come out and watch me exercise. So I don't feel safe anymore.

Heard they wanna put police post there. Till then.

moca:
Can u imagine this sisi
She did not say we can split the money e kwa, chei,isorait.
Moca has suffered.

But moca has a good heart so I will give u.
Use the numbers that represents alphabets MOCA and EF. There u go hon!
Goodluck

Rapmoney:
Are u sure? No be for mouth o! If u are, then that's nice

moca:
Her club was beaten today and I told her I wish they will not win in d morning.
Now I feel bad so I gat to say sorry to her.

Avalon316:
just why did you choose to set up sirshymexx? why feed him to sagamite to chew?

sirshymexx, you aren't smart. You were called out to say something you know nothing about and you f000lishly raced to the thread to display your ghetto vocab.

Now,I need to finish you off. where do we meet?

Rapmoney:
Whenever the term 'being a man' is mentioned, especially in the societal sense, some folks erroneously think it entails having a bold or bass voice, big manhood and surplus beards like that of Rick Ross!!! . Far from it!!! There are so many guys who, societal-wise, can hardly be referred to as 'men' due to certain characteristics or traits that surround their lives!!!

Becoming a man is a different issue entirely. It entails that a male folk should be in a certain stage of his life where he would be a able to take important decisions in his life and have total control of his life too!

5 Signs To Show You Are Becoming A Man:

1) Paying Bills: When you start paying bills such as house rent, light bill, cable or decoder fees, security levy, refuse disposal fee, etc, you should know you are becoming a man. It means you have started taking charge of your financial responsibilities! You now have the capacity to determine what and how you should or should not buy...again, it is not by big manhood or empty swagg!!!

2) Decision Making: When you cannot take charge of your life or make decisions that affect your life, you are not a man yet. You are still a boy. If others, such as relatives and friends still control your life and influence your decisions, you are very far from becoming a man. It doesn't have anything to do with your age here . If you like, make your bia-bia long pass Third Mainland Bridge sef! . A man takes major decisions that shape his life. He must not wait for people to come do that for him.

3) Independence: This does not just mean being free to galivant, drink, smoke and chase big buttocks!!! No! It means being able to cater for most, if not all your needs. Though, seek help from friends and family members sometimes, but it doesn't mean we should depend on them for virtually everything! I know grown folks who still collect cash for clothes, shoes and haircut from their parents and they are above 30!!! After u go come public dey come make mouth! U dor pay light bill before? Or even refuse disposal fee?
When you start becoming independent, you are becoming a real man.

4) Being Able To Cater For A Woman: I know some dudes would want my head on a platter of gold for this one but it is the bitter truth! Any guys who is not capable of catering for a woman, not just financially but emotionally and spiritually too, such guy has not attained the level. Catering for a woman doesn't entails feeding and clothing her, buying all and all for her, but there are certain things a man should initiate and handle in a home Some guys go about chasing girls in an indiscriminate, annoying and shameful manner instead of concerning themselves with how to make money! If she get belle now, u nor go fit even buy baby food...u go run go hide for Ogbomosho . When you are able to support the responsibilities that come with a woman, you are becoming a man

5) Discipline: When you start applying discipline in your life, you are turning a man. If you can spend your entire salary on prostitutes and buying drinks for fair-weather friends, you are yet to be a man. Again, nor be by big voice, big manhood or long bia-bia!

Happy Sunday...

moca:
Edwife,sorry u hear.

I did not mean that thing wey I say.

BABE3:
...that is the question.

In this day and age, they say a smartphone says a lot about a person than words of mouth. So in a relationship(any kind of relationship), is going through your partner's phone/laptop advisable ?

•Some say "Snoop!".
Snooping has saved a lot of people from STDs. Snooping has made some so called main chics realized they were side chics. Snooping has even prompted a father somewhere to know that he is not the father of his 2 kids.

•Some say "Don't snoop, you have to trust him/her".
However, the trust you have in someone has no bearing on what the person will do or will not do. Trusting is a personal decision just like "faith", it has no impact on the truth.


So, what say ye ?

moca:
Heheheheee,salsera,i will beat u o! Had no choice than to applaud the writer. He should be a columnist somewhere.
Honestly, can't remember when last I read something this good here.

@Efe, that why I love u, u went to church unlike edwife that was waiting for futball.
Pray her team don't win

salsera:
Hehe

Even moca's usual style of writing changed after reading Sagamite's post.



I like Sagamite's perspective. I have only lived in the West as a child and as an adult for educational purposes so I don't think I could contribute to the topic as such.

My childhood experiences are probably coloured by naivety so I don't think they count. As much as I went to both catholic school and a private school and I was only one out 3 black children I didn't 'get' what racism was.

@Efemenaxy

Lol there was this post of Saga's on Empire series that I read. Talk about pouring cold water on a fire, I still finished the series but Na side eye I give all the plots.

bellong:
^^^^ There are two little black birds sitting on a wall. One named Peter, the other named Paul....

cococandy:
Damiso and 2catwoman. You're right about the Asian communities. Even here, they run the show on black beauty products. And boy do they know the market.
You'd think something we use so much would be on our list of things to invest in.

One more thing they've started doing is African food. On a few occasions my African store didn't have everything I wanted but sure enough, Asian food stores have them. Those people have ijebu/upper iweka blood in them.

I think what helps them is that their identity is still intact and they take great pride in being who they are. There's hardly any major town or city you go to without it having an Asian sector that's just Asian. From buildings to language and everything. Just like stepping into the real deal.

Blacks despite our population don't have anything like that. There's like no pride in our culture. Maybe slavery is really to blame for that. Or maybe we don't really have any honorable cultural practices worth preserving.

Sagamite:
If you do well or if you do exceptionally?

To my knowledge, it is very rare to see people jump the Associate grade.

It just wouldn't make financial sense to the executive team. Worse still when they will be glad to have the job in the first place.

At worst, if people are good, they just spend less time at the Associate grade before moving up.

My understanding is that the norm is people spend 3 years at each grade. So getting to VP/Director should take about 8/9 years.

The fact he was a back office staff to start with, also makes it strange he did it in 5 years.

He must have been good and connected.

Sagamite:
That is fantastic.

An intelligent person is an intelligent person.

The ones that don't go to top unis still have a good chance to do well.

A top uni just gives you a head start and a gloss. To finish the race is different.

Be proud of what comes out of your mouth more than what university you attended.

Sagamite:
The stats I gave was a mix of Black African and Black other. I only added them up because I could not get data that separates percentages of Black British overall population.

The hard copy data I have differentiates. Trust me, Black African had 90% of all those percentages. Which mainly means Nigerian and Ghanaian.

We carry the black race in the UK.

SirShymexx:
Institutionalised racism in the UK is conspicuous and the ceiling might actually be the worst and most stringent in the world. If what's attainable in the US, which happens to be the standard, is used as a premise to measure it. When juxtaposition the country - relatively, the US might be a tad better cos you have more CEOs, millionaires, top executives, top academics etc.. And that has to do with the fact that the blacks over there have more sense of entitlement due to the history of the country, Affirmative Action, and their population being massive compared to blacks in the UK. However, everyday race baiting is more pronounced there due to the same factors - coupled with deeply segregated the country is. For example: there are so many cities/towns in America where the population is at least 80% black...you'll never find such in the UK (Lewisham borough has the highest population of blacks in the UK and I doubt we're even up to 30% of the population). The gift and the curse.

The reason why the ceiling in the UK might actually be the toughest to crack in the world is because it has three layers: tribalism, class problem, and institutionalised racism. With tribalism - you see that everyday in English vs. Scottish vs. Welsh vs. Irish vs. other Europeans - and this also affects black people. Ditto class problem between the aristocratic and OxBridge class vs. commoners, and blacks aren't also left out of this equation. Then you have the third layer which is the race factor. So you have three factors working against you as a black person, hence it's very difficult. You don't even need to look further than Prime Time TV to understand what's going on. Also, when you considered the fact the it's actually easier for an international student from Africa to get into OxBridge than a black student from the UK (check this: http://www.theguardian.com/education/2010/dec/06/oxford-colleges-no-black-students ) you will see why it's basically a vicious cycle. And once you get into corporate UK environment - you can't miss it cos it's so obvious and everyday at work is basically like walking on eggshells and your motto will always be: just don't get fired (insert Jacoby's voice here lol). Take a look at the FTSE 100 on the LSE: how many black CEOs and top executives are represented there? You can take a walk though the City of London and Canary Wharf during rush/work hours and that right there should tell you all you need to know.

Additionally, I think it will be difficult for new immigrants from Africa to demystify cos the UK has perfected the art of creating a bubble and most are contented with just leading a better life that what they had where they came from. Once they have a mortgage or council flat to rest their heads, a car to drive, and can feed themselves and family members - life's great. However, once they start aiming higher - it's right there in their faces. Conversely, someone who has lived through the system, as a black person, will always have a perfect understanding of what's going on cos of the sense of entitlement that comes with that space. I guess that's why there's a communication gap between the two groups and why certain folks will always tag those who speak about the obvious as race-baiters or using race as an excuse.

That said, it's their ancestral country regardless of the sins of the past. It's 2015 and I think we as black people should endeavour to start looking inwards and start creating our own. I believe we only thrive on being appendages to others (we let others build and look for ways to tag along) and this unique problem isn't a black diaspora thing, it's a universal black problem and it's also what's plaguing the African continent. We've the gift to do it, we're just too mentally/intellectually lazy to do anything on our own and we'd rather copy and paste from others, than build something that's uniquely ours. Hence we're only allowed to thrive at the bottom of the totem pole of everything. Just take a look at what the Asians are doing with communal economics, and you'd have no other choice than to envy them. And that's also the reason why they have it better.

P.S: Sis Efemena, I had to veer off topic a bit cos I wanted to post everything in one reply. I don't like getting involved in group threads like this one cos of all the infantile drama on this forum - but I had to answer ya bird-call.

I'm out.