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I don't get it.

Where were they making out from across the bar on the street? In an open space? Or they just forgot to draw the curtains in their room?

Silly couple.

ASORUCK:
True Love.

Two weeks to their marriage Kuma was disfigured by fire accident. Despite the fact that Kuma has been disfigured by fire accident: Turai said she will still marry Kuma. What a perfect Love.


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BoboYekini:
@post, I like home cooked meals but I also like my woman to always turn up in well done manicures.Always.
So I insist on doing the cooking.

***faints!***

Olusharp:
if you didn't others did .. and oga i nor dey drag madam with you na,e be like say u nor just like me ...

It's nothing personal.

Stories that touch.

@Ifyalways, calm down na, lol! Just to go with the flow, what if that apartment was rented for just a couple of months? So it won't be hers to sublet. But she can raise some cash for her unborn child by selling off the "gifts" she greedily collected from her married lover.

sneak3:
That the guy cook before now doesn't require the wife o relegate him to the constant cook at home. Stuff like dis need understanding btw d parties involved.

The wife shld show the cooking will even wen its not convenient by so doing the hubby wil not see it a big deal helping web Eva he's dispose to.

So why then did he bother learning how to cook in the first place? If he believed that cooking is 100% the woman's prerogative??

reminiscing:
Its lame arguing with you.

Why do you see this as an argument? Aren't you adult enough to see through your line of thinking? Or do you just regurgitate information without fully understanding it?

My questions are simple enough. You were quick to state what a woman's role MUST be as soon as she gets married, but you suddenly go coy when I ask you to be more specific on what YOU think the man's role MUST be in equal measure?

C'mon, you can do better than that.

reminiscing:
The duty of d man is to provide for the family and from time to time,help out in d kitchen wen he is chanced.

Provide what, exactly?

And what sort of "from time-to-time" help are you talking about?

reminiscing:
What are you saying?As a woman,cooking is your responsibility. The day you signed that marriage register,you indirectly made a vow to be his mother.One who will love,care and take care of him.Am very sure u know a mother will never starve her son.

This is so skewered.

Pls could you tell us what the man's responsibility is then? Does he automatically become her father too, as soon as he signs the dotted lines?

babygirlfl:
Even a woman who already built her house before getting married will be sent back to her fathers house . Even the men who are living in the woman's house will also send her to her fathers house . The woman who met her husband and they got married abroad will still be sent back to her fathers house in Nigeria . The one sharing rent with the woman will send her to her fathers house . Very funny people.

***Screams wiff lafter!!!***

cococandy:
Mtchew

The best response so far.

+ 1000 Likes!!

Tobiegal:
I have a good support system around me. Initially, my boy used was in a creche close to the office, so we bonded in transit... Then comes the second boy, and it's kind different cos the 1st has started school close to grannies... So logically, they are both dropped off there... While I pick them back on mu way from the office in the evening.
And most importantly, put them to bed by myself... That's like the best time of my entire day...
For domestic.... I have pips that comes to clean over the weekend... Don't have a maid.

For cooking...hubby and I aren't big eaters... So, I don't make dinner usually... However, most of the cooking and family eating together is done over the weekend.

For laundry... Simply got a washing machine...and the rest is history...

However, the bottom-line is that I have a very understanding and supportive hubby... So, I don't feel so stressed out...

Nice one!

And you captured it perfectly. Having an understanding partner. Not some pre-historic brute demanding you physically make pounded yam and fresh Egusi soup for him every evening, insisting you go down on all fours while serving him. Or him refusing to dish out his food himself, even though it's been served right in front of him.

Babaneh:
It will not work fine. Truth be told...

The best thing is to talk it over with the lady then set up a personal venture for her.. Or else, can't just imagine the disaster...

And why do you automatically assume she should be the one to give up her job? What if she's the higher earner of the two??

Open up a personal venture for her you say. Doing what? Selling Agege bread from a kiosk? How insulting. Is that what she went to school for? To end up becoming / doing a "personal venture or something else"?

softapples:
who is going to take care of the kids, cooking and lack of quality time together.

The man. Or is that a problem?

What a scam!

A person who wishes to play the field will do so, irrespective of whether the ring sits on the finger or not.

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
The guy = Jim iyke
The girl = Ini Edo
Click like if you watched the movie too

Lol! Seriously? I'm interested. Pls what's the title of the movie?

cc: Edwife & Cococandy, pls come 'n verify this for me oh!

cococandy:
No you're not.

Men being born to cheat and their wives putting up with bullshyt, grinding n bearing and following the steps in all these orisirisi lists to win back someone who has no respect for them is more non-feminist ideology than feminist.

It is more feminist to believe that not all men are bad hence no need to die in a relationship where your respect as a person is non existent whereas you can get such from some other good man elsewhere.

Well said Coco.

HyDee001:
Then we would need another thread titled: Men, It's time to get your woman back

Now this, I would like to see.

Oh pls! Let's be honest with ourselves and stop the pretense.

It is hard coping with the social stigma of having one child with albinism, but four?? C'mon. I know it's a terrible thing to say but how many of you folks really felt comfortable looking at them? i.e. the pictures? So I quite understand how the father felt - mind you, I don't condon what he did - he was wrong, but let's give some allowance for his lack of knowledge / illiteracy.

Having said that, no one is born perfect. You've just got to work with what you've got and make the best of it. For example a google search of Top Albino Models would yeild amazing results. Just goes to show that anything is possible.

That aside, folks really need to practice birth control. The woman's done herself no favours having so many kids - she's resorting to begging.

Olusharp:
thanks sir for the criticism i am happy someone did and at least you gained somethings ,i am not a parent yet but i own this write up and you can't find it anywhere on net except through me ... once again thanks for reading!

I said it's an interesting writeup but I DIDN'T gain or learn anything from it. And yes, it's quite obvious you aren't a parent. Yet.

armyofone:
throw way some down my way, ask suppliers to pon dem soma my way.

one puff heaven gate rain down some money to feed jah's children.

OMG!!!

Olusharp:
What Parents are facing during this season
Last Night,while i was on my bed thinking of how the day had gone , I was about saying my prayers when i heard a silent knock on my door,i was sure it couldn't be madam because she would barge in being the mother of house, "Come in " i said as i roll over on the bed, two little heads appeared, my pulse increased on seeing them because any time they come in this manner something was at at stake, "My Angels come in,you want to see daddy?"I asked smiling,they walked in "Yes dad" Bolu the elder one said, "ok come closer,daddy will listen" i assured as i started calculating what could have called for this meeting, there was an A4 sheet with them,my pulse increased higher again "Daddy we are resuming on monday" the bomb was shelled, I need not be told what was on the paper any more, i collected the paper and saw like 12text books each,the least price being one thousand naira, i turned the other page and saw the list of things they wanted to buy,new bags,new shoes,new school uniforms, Seun in Primary school even said she was going to buy new basket and water bottle,i looked further into the list and saw the New school fees for each of them,i breath in then with a smile i dismissed them..
"Their mom must have done a good job,training them to come meet daddy" as i brought out my calculator to do some calculations, lo and behold every thing amounted to one hundred and ten thousand naira only, i breathed in again.. The other day my mom was singing the song that she wanted more children, "after three children?" i asked as i stared at her in amazement,maybe she thinks we were still in the 1940s where parents gave birth to as many as they want and lead them to the farm,that was the order of the day back then not now, if you say because the holy books say "you should go into the world and multiply"it doesn't mean you should start giving birth like pigs in this modern dispensation.I was brought back to reality when a call came from my eldest child, he is a student at a Federal University ,i felt hot immediately, talk of the devil and he appears, "another money Matter,may it is money for handouts this time" i thought as i picked his call, "Hello,Dad how are you and everybody...." i cut him short "Femi what's it?" i asked as i was impatient, "Dad,i just wanted to greet you because of i miss everyone" he said,i heaved a sign of relief "eh,Femi so this what you do with the little pocket money i send you, if we miss you we will call you,good night." I said dropping the call.. After brain storming for a while,madam came in and acted as if she didn't have a foreknowledge of what the kids had come to discuss with me,i gave her the paper they gave me and she read it as if it was the first time she was seeing it, "Dear,God will provide for us" she said... "Amen" I said sinking into the bed...
To all the parents out there God will provide for you...
Olumide©2015

@OP: To be honest, I was full of skepticism when I first opened your thread, expecting some dim-witted teenage comments in here. But, as read through, I actually started to "feel" you and was hoping to learn something from you on how you handled the situation....but frankly speaking, I'm quite disappointed with your ending.

It's such a poor ending, I doubt if you're really a parent. How did you deal with the situation? Did you buy the things listed out for you by your daughters / kids? You say you calculated the total costs amounting to N100,000. Okay, then what? Did you mentally juggle what's affordable and what isn't? Or decide what you / the family will have to cut back on? What was your response to the waiting kids? Or you just turned your back on them, ignoring their presence??

You also mentioned that your wife came in, pretending not to know anything about the list - sure I get that. I'll admit that bit got me smiling. Yes, but what happened next? Didn't you discuss with her? What did you both mean by "God will provide"? What sort of irresponsible response was that? Is that how you "adults" tackle issues? By skipping the problem and hoping Manna falls from heaven? Like seriously?

If you can't give us the complete story, then perhaps this isn't your writeup afterall, but someone else's you copied and pasted on here, typical Nairaland style (nothing surprising there). In which case I suggest you take this to the Literature Section (with the source, of course). It is a good read afterall, despite the poor ending, but I learnt nothing from it as a parent with kids of school age. There aren't any Lessons Learnt here for us, Family Section members.

Oh, and one more thing: there was absolutely nothing wrong with "your" elder son calling to say he misses home and his family. A simple "we miss you too, son" response, and some encouragement to work hard at his studies would have been sufficient. Or better still, offering to call him back on your phone so he could chat briefly to his younger siblings and mum would have been okay - rather than you cutting him off the way you did. That was brusque - or are you a brute??

kstadaura:
You are married and something come up that requires you to travel and may be for some reasons you cannot take your wife with you. Can you ask your friend or brither to look after her, and is it safe?

Bored teenager at work.

Creating a thread on Nairaland doesn't have to be a do-or-die affair, you know.

Tales By Moonlight.

The woman sef no try.

Why birth so many kids on her meagre income, knowing she earns next to nothing?

lofty900:
see the extent of damage smoking weed has done 2 ur brain . go back and view the poster's profile. Its full of him trying to sell off one item or the other and trying 2 raise funds. His account created since 2013, all points to a history of trying to make ends meet. Have u ever seen me trying to sell a pin on nairaland ? I won't waste my time trying answer u, if u can't help someone, don't try 2 discourage others from doing so.

Me, smoke weed?!!

Er, then in that case take the credit. Afterall, na you be my supplier.

That aside, I dey suspect you. So stop forming innocence.

Kimoni:
But you proved me right naa

You remind me of Sunday Sunday daraprim(that malaria-preventive drug we used to take as kids, remember )

lol! Lol!! LOL!!!

Kimoni!

Okay, guilty as charged ma'am...

thelish:
Efe Pele. be strong oo. But abeg make Una dey increase d food Small. lol

Thanks jor. Fully recovered now (I hope!). T'was just a brief spell

I think you meant to type "decrease".

Kimoni:
Efe, Byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

No need of responding till next week saturday

Why na??

armyofone:
Damiso, nice okra soup. One hot eba to go.

Why the apa adiye come thin now, no meat o
I blame EfemenaXY

Me?? Wetin I do na??

damiso:
Steamed kale, yam pottage with lil oil and roast chicken.

No work . Not feeling great

Pikins at school and plenty time to go for a run but no strength

Sorry, Dami. Get well soon.

I think you're going to be put on Ferrous Sulphate (iron tablets).

Looks like I'm coming down with a cold too. The change in weather has been too soon.