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My votes:
ChelseaBmw
Ekwah
Laylow
Xaviers
AbPatrick

Fhemmmy: Yes oh, cos the kiss signature will make the mind belle kool down.

Hahahaha I feel you jare egbon mi.

[quote author=Richy.]So She took money out of the bag because of the love she had for you and you are complaining. If she does not take from you, who do you think she will take from,your best friend? I will advise you to go to the people that have married for for long,let them inform you on what marriage is all about. you guys are no longer dating. she is your wife. you forgot the vow you made, what ever she has is yours and what ever you have is hers. you think it was a joke when you were saying it or are you in Abuja Marriage [/quote]But the guy said that she had access to money in the house already. She had 50 000 at her disposal but decided to take from the wallet and even worse deny taking from the wallet. That's deceit and dishonesty. What would have been the big deal if she had accepted that she took the money? Why she dey fear?

Fhemmmy: Nice one, she could at least leave a note where the money was that read "I have taken some" no need to look for it and sign the note with a nice kiss.

Lol at signing the note with a kiss... True that though.

Btw, thought the OP asked the mod to keep this in the fam section. Why is it on the front page?

It's not stealing? Ok. How about respecting your partner and your partner's property and personal stuff? At least let you partner know especially if you want to use the"we are one" argument. If you are one, then your partner should be informed of your decision to the money from his/her wallet.

el bin manny: Nonsense!!!!!!!! Height of hypocrisy!!!!! So she was buried thought Lagos just passed the cremation bill.......? Wasn't she suppose to be burnt n her ashes put into a pepsi bottle So now the new bill is just for the poor Lagosians look at the type opposition we have they pass a law n still go back to do same thing!

did you read about the bill at all? It is optional. Smh

I vote for:

CFCfan
JnrProf
Ekwah, I see you bro!
Chelseabmw
Ijogz K
Xaviers
PC Guru
Moonraker
AbPatrick
Miccodb
Zibe
Mastroesco
Laylow (chale!! )
Nelly cute mayne! lol. you've got time to achieve all your dreams! )
Mr Nigeria (Nice nice! would like to see some of the stuff you've written.

[quote author=Texas.Cowgirl]Why disfigure her and make the other woman look normal?

And what kind of 5 cent movie is this?


PS: Do men now have long lashes?[/quote]Some men actually do.

I'm listening to "Nigeria my beloved country" again and this time I'm paying close attention to the lyrics. I almost want to cry. *sigh*

Hmmmmmm..... Why don't I believe this?

Weselion: But the man first went into the bush before she came. Truth is, they both agreed. This days 10 year old girls know much about sex. Shameful thing though

And that makes it okay? That she gave consent? WTF would that be okay? So because a child wants to set herself on fire, it's okay because that's what she wanted to do? There's a reason they are called children and there are laws concerning them too. What is wrong and illegal is wrong and illegal.

Honestly, many times I think we as Nigerians deserve our current situation and crop of leaders. We are too feeling sentimental and refuse to see anything good!!! We are blinded by sentiments!

why do people see the need to attach Tinubu to everything that happens in Lagos? Na wa for some people o.

We will continue the way we are in that country until we as a people change out mindsets. Smh in disgust!

(Btw, this is post is way nicer than I intended it to be.)

991: Sister think again.. you have to be married to be divorced. savvy?

I misunderstood your post. It seemed like you said she was already remarried. But now that I see what you mean, I still don't agree with your post. What if she also met this ex-husband online. Wouldn't he have been a "ghost" at some point too? Where she finds love is her own wahala. And if she chose a divorce and decided to look elsewhere, still her own choice. We don't even know what happened in their marriage anyway. We can only speculate

Fhemmmy: Yes i do agree that he could have had bad intentions, just like we could argue he had good intentions . . . But all i am saying is that, so many people are quick to head to court for divorce cos they always thinking the grass is always green on the other side - Most cases, the green we see on that side is all but fake green carpets that wont grow

True true. Now that's a whole new topic on its own. Honestly, I think it's a 50-50 thing. The grass isn't always greener on the other side but there is a chance that it is. You don't know until you find out.

Fhemmmy: I know and not saying it is right but what i am saying is this, the woman and the man fell out of love and divorcing, now, the man do something that made the woman fall in love with him again (not knowing was same man that she is divorcing) imagine if the man had put such effort into their marriage, maybe and only maybe the marriage could have been saved

I hear what you say but then again, we don't know the intentions of the man. What if he was setting her up to kill her? (extreme, I know but this stuff happens. we have psychos out there). Anyway, well I guess we won't know what his real intentions were now would we? Unless he can prove that he was being sincere. In any case, I think he still took the wrong approach. That's not the way to show that you want your marriage to work. You can't make me believe the person I'm talking to is X and then you show up! Heck no!

gluv01: Then the other alternative is to continue in pretense that he is Aaron Carpenter. That nothing ever happened between them, a fresh start.

That's living a lie. He is who he is and can never be another person. It is possibly that the Aaron Carpenter person he created is just like his real self but then that's the worst way to go about it. WHy hide behind another person's identity? That's messed up. How would you trust such a person? It's impossible to reconcile the two.

Fhemmmy: I dont agree, cos i could see if from the other side and say the story teaches us that before we cut the marriage certificate into 2, we could find other ways to work it out except life is in danger.

Except that the guy created a false identity.

lion042: I don't believe this, does it mean that they didn't exchange pictures or what?

Reread the article. He created a fake profile. He prolly sent photos of another person.

gluv01: ok cool...This should help them reconcile since they felt comfortable online, they should also manage comfortably themselves and close the court case.

She felt comfortable with "Aaron Carpenter", the person the ex-husband created and not him. He pretended to be someone he was not. Otherwise, she would have known that it was her ex no?

991: you can't endure and stay married with your husband but you are happy to fall in love with a ghost(online) lover.

Sigh. She is NOT married. She is divorced. Bros read the article again.

I don't care whose responsibility this is. The point is it is absolutely wrong!! I can't believe this even happened. Smh.

Wow!!! Thank Naptu2!! This is awesome!

yuzedo: Devil! ugly babe always play had to get!
Ok swerry, I agrre. I can by u tellyfone as we continu if ur nice + "sweet" + obey istrutcion... so wuz yo e-male? my is in mine profile.

Oh! But why did you call me a devil? Is it my fault that I don't know how to use a phone? I only know how to write letter in my village. If you buy my Tellyphone, will you teach me how to use it?? E-male? What is that? I'm a female o.

obasy09: you make a lot of sense, however, I think the border we create in our minds through tribalism, ethnic bigotry etc is stronger than any physical colonial border. Greed and shortsightedness are the bane of African.

Which is why I insist that you will end up having a million fragmented pieces because no one will ever be satisfied. Each will want it's own autonomy and sovereignty.

yuzedo: I cried!

@ Op: so u can't buy iPad and install dictionary in it? Damn u bro!

Bro, u need to learn how to take care of a woman. For instance, if Egba girl was my babe.. Ohhhhhh boyyy!!! Everyday would be her birthday! Ah! Mogbe! Ejoor! I go spoyel d babe like natin! Chei!

Sweerie, how are u? As today is sunday I want to quote bible for u, "I know the plans I have for you, plans of good and not of evil, to bring you to an expected end."

Sooooo wuz yo numba? Plisss be nice

Hahahahahahahaaha you would spoil me?? Hmmm... you must also be a good Christian for you to quote the bible! Dang! I'm loving this already
Oh and the number, I don't have a phone I use the old method of letters. Sorry but you can be my pen pal though?

He can like to wear some underpants

[quote author=ShyM-X]See, hun - sometimes when you've tried something for a long time and it's a vicious cycle of failure - it's better to try a new-approach/something-new.

Heck, even Albert Einstein said the same thing: "Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." And "We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them."

It shows we're insane. We've tried for 53 years and we've not made any progress. Some would even argue that we've retrogressed. Don't you think the world is tired of Africa's problems? Africa keeps churning out its people to all the nooks and crannies of the planet, as burdens on everyone. Everyone's tired of Africa - and it's high time we started solving our own problems.

Nigeria is never going to work. There will always be vested and tribal interests. Hence why you have people clamouring for their turn to rule every four years despite not having the right candidate.[/quote]So we should break up into how many parts? North and south? Yoruba, Igbo and Hausa? Or by state? What about the smaller ethnic groups? What happens to them? Maybe you can convince me that this disintegration will work but right now it's not looking like it

[quote author=ShyM-X]Europe had to fight many civil wars to get to where it's today. Chairman Mao killed millions of Chinese people to get China to where it's today. So what if we lose 2 million people to save future generations?

We can't just be cowardly and continue in this vicious cycle of destruction and retrogression. Africa needs to wake up and re-draw the darn borders. Why should Yoruba's/Hausa's(+Fulani's)/Igbo's be in the same country? These three groups are different, yet they exist under the same "roof." To even make matters worse - they exist under freaking centralised system of government. If that isn't wickedness and failure - I don't know what it's.[/quote]That Europe fought many wars does not mean we have to do the same. We should have fought our war 60 years ago and fought it right. It is easier to destroy than rebuild especially today. We will find out that the world will be years ahead of us before we can get back on our feet. Look at other war torn african countries for evidence.

I agree we need to stop this cowardice but fighting does not equal courage. I think there is more bravery in resolving issues peacefully.

Okay three distinct groups living together under a centralized government... Perhaps we need a new style of governance? One that can accommodate all three major tribes and the minorities as well?

I repeat again, war is not always the best solution. It crates more chaos and problems than solutions. I don't know if I think a disintegration is what we need. It seems like a weak solution to a compound problem.

[quote author=Okiki_Oluwa]Omo Isreali, take her to Pharaoh's palace in Egypt & later to the red sea for sun bathing.
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Last Bullet: On a serious note, I think you should buy her a nice book. Yes, wrap the book in a lovely birthday wrapping paper. You may include a Dico if she doesn't v one. Some gifts are just special than watches, cloths, chocolates, phones etc.
So, go ahead boy.[/quote]Word.

[quote author=ShyM-X]We're tribal people and the forceful union of tribal people can never work. Hence why Nigeria is a cesspit. You definitely can force two extreme people with different consciousness to live together in the same house, and expect progress. Because one will always work to bring the other down. However, when you allow them to do things separately - there will be competition and that'll lead to progress.

You definitely can't compare the disunity that'll exist among smaller states, to the retrogressive and destructive disunity in Nigeria. The three major ethnic groups in Nigeria have different consciousness and the forceful union of the three is the sole reason why the country is messed up - and also why it'll never make any tangible progress. Nigeria is doomed!! It might make little progress but will never attain its full potentials - and that's the honest truth.

Africa unity will come when we realise that Africans are tribal people(just like Europeans and Asians) and we need our own identities to be able to set out goals and achieve them, based on our tribal consciousness. We don't even have an identity, for crying out loud. What's Nigerian identity? You can't be loyal to what don't exist in your consciousness; hence why most Nigerians are selfish.[/quote]Okay yes, the forced unity was a wrong move but you think breaking up the north and the south will help? What's the assurance the south won't also want to break into two?? Imagine if every African country wanted to break up because they were all forcefully and artificially united?? What would be the result? Why can't we just accept that we are in this mess and figure out a way out TOGETHER? going back to the drawing board and breaking things up might not be the best solution. We can create a common identity if we wanted to (I think we already have one but it's not as strong as I would have liked)

obasy09: Some people think civil war in a multiethnic Nigeria will be like 'drama they sit in their abode to watch' or a 'mortal combat' they play with joysyick. The painful aspect of civil war is that u'll still come back to round table to resolve issues.

Lol!!! I couldn't help but laugh. It's one if two thing: conflict/war can either be a positive tool for change or a negative one. How many of the Africans wars have resulted to stable peace and development? Of which those are even small countries. Now imagine a whole Nigeria? And yea, these issues will still need to be discussed war or no war so why wait till millions of people die until you decide to resolve them? Even better now before we become a UN case study. Never a good thing.

queen charming: Is a thing to want to buy a gift and is another to want to buy a birthday gift. Birthdays are special days and anygifts presented shold be worth remebering.

I agree with you that it why i think It should definitely not be chocolate. That's not worth remembering at all! Lol. Something wey person go chop today n shit am tmr? Lol

obasy09: I think you're right.

I honestly fear a civil war. We can't afford to be another Sierra Leone, Liberia, Uganda and the rest. *sigh* we should not get there. It will not be funny at all