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Sebastine1606:
Really? Did u read my comments, I said in this regard
A woman can stay without having sex for quite a long time, but men can't.. That's what I meant by "in this regard "
Plz endeavour to read well and understand before u comment

Did God exclude any specific area when he was giving men headship over the home?
Did God say, "Man, you be the leader in every aspect of your marriage except faithfulness, you will be your wife's subordinate when it comes to sex and being faithful"? Did God say that?
God has giving you men headship and leadership over the entire home so carry your responsibility and stop picking and choosing which one you want.

Bibi294:
I don't blame feminism... Intact, you need to reread my comments... My point is this: let that woman file for divorce... The aspect of her cheating in what I detest... She should not cheat because her husband cheated.... Can't you just get it

You clearly stated that "feminism is breaking homes"
You need to read your own comments

I also do not think she is cheating just 'because her husband cheated.' I do not think she is doing it to get back at the husband or she would be openly dating the other men.
I think she is trying to revive her sexual life and move on from her husband.

Sebastine1606:
In this case, the women are stronger and the men are weaker
You know I know that we all know that the women are stronger and men are weaker in this regard

LMAO, suddenly men are weaker and women are stronger. So God that placed men as spiritual leaders of the home doesn't know what he is doing abi?
Everyday you men will be shouting "I am the head of this home!" Time to take responsibility now, the woman is suddenly a better fit for leadership. Mtchew!

Bibi294:
Cheating bcis he cheats is a no no..
Someone is talking about patriarchy.... We are blacks, we're African! The purported 'feminism' is breaking homes...
My advice for you is that you run to God.... Being an atheist because if what a religion has/had done to you is not advisable gal... KnowomgvGid is sweeter

Let me ask you, the home the OP has described, is it whole? Are you implying that a home can only be broken by the woman?
In my opinion the OPs home is already broken and feminism had nothing to do with it.
His dad is no longer in the house, and is living with a different woman! OPs dad broke his home himself and did not need feminism to do so. So why TF are you blaming feminism?
You blame feminism because people like you think the actions of a man must not have an impact on his home, the home is entirely the responsibility of the woman (even though the man is the head and woman is merely a helper, oh the irony!)
If the OPs mum decides to file for divorce now, you will blame the broken home on the mum even though the home was broken long time ago (by the dad).

ceeroh:
And you're net

LMAO, took a while but I literally laughed out loud

Your mum has been through such a miserable marriage life and you have contributed to it by encouraging her to remain with your grossly irresponsible dad. I don't know how anyone can stand to watch their mother suffer so much and then encourage her to continue suffering. You want her to die without living a better, peaceful life?
Please now is the perfect time for her to get out of the marriage. You kids are grown and she is getting older so she does not have the stamina to withstand your dad's shenanigans. If one of the side chicks comes to fight with your mum at fifty, do you think she will survive it?
If she leaves the marriage she won't have to be sneaking around, she can openly date and participate in a new committed relationship.

Guy, what advice are are looking for again? You have posted about this matter 3 times!
Since your sister swears she did not take the documents, you either move on or involve law enforcement.
This matter was tackled extensively in your last two threads and you still haven't taken any action after how many months?
Your wife lost a job because of the missing certificates, isn't it time y'all start figuring out how to get them replaced?
Knowing Nigerian institutions it would take forever to get them replaced but you are busy wasting time waiting for nairalanders advice.
As for your sister, forgive her and keep her at arm's length.

Okay. So Wetin you want make we do?

amliftedhigher:
A little of what transpired between us two days ago. In one of the people we want to use for our wedding, the person she recommended charge a huge amount of money which I can not pay, then I contacted my sisters to look for other person's we can use lo and behold they found people with a big difference in price variations so I decide to settle with the ones my sister recommended hence they will render same quality of services. Immediately I told her the latest, she started grumbling and saying that my sisters are controlling me that they can't come to her own family and decides what happens, I was shocked to hear that again after I caution her some months back for using this same language. My brethren 400k and 280k are they same thing? This is just a tip of her yelling about my sisters. My sisters don't know about this oh now, as am writing now my elder sister called me now and was telling me to make sure that I give My wife money to select a good wedding gown . They even told me last time that I should make sure I buy car for her before she born her first child to lessen the stress of her carrying a child in Keke or bike or Taxi. What do we call this?

Honestly your sister's suggestion is the better one and someone like me would have been happy to found a cheaper price.
I think what made her angry is that after the both of you have decided on something, you went to meet your sister and made final agreement with your sister on what to do. It is after you have made that arrangement with your sister that you informed her.
You should try to keep her in the loop, she might be feeling left out. That is why I suggested you should have created more opportunities for her to interact with your family before the wedding.

amliftedhigher:
Thanks brother. From your questions, no encounter at all between her and my family members she just hate to hear me talking with them on phone. Like you said she never showed me this before traditional marriage and my family just saw her ones before our traditional marriage if she had started this before our TM I won't have dare go to see her people talk of carrying drinks.

How does she express this hatred?
Does she get visibly angry? Does she yell at you for talking to them?
I want to know because one of the reasons you feel she hates your family is because she has never visited your sister.
My brother's wife has never visited me without my brother but I have never felt that she does not like me, in fact we respect each other very much.
Also she had not visited your family before you got married, were you fine with that? She might not know that you expect her to visit your sister since you never indicated so during courtship.
You have not stated that she has disrespected them in any way she just isn't making an effort to get close to them. Is that right? In that case she might just be the type that like to mind her business in marriage.
You said she met your family only once before the traditional marriage. Since you want the type of woman that is very interactive with your family, I feel you should have created more opportunities for her to spend time with your family before you got married.

All455:
Thanks to u all for your comments.

Pls mods kindly move to front page. Let's hear more views.

Thanks.

Lol, I know now that you are not serious at all. Na front page dey hungry you

Do you really want to help your mum? Cos I can't believe you want to bring your mum over but would rather leave her homeless while you negotiate your own property with woman. Are you sure your don't have a mental disorder?
How about sending your mum money to lodge in an hotel? Or you need permission from your woman to do that too?
The day she threw money at you at the bus stop should have been the last day you had anything to do with that woman

Frenchfriez:
His wife may actually be silently hoping that he should man up and do the needful.

That is a good point

You wife is the best person to handle this situation. Siblings are able to scold each other and still be in good standing. She should have talked to her brother by now. Put pressure on her to tel him to move out. If she doesn't then you have no option but to do it yourself!
Does your wife work? Is she contributing financially to your family?

I have never considered garri to be poor man food.

Okay, dedicate a room in your house to hide all children's sh!t and piss. You can also hide your own join because no be only pikin sh!t dem dey carry do juju.
Keep that room under lock and key and only close family members can have access. The enemy must not thwart your children's destiny via sh!t juju.

Your wife is being highly insensitive (to put it lightly)
She should be worried about your HBP and headache. She should care for you any way she can during the bouts of headaches.
Does she show any concern at all?

You people have started again
WTF is pre-baptism?

Pidgin2:
Won't u like your husband to help your family members?

It doesn't matter what I like. It is not his responsibility.

His wife's people are not his responsibility and your friend knows it.
How long has he been married? They are probably still in the honeymoon stage and it is easy for him to be swayed by his wife.
When your friend is ready for it to stop he will put an end to it. He is not yet ready that is why he is still lamenting and doing nothing about the situation

ojdollars:
And God read your post... People like you make me scared of ever returning back to Nigeria. Shuooo, see a wicked female for that matter. WOW

Don't return na, how is it my concern?

TF did I just read?

Risingphoenix12:
So I started a gym membership to take my mind off stuff. And we had a yoga session... Sheesh... i am soooo inflexible. Lol..

During the session, Our instructor looks at me and says, I'll send you some images to help you loosen up and she sends this... she must be joking.. Lol..

LMAO

muyinet:
Thanks.

I planned to make it a private affair too.

In choosing the proposal ring, should I let her make her choice of design or I could buy it and let everything caught her unawares?

Bro, I no sabi your wife so I cannot tell what her preference is.
You could purchase a simple relatively inexpensive ring and give her the option of getting a different one after the proposal.

You are in the best position to answer your question.
What kind of person is she? Introvert? Extrovert?
Does she like surprises? Is she the romantic candle lit dinner kind of person?

Since you guys are technically married to outsiders I think you should make it a private affair.

I hope they make good music. I grew up listening the those two.
If you see my mama...

Damn

LMAO, I have a feeling a man is behind this moniker.

Lol, because scam artists always announce to their victims that they running a scam.

Ah! Return them to the village or bundle them to an orphanage.
It is like your village people do not want you to have peace. First your friend chase you from his house because of milk. You moved to your own place only for your neighbor's kid to start treating you anyhow, now your relative has dumped his kids on you.

Makes no sense. Why would anyone be yelling "I am at anger"? Is "I am at anger" even a proper sentence?

Very disgusting read. It is not by force to be woman. Mofo thought this sh!t was easy. Ordinary hair he can't maintain.