₦airaland Forum

GloriousGbola:
thank God say you say am with ya very full chest

Lol. He knows nothing.

TrebleChamp:
I think Isoko, Urhobo and some part of Benin mostly, their married women dare not cheap on thier husband.

Loooooooool. Keep playing.

UyaiIncomparabl:
You are in Lagos. Do not worry. You will meet them in all shades of black and white.

Sorry. I slept off.

Hian, God abeg oh.🤣🤣🤣

mhizsimi:
Prayer is the key

The master key that breaks every shackles.

Proserpina:

He should go to his closet in War room and commit his girlfriend into God's hands.

Forgive her and pray about it. Fight for your relationship.

Women in male dominated fields >>>>>

UyaiIncomparabl:
He wanted me to get pregnant for him, I said NO. He went ballistic and called me a swine. Lol. No wahala. Oga, if you must want the milk, come pay for the cow that pumps the milk, simple.

Plus, he lived a fast life and I did not want to be part of it. Had a lot of disgusting vices I could not condone too. I complained so much he nicknamed me "nag". I tried all I could to make him a homebody like me, but his choices were baddies which he tried all he could to make me be (which isn't bad), but I was uninterested. Two contrasting humans. We just stopped communicating but he is still generous surprisingly.

Oh wow. I really detest men that always push for pregnancy out of wedlock. Just like kuku do the right thing and put a ring on it.

Lol. To be baddie nor bad oh, at least there's God fearing Baddie.

You tried sha. I haven't met these set of men that'd want to date me and I pray they keep avoiding my path.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Yes, very weird. I even made a real life scenario here.

Oh wow.

Never knew you'd experienced this before.

If you don't mind me asking, how did you break things off with him? Did he take it lightly?

UyaiIncomparabl:
Darling,

It does not work that way. Not every supposedly generous guy is generous in the whole sense of it. Some men are very ready to sponsor your vanities but will never fund a dime to set you on the foot of financial liberation. I mean, these sort of men will rather buy you hairs worth millions than fund your potentials that can make you soar. As a girl who wants something different for yourself, what must you do if you meet such man? Must you not ask and misappropriate the funds for your own good?

Sometimes, misappropriation of funds in this context is not a bad choice. Unless there is a pattern, then it should be looked into. Until then, all I can see is a woman is very entrepreuneurial and ready to financially liberate herself.

Thank you, Uyai.

Point taken. But I find it very weird though. Splurging on women for vanities but not doing same for financial liberation.

Men are weird. Later they'd be bashing materialistic women.

Laurene:
Not glad he did because he went contrary to his beliefs as a gospel-propagating Christian.

And NO! He shouldn't use any form military to drive home his points... We're not in a military rule.
We have the civil courts go take care of issues like this.

Besides some of these people are shady... Always with a skeleton in there cupboard.
So don't ever expect someone in such caliber to accept guilt.

I totally get your point but let's put it this way. Let's put aside "gospel-propagating Christian", he is a brand on his own and it is within his own right to protect the brand's image.

Lol I agree we're not in military rule but this is Nigeria, people are gullible, there's also herd mentality, rumours and rumour mongers who spread false information about people and people unknowingly accept that narrative without knowing the truth.

There's also the civil courts for that too. Yes.
But oh well....

Looool I see where you're headed though.

Laurene:
Yeah they'll likely cower and retract it.
That's how it works in a Banana Republic...Trust me!

Yes, most definitely.

You have to use "vawulence" to drive home a point these days and I'm glad he went this route though.

Kukutente23:
You still do not get it.

You are fixated on spending and not the reasoning behind the spending

You keep pushing the narrative of everyone is free to do what they like with their money which is correct. But you should also know that more importantly, anything you have as resources should be well managed to yield maximum benefit.

Again, someone who can only think of frying yams is on the lowest rung of the economic ladder. Such persons have no business wearing a N250k hair. The boyfriend who gave her the money is more foolish because from the lady's response, it is obvious he has not taken care of things she feels are more important to her before going to N250k hair. If he had already satisfied more cogent needs for her, there's no reason she would have gone to buy yams and oil with the money he gave her for hair.

The lady is wiser than him obviously. If she does not have a job or means of sustenance, and he has not provided her one but is giving her 250k for hair, it shows how shallow and frivolous he is. The lady is more sensible than the guy obviously.

That said, someone who prefers uber to driving and can afford it is within his rights to do so. But he should also be aware of the limitations such as moving at night and cross country movements. So with that, you'll see that having a personal means of movement is more desirable than using uber and its not just the economics alone but the convenience.

And again, wearing a 250k hair to jump buses is utter foolishness. There are some things that make sense and some don't.

Lastly, you now think it's because I can't afford it that's why I'm against the spending. When I said you're a parasite, you denied it. Well, you're now thinking as one

It is futile going back and forth with you.

I agree with you. I'm a parasite indeed. A wonderful one at that.

Thank you.

Kindly accept the assurance of my warmest regards.

IrawoKross:
If your own mother does the opposite to your father at home, then I wish her all the best.

By the way, it's really lovely I made you go online searching for meanings.


Love 😘

You've run out of words to say and that's why you're deflecting. Pele, I totally understand.

You should also try using the online dictionary yourself instead of throwing words around.

Udo!

Laurene:
I mean the gospel singer is using intimidation tactics to get them retract.
The gospel singer won't like a defamation trial.

Lol yeah.

I see you're a learned colleague.

But intimidation tactics is the best way for them to retract such statements. Anytime they hear 'sue", they always go into panic mode. I'm sure he's using that to drive home his point.

They will retract it definitely.

IrawoKross:
Please, is it that you wannabe Nairaland feminist derive joy making an issue out of nothing?

As a graduate of law, you ought to be brilliant to know when someone used the word "Nearly Impossible"

Someone used "Totally Impossible" but me wen use "Nearly Impossible" you guys are already in my mention with placards of unsolicited sermons.

Don't try to make a big deal out of my comment.

No hard feelings.

Anytime a female user disagrees with y'all, the next thing is to label feminism. That format is really stale please. Be creative and get a new label.

Oh well, I applaud the lady's selflessness but you shading Nigerian women doesn't make sense.

Since you want to play smart, you should know by now what "Nearly impossible" means and its synonym. Kindly find attached.

Don't also try to make a big deal out of it because your mother is also a Nigerian lady. You didn't think about this when you subtly shaded Nigerian women?

No hard feelings, bruh.

IrawoKross:
God!!!

You sent your angel in a human form to that young man....

It will be nearly impossible to see one Nigerian lady do this.

God bless her for this.

Lol.

This is highly unnecessary of you to shade Nigerian women because nor be today this kind thing dey happen.

Lots of Nigerian women still stick to their sick husbands, even close to their death bed. They literally took the vow "In sickness and health" to another new level when they stay by their side.

Joke Silva has been standing with her sick husband (who has dementia) for years. Pray, tell me, is she a Kenyan woman?

Finally, you deserve the love you think you deserve.

seankafor:
road 🛣️ is more free 🆓 at night but e no worth am due to insecurity

Yeah.

I'm hearing lots of robbery attacks these days on the road.

izzou:
[color=royalblue]It is less stressful and faster.

Sleep and wake up at your destination, in the morning. You can even go about your business like nothing happened.

The downside? Acute High blood pressure[/color]

Oh I see.

Na that blood pressure part nor make sense.

Laurene:
He'll lose if he can't prove they're lying.
Stop using scare tactics.

Lol. I'm not using scare tactics.

izzou:
[color=royalblue]Very scary oh.

Nothing concern me and night travel again.[/color]

But why do you like traveling by night? Is it more fun?

Eunoiaa:
You and these Nairaland men. 🤣🤣


You crack me up.

I'm TIRED. REALLY TIRED.

Both the unsolicited ones and the monickers I've never seen in my entire life.

Congratulations to you.💚

edoncast:
Lol

Bros, why are you sending me a DM?

maxiuc:
A case that he will loose woefully

I said haaaaa this boy really looked like you so what's crime in that

And who told you he will lose in court?

How will you feel if you birth a child and someone jokingly says the child looks like your best friend.

Put yourself in his shoes and answer truthfully.

This is very applaudable. Foolish people will come from nowhere and want to dent reputation you've built for years and call it cruise for stupid likes and retweets.

This will serve as a deterrent to others.

Kukutente23:
People are balling hard but frying yams for sale is not an example of balling hard. Rather, it is an example of struggling hard

Look at the hair on her head in that pic. Does that look like hair worth 20k? If he couldn't give her hair worth over 20k but gave her 250k out of the blues, then something is wrong with him. If he can afford to give her 700k phone, and she adds that sum to 250k, I'm sure 1m cannot be used to do yam frying business. Something better will be in the offing. The fact that she used this particular money to start frying yams shows it's a one off thing thus, it is safe to say he cannot afford the lifestyle expected of someone who uses 250k to do hair.

The man does not want her to look good for him. He is just simply foolish. From the picture of her kneeling down beside the yams, it shows she does not enjoy such luxury from him. Thus, she sees this particular incident as a big deal to be overjoyed with.

It is utter foolishness to enter a public bus with 250k hair especially in Nigeria's broken transport system. Secondly, it is bigger foolishness to turn yourself to uber customer. Imagine taking uber for 365 days a year to everywhere you're going. If you sit down to calculate how much you have spent, you will realise it will get you a good Nigerian used car to serve you. Again, it shows a lack of financial insight on your part again.

I'm not referring to car as a sign of riches. What I am pointing out is that she has no business going about jumping from one bus to the other with a 250k hair. It is foolishness.

You think she did not pressure him for the 250k? If he can afford 250k for hair, shouldn't opening a boutique for her be a small matter?

If you observed keenly, from the onset of this convo, I didn't support buying yams when he gave her money to buy hair. I said it was misappropriation of funds.

I have looked at the hair on her head and I'm here to tell you that hair extensions are not cheap. A pack of attachment is 6,500. If you multiply that by two, that is 13k already and as you can see, the hair length is long and way past her bra length. We've not even added money for washing the hair and then paying for workmanship. So the hair on her head is 20k worthy. People spend as much as 30k and even 70k on braids.

I don't understand your problem with the man giving her 250k for hair. If you can't do it for your woman, that is totally fine, nobody will beat you for that.

And yes, it is also possible she's not used to luxury things. And probably this time, he wanted her to enjoy his funds. There are people who aren't used to living a luxurious life and don't know how to act/behave when it comes to them, it takes a great deal of unlearning and learning to get used to a new "phase of life".

You sound condescending. The real rich people do not care about these things. Really.

There's a Nairalander that I've known for 4yrs now. He never owned a car and ALWAYS used Uber everywhere he went to until he left the shores of Nigeria.

Lol. There are people who do not own cars but use Uber 365 days a year because they do not really mind and also their income outweigh their expenditure, it doesn't mean they lack financial insight. People have priorities and will use their money to do what suits them.

I can decide to jump from bus to another with my 250k wig and it shouldn't bother you.

Here again, jumping into conclusion. You accused the man for simping because he gave her 250k, now again, you're assuming she pressured him.

Just rest please. Don't worry, God will provide for you.

Eunoiaa:
I guess so too.

Sure thing.

I don't eat ripe mango. Only unripe ones.

Eunoiaa:
So it's not true for you?


Wow. With the way I see people posting about it online, I'd think it something every lady with big boobs experience.

It is not true for me oh.

I run, played football, do exercises with my big breast and never had back pain.

I guess people are different.

dollyjoy:
Back pain?
I wonder why people say this. I am on the big side and I never experienced any back pain.

My sister, I tire too.

Mine is bigger than yours and I don't still understand this back pain people associate with big boobs.