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pendo89:
I am not in support but as you said it would probably suit the widowed or divorced since they have been there and all they need is companionship not children plus many other things that come with fresh marriage. But to curb prostitution? that is infact encouraging it indirectly.
Those laws like honourable and mercy killings are not ideal because its the same men Being Intimate with unmarried women that go ahead to make them.
It therefore beats the purpose.
Can you pic a woman getting married and divorced under such laws with the aim of making money? Am sure there are statutes in that very same law which prohibit that.Statues that touch on kids that come as a result of such and conditions to abide with if one's aim is reap off the other person.
So its just one shallow arrangement.
What they need to do is be lenient on women who engage in prematial sex. Not create laws to allow the very same act they so detest to happen.

Well said, I concur.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Why not do the mistress thing.  Mind is taking me to the placage thing.  [/color]

I think it's the idea of having carnal knowledge outside the perimeters of marriage that is haunting them.

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P.S I would be interested in hearing from those who may be in support of this settlement however.

I'd ask him politely to remove all his clothes so I can sketch a life drawing of him.

o boy una pijin pass mine

[quote author=Tee_Jay link=topic=770724.msg9241634#msg9241634 date=1317282371]I think you need to understand the context in which he made the statement; he was saying that these artiste are great for TV and the thing that makes them stand out is their image/display, something you won't notice on radio. He's definitely not saying they are boring, afterall he has always had beyonce on the x-factor and has gone on record to say praise lady gaga several times.[/quote]Point received

pendo89:
Whenever a society wants to justify evil,they create laws to protect them and make them feel less guilt.

Marriage is a world so I am wondering if while entering into such a temp relatn. that could as well last 1 hr (depending on the measure of your lust )
you ever think about having kids,property,family u know creating wealth cz some things do well in a stable relatnship.
This kind of arrangement does not qualify to be called marriage because marriage is not just Being Intimate with your legally wedded partner.
This is simply avoiding judgement from society. A means of escape so ther'es no point watering down a noble institution.

For the most part I agree and I did also wonder how such marriages will be affected if children happened to be involved.

I do agree that it is some kind of way to escape judgment - at least to not break the code of premarital sex in such society but I believe it's primary aim is to curb prostitution by setting these perimeters (which I don't agree with because as you said such union cannot even be considered as "marriage"

I think that they are trying to eliminate a vice in their society but I believe they are employing another vice to curb the former. . . and I just feel as if its compromising such a society's morals.

There are other reasons too (not strong ones mind you). In circumstances where the man is not well off, temporary marriages offer him some kind of reprieve whereby he would be able to afford a "wife" for a while and since the union isn't a permanent one the price for the "bride" (which by the way is paid directly to the woman) is considerably less. . . hmm that makes me wonder about money-hungry woman who could possibly employ this method just to acquire capital. In addition a man can still marry more than one "wife" through this kind of marriage.

And then there are the female widowers and divorcees involved in such . . . I don't really understand the purpose why some of them choose to employ this method . . .perhaps there is a stigma attached to these women which may not make them marriageable or ideal for long term suitors or maybe they're just longing for companionship which under their society's laws can only be obtained via marriage.

P.S. Not everybody in those mentioned countries are involved or even for this kind of "marriages" . . .in fact there are those who look down on it. I was initially intrigued by the main purpose of such a union - that is trying to to curb prostitution.

"Temporary marriage is, basically, a contractual deal between a man and a woman who decide to be married for an agreed period of time varying from one hour to 99 years. This custom is practiced among the Shiites of Iran and Iraq, although not a part of Quranic teachings. . . .

In a temporary marriage contract, no registration or witness is required. As per the proponents of this arrangement, it is considered as a means of curbing free sex and control prostitution. . . . ."

(if you want to read more visit here: http://www.interestingfacts.org/fact/temporary-marriage-in-iran)

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Aside from wondering how such unions has had an impact on trying to curb the pr[i]o[/i]st[i]i[/i]tute world (in Iran), I do think it makes conditions safer for such women at least . . . but does marrying a pr[i]o[/i]st[i]i[/i]tute automatically make her an "honorable woman" and cancels out the selling in the sex she will provide her "husband"?

I do wonder what other functions temporary marriage could serve . . i.e will such arrangement be conducive in the western world where divorce is high - I mean after all there is an agreed expiry date to such a union.


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I remember seeing a documentary once about transgender pr[i]o[/i]st[i]i[/i]tutes from a particular country - I can't seem to recall their nation.
In order for these "women" to make an income they would offer sex for sale however before they can offer their client sex they have to marry them (so that they won't have s[i]e[/i]x outside the perimeters of marriage thereby making it legal). After they have completed their mission they divorce and the process continues.

hmmm I guess temporary marriage could be viewed as a loophole, perhaps even a "no strings attached" deal

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This moved me immensely, what a beautiful gesture of love . . . I had to steel myself not to cry when reading that text message.

I'm not a fan of any of those singers mentioned but in the X factor UK he wouldn't miss a chance employing these "boring singers" to perform at the show even so far as awarding them with standing ovations.


Besides his protege Leona Lewis is a walking sedative.

l[b]efulefu[/b] - his consistency is remarkable and he weaves the finest fables.

. . . you know what? I believe it would be better if you guys just consolidate all your grievances into a single thread where you can verbally chastise the type of women that born you into this world without clogging up the whole board with these repetitive complaints . . . after all the subject of Nigerian women is a hot topic around this forum.  If you like, such a thread could even be permanently pegged on the top of the board like the complaints section only this time the subject would be appropriately named "The irredeemable Nigerian Woman: Chapter 1"

Oh congrats on your beautiful baby boy I wish you and your family all the best.

enomakos:
i did't understands why i am only attracts to women who are older than i am,i have never date a lady who is younger or my age mate i just find them undateable

anyone here who search the same feeling?

all my life i have always date older women and i can not understands why i dislike younger ladies

maybe you're a teleiophile

Same old same old . . . another day another thread dedicated to the flaws of the irresolvable Nigerian woman . . . kai! I never knew lefulefu don born all him sons reach already. . .so we no get only one lefulefu for town again . .chai

“Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power.”

peculiarmg:
Brain Fingerprinting is a controversial forensic science technique that uses Electroencephalography (EEG) to determine whether specific information is stored in a subject’s brain.

. . .but I may have some private thoughts that I don't want another knowing about lol I'm kidding however I wonder how much harm this technology could cause an individual just like those body scanners featured in airports . . .

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. . .erm when I first stumbled across this thread I was intrigued mainly because I assumed it was going to be about black woman's hair in the original texture - that's how I interpreted "natural hair" to mean . . . well anyway anonymous6 nice thread keep it up.

anonymous6:
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she's gorgeous!

[quote author=~Sissy~ link=topic=769149.msg9227040#msg9227040 date=1317098684]they'd likely encourage them to have it changed especially if their child desires. but since beauty is subjective, their child might object to any changes.[/quote]I did ponder on that for a while . . . and I do believe some will.

However fortunately for such people, children carry elements of both their parents so an unappreciated feature may be complemented on a particular portrait due to the combination/arrangement of inherited genes. . .  which could also be pleasing to the parent in question.

sauer:
emofine? where did you get that from?  

I'm just trying to connect dots no matter how unrelated or far they appear. . .

Long One:
In your example, you may have expressed a tremulous motion i.e. a shiver, because you were afraid of treading those waters with him. (Maybe he is your father’s age/he is super-ugly/he is not your type/one of those lame excuses women usually come up with ).

no comment lol

The eyes are the window to the soul, if you look deep into someone’s eyes, you will see the truth

That does make sense, I couldn't even sustain eye contact regularly with him and when I did I will be honest I did try to mask some of my fright. I didn't want him to know how scared I was but I did want him to know I was uncomfortable -  it didn't work though. . .anyway generally I'm not the easiest person to read. . . and sometimes I've realized it's an advantage - not in this case however.

abi una for dash me reach?

How easy is body language to detect and relay?

I used to suspect that some people who misread signals just imagine what they want or indeed they are being misled.


[Q]. . .Are the signals we relay affected by the exhibitionist i.e. is body language more difficult to read from a person reserved in nature?

[Q]. . .or is there a sub-concious minor emotion that we still relay that is being read/received over our dominant feelings?


i.e. I was in a dialogue with a particular man. I also happen to be reserved in nature. As our conversation had graduated from a PG rating into sordid territory I felt uncomfortable and I believed such feelings was apparent in my body language . . instead he mistook my serious discomfort for wild lust . . . well since he was American maybe they interpret certain gestures differently

lefulefu:
Naija babes too get long throat for everything .Anyway i love them even with all their wahala

Did your oyibo babe finally dump you? abegi remain for base wit your wahala . . .yeye pikin who send you before lwkmd

adastic:
a friend donated his fluid to his best friend's wife who gave birth a set of twins. after 15 yrs the  man was not able to have children of his own  and then went back to his friend demanding for his children. who owns  the children?

Well maybe he's better of seeking a s[/i]p[i]e[/i]rm donor as well . .jk . .

On a serious note he was in an agreement and 15 years is quite a significant amount of time. He may have had a stronger case if they were babies to toddlers as during those early years he could have seriously reconsidered his choice although of course he would still be challenged. . . but to demand for them now at this time more so [i]because he can't bare anymore children of his own?? . . .

hmmm children are not parcels and to me those children are a mere plan B for him to have a child . . . and how can he take those children from a family unit? at 15 as well. . . . did he consider them as his own children for 15 years? because anyone that agrees to donate their s[/i]p[i]e[/i]rm have already depreciated their role as a [i]father . . .
Those children already have an established relationship with a man whom they perceive as their "father" . . . children are not money you lend that you can borrow back when times are hard for you . . .it's unfortunate for him but one must really consider the consequences of dispensing their own fertility. . .

Did gestures form the basic skeleton to sign language or was it sign language that gave birth to common gestures 

i.e indicating yes or no with a common nod or shake . . .

There is an ever increasing number of those who succumb to plastic surgery (both women and men) . . . as many desire to have the perfect portrait sculpted . . .

[Q]. . .but what then happens when they father or mother a child that carries the very features they strived to flee from?

I wonder how they can confess to the beauty of their child when they carry certain elements that they themselves sought to erase I also wonder if it slightly bothers them that their child inherited those particular features. . .

[Q]. . .and what effect would such have on the child knowing that they carry a particular feature that was undesired by their parent?


P.S. I'm just thinking out loud.

I wouldn't even allow my children to speak standard English in the home. The lingua Franca in my household will be our native tongue first and foremost. . . it is my duty to teach them their mother tongue which is not going to be relayed to them in school not pidgin (which they can pick up at anytime if they so please).

delpee:
Why are people becoming so violent? Divorce is an option or am i missing something?

I guess some people have rendered a new meaning to the vows "death do us part" (smh)

I feel for the poor children

Pukkah:
What was going on in her head? She did not want anyone to know. Does this in a way not look premeditated?

I was thinking the same . . . she sounds mentally sick if you ask me

claremont:
To the best of my knowledge, a lady who hasn't had her hymen broken by the rigours of penetrative s-ex IS a virgin. It doesn't matter if she has performed other non-v/aginal s-ex acts, the v-aginal hymen remains the only objective and scientific key for unlocking virginity. Virginity is NOT mental, it's purely physical; let's not bring confusion into a perfectly clear and straightforward topic.

Hey there, haven't seen you in a while . . .

. . .anyway let me just clarify because I believe you are referring to my comment in your statement. When I mentioned mental I meant when the subject occupies the mind as such is premeditated.

virgin is purity not only in composition but in disposition as well. . .

. . .however by your scientific definition that would mean some l[i]e[/i]sb[i]i[/i]ans are forever virginal beings.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]He has a reputation for embodying his characters.  It's one of the reasons he's a consummate actor and why it takes him long to make films, because it takes him a while to shed a character.  [/color]

wow . . .okay now this is perhaps a case study . . .I wonder if the feelings he was supposed to depict (whether hatred/lust etc) still lingered after his role had ended  . . . it sounds kinda schizophrenic to me though

She's not a virgin.

In the original term virgin refers to a person who has no knowledge of s[i]e[/i]xu[i]a[/i]l relations whether that pertains to physical manifestation or mere conversation.

She is not wholly innocent, your virginity cannot be compromised. She committed acts and although maybe not penetrative or v[i]a[/i]g[i]i[/i]nal sex she participated in s[i]e[/i]xu[i]a[/i]l activities.

It's not purely a physical thing, it's mental as well because whether she had kept to herself but harbored thoughts pertaining to sex then she still wouldn't be categorized as a virgin.

Lastly there is a difference between one who is celibate and one who is a virgin.

However that is just my opinion.