Praxis758:
Well said.

Relocating abroad is a vital litmus test to ascertain the truthfulness and genuineness of true marital relationship between couples (most especially, the newly married ones)

Life abroad is totally difference from the type here in Nigeria.

Imagine the pressure of jobs that separates couples, time management, currency, pressure from folks at home, adapting to the new culture abroad etc.

Most marriages do not remain the same after relocating abroad.

Honestly I still think that whatever opinion people have about relocation should be kept to themselves not always trying to impose your opinion on others. We are all adults who are capable of bearing the responsibilities of our decisions and actions, always dishing out all these advices is like trying to think for urself and other people which to me is an insult because we all have brains to use In our different ways. Moreover marriage that will scatter will still scatter whether in Nigeria or abroad, it's all about the people involved. So the earlier people stop hiding under the umbrella of marriage to shy away from important decisions the better, make your plans and leave if you have the means period.

adedayoa2:
nawa o, I know 3 women that went there before their husbands, they worked and invited husbands over.

Don't mind them, people are always quick to use the negative examples to discourage others when there are a lot of positive ones to emulate.

KennethEnyi:
Useless religious people
Gather them in one place. And bomb them
Cut Nigeria problem in half…

Bomb that will backfire and scatter you into unrecognizable pieces, try God's presence and leave an unforgettable horrible memory of you for your family forever.

Abdul05:
Many ibo men l happen to know..


don't get their money in a clean way...


Most of them involve themselves in dirty
deal .....

Senseless comment, respect the dead

debbydams:
underwear skirt...I stopped wearing it because my laps peels when I'm walking and I hate when its showing under my dress

Plus some dirty women will wear it without pants for many days/weeks without washing, when they sit close to you, you will nearly vomit out your intestines from the rotten castor seed oozing out from them. Mtcheeew

abiolamitodun:
What do you call this?

Inner wear or half skirt

SETHARTHUR:
You will need accommodation help someday and everyone will tell you this.

You can help by giving the money to pay for hotel accommodations even if it's for just a night if you must help. Bringing the person into ur home is not the only way to help because many have abused this privilege severally. While a lot of people has ended up into one trouble or the other just for trying to help so he is not wrong.

TakeNigeriaBack:
Another foolish African that has decided to carry the white man's Jesus for head like gala. Africans and Christianity/Islam foolish like 5&6.

Don't bring christianity into this, the woman simply has mental issues or drug related issues. Any sane person can see that that talk about Jesus told her--- is a senseless talk, she is just not normal and so her talk can't be taken seriously

Candidlady:


Statutory rape is called what ••••don't come at me that the boy too is underage cos we all know that won't fly••••▪

Five dead genders taking advantage of the poor girl...


You should also be locked up for asking me this silly question.. it just shows how sick you people are

But the story never said that the six of them slept with her at the same time so why saying "taking advantage " . I don't see any reason to pity a spoilt underage girl who saw nothing wrong in sleeping with every Tom, Dick and Harry on trousers willingly. The parents self seems to have sold shame to the market by taking the case to court for a 16 year old who slept with six different men in one month. Tufia

Candidlady:
Itoro
Wehdon sire


Why juvenile home.. throw that devil's spawn in a maxi facility.. let him pick soap for the rest of his miserable life

When he did not rape the girl

Thinkam:
Too bad, because Obi will drop out of the race latest December

Atiku is coming

Prophet of doom, in your dreams

Kwanza:
Bola Tinubu: Do you love me? Go and take your APV, APC and you must vote.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TieXlt5iTNE




https://www.thecable.ng/get-your-apv-apc-and-you-must-vote-tinubu-suffers-yet-another-gaffe-at-rally/amp

Maybe that is the one that we will use to vote for him in 2023. We will use our PVC to for vote for Peter Obi and use Apv and APC to vote for Tinubu

bokondogi:
Hello Nairalanders, I will appreciate your comments and advice on this post

I have been married with 2 grown up kids for more than 2 and half decades, 2 months ago my wife got in contact with one of her secondary school classmate, someone she has lost contact with since they left school 3 decades ago.

So they started calling each other, though my wife told me about him and sometimes they talked on phone in my presence but later my wife will go to her room to talk with the guy, most times in the night.

This calls always excite my wife that I could hear her laughing and I begin to get jealous and I decided to get to know what they usually talk about.

They later moved to chatting on WhatsApp and will be doing call at night. I noticed my wife started making sure her phone isn't within my reach, making sure she didn't leave her phone carelessly. We both know each others phone password, One day I get access to her phone and I open her whatsapp. I noticed that my wife is flirting with the guy, the guy wil be refering to my wife as his wife but my wife usually won't respond to this,
They were exchanging pictures, and admiring each others pictures.

The guy was proffesing love to my wife but wiffy won't reciprocate to this advances.
Once a while I use to check wiffy's phone for any new development, and I find out wiffy use to send both money and airtime for data to the guy (my wife is into a lucrative business and money isn't her problem).

So one day a friend of mine send me a short porn video which I showed to my wife, she requested me to forward it to her, (I was surprised by this her request because she usually frown at porn), I sent it to her on her Facebook messenger instantly, but I was suspicious of what she wanted to do with the porn video. 2 days later she called me that she wanted to send the video to a female friend of her on WhatsApp but she didn't know how to forward the video from messenger platform to whatsapp.

I now forwarded the porn video to her on WhatsApp because I was curious what she wanted to do with the porn video, lol and behold my wife forwarded the video to this guy with a vulgar comment. I can't imagine my wife using the word 'toto', I have never heard this word from her
I now find out that this guy has earlier sent to my wife a porn video which she later deleted. I was shocked by these discoveries. My wife that frowns at obscene words is now using one in a chat with a man and even exchanging porn with him.

Even some gift items I kept in the house, I discovered my wife gifted them to this guy.
After these discoveries, I confront my wife with the evidence but she find it hard to deny and she said that she didn't know what she was doing with the guy was wrong that she didn't know the implications,
She told me she did not have any sexual contact with the guy and she swear about this, but I find it hard to believe, though I didn't find any evidence of this in their chats,
I am heart broken, this is a woman I trust so much,
Though she begged me and told me she won't have contact with the guy again, but I find it hard to believe.

I plan to throw her out. Is this the best decision?

Thinking of throwing her out is such a rash decision to make. You said it that she has never cheated on before and she owned up to her mistakes and apologized. Everyone makes mistake and thank God the man hasn't slept with her so pls forgive your wife and give her another chance, everyone deserves a second chance and I m sure your wife has learnt her lessons.

lhordspy:
Olosho now don get opinion. Waow.

Ask her to recite state and capital now. She would lost her voice. Dumb head.

They have finally turned this election to cruise. Where every tom, olosho and nu!sance now want to chase clout.

That has nothing to do with her voicing out her opinion as a Nigerian, at least she have enough sense to make her point which you are commenting on so free her it's a free world for everybody.

BeardedMeat:
And you think the men of this generation are better?

But that won't stop us from condemning this kind of eyesore that was displayed there. Men and women are not in the battle of who will be more rotten. This one is just too bad and disgusting, where is their pride as women?

timesuploaded:
Visa in exchange for depression in America. Every single Nigerian who traveled to America regretted it and console themselves with the rubbish news they read on Nairaland about Nigeria. All the money you saved to travel you won't save it for 15years working as a slave in America. Guy use that money take set up something before you go set your life backward another 10years

Stop confusing people and giving advice on things you know nothing about. That you can't afford to travel out doesn't mean you should be discouraging people who have the means and opportunity to do so with fake and fabricated informations. Every body's destiny is not the same so free those who have such dreams to pursue their dreams.

habibaabdullah:


https://www.vanguardngr.com/2022/11/rivers-2023-apcll-address-hunger-poverty-amaechi/

When? After the citizens would have died of hunger that your party brought with them 7 years ago. You never addressed it all these while only to just realize that you will now address it in 2023. Mtcheeew! Deceivers

robinso01:
Pretend not to see anything, don't even say anything about it to ur aunty husban. Just be observing in 3D.
What will expose her will surely expose in due time, but don't be the one.

This is the best advice you can get from here so adhere to it in order not to end up being the source for them to settle their scores at the end. Truth can not hidden for too long, what will expose her will expose her and you will still have a healthy relationship with ur aunt and her husband. Don't be the reason for their separation or divorce else you regret it for the rest of ur life.

Aareona:
Earlier this year, I went back in time to few years back when I was doing so well in Nigeria. The noises from friends and all nurtured the decision to move abroad inside of me. I became so restless till I finally leave. The first day in Canada was the day I knew this place isn't where I can be forever. Most of us would have come back before the time we had in mind except for the fact that I don't still have enough. If I want to travel to naija for vacation now, I will need up to $4k. If I take that away from my savings, I don't know how I can recover.

No one tells about the downside of this place. I feel lonely, depressed and empty most times. Because no one to talk to, just everyone in my workplace goin about their business. If I make attempt to talk to them, they just waive it with a smile. It's been 3years here and the people I still talk to on video call are friends from Nigeria. It's been 3years and my savings is still Short of $20k despite how much my friends in Nigeria do tell me how easy it is for me to make money abroad but I never tell them my situation. I can't wait to make enough and leave Canada for good. I know a lot will come at me with the usuall "come back to Nigeria na", please this is not an attempt to denigrate your abroad heaven, just for me to rant out and be fine

If you really know what you want in life, you should have been on your way back to Nigeria already and not wasting time typing this epistle for us to debate on. You don't really need us to help you decide on what to do if you have an objective in life, this whole talk about loneliness sounds so absurd except you were living in Oshodi before you traveled out if not I don't know what other means of communication that you need when you can still talk to your relatives and friends on video calls. It could have made more sense if you had used any other excuse rather than loneliness plus you don't want to remove up to $4k from your savings to come back. Come back already and finish up that your $20k in less than 1 year and rest. Just stop discouraging other serious minded people who still have prospects of making it abroad, it's not everyone that is aimless and indecisive in life.

GOTVee:
Even though I'm a born again Christian, this policy is targeted at those Anambra criminals using drug money to finance labour party noise all over the country. Their labour is finally in vain. God bless the federal government and our Muslim brothers and sisters

Born again criminal or Christian because all what your comments shows is that of an ethnic bigot with a very deadly shallow mind and unrepentant criminal tendencies to still vote in the wrong candidates into power despite the glaring negative consequences just for the little change that will enter your pocket now.

Moh247:




96 days to election na when this Zombidiots remember say them need bus

Such a dull movement for dumbos.

I guess the busses are to ferry Obi back to Anambra once Jagaban deports him to his village


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It's not compulsory to comment even when you don't have any reasonable thing to say. This ship has sailed so quit trying to slow it down

NigeriaIsGreat:
igbos and hate na 5&6

No wonder everybody no like una

And upon all the likes the whole world like you, you are still maintaining an account balance of 20k in your account. Thought the likes would have turn to billions in your bank account by now instead you are still here typing with a cheap android phone

plaindealer:
This woman is really stupid if you have to ask people how you did, it means you are shallow, you are incompetent, you are insecure and you have seriously low self-esteem, you are basically not sure of yourself.


It's very embarrassing that this clout-chasing and attention-seeking woman put this out there, you are not doing obi any favors with this sorry and pathetic rubbish, you are making him sound and look sheepish and not up to par.


What a disgrace..

It only means that no one is infallible or incapable of making mistakes. No one knows it all even you and there's nothing wrong in taking corrections from others to get better in whatever you are doing. Having a teachable spirit and a listening ear are among the most important qualities of a good leader .

GboyegaD:


He is an uncle and there are better ways to put it than yell at a nephew. That was condescending on the part of the uncle.

Who knows that may be because he has been giving signs for long that didn't pass the message enough so he decided to speak in the language that even a 2 year old can understand

Messi1:
I've always visited this my uncle at least four times a week. That is where I pass away time. His children all like me and any day I fail to come they must ask me why didn't come. I use the time i spend in his house to teach his children Mathematics and do their home work for them.

Today I was in his house, he stormed out from his room and ask if i don't help my mother at home. He yelled at me and what pain me most is that he said food is costly and they are only managing. He made me feel like i was the one finishing the food in his house. He said I should not be too frequent in his house if at all I must come.

I'm considering severing all ties to this my uncle, will that be right?

Well I sha don't see anything wrong in his reactions, truth is bitter but must still be told somehow. If you are visiting someone's house up to four times a week, what time do you now have for your own home? Plus sometimes it's also good for us to put our own brain to use instead of allowing others do that for us, sadly your uncle is right, cost of living is very high now and some people are barely managing to feed their immediate family talk of extra mouth.

midehi2:

Hmm. see justification for stealing

Na wao!

Greattestman:
No matter what my mother do to me I'll never use her for rituals..I'll rather die.

Why are you wasting your time responding to comments that doesn't deserve your energy? Pray about it and make a move, the best way to start is to start and I bet you that's what your mum is teaching you. You may think she's being mean to you now but you will later realize what she did for you and thank her. If you sit down and plan very well, you will definitely put that your small salary to good use and have the opportunity of starting your life independently early. It's all about putting your head down and being focused to make it in life.

teamc:


I'm the sponsor on the application and we applied has a family at 1st (wife studying /myself and our daughter are the dependent)
our immigration consultant call and advise that my wife should apply alone to increase the chances .
I love and I trust her just having a private thought of WHAT IF

Please don't listen to any toxic advice from this forum, the most important thing is that you trust your wife and you are being a real man. Just do your own bit and leave the rest to God almighty who will not allow your marriage to ruin, there's also no guarantee that you too may not make certain mistakes assuming you are the one traveling first. So it's all about trusting God for guidance and believing that he will make all things right for by strength shall no man prevail.

highchief1:
all the obidents I know are yahoo boys.the girls are into hook up.

Next topic please

CoronaVirusRelo:


Please!

Upload my photo to compare with those things uploaded up there? Where is that done?

UNICEF volunteers need to be at that venue to feed people.

Do I need to upload my picture for you to see they lack necessary vitamins, dehydrated and unhealthy?

One would almost think it was a ceremony in Yemen

You would have made more sense if you had chosen another lie than trying so hard to convince us with the opposite of what we are seeing here. Those pictures up there are too sound to be discredited so choose another target

CoronaVirusRelo:
Just look at how hungry and unkept they look!

Lots need food

Please can you post your pictures small let's compare it to these pictures of healthy and well nourished ladies and gentlemen displayed here

Read 1 Timothy 5: 8-10 and define a responsible husband from there