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Toktee:
I am from there and I can tell you for a fact that marrying there is pain in the ass, after paying the 1.2m every December you must send rice and other things for exams.
If grandma die you must attend with a fee imposed on you.
If your wife brother is getting married is ur duty to give him money for the marriage.
If any relative visit you, you must send something for mama, papa, and siblings.
If the papa died you mush come buried him based on the list given to you.
Mama died shame thing.
Sister/ brother's school fees is on your head.

Yet faithfulness is problem to them.
Only few are faithful.
Though unfaithfulness has nothing to do with tribe.

Not like I would have anything concerning marriage to do with a woman from Benue, but with this, I will caution people I know or meet who want to marry women from Benue.

Honestly, with the excruciating poverty in Nigeria, I see more people sink even deeper into poverty. There are certain cultural beliefs and practices we do that further entrench poverty in Nigeria.

Love56743:
Anything about relationship i have given up, Because woman are good pretenders, i know how much i spend on my girlfriend who is in Nigeria while I'm in abroad but this good for nothing girl dey cheat with guys who has nothing to offer to her ... I have given on her the day i hack her Facebook... I almost cry but as a strong man i have to bear it.. she is currently begging me but I will accept her back just to punish her for everything she did to me

To be fair, unless you both dated while in Nigeria for at least one year before you relocated, dating a lady who is in Nigeria while you are in the abroad is a futile thing to do. Long distance relationships don't always work. She is bound to cheat and there is nothing you can do about it.

MisterBanny:
Greetings to all Nairalanders, this year and even beyond, I've promised myself to focus more on developing myself and family. I will Never love any Nigerian lady until I'm ready for marriage. I also vowed that any of my male friends who come up with any relationship issues will lose our friendship cos I hate it.
A Friend has been pestering me, he needs advice as to the behavior of his girlfriend who he's dated for over Two years who he intends settling down with. Here are his complaints:

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Too many signs of red flags. I want to assume the tale is false. I cannot believe man can be this weak. It is terrible.

codedgalaxy:
Lol na so i control one "ent" this evening cause i was on vibes.
Say make she come around come chill, she come dey do like "tiger generator", na so i vex take the two initial orders quench am both mine and her's as chelsea just dey win match for me lol.
I don finish make i go she started calling me dat she don book bolt, she's coming out. Na so i tell her say make she dey her house.
damn her.

I am curious o, are Nigerians that rich that everyone going on a date uses Bolt? Ride-hailing services are not public transport per se because they charge higher than standard city's taxis. What is wrong with using public transport?

Regex:
If I have a child I could be on the parent visa.

Does this hastens the process to ILR? If it does, by how much? I thought the UK is pretty straightforward and has one path - spend at least five abi six years then get ILR? Wouldn't the costs balloon as a parent applying for ILR?

The guy did not marry her yet. They're just dating. But yeah, the family encouraged his excesses. When I mean they're in perpetual penury, I mean they are absolutely poor. His parents has 6 kids, and he didn't think it wise to pull himself out of such situation before marrying let alone having kids. , that's a mischief of life.

I talk am! Where God will punish him is if he is the first child or first son.

I wonder why he was telling he's got a family now. That's not an achievement at all

Nah. It is an achievement. They said it brings blessings. But I wonder why the country too poor if such was true.

Regex:
Now the guy is not working as he has no business and no car to drive around. Tomorrow this folk will be blaming forces from his village. Mind you thr family bought a car for him from the sale of land, and the car is broken down beyond repair. He opened a shop a sell phone accessories, and that one packed up before his girlfriend gave birth for him.

The family share part of the blame. What were they thinking when they sold an asset to support his finances? Why did they keep mute when he was failing? I won't be surprised if they sponsored his wedding. Our people tend to prioritise nonsense.

I am in UK, working a permanent job, and on route to getting my ILR, I am still skeptical of having kids, I do want to have one to cement my stay here, but omo, I gats reason the whole thing.

Except you are married to a Brit who would love to have a child to assure herself you are staying put in the marriage, how does a child cement your stay in the UK? That is, what has it got to do with obtaining ILR? Even on the kids' aspect, there is a growing number of DINK couples and the Home Office should have come across immigrant couples who have such an arrangement.

NuclearWinter:
You just pasted a whole lot of rubbish in your bid to defend this money laundry site that is owned by a Ukrainian Jew.

Which part of what I write concerning OnlyFans are you foolishly doubting ?

Is it the fact that the parent company is Fenix registered in an African country with the fact that the owner is a Ukrainian Jew?

Or is the fact that the FBI is carrying out investigation on the site as it has been alleged to launder money for corrupt politicians , drug barons, organ traders and arms dealers ?

You are a typified educated slowpoke thinking he is in any form intelligent.

In the article you screenshotted: "OnlyFans, the adult subscription company that has gained significant popularity amid the pandemic, is allegedly being investigated by the FBI, following numerous reports of money laundering, suspicious transactions, and underage users."
https://thedeepdive.ca/fbi-opens-investigation-into-onlyfans-financial-activity-over-potential-crimes/

When did "allegedly" become a fact? There is no evidence to prove that the FBI is investigating OnlyFans. First lie.

Fenix International is registered in the UK. Is the UK an African country? https://find-and-update.company-information.service.gov.uk/company/10354575
https://www.bloomberg.com/profile/company/2023411D:LN Second lie.

What does the nationality of the current owner of OnlyFans have to do with the business? The founders were British, ditto the CEO and the present owner is a Ukrainian-American who emigrated to the US way before he became an adult. How is that a sensible connection to your earlier mendacious claim that OnlyFans scams its creators of their earnings whereas it is clearly stated everywhere that OF only gets 20% with creators getting 80%? Whether a creator is good or not, OF gets 20%. What problem do you have with that arrangement?

As for your last comment, I should let you know that no one has a monopoly on using slur words. Where yours stops, mine begins. Kpata kpata, the mods will ban both of us.

Next time, learn to lie intelligently.

uunwanaobong3:
SEE PEOPLE FUTURE WIVES
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...... These wives materials na how many yards.

The men there are people's future husbands.

I never went to a nightclub in Nigeria, but visited two African nightclubs here. That was when I knew why I did not do the same in Nigeria.

It was too noisy; there was smoke everywhere, and the fact that I didn't get to sleep on a bed exacerbated everything.

Good luck to those who love clubbing. I don't like it. Enjoyment is subjective.

Regex:
I have a friend whom is the architect of his own problems today. This guy was riding bus on higher purchase, when it was near the time he would pay off the car, boom, they take the car from him simply because towards the end, he was not meeting up his quota. He would carry his girlfriend throughout the day whilst on round and she would occupy a seat making him lose money.

Last year I got a call from him telling me he's got a child now. I was angry and pissed at him. What was his excuse, he said, if you see a girl you like waiting to make the money would take time that a why he had to get her pregnant.... And that God will provide.

Over the past few years, I have become a little empathetic to people who have similar reasons, provided they have only a child while working to improve their finances. Once it passes one, anything they see, let them take it like that.

samuelson06:
And you keep talking about vasectomy. Why are you keen on that option? I'm not against it anyway, but I prefer the standard days method and condom use. No big deal with them! I personally taught my woman how to determine her safe days and we use that window very well. You know what I mean

When it comes to birth control, everyone must know about it and play their role. Above all, we don't have to allow it come in between our success or happiness in life, else the essence of life becomes defeated. I don't see anything about life if you are not successful or happy with your life.

For some of us, the only place we missed it is in the area of early marriage and pregnancy, and before you know what's going on, friends and family have ignored you to your fate. In a country that we are already plagued with bad leadership at all levels of governance, no one will want to associate with someone they can't get any tangible help from.

I am not a fan of too many children, especially when I am saddled with the responsibility of catering for them. That has been my nature, and I knew it was real the first day I resumed at my PPA. The sight of the children hit me! "I whispered to myself: it can never be me. Never should it happen." So, I want to do my part to prevent such. I am an advocate of each human being responsible for his/her actions rather than abdicating them to anyone else.

Additionally, I am a fan of women's bodies, especially young women: their succulent breasts and oiled vaginas. Should I indulge in away matches, I don't want to score own goals.

internationalman:
I have been noticing you for a long time now and I appreciate your inputs and heavy presence on travel section because I myself I'm aspiring to travel very soon on a family based (green card).

I'm saving my questions for you until when I'm called up for interview and probably when I'm in the USA also.

No about your comments on Nigerians, you are 100% correct.

As for the highest crude oil and natural gas producing countries in the world, the USA is at the top of both list.

PS. USA has always been the number in crude oil production.

That country is blessed with natural resources and good leaders that's why it's the greatest country on earth.

The only routes to emigrate to the US as a Nigerian that I am knowledgeable of are: student's visa, L1, H1B and NIW. Unfortunately, I don't know of family-based green cards routes as they are more subjective than objective.

NuclearWinter:
OnlyFans is a money laundering operation to wash dirty money from kickbacks to US politicians to Ukraine and other nefarious activities.

You do know that Ukraine is the number 1 Child pornographic nation ?
You do know that Ukraine also dominates the dark web smurf film industry?You do know that Ukraine is second after Israel in organ harvesting ?You do know that Ukraine is the most corrupt and most evil nation on earth ?You better stop taking your information from glow nigger operation mockingbird aka CNN and co.
The world is not what you perceive.
A satanic evil cabal committed to the creed of Cain are the ones ruling you.
Choose your side wisely.

I had you in mind when I wrote this comment elsewhere:

Gerrard59:
Yes. Very few Nigerians comment on issues with fact-based statistics. If no facts are readily available, certain words should be used and done contextually. It is why I write, "I am willing to bet", "I wager that" or "I assume". This clears one from making a baseless claim that could be right or wrong.

My annoyance is not just the ignorance which is soaked in arrogance, but the very fact that the Internet has democratised information. So, the same bandwidth used in chanting that the US does not have crude oil like we do could have been used to check which are the top crude oil producing countries before making that comment. If that was done, he would have learnt a thing or two.

The problem is multifaceted, as reading and writing should build critical thinking skills. A lawyer is supposed to be careful when making statements even though the person might be numerically deficient. But for where!!!!!!!!! Our people use words anyhow and don't support them when confronted for evidence. They make it seem like it is a sin to be questioned for facts or evidence to support their claims. Anyone can make a claim, but it must be factual. William Edwards Deming, the American economist and mathematician, had these sage words: "In God we trust; all others must bring data"

P.S. The US is now the number one natural gas producer surpassing Qatar and Australia. Yes, it is also a top crude oil producer, but to surpass Saudi would be a historical and monumental feat.

Until you provide evidence to your claims, they remain baseless!

internationalman:
Thanks. It’s very annoying the way the blow statistics out of proportion to favor Nigeria which in the grand scheme of things is not even a major force in any aspect of human endeavors in this world.

For instance, on one thread recently, one of them commented that the USA doesn’t have crude oil like Nigeria yet they are richer than Nigeria. I just laughed when I read it. I would have corrected him that the USA is actually the highest oil producing country in the world and they produce about 12 times the number of barrels Nigeria produces, not even the oil rich Saudi Arabia, UAE or Kuwait is above USA on that list. But if I did he would protest it; you know how headstrong they can be even in their ignorance.

In my opinion 90% of Nigerians graduates are illiterates

Yes. Very few Nigerians comment on issues with fact-based statistics. If no facts are readily available, certain words should be used and done contextually. It is why I write, "I am willing to bet", "I wager that" or "I assume". This clears one from making a baseless claim that could be right or wrong.

My annoyance is not just the ignorance which is soaked in arrogance, but the very fact that the Internet has democratised information. So, the same bandwidth used in chanting that the US does not have crude oil like we do could have been used to check which are the top crude oil producing countries before making that comment. If that was done, he would have learnt a thing or two.

The problem is multifaceted, as reading and writing should build critical thinking skills. A lawyer is supposed to be careful when making statements even though the person might be numerically deficient. But for where!!!!!!!!! Our people use words anyhow and don't support them when confronted for evidence. They make it seem like it is a sin to be questioned for facts or evidence to support their claims. Anyone can make a claim, but it must be factual. William Edwards Deming, the American economist and mathematician, had these sage words: "In God we trust; all others must bring data"

P.S. The US is now the number one natural gas producer surpassing Qatar and Australia. Yes, it is also a top crude oil producer, but to surpass Saudi would be a historical and monumental feat.

samuelson06:
You've touched some real good stuff in this comment. Like you've said, children are only a blessing when they are well taken care of—not choking them up in a room and expecting miracle of success when they grow into adulthood.

There's a baby genius in Maths on TikTok. The child is just two and can't really talk but can do wonders when it comes to arithmetics (not simple ones). You keep wondering how he does it, you don't understand. The child gives you straight answers to multiplication problems that should take long steps to get the answers.

When commenters asked the mom how she did it, the young mom explained that she exposes the child to learning on YouTube. So, the child keeps absorbing and absorbing those materials until it got to a stage that his brain got configured to also solve those problems without further classroom learning.

What are we saying here? The parents were able to sacrifice a screen in the house, got internet connection, and made time to supervise the child to consistently feed on the content of whatever channel that was coming from. The sacrificed the time needed for the child at that time. Now, we can only imagine the genius that child will become in future. And that's going to make things very easy for the parents because the child is going to start making money earlier than his peers.

So, once you have prepared for the child and have everything in place, parenting becomes easy. You just get result without much struggles. How many parents make time or have the financial muscle to raise a child like that? But they don't see it that way. They don't even see anything wrong with their abysmal parenting situation. Their only joy is that they are married and God has "blessed" them with kid(s).

Then when it comes to contraceptives, I think the sensitization isn't enough, but then, who are you waiting for to sensitize you on what contraception method is best for you or how it can help your life? Sadly, there's so much knowledge gap there. Do you know that most married men don't even have regard for contraception? I had a neighbor who's now in his village because of self-induced hardship. Then I used to bring condoms to the compound and I'll call him to come get some like guys do, but nigga will be behaving as though I'm introducing him to some sort of sin. So, I stopped and used my weapons alone.

Years later, he's burdened his life with two kids in a bedroom flat. His wife was doing nothing while he was a Bolter. Long story short, they had to relocate to the village because of hardship—they couldn't afford the rent again. But what brought the hardship? Unplanned marriage and pregnancy! Once women enter marriage, they want to have a baby. They hardly care whether you use condom or you don't, afterall, everyone enjoys skin-to-skin. So, you got a child when you were not doing anything serious and as if that wasn't enough, you impregnated the woman again while she was breastfeeding the baby and that forced her to wean the child at hand.

The man rejected contraception because he thought married men don't need it and the woman wasn't responsible enough to insist on protection or no sex. So, it's a whole lot of issues that require reorientation of our people. They won't just listen to you and when the chips are down, they want to push some of their responsibilities to you else they see you as not wanting to help them. Meanwhile, both of you hard same opportunities and even from similar backgrounds but you were able to delay some gratifications to fix yours.

Sometimes, they may even feel you are doing fraud without knowing that there's nothing that can bring a man down so quick like him rushing into marriage and beginning to make babies he can't raise. That thing is one way ticket to poverty and when their eyes become clear, they regret everything. Then the children have probably become street children and no longer respect them, because the children now see them as useless or near-useless parents.

Again, where's the glory? Where's the joy?

Twale! You have finished work. It has been a long time since I have seen anyone write so comprehensively about early reproduction without considering the state of the economy and non-adherence to contraceptives.

Well done! The major difference between how you explained it and how I would have explained is the choice of words. You are a calmer version of myself on a topic like this.

Your neigbour did himself very bad, ditto the woman. My crush in secondary school gisted me how she declined the advances of a man based in Canada because he mentioned she would have four kids as part of their union. If I marry someone like that, I might forgo vasectomy because I know what she can do.

The bold are pertinent aspects to note.

Thanks again.

Promise47:
🤣🤣🤣🤣 them no 1 for Porn matter no state come close to Utah

Just checked and it is not true.

https://www.kansascity.com/entertainment/article197623349.html

Utah did not come in the first five states sef. I would have wondered as the state has a high number of females and males who remain celibate or are virgins until marriage.

NuclearWinter:
OnlyFans is an elaborate money laundering operation masquerading as a porn site.

The Ukrainian oligarchs funnel their loot through this site .

If you don't know what is happening , then sit down and learn.

Learn from you?

OK, no problem. So, what do you know about OnlyFans being a money laundering site for Ukrainian oligarchs?

samuelson06:
Lol. There's nothing I hate like poverty. How can I sit and watch my children that can't even fight for themselves living in want? Many parents in Nigeria today can't even afford baby food let alone children toy.

I have a neighbor with two babies in a self-contain room. We are both paying rent. The wife takes care of the babies in the house while he works, but how much is he paid monthly? Peanut! Not even up to 200k. And he'll be bragging about having a son, when he's always timing to see when I leave the house so I can drop him off. Now, tell me, when is he going to leave behind such poverty? Where is the joy in raising the family? How can I live with two kids in a self-con, even if 1 or 2 bedroom flat sef, as long as it's rented? When am I going to build my own house and stop paying rent?
.

The mentality lies in the Nigerian culture (some ethnic groups are worse than others) and religion which tell people that children are blessings. I have been preaching since 2016 on this forum that children are not blessings from God just because they were born. Any woman can give birth including a mad woman. Children are only blessings when taken care of. To properly take care of a child(ren) requires money, time and energy. Our people just believe in marry today, born tomorrow.

As for your neigbour, two children never do for am? Why does he need more children? Having a son? I am sure he wants to the child to "takeover his lineage and name". Put his name into Google search and NOTHING WILL COME OUT! Sometimes, I blame Nigerian women and how they have allowed themselves to be deceived by religion. If I was such a woman, I will search for the best contraceptive my body accepts and play the long game till menopause. Meanwhile, when one mentions vasectomy to Nigerian men, they foolishly think it stops erection and semen production.

SoNature:
That's not entirely true. Some projects are financed by Nigerian government and are done by JB and Arab Contractors. Those companies have a lot of white people in them.

However, your logic is mostly applicable to projects that are constructed by Chinese companies. And if we are being honest, that's the best approach because Nigerian government will loot the money if you give them the cash like World Bank and IMF.

Those companies have elite Nigerians as directors, and they (the companies) are in bed with our politicians.

pansophist:
Why them ban you? wetin you do?

Anti-spam bot. I just finished reading the news that Xiaomi has unveiled a luxury car incorporating Tesla and Porsche designs on Bloomberg. Then logged into Nairaland and saw it on the Front Page. Decided to write a detailed post about it in this thread incorporating links from the FT, Bloomberg and Wall Street Journal only to chop ban.

Mukina2 and Nlfpmod no try o

Interesting comments. What the thread tells us is that Nigeria is a very poor country where Internet subscriptions are beyond the reach of most people. But if such should be believed, what do we say about the stat from Coursera that we are in the top three of her learners? Maybe we prioritise what we use our Internet subscriptions for. Pretty good if validated.

I am surprised South Africa is not mentioned. The reason can't be population as she is more populated than Chile, Netherlands or Sweden. I would want to say it is because sex is not ostracised in the Rainbow Nation or within the region as other parts of sub-Saharan Africa. But those European and South American countries are equally sex liberal. So, certain factors should be investigated to know why South Africa did not appear. Or maybe she appeared in Number 21?

I am equally baffled that South Korea did not appear as well. I would wager this is because she consumes more Japanese produced porn, just like their cousins in China and Taiwan.

internationalman:
Philippines a local government in Nigeria??

Nigeria is just 3 times bigger than Philippines, so how's Philippines like a local government in Nigeria..

A lot of misinformation going on nairaland every time I log in to read comments..

Most Nigerians lack numerical literacy. The definition of literacy being how to read and write do us bad thing.

ekelebeXstunner:
Porn na ten minutes something. Two minutes to find the right video and eight minutes to ‘finish work.’ Ninety-nine point nine percent of human beings watch porn. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise. I remember potential girlfriends’ faces used to light up whenever I told them I watched porn. Their expressions and words never matched whenever they lied about avoiding it.

Not necessarily human beings, but men. But 99% is too high. Let's put it at roughly 70% for teenage boys and at least 50% for adult men. Most women can do without watching porn.

P.S. Porn here means between a man and a woman. It might be different in lesbian porn, which I wager women watch more than men do.

NuclearWinter:
PornHub is owned by a Jewish Rabbi

OnlyFans is owned by a Ukrainian Jew and is actually a massive money laundering front. The whores on that site are paid peanuts compared to the supposed revenue that is passed through them.

If you are still watching porn, you are a degenerate cocklord who won't object to having another man fck your woman while you watch.

That is a classic example of Pareto's Principle where the top 20% get 80% of the returns, and the remaining 80% of the population fight for 20% of the returns. It is why there are fewer wealthier people in every society. The poor out-number the wealthy. There is nothing wrong with the model.

P.S. Your tale is wrong, as OnlyFans takes 20% of the earnings. How is that cheating or being paid peanuts? Regardless of your skills, you get 80% of your earnings.

grandstar:
i throway reaspect for the Netherlands, Chile and Sweden that despite their small population, they were in the top 20.

Where do the Chinese get their porn from? I am surprised they aren't on the list or has the premier banned foreign made porn? Perhaps, he feels the locally made version won't pollute Chinese minds. Imagine banning Christmas?

Japanese porn. I think Chinese men don't cherish non-East Asian female bodies, the reason they consume Japanese porn. With their knowledge of Kanji, it becomes easier to read what is written on Japanese sites.

Nuzo1:
1. China is a very regulated society. Not so many people will want to go through the wahala of VPN as most American websites are banned over there.

2. China would rather promote their own website than an American website.

3. Most of the major contents in most x rated websites are not in Chinese language.

That is true. Most South Koreans, Taiwanese and Chinese opt for Japanese-made porn. It is one of the reasons Japan is the world's second biggest porn market after the US even though the population is greying and dwindling concurrently.

Lawag3:
So it's the Christian republic of the Philippines shebi?

Most are secular countries the only Christian country I know of is the Vatican

Christians dominate Philippines. Japan and Egypt are the only two non-Christian dominated countries.

Promise47:
Na there be the HQ USA na Asawoh Porn state e get 1 state for USA way be Porn state Utah na the state name

That state has a disproportionately high number of devout Christians and is home to Mormons.

Eriokanmi:
God be praised. I'm not surprised seeing Phillipines rank second. It's home to hiv. A useless guy who lives there came home last year march to infect an innocent girl.

Phillipines has one of the highest Catholic populations in the world.

pansophist:
gerrard59, them ban you?

I see you made a comment but it was hidden by the spambot maybe?

Yes. Got banned, literally begged Mukina2 to rescind the ban and restore the post. Up till now, nothing comot.

onuman:
But with no connection to a fragile country, like Nigeria.

If Sierra Leone invades Nigeria 🇳🇬 because of this man, Nigeria may disintegrate.

C'mon! Let's be mindful of what we say in public. How can Sierra Leone invade Nigeria? Ivory Coast cannot let alone Ghana, but na Sierra Leone?