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Mstick:
We all woke up to the news that Yul Edochie married a second wife and I've seen numerous takes especially from Nigerian men about how it's within his rights to do so. Of course polygamy is not and has never been a crime in Africa but is that really what polygamy is? Does the first wife at least get a heads up in such a situation?

May Edochie said she found out on Monday that her husband got married on Sunday, that is pure and sheer wickedness. A woman spends 17 years of her life with you, gives you four children and I am sure she has contributed financially, morally and in other ways to build the home and Yul Edochie didn't even have the decency to tell this same woman about his plans.

Men always talk about how the women of this days aren't loyal like their mothers LOL! Things like this and more that women see everyday and you still expect loyalty?!

My advice to every married woman, engaged woman and women in general. You see that man you're doing struggle love with, have a backup plan my dear, I repeat don't TRUST THE LOYALTY OF A BROKE MAN. Get a job, save money, don't have children that you cannot comfortably take care of alone, surround yourself with your family, don't fight your family EVER because when shît hits the fan they're the ones that will protect and fight for you.

African women, Black women, Nigerian women please and please stop aiding struggle love, go out there and work for your own money, it's better you struggle alone, than carrying a baby on your back while wondering what you would cook when you get home.

Work for your own money, stop shrinking yourselves, if a man says he wouldn't marry you because you've a car or a house it's not a lose but a gain.

When the population is made up of 80% idiots the rules, the customs, the solutions, the problems, the vices, the crimes, acceptable behavior and advice will be determined mostly by idiots. Madam if you are not an idiot and you manage to marry a man that is not an idiot you won't be needing the advice in this post but if you are an idiot or you by mistake marry an idiot then digest this post thoroughly because it was put forward specifically for you by someone who probably has experience being like you!

burritto:
and He never punished them for it.

Almost every big boy you know in the Old Testament has more than one wife. Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Moses, Solomon.

That tells you that it’s scriptural, not marrying more than one wife might even be the sin cos God himself told us to go into the world and multiply.

God did not punish Jacob for marrying two sisters. God did not punish Moses for killing the Egyptian task master. God did not punish David for eating of the shewbread. God did not punish the King of Moab for sacrificing his son. God did not punish Abraham for not believing that God will produce seed by him and for going into Hagar. God did not punish the adulteress caught in the act...that God doesn't punish a deed does not make it right. There are three men in the scriptures characterised by sexual purity. God Himself declared that these men will save themselves by their righteousness and they are Daniel, Noah and Job (Ezekiel 14:14). Noah and Job had one wife in a world where men married multiple women. Some sources claim Daniel had one wife, Susanna (Daniel 13:2-64 NRSVCE) while the tanakh seems to suggest he was a eunuch. Either way he was sexually pure...sexual purity is reflected in a simple rule: "If you will not be a eunuch then get a spouse and remain with him or her till the death". Anything short of this is corruption!

FirstMediaNaija:
Actor Yul Edochie replies critics, says Real men own up,



https://www.instagram.com/p/Cc5n5Eos6eO/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

Real men do the right thing and stay away from wrongdoing...this fool go dey pay bride price ontop woman wey several other men don knack enough load am with cum. Na who go remind this fool sey other guys go still dey knack this him so called second wife! The strongman of the house of the SIMPsons.

burritto:
You are wrong. Read Leviticus 18: 7-20, 22-23.

it talked about different people you should not have sex with. Lev 18:7 already talked about your mother, Leviticus 18:8 talked about you fathers wife. Bro your fathers wife is not your mother. Go read it all again.

Do not have sex with your Mother(your mama), your fathers wife(your step mom), your sister, your sons daughter, verse 11 says the daughter of your fathers wife which is the daughter of verse 8( step daughter), paternal aunt, maternal aunts, uncles wife, your daughter in law, your brothers wife, a mother and daughter, do not marry your sister in law as another wife while your wife is still alive, do not sleep with a woman in her period, and do not knack your neighbors wife, do not commit homosexuality, and do not commit bestiality.

Lev 18:11
11 “‘Do not have sexual relations with the daughter of your father’s wife, born to your father; she is your sister.

This still not scriptural evidence indicating that you can marry more than one wife. God nowhere in the whole bible directly told men to marry than one wife!

QuinModah:
UPDATE on 10 Year-Old Chrisland 'Cowgirl' Scandal, My Heart Bleeds - Adaure

I'm just going to keep it at these points and not say more ..

�The boys and girls were not kept in the same room
They were not even on the same floor

There are 3 students in each room

� This matter is being handled before now by the police , child right protection , the school's PTA representative

�There is a recorded panel which involved the parents of the affected kids, and also the PTA representative, the Lagos state police and officials from Lagos child right services

� This incident happened in March this year while on a competition in Dubai.

� Chrisland has the CCTV footage of everything that happened in that hotel in Dubai

�The parents of these kids have also seen this footage hence the suspension.

�The teachers take turns to check on them at night CCTV showed this in the panel.

Information has it that :

�She had s£x with just that boy no other boy she said this herself in the interview. Her parents were there too with the authorities present in that panel.

�There was a boy sleeping in that video it was that boy that reported saying they are doing nonsense in his room

�When they came to warn her ,She replied saying "what it's just S£x I'm a big girl.
The Lagos state police has this particular video .

� The girl's parents have been following through with the school and authorities until someone linked them to Instagram celebrities.

� There is no where in the videos they have that it showed the girl being involved with another boy.it was just that boy so they are wondering what brought about the r@pe twist

�During the panel the kids confirmed including the girl that it was just she and the boy. Their parents were there including her mom.

�There is also no trace of drugs or giving her any substance... Even though we can't say 100%.

�The kids made the video for entertainment sake to be shared amongst themselves until someone leaked it online

Lemme stop here the stories are deafening. .....

Please before you quote and write epistles know that this case is already in the police and child rights services they have been privy to all of these before now

They have all the videos from Dubai and the recordings from the panel.

We really have to do our best as parents
For me its better that I did everything I could yet the kids chose to do otherwise than I didn't do enough.

May God help us as parents as we train this hyper active super intelligent kids God gave us .

I just chose to attach only this for reference.

The kids of today are not different from the ones of times past. It is culture that has changed. Now parents allow their children do a lot of nonsense in the name of modernization.

Premiumwriter:
Polygamy is not a sin.

Polygamy is completely legal.

Polygamy is better than adultery.

Instead of cheating marry a second wife.

One man. One wife is not bad too.

And if you find the third woman instead of committing adultery, marry her...continue until you reach 100 wives where do you place the limit and what is your justification for the choice of your limit.

lexy20I4:
I can't read the Bible to know God when there are too many controversies in there combined with lies.

No. You don't want God to exist. You want the Bible to be full of lies. Because if God existed your damnation will be sure and no one wants to entertain the thought of being damned while at the same time living without the thought of consequence or reward...I just hope you have some answer for what happens to you after you die. If you do hold on to it tight because we are in a world that has been on the brink of global annihilation so death can come knocking at any time.

lexy20I4:
Good,then let that part be removed from the Bible since it's not a standard practice.

No it you that should read the Bible with the intention of knowing God and having God explain the scriptures to you and not reading with the intention of arguing or debating!

NaughtyBrainiac:
I don't know whether Reno is right or wrong but saying that God created one man and one woman is not a justification for saying Polygamy is a sin in Christianity.

I'll appreciate if you could back your claim with convincing proofs

Convincing proofs? Lol. Your just rejected the "convincing proof" and you are asking for one. If polygamy was God's original design He would have made several women for one man. Just as if two satellites were needed for earth He would have made two moons...but does the fact that God created one moon mean that man cannot create another moon? And if man decided to do this will God stop them? That you decide to breach God's order does not mean God will stop you. We breach God's order everyday. God created fruit trees but man grafts one fruit tree to another and God allows it. Does it mean God has deemed such a practice right? God created the penis for a vagina but some men practice anal sex and God allows it. Does it mean God has deemed such a practice right? God intended us to dispose our urine safely as a waste but some people drink their urine and God allows it does it mean God has deemed the drinking of urine as right? God intended us to trade time and effort for money and not do usury but many make money by gambling and God allows it but does it mean God considers it okay to do this? That God allows a thing to happen does not necessarily make it right!

burritto:
Leviticus 18:18 you quoted means a man should not marry his wife’s sister and does not mean he should not marry a second wife

Leviticus 18:7-8 says

7 “‘Do not dishonor your father by having sexual relations with your mother. She is your mother; do not have relations with her.

8 “‘Do not have sexual relations with your father’s wife; that would dishonor your father.

Who is your father’s wife in that verse 8? That’s your fathers wife who is not your mother, and who is that? Your papa other wife.

That verse did not say your step mom. It said father's wife. Indicating that those she is your mom she is primarily your father's wife. Don't read into the Bible what it didn't say. The verse did not say if the father in question is a widower or not?

JovialJune:
When there is trouble in the home, men will go and look for peace outside

When there is peace in the home, men will still go and look for trouble outside

You suffer with them, they serve you breakfast

You don't suffer with them, they still serve you breakfast

Men are confused and insatiable creatures

My ladies;

Manage them, constantly improve yourself, and stay wicked

Sorry for how your Dad treated you and your mom. There are some of us that are not like your Dad you know!

lexy20I4:
When I say the Bible support misogyny people say I am crazy.
The Bible support polygamy but does not support polyandry?
Imagine say na woman been do wetin yul do I swear we for no hear word for social Media again but guess what everyone feel we men are Superior and that anything we do is always right and cannot be objected.
Very bad.

Saying Bible support polygamy is like saying Bible supports human sacrifice. Yes, God allowed men have multiple wives but this does not mean the Bible accepts it as standard practice. There is no law in the Tanakh or the gospels or the letters that permits polygamy. None. Paul who stipulated one wife for any man who seeks to minister as a Bishop did so knowing fully well what was obtainable in the scriptures of the time (the Tanakh). God allowed the king of Moab slaughter his son as a sacrifice to escape being vanquished in war and his sacrifice achieved is objective. Does this mean God is okay with people sacrificing themselves? God defined the order of sexuality in the beginning. One woman for one man. Anything short of this is of the devil.

NaughtyBrainiac:
In response to a Twitter user seeking Reno's view on Yul Edochie's announcement of his son with his second wife, Reno Omokri stated that it is not a sin for a Christian to have more than one wife.

Reno sited an example of how God gave David many wives and he backed it with the scripture 2 Samuel 12:18 which he later stated was a typographical error and corrected it to be 2 Samuel 12:8

He went further to say that polygamy is forbidden for only Bishops and Elders in the church 1 Timothy 3:2.

In conclusion, Reno stated that Monogamy is a Western construct and not Christian.

See Reno's response in the screenshot below.

That God allowed things to happen does not make it the will of God. God allowed a lot things happen. God allowed Judah sleep with the wife of his sons. God allowed David who wasn't a priest to eat of the shewbread that was not meant for him. God allowed Jacob marry two sisters. God allowed David marry both mother and daughter because David took all the wives of Saul after Saul's death and David married Milchal one of the daughters of Saul. God allowed Lots' daughters sleep with their father. God allowed a lot of things happen but they were not in his will. This false teacher Reno forgot that monogamy is a construct of God because in the beginning God created one woman for one man. Saying monogamy is a construct of the west is just plain stupid. I pity his children. They must have a lot of nonsense being shoved into their brains.

Truvelisback:
Good day, fellas. Having 2 wives have its own advantages. Note: I not against monogamy. But from my experience, some ladies tend to misbehave when dey noticed that u are the only guy in their life. So guys, what are the advantages of having 2 wives? Mind u, i like the Drama in polygamy. even though it has its own disadvantages.

It comes down to who the women are. Imagine you marry two wives that are exactly like Tonto Dike. Your house will catch fire on the wedding night.

Uniquetani1:
Is it just me?
Most guys haven't grown up. They don't know how to make or start conversation with a lady.

You guys should be creative.
For instance, a guy chatting with a lady for the first time and asking if she has eaten.

Have you eaten?
Hope you have eaten?
What did you eat?

If I haven't eaten, what will you do about it? Will you order me food?
What did I eat? Are you asking because you are hungry?

Another thing
Asking what did you do for a living?
I don't understand, are you broke? Do you need money? Are you looking for a sugar mummy?

Lastly, send me your full pic
For what?

It's an advice tho

It's an advice

Perhaps there is something about you that attracts idiots only!

ojesymsym:
This is one irony of life that I don't often understand. Many women die from child delivery in even very good hospitals in Nigeria yet you get to hear someone delivered inside keke, bus and in this case in captivity where there is little or no medical support around.
Why then do some women die in hospitals during child bearing

Medical science does not and cannot have an answer to this question of yours.

Racoon:
https://dailynigerian.com/just-senate-amends-terrorism/

These buffoons don't realize that without the payment of ransom the kidnapped victims will be killed and their organs harvested for ritual purposes or for sale to those who need transplants? Instead of rooting out the financiers of these criminals and executing them we are now penalizing the families of victims.

Truvelisback:
Congrat!!! To find one marry these days no easy and if u even wan manage to marry a non Virgin, their Bride price go be like our Nepa Crazy Bill.

And na wetin dey vex me be dat. I dey pity men wey dey pay bride price ontop olosho. Seyi go knack your wife in exchange for pure water. Tanko go knack your wife give in exchange for can malt. Chukwudi go knack your wife free of charge come collect her money ontop...then go come expect you to pay 500k bride price ontop her head and Seyi, Tanko and Chukwudi go still chop am vigorously after wedding for free. Madness incorporated.

Truvelisback:
Did u marry ur wife a virgin?

Na me proudly commot the tamper proof! My father did not marry olosho, I did not, my sons will not and my sons' sons will not.

ETHICALLYrlght:
Your reply reminds me of Marilyn Waring's books and speeches. She's spent all her life researching and talking about this subject.

She even argues that GDP, which is a measure of the value created through the production of goods and services in a country within a period, isn't the right tool to measure national development because it classifies housewives as "unproductive" although they create unimaginable value. She advocates for the development of tools that will calculate the contribution of housewives as crucial to National economy.

...but her bigotry will blind her to the contribution of husbands to human capital and through human capital the GDP. Husbands shoulder the responsibility of school fees from primary to university and also foots the health related bills, particularly when the wife is a full time housewife, and hence constitutes the greatest contribution to the pool of human capital at any time. And through human capital (endogenous growth theory) accounts for a significant proportion of the GDP. Should we also ensure that the contribution of husbands finds it's way into the GDP too? Considering that there is a veritable argument for this!

TyroneP:
Contract can be written or unwritten provided there is/are witnesse(s). For example, each time you go to the salon to barb, there is an obligation for you to pay before or after service which is an unwritten agreement/contract and is binding despite the absence of paperwork. A marriage certificate stands in place of agreement. The housewife occupation is one of the most problem-ridden in the economy. Being a housewife is no longer a lifetime vocation for most women these days.

So what the unwritten contract? Do we women claim to agree to be housewives the instant they get wedded? The marriage certificate does not contain any such contract and the marriage vows do not contain any such contract. Women volunteer to be housewives and can decide not to be wedded to a man who wants a housewife. So it is not an occupation in the strict sense of the word. It is like saying that being a husband is an occupation because he provides, protects and secures the home!

Austinbiggy:
i started a new job which i was place on probation for 3 months and this month of April will make it 3 month that i have started the work which hopefully i will be expecting my salary this month. sometime i hustle to get transport fair to work which has not been easy for me. my girlfriend started a mini restaurant job in which she always complain of transport to work but ever since she started the work she always ask me for transport and other necessity for a man to do, her behavior change suddenly anytime she is talking to me. last week Thursday when i call her line and her line were switch off and i call her friend if she came back home and she said no.
The following day when i ask her where she pass the night she told me she pass it with her friend and when i interrogate her, she said she pass the night with a guy but the guy did not touch him THAT anytime she ask me transport i always complain that i dont have. Right now am confused for her to tell me WHAT HAVE I DONE for her that am making my mouth like fire and i have paid 15k to treat her eye problem and also plan to rent her own apartment this month when i get paid.
i want to know if this is really a RED FLAG for me to stay away or she is frustrated am not attending to her bills.

Red flag? This is a Red Canopy mehn. Her olosho vibes are solid. You should run away from her before she dash you anoda man belle or give you a donation of disease or demons.

Southernigbo:
Well we all know that these women unlike many other tribes don't cheat. The reason for this is mostly because of their upbringing and religious inclination. By nature they are so shy as well and hardly wanna expose their nudity except to their husband, even at that many only practice intimacy with their husband in the darkness of the night. Their shyness is really out of the world. They are also very obedient and submissive and will hardly ever disobey their parents, husband and imams

I once lived in a compound in a northern state where a couple of guys camped a girl. Several guys will come to that apartment and take turns on that single girl. She was a literal fu*k toy. Most evenings she shouts and shouts "wayo allah, wayo allah...wayo, wayo..." as a result of the relentless pumping from several men at a time...mehnn. I was so disgusted by this nonsense that I had to leave that apartment immediately my rent expired.

Jayzx:
Men will start gaining upper hands when they start supporting themselves. Women will always support each other even if it is ok something bad and this has been pushing them on. Imagine it is guy that did this, daughters of Eve will end up saying all negative things about the guy tagging all male gender bad

Women do not really support themselves. Ladies are usually envious of other ladies that are making it and succeeding in business, marriage and other aspects of their life. If you see a woman doing something very stupid check it out you will find out that the advice behind the bad decision was given by another woman. Infact the fewer women that a lady has as friends the more peaceful and fruitful her life will be.

Karemarealty288:
My boyfriend loves beating me everyday but I love him and I don't want to leave him. He said he is just testing me to see if I can deal with his anger. He is a sweet guy. Please what can i do

This is not love and neither is it foolishness it is the height of madness. She needs a brain transplant.

ChildOfDoom:
Aside my intellectual ability, nothing else to benefit from me in matrimony. I just hope no one is deceived by my innocent looks or gentlemanliness. Lot's of skeletons in my cupboard.

- no sexual satisfaction for her as I have a weak erection due to years of self-service

- no ability to hold a home together as I am wayward, a chronic punter and profligate spender. How possible will it be to save and take care of my family. I can barely feed myself well.

- I have got anger and communication issues. Hard relating well with the opposite sex

- I have got health issues based on an obnoxious lifestyle devoid of proper healthy living. I doubt if I will make a good husband or father having failed on my own.

Working on all these vices; but I guess there is little or no chance of a 30-year-old changing again

Funnily enough there are countless profoundly stupid ladies out there that will be willing to jump into
a marriage with you even after knowing all this about you.

TyroneP:
To be a housewife is to be a member of a very peculiar occupation—an occupation like no other. The nature of the duties to be performed, the method of payment, the form of supervision, the tenure system, the “market” in which the “workers” find “jobs,” and the physical hazards are all very different from the way things are in other occupations. The differences are so great that one tends not to think of a housewife as belonging to an occupation in the usual sense. It is commonly said that a housewife “doesn’t work” and that she “is unpaid.” The truth is, of course, that a housewife does work and does get recompense. Like other workers, she can quit or be fired. One dictionary defines an occupation as “an activity that serves as one’s regular source of livelihood.” Being a housewife is an activity that gets one food, clothing, and a place to live, and that certainly meets the dictionary’s definition of having an occupation.

Saying that being a housewife is an occupation is like deeming it a job and jobs require a contract explaining the terms and conditions. Do women sign a contract with their husbands to perform household duties? No. Being a housewife is a choice that can be declared before marriage and wedding.

Truvelisback:
Good day, fellas. Guys, no kill urself over ladies' virginity matter. Whether u like it or not, someone must knack ur wife b4 u marry her.

Not mine! It is a choice to marry an olosho.

Parents are the problem. You cannot give what you do not have. Many of our parents are indisciplined. Many of them are hypocrites. Many of them carry curses they pass on to their children. A lot of parents are overgrown kids and that is why our society is so messed up.

bignero:
Thanks boss

Am actually trying to achieve certain things.. It keeps getting frustrated.

If asked if am prayerful id say yes.. So am. Perplexed as to what next.. Maybe add more time.. Thanks again

Just add sowing to it too. It may look stupid but it works. But don't throw away your money. Give to a living church that is actually healing, saving and delivering souls and watch that blockade move.