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mrsteel:
This is misleading!

Emotionss:
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He was at the wrong place at the wrong time.
Their papers was seized pending investigations.
At least that was what he keep telling the wife.

franchasng:
yeah but women are easily convinced and even deceived, their false generalisation can convince many ladies in such position honestly.


It's all good

lefulefu:
really?? if u believe that u would believe anything

Emotionss:
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Yes.
The authorities are with his papers because he was at the wrong place and the wrong time.

Originalsly:
Staying away from one's family for extended periods .... regardless of reason.... will always affect those left behind. If we're looking at the wife remaining loyal.... then she is more likely to do so if he is on an offshore oil rig thannif he is abroad. My reasoning is offshore the husband has a set date for return..... while abroad he will be guessing... I'll be home before Christmas.... dosen't happen...I'llbe home for Valentine's Day.... it will be our best ever!.... doesn't happen.... Easter for sure... doesn't happen. Is it not then the wife will be ehmmm...... opening up to the neighbour?.... or the landlord?

Princessbettyj:
Don't mind the goat,nah so person go sleep with hin own wife too

franchasng:
yeah but women are easily convinced and even deceived, their false generalisation can convince many ladies in such position honestly.


It's all good

Nuttella:
I see it as nothing but punishment, why leave your wife in Nigeria, if a man that wants to marry me won't do my visa for us to leave together, then no marriage will take place.

franchasng:
pray make owu (financial lack) no catch you and your husband or future husband, you will even encourage him to forget you for life if that would end the sufferings you guys are passing through

franchasng:
he knows all that, he's trying to entertain his audience.


I have met Nigerian men in some countries stuck with no way to even go back to Nigeria.


For instance in South Korea, if you overstay, whenever you want to leave SK, you must pay a fine for overstaying your visa...which may run into millions depending on how long you overstayed and most Nigerians in SK cannot bring their wife or kids cos no matter who you be, they consider you as alien.


Go to Europe, we have so many Nigerians stuck there..no legal paper to even get a decent job talk more of filing for a wife to join you. Same thing is applicable to US.


Many Nigerian men that abandoned their wife in Nigeria are helpless, they wish to bring their wife and kids over where they are, but due to paper issue they cannot.


But with what they are posting here, wives of such men working extremely hard abroad to ensure their wife and kids in Nigeria are well taken care of could pick offense and believe their husband is married over there and intentionally don't wanna bring them over, it's not a cool thing to generalise such sensitive topic

franchasng:
complete hogwash!!


99.99% of Nigerian men who left Nigeria left out of no other chance to make it like they wished in Nigeria, some left out of failure to even earn a living in Nigeria.


Most left in tears.


Most left without any other choice. Majority left Nigeria with temporary visa and a plan to overstay their visa..and many don't get lucky converting their temporary stay to PR or green card so they resign to fate, hoping to make money and send back home to their wife and kids to ensure family is well catered for, and even though they wish to bring their wife and kids over, the odds are against them paper wise.


You are assuming too much even though you seem to know about all these, is it a deliberate act to entertain the audience or what


Aside children of politicians and the few privileged rich kids and those from financially stable family in igeria who travel out of Nigeria to study, and few to work legally as medics, nurses, etc, tell me how many Nigerians who left the country happily


Most it's because of financial difficulties in Nigeria that made them to travel abroad for greener pasture, even on visitors visa, how do you expect them to bring their wife over

lefulefu:
what works best for them

lefulefu:
pls how many ppl are commited in their marriage .Is it the married man that has numerous sidechicks or the married woman who still goes to ex to collect levels .

lefulefu:
gbam!..this is what i know married who care for their wives do.When they travel they make plans for their wives to join them as soon as possible.Only men who genuinly love their wives do this..the rest who use abroad as excuse to escape from their wives will be given 1 and 100 reasons why its impossible for a married man to bring his wife over .When a man start giving u excuse know for sure he now has another new partner where has travelled to

lefulefu:
according to him the woman is always sad when she sees him with other girls and she always tries to get close to him.when a woman acts like that its obvious what she wants.she does not need to tell u she wants to fuk .IF op tries his move she will give in sharp sharp

lefulefu:
pls didnt u read op"s story about his married neighbour with kids whose husband is overseas already disturbing him for sex? sadly thats how many marriages in naija with the husbands overseas tend to be.A number of their wives sleep around...except the very few who still try to keep the communication strong but then its not easy o.u are many kilometers away and ur wife is in nigeria all alone.the bedroom is cold and she is lonely.no man to hold and her friends laughing at her and urging her they have guys they can hook her up with..tell me why wont she fall.Except ur plan is to sujourn in ur adopted foreign country for a short time or u making plans to bring her over then she can still hold on..only then oo.But to be dere for donkey years with no sight in plan to bring her to join u she will become disillusioned and with what her friends are putting in her mind she will begin to doubt and suspect weda u have a new partner there with u then she will fall.Its not a new thing..it happens all the time.

lefulefu:
do sailors stay in the sea for ever? ..and talking of many of these guys who work in oil rigs for months hope u know the ones who are married their wives sleep around with reckless abandon .some of these men even know their wives sleep around but they have resigned themselves to fate.Most times if u have a profession that requires u travelling all the time its wise just getting a baby mama.Footballers who travel all the time to meet their games engagements if its a long trip some of them bring their wives with them.There are some medical doctors who do their jobs travelling to different regions..u have heard of doctors without border abi? some prefer marrying each other in the same profession and if the man has a passion for travelling so also will the woman.they will travel together and do their profession together.It sucks when u as a man travel for so long a time and u just live ur wife and kids for months.Sooner or later her will power will crack and men who specialise in sleeping with married women will swarm over ur wife like ants around sugar

Originalsly:
Hmmm.... this issue has many sides. But bottom line... if family is that important to the husband... he would never leave his pretty young family for months. Most times... things don't go according to plan.... there is no support system ... and with the last money to return home.... pride blocks the return. How can one leave for abroad and return broke?? Many do not cut their losses and remain... illegal hoping for the day when good luck will drop their way. These are the people I strongly believe get trapped abroad... the reason for their not returning... and leaving the wife and kids in limbo. But some wives be happy.... money is no problem and they be free to live as they please! But in general.... husband abroad suffers emotionally..... wife suffers more.... but most of all.... the children suffer wayyy more than we believe and it can have long term effects. Don't even ask for my source. Experience is the greatest teacher.

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I know of I woman whose husband has not return for close to 5 years now. She is still faithful as far I can tell but I do pity her because it's just a matter of time loneliness will overwhelm her.

lefulefu:
Grave ke. .i no dey carry woman for head and i certainly wouldnt want extra luggage and disturbance when u want to travel.Most of the strong men then for benin wey i know wey no dey naija their wives have lovers who satisfy them.There will be a time ur wife will be become disillusioned with ur endless stay overseas and u making no move to bring her and the kids over.She will suspect that u probably have a woman over there and when she begins thinking like that she is at her most vulnerable moment.Any guy around who wants to strike at that point will easily strike and chop her or at that point she can easily get infulenced by a bad firend.she be human being with feelings not super woman.if u are a married and u travelling abroad and making plans to make it a permanent stay then why wont u send for ur wife and kids when u have settled? why just leave her in nigeria and be sending stipends and be giving one excuse or the other why cant bring her over.does not make sense.

MrBrownJay1:
That's because you failed to understand what I wrote... If wifey is already h0rny and willing to offer the toto, then we have to be honest about the situation, instead of pretending that she won't give up the toto to the 1st available Mandingo warrior.

If you believe that this is a bad advice, then so be it.



How can a man start a family then abandon the poor wife back home? I understand why many are losing their minds.

lefulefu:
most times if u having ambition to migrate its better not to get married when u want to married.Marriage can be like a burden when u travelling out.No peace of mind and u will be worrying weda ur wife is cheating on u.If the main reason for travelling is to study u wont be able to concentrate when in class

Passionate888:
that's flyover

Passionate888:
wtf did you say?

xcellentgraphic:
When are they going to build an IT hub with 24hrs electricity for youth.....
This people don't even move with the 24 century trend.....no plan for youth at all

chipet67:
Kip kwayet pls, this Rivers State wey I dey abi another Rivers State for North?

Passionate888:
that one na federal roads, buhari say make state government no do federal roads again

DoctorG:
Are the scan findings incorrect?

martyns200:
Like what's the price range

wallg123:

wallg123:
And who said it comes inbuilt I’m phones ?.. I’m still trying to get what you driving at bro!