₦airaland Forum

Royruky:
She can take it back even if the receipt is in your name. The reason is simple. It was bought with her money? You should just tell her to give you the money so that you can buy it yourself. Do not let her transfer the money to you. Demand for the CASH

Anything that gifted to you with the receipt bearing ur names cannot be taken back again.


Meanwhile, any gift claimed to be given to u without handing over receipt for you, not a gift o, infact, the receipt must bear your names. Such property is only a borrowed, which is expected to be used for a while and return back later.

Naija my country, wen A does it without consequence why won't B ,C, E do it too, known fully well thre won't be any consequences, that's how 9ja degenerated to jungle.

Agybabe:
My mum but my man can have it sha if she's deceased. No blame me...that woman don try for me.

. meanwhile, if ur husband chooses his mummy too for his next of kin just because his mother try for him too. How will you feel?

You guys should learn how to make ur husband/wife be ur own flesh of flesh.

Purge out mindset of marrying because of kids alone

Anybody who uses nairaland yardstick to conclude what's going on in reality is most stupid person I ever seen, many of these frustrated urchins wailing and do gragra on redpilers lamentations thread, cannot stand in front of teenage girl and ask her out.

From time immemorial, you spend for woman to proof that you are capable man , though not stupidly o.

Meanwhile, still imagine how some guys will be having heart attack how I'm dealing with my own girl/wife.



Diagram below shows typical repiller republic.

Penguin2:
Only a fool without foresight will open his mouth and condemn Nnamdi Kanu.

If not for ESN, what is happening in Benue and Playeau would have been a child’s play as compared to what they would have done in SE.

But igbo are killing igbo and loosing billion of naira on weekly basis much more than Benue and plateau combine as result of Kanu hooliganism in East

AntiMen:
But could it be that I might be wrong about him crushing on me given all his actions towards me?

For me to text him, then I have to be very sure he feels something for me....

If he doesn't , it will make me feel stupid at the end...

Are not the one who said you wish to discuss with him physically?

I asked u to tell ur husband u said no but pastor

24SEVEN:
Cry all you want, Oshibunjo is a political nonentity, if left in the open he will be trampled under feet politically by any low level coluncillor. he is paperweight all day long.

your biological father is also nonentity. same as you.

Mad father pour smelling semen into stinking pussy, that is outcome of you today. Anything that comes from you can never ever be upright, you crumbled even before you started.

nairavsdollars:
Give him handkerchief nah

Handkerchief or basket?

If we are in military I will detain you for acting like civilian.

AntiMen:
I think I've figured out how to go about this.

Instead of telling my hubby, I think I might just speak with the pastor directly ,telling him how some of the members of my group have been saying how much he likes me..Maybe that will help him stay away so as not to be seen in bad light by others, or what do you think?

Text him instead, how much people are telling you, his actions towards you ,(not liking u) and that ur husband has been angry about it.

That's enough signal for him, dnt go to him personally pls.

If you go physically, it may be avenue for two of u to melt finally, you may not able to frown at him to scare him away since you too crushing, if you are smiling wen telling him ur mind, he may use the avenue to twist your brain, allay ur fear, promise you heaven and earth, with twinkle of eye! Pant will drop in ur ass.

AntiMen:
I'm overwhelmed I won't lie, but self control has been my saving grace, yesterday my husband took me to church for a meeting, we met and both of us talked, he was so uncomfortable in front of my husband, I asked him for certain things and I could see he felt something for me, when he looked at my eyes ,he was very shaky...but I understand though..

I also noticed that he exerts self control as regards the issue..,but I'm just praying he can just stop the singling out greetings amongst my other colleagues in church, of which some of them have started noticing that he likes me a lot which I don't want to be subject of discussion among them...

As regards telling my husband, I can't ! , I've done something similar, but you know human will always be human..
I'll keep applying the methods I used previously to curtail this....

Uhmmmmmmm.
I biliv ur husband is not an understanding man, and may God help him in journey of marriage, if rev crushing on u and u not crushing on him back viz a viz, it would have easier alot to quench but since two of u crushing, I biliv it will need intervention of God,for things not to happen now or latter, except if rev is transferred or u leave the church for now.


If Adeboye of redeemed could ask his spiritual son to sack a female secretary that his son was crushing on, the son said, he liked to be going early enough on Monday to office mainly to see his secretary that he would not be able to see for weekend, because he had developed interest in her. How much less u that you can't leave temporarily or tell ur husband.

As it stands now, the passion would continuing to be growing if u continue seeing each other until a day one of u will take bold step to make it reality, by then it would be almost a journey of no return.

[quote author=AntiMen post=111761224]I wish you could understand the situation of things around me..
I've said it before that my husband can't leave the church because of the key position he holds in here, also the issue that my pastor and I will end up sleeping with ourselves is a fallacy, I can't bring myself to doing that shit...I will never hurt my family nor his..



I laugh in french, u confirmed you have feelings that still battling to quench till this hour.

Your husband cannot leave church? , I guess church is paying him salary.


U see passion for opposite sex is something that extreme difficult to quench most especially if you dnt open up to those who are really concerned.

You will just wake up and find urself enmesh in dirty act. Thank God u said you are a worker, go and read about David son and how he defiled his sister, make sure you read it completely to see the outcomes most especially immediately after sex, even after sex.

Bye

Hi

ayloveit:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zyrF3N8QEyI

“No babe in her right senses will Get married to Isreal DMW, Davido’s Boy Boy, Isreal is Bland and Boring, Isreal’s fiancée is a groupie who is only getting married to him because he is an easy Target so that she can associate with The Big Boys like Davido and the rest” - Nigerian lady makes Jaw dropping Allegations!!!

No wonder many of you become evening paper like some urchins do say here.

President or Davido will not marry all girls/women.

P.A today may become CEO tomorrow, little wonder bible say one shouldn't despice days of little beginnings.

Wen most of you get 30+, u will now be going from mountains to hills looking for husbands that not available.

Also wen most you married to the man you think he is CEO, and latter realize that not all sliver that always shine ,then, ur head would be reset automatically, as usual, you blame all men or marriage itself.

TOPCRUISE:
Whichever way he has driven his point home. The angry reaction from the message shows that a lot of RCCG pastors are guilty and they always deliberately flout Daddy GOs instruction by preaching after his sermon.
However, in Next thanksgiving Service a lot of RCCG parishes might still close till 2.0 clock.

Many of much room churches dnt have capacity to air it to their congregation, go to small small churches and do ur findings.

The video might be one of those churches.

Though, I know some pastors do more than what they sent them ooo

Nevertheless, it has no singular reason to go public to chastise them, not even name calling.

Many of those pastors are working for redeem free and putting their own personal money to support the church out of wish he is spending lavishly in headquarters.

Discpline? I doubt if he would ever change. If this guy is not working under his revered dad, I imagine what he would turn to.

I think a lesson for all respected people in the society, make sure you think about concequences of what you want to tweet/post before letting it go viral. It's just like egg.


I still imagine how Christians that work around him are copping of his arrogancy and pride!

" wanting his dad and his own voices to be louder same time".

24SEVEN:
bad belle was the reason Oshibunjo overrided the contract. cos it doesnt matter if the company was a one man company, the question was if they were competent. the BPE gave them a clean bill and that was all that was required. over sabi-sabi and bad belle was the only reason for Oshibunjo refusal to accede to the contract.

You are complete nonentity, look at the mirror, you have to pity who you see.

Naija is crumbing and amazing debt with no tangible results under illiterate, no thanks for awarding unrealistic and wasteful contracts to cronies, yet you come on public forum to spit rubbish.

Truthisunique2:
there was no valid reason, osinbajo was playing politics because na how to derail amaechi selling point in the rail sector was his objective to help his own ambition

Same committee looked into it before buhari signed it

Bye, but make sure you read reasons.

Truthisunique2:
osinbajo presided over fec

If Osinbanjo presided, did he make him the rejector of the contract?


Meanwhile, even if Osinbanjo rejected, the valid reasons why it rejected, has it been addressed before illiterate approved it?


After approval, will the contract properly executed, if executed will it solve the problem?

Truthisunique2:
osinbajo was the one who rejected it

Osinbanjo or FEC? Hope you know the different Sha?

Blanket approval from illiterate president again, at the end the day, billions of naira will go down the drain without any possitive effects and paying of debt would continue


You did more than this wen procuring Super Tucano. Today, tucano not super as announced and projected by ur government.

Tomorrow, after approval and poorly execution of project, your govt will still come out to give endless excuse as usual.

LadyRosa:
The lifestyle wasn't done on themselves.This moral decadence was done by both male and female.If the males enjoys 3some, of course there will always be a female who also enjoys it as much as they do.

I biliv u re op and you talked about married women in ur headline, you also narrated how ur oga smashing married wife of a politician.

I'm now giving u reasons why married women maybe promiscuous, does it look like gender bias?

Having known that they didnt do it themselves, why you talked about politician wife follow ur boss, did she did it herself too?


Don't be a confused pls and learn how to present argument on a particular post

LadyRosa:
Not entirely true.
In my location here in the FCT, many married rich women sleeps around at will.Infact,my former boss used to sleep with one,a politician wife then in the Estate.She comes around at night,do her thing and drive off.We attend same church and she carries herself well like she does no shit.

Many are continuing leftovers of nonsense they perpetrated during their teenage years, the immoralities that some ladies committed in the university days, are out of this world, those lifestyles had become addition that can't let go from mind easily.

Some ladies during their school's days, involved in 2some)3some) even sex orgies, how did you expect such lifestyles to just fade away after marriage? Almost impossible!

In another way though, some husbands just put wife at home as decorations, like babies and foods producing machine, the machine they only need wen they want baby and food and nothing more, when such woman mistakenly jams romantic and lively man outside, it takes grace of God not to fall.

LadyRosa:
Well,it's no news that there is now a surge in women, married women committing adultery in today's Nigeria.Out of 10 adultery cases on nairaland, more than half has got women as the culprit.Infact, only this week on Frontpage,more than 10 cases from nairalanders has been recorded.

Why now?What went wrong? What could be the reasons for the skyrocketing cases of cheating wives?

Revenge?

Bad xxxx?
Economic limitations and the need to keep up financial independence in gender competitive Nigeria?
Domestic abuse and subjugation?
Religious ingenuity by respected clerics?
Age?
Social media and it's larger than life attributes,a platform where disadvantaged persons can paint a picture perfect life and get away with it?

OR?
Has men become really effeminate?

I now noticed this ugly strain in NL, disgusting yet calls for deep reflection.Our men are becoming more and more loquacious than their female counterpart,they complain too much.This bantle 'bitterness' associated with Nigeria women as been thrown to the men.Omo,the rants are getting worst.Loads and lot of verbal assault been hurled and women who have now decided to see nothing wrong in being a baby mama.

So many damaged marriages.Single women and men competing in corporations, having illicit Bleep,going home to sleep like nothing happened , resuming next day competing with each other all over again.I have friends in the island who live like this.The married ones still sleep around,the single ones keep late nights with different guys and in all I noticed they value money more than marriage.As long as the money keeps rolling in,Omo _penis no hard to get,na money be de Koko.

Marriage in general is truly overrated.

It will surely get worst.

Madam, though immoralities among married women are increasing on daily basis o, but stop using nairaland as a yardstick to do statistics when it comes to anything called relationship, not even marriage please.

Majority of posts here are figments,even the one that are real ,are not balance when reporting, and for kids that complaining and lamenting, how many of them have ordinary stable girlfriend not to talk of wife?


Those that cannot stand in front of a teenage girl to ask her out would come here and brag how he has been sleeping with different married women.

Also, many rubbish posts are posting on hourly basis about women only to get attentions, mentions & likes, it intoxicates them, you should also know that majority are complete opposite of what they claimed to be here. That is, they form hyper redpilers here but beg ladies for ordinary attention in real life, they claimed they knack" women for free but exhorted heavily by ladies that they don't even see their pants.

Try to crosscheck, several guys that put "f" on their monikers masquerading like females, that's enough to give credence to my submission.

AntiMen:
Thanks for telling me the blunt truth, but my husband holds key position in the church, there's no reason I give that would be meaningful to him except I become opened about the issue...Actually I didn't get close to him, but he ( Reverend) seems to be interested in my spiritual life, often times he wants me do certain church activities which I usually dodge, since then each time he sees me in church, he doesn't fail to call my name, if I'm seated amongst my friends, he will call me, greet me and pass, every time , since then I began to have this funny feeling for him...

It's not that serious though but it's becoming intense unlike before.

Madam, not that Rev interested in ur spiritual activities as u ignorantly believed, but wishes to been seeing you regularly because of passion of feelings burning inside him, I will advice you to " partially" open up to ur husband and let two of you deliberate upon it, pls endeavor not to tell him you have started liking him o.

If you can't change church and still refuse to open to ur husband, your journey to ride him is 2/3 achieved already.

AntiMen:
I understand you perfectly well..
As I speak with you, I'm in the same shoes you were in.
I've tried everything I can to stop this feeling but the harder I try ,the more difficult it is for me to stop...
I recently started growing fond of my pastor, he expects me to have attained a level of spirituality which I'm not interested in, so whenever he sees me in church he would remind me to come for activities that would aid my spiritual life but I ain't interested in all that shit, seeing that I didn't bulge, each time I'm in church , whether I'm close or far away from him, he always ensure he calls my name or greets me, I could be having conversations with two of my friends,he will call only my name and pass to show he's greeting me ..Sometimes I feel embarrassed for my friends cos I believe he's supposed to greet all of us and not just me...
So because of these actions I began to grow fond of him...I won't lie sometimes I steal glances at him in church and our eyes meet, but I always shrug it off..

I don't really discuss anything confidential with him, and our talks have always been in the front of others...there's nothing more to all of that asides the unusual feeling I'm having...

Recently ,my child was heal and I took her to him for prayers, he was very welcoming and prayed for her...
Now the issue is I'm still fond of him and having butterflies in my Tommy for him....
We don't chat often but each time we see in church, we just must connect some kind of way.

Let me give you undiluted advice, I will advice you either to stop going to that church for now or you change church permanently, or you tell your husband tactically.

From your story , the pastor himself has been consumed by passion of having relationship with you and that's what he has been consistently displaying by single out you alone when greeting, thank God you urself noticed the signal already.

The only saving grace now is that, he is not quite sure if his message/code/seduction
/signal has been decoded by you and if he has been decoded, not too sure if it will be positive, been a pastor, a respected man of God, he wouldn't like to shoot his shot without 100% sure.

If you keep attending the church, a time is coming that the passion would be totally overwhelmed you. I guess you know the consequences.

Kobojunkie:
1. Quit ascribing mental discipline to the wrong ideas, and try to learn what it is and how it too can help you instead..

The same husbandss/wives you speak of works daily in close proximity with men she has overtime had to form a close bond with in order to succeed in her work place. Do they completely cut off or limit communication with the world for fear that they will break their marriage too?

2. I am afraid you are the one reasoning like a toddler here.

3. I have no clue who mercy aigbe is and have no desire to know abeg. As I said, understand what mental discipline is and how it works, apply it and see how you can live without meaningless shackles for it.

4. If all you learn from your past experience is how to put more chains around yourself as an individual, have you truly learnt anything from that experience or do you instead confuse fearful Avoidance with wisdom??

Why will u want to know what's going no around you? Trying to hidden under a finger, one day ur mental discpline will fail, you also run to nairaland to tell the world how men are bad.

Keep on.

A potential if not confirmed adulterer will find it convinently dwelling among opposite gender and will be saying rubbish that it's mere friendship, friend ko, enemy ni.

DNA failing everyday yet you guy keep rocking concubine at will.

Kobojunkie:
If she had mental discipline, she can befriend anyone without being tempted in the way she described. That's the correlation between this and mental discipline. Those who have mental discipline are able to place the relationship above their emotions..

And mental discpline will also solve fight that may arise as a result of married woman befriending other man?


You guy should stop reasoning like toddler, doing something that you quite sure it would put you into problem for Christ sake.

If the woman discpline but the man refuses to be disciplined? Did u also know that rape can come out from it? Either as a result forcing her or drug her drink? How would you cope with such emotional torture for life?

Why it's too difficult in let go an opposite man who is not ur man at least to give peace for ur marriage


What stop you married man that can convinently, not only be ur husband, adviser but also ur bestie.
I think Mercy Aigbe current man is enough for you guys to learn lesson, the more they post it, the more you remain adamant, but prefer to come on nairaland to lament on daily basis.

Why people prefer to learn from their own ugly experience rather than advice.

Kobojunkie:
You are still saying entirely different things. Please consult the excerpt(and blog) below for what what a layman's idea of what mental discipline really is.

What's correlation of this with lady choose man as bestie and she falls for that as a result of friendship?

What's mental discpline has to do with such relationship?


U have nothing to say pls.

Bye

Which lesson one wants to learn from script which you have known the end from very beginning.

Wen you go for Jada public toilet Nkeshi, lesbian Tonto Dike arrogant, Dj cuppy social media, iyabo ojo fighter etc.

You should have known the lesson before you embark on such journey nah! And anything that comes our from that relationship shouldn't be a surprise.

Kobojunkie:
Let me try to break it down for you somehow!

I didn't say mental capacity but instead mental discipline. It doesn't matter who you run into, whether playboy or whatever you tag such individuals, a mentally disciplined individual, would know to prioritize the friendship over anything else, even lustful ideas.

I have myself seen this in many around me. There are friendships between individuals running over 30 - 40 years, some having met back in kindergarten but now married. How do they keep their friendships going strong even while married to other spouses? They prioritize their friendship over things like lust and the lot that will devastate their lives. I have even has one quoting the golden rule as reason why he would never cross that line because he loves his friends too much to want to see them hurt by such meaningless things..

Madam soldiers go , soldiers come Barack remains, friend comes friend goes, ur family remain intact till death, our fore father buttressed it that 20 kids cannot be friends for 20 years, why you want to keep ur friend of kindergarten/ other friends strong as ever?

Don't you you have work than to having different friends?

Madam, thre are some friends which are useful at certain times but harmful wen one advancing in age, even same gender.

Meanwhile, nobody ask u not to be friend with anybody, but it shouldn't be close friends, ur husband is supposed to be ur best friend , you can also have other same gender friend.

Let me tell u raw fact, friendship do more harm than good o, most especially wen one is advancing in age, 30 upward, I pray you will never remember my chat with you and I say hard I know in future.

Acidosis:
So for how long will she continue to run away from your vulnerabilities? Sometimes, one doesn't even have to get close to people to lust after them, yunno?

Why not condition her mind such that certain things wouldn't matter to her?

I still maintain my position that friendship is not the issue.

If she stops having male bestie, her weakness will remain inactive, no advice or play that opposite sex wants to give u that ur own gender can't offer, let stop pretending and latter blame devil.

Kobojunkie:
Again..... Reread my response to you....what has an individuals mental maturity to.do with whether he or she runs into weak/innocent or strong individuals or not??

Try to understand what is being asked and maybe then you will see that these ramblings of your make no sense considering what I asserted.

Ur mental capacity (strength) to relate with opposite sex and make him ur bestie and not fall for him.

If you meet original player (playboy) that ur mentally capabilities would not save you from him to devour you.

Hope you understand me now?