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Seems like you suffer of bladder infection of some sort. Kindly go to the hospital

kayperry:
Seems you believe so much in God, so did God tell you its compulsory she leaves before solution fit come, will it be tew much as a couple to brainstorm together thru the storm.
Just one week, she want to japa if naa her child she fit japa, according to her the husband earn peanut i think poverty furstration is more a catalyst she just wan use that child save face[b].
naa poor man house woman dey get principle [/b]



for better for stay for worst i japa .. is the trend

Whatever ! I am done with this topic. It’s so exhausting when people resort to emotional blackmail. Go and pick the child up yourself and take care of her!

kollinz1234:
your kind of thinking is so shallow and that is why you are struggling with life generally. You are talking about God not placing burden on His creatures. Is it "Godly" for a woman to leave her husband's house? Marriage itself comes with it own burden, so also life in it entirety (show me a man that has no problem/burden in his life, then I will believe your hypothesis)
but in your hypocritical mind, you want to select your own burden. Keep preaching heresy and decieving people with your inglorious thinking. Your judgement will come. Mr fair weather Christian

Your write up shows you are very incapable to think logically. Do you think everyone in life is struggling like you do? You need a brain transfer cos the one you’re using is very damaged.

People should stay away from such mentally poor brain like yours least they suffer immensely. While you go about shouting godly , you don’t think it’s not godly that the husband abandoned the child for the mother for 7yrs with no money to assist for their child. You are busy talking about “leave husband’s house” like the house is more important than caring for his sick child.

You are mentally disabled. Gosh. Get out from here! Last response to you and you will be happily ignored by me. Your next mention will be reported so I don’t see nonsense!

kayperry:
Your "only" worry is the child yet did only advice that ever came out of your mouth is she should leave, if OP allow you sef you fit hire uber go carry her cummot ! stop being an hypocrite will God come down n do it, if Op don't deserve such why should God send someone else

I’m worried about the child of course. It is not her fault to be born that way. Solution will come but I’m not in support of the pregnant wife taking care of the responsibilities. She’s not in a fit form to handle it, and the husband doesn’t have the money to hire help. God will send someone else, maybe that’s what he’s doing already. Some Nairalanders have already recommended charity organizations who specialize in the care of special needs children.

God will take care of its own.

[quote author=LotaTee post=115243273]Aunty, you are irritating. In fact, I don't even know what word best describes you. Just get out abeg.
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advanceDNA:
The solution is that the wicked mother should come and carry her child....

U parted ways with a man

U still don't want another woman to enjoy him

shes mád

How is the mother wicked? Why isn’t the man wicked? A man who abandoned the mother for 7yrs with no money to assist her. She’s not wicked pls!

The man is not even financially stable yet she loved him enough to marry him, With 15k salary and baby on the way.

They won’t see that one. The ideal picture of a perfect marriage is dying mentally. You will have to suffer and endure, mentally drained to stupor before people will congratulate you.

I cared for my aunt’s baby when she gave birth 4yrs ago and I was so surprised the amount of energy it takes to care for a healthy baby. Go to the hospital and see how premature kids are being cared for… every second is monitored.

They want this poor woman to exhaust her energy for a wicked husband. I like the mother of the child , the child belongs to them so let the husband feel the heat too. Very wicked man!

folks4luv:
Just shut up. Intially you sounded judgemental, like you are perfect, but now you are sounding stupid. A person was lied to but it was her fault for not asking if the man has a child. Like, that is just plain dumb and cruel.
You were not with her in the relationship, you don't even know her but you are playing the omnisincent who knows all things.
Just shup up and be humane for 1 min.

You will tire out my sister! Leave those folks alone. They are emotionally manipulating the story.

A husband who was so wicked that he left the mother of the disabled child to care alone for a baby with a special need for 7 F*ckin years. He never provided a kobo for the mother, he never cared a second for the child. He literally abandoned his own blood for the poor woman with no means of livelihood yet the mother kept pushing strong till she got exhausted and brought back his child.

Suddenly the man is the angel, the man is perfect, he’s the victim and the one who everyone should show sympathy on. Someone said he wants to contribute 10k for the husband sef.

It is the innocent wife that is heartless, wife that is heavily pregnant and have no ideal how to cope with the disabled child 24/7. Some even using Christianity to blackmail. Na wa o.

Yet you wonder why people commit suicide ! Nobody cares about your mental health in this country.

kollinz1234:
you are pregnant and you don't know what you will give birth to, yet you want to leave your husband not because he didnt tell you that he had a child out of wedlock but because you can't cope with the child. Karma is a very wicked bitch.
You leave that man's house, don't be surprised at what you will give birth to.

Shallom

My guy. Pls hide your head in shame! See the manipulative bullshiit you wrote for a woman who is heavily pregnant, whose world is turned upside down with a heavy responsibility placed on her shoulders with no assistance to help her cope. No mental treatment , no monetary assistance, no nothing provided.

Even God doesn’t place burdens on his creatures! Every assignments God will always provide assistance.

You are a wicked being . It’s people like you I run away from cos the way you think it’s so bad.

My only worry is the child, But God always take care of its own. It is well!

ugolightswel1:
Young woman listen to me if you can.

Anybody here advicing you to leave is a home breaker.

Your mind asking you to leave is actually trying to mislead you.

don't leave your marriage, it's for better for worst.

marriage is not come and chop
stick your ground and put the necessary sacrifice and make a great mother for your home.

Look for an assistant you people should pay like 50k monthly by the way there's no job people will rush in for it.

Assist the child in prayers and constantly take her to church for serious prayers; GOD of miracle still exists.

Try and forgive your husband

And endeavours to do all for the child with the love of GOD so that your prayers shall have a healing on her thanks

Nobody is breaking her home . Her husband can’t afford to pay for assistance to take care of the child let alone to put her in a care home for the disable .

The child according to her can’t sit, move or walk, her case is really critical and demands 24hrs care. How do you expect a pregnant woman to care 24hrs for the disabled child on her own? How will she combined taking care of her soon to be born baby and the disabled child without assistance?

You think it’s firm trick right? Or she has some sort of supernatural power ?

You talk as if you can do it yourself. Don’t make her feel guilty for lacking the strength to handle the situation. It’s a very big responsibility! The husband never told her about the child in the first place for God’s sake.

Let her decide on it by herself!

Hmmm I know exactly how you feel and your feelings are understandable without a question. It takes one to be mentally tough to take care of a physically challenged individual with no body mobility. They are 100% dependent on you for their every needs, let’s not even talk about handling of poo, urine, feeding them straight from hand to mouth. it’s a lot to take in without prior notice from your husband.

You are pregnant too and it won’t be easy. It won’t be easy and you should not be guilt-trip into making the decision to care for the child.

Rest and relax, move out if you absolutely need to. You should make the decision yourself if you want to handle the situation with your husband.

Nobody should make you guilty. Your heart should not grumble into helping the poor child, least you do all in vain.

May God send helper to the child. It may be it’s your husband’s karma in some sort of way!

Move on . A pregnant woman needs rest as well. Just take care of yourself for the now and prepare for childbirth, tomorrow will sort itself out.

My dear, never for once think God has failed you. God is infallible, he is faithful. Sometimes the things we wished to happen doesn’t , and we are left on the bad side of life.

Some things will happen to us despite we don’t deserve it. Life is a wilderness , obstacles will come, adversities will almost cripple the spirit.

We can’t fully understand it all and most times no explanation would be given. You can’t have gold without the fire, you can’t have a sharp sword without a metal. Adversity has a way of bringing out the best in us so channel the pain into your passion to succeed above all.

I can’t tell you whether to leave your husband or not, choice is yours! But never have a wrong impression about God, pls! God is the most holy , the only living God,He can never lie. Ask for strength , beg for mercy, beg for a new perspective to be given you and it shall be given.

you see this life? beauty is never underrated. don't let anyone deceive you that beauty is skin deep, abeg beauty is skin layer

workout, lose that weight, look good, in fact have a beauty rountine you do daily, take care of ya skin my brother ( no dey use eva soap and no cream for body).

my sisters, package the body.. wear sexy clothes, take care of yourself.
trim ya hairs from nose... take vitamins. sleep well , no let hustling kill you.

if these housemates were not beautiful and handsome... how u 4 say like them?

see sheggz , see adekunle. see as everyone dey gush! dem nengi , ozo , mike, etc.. how u 4 say like them?

i want up my beauty game. dia papa. *sorry dia dad*

atleast exercise is cheap. if i no workout make buhari get stroke.

I can shake my legs for Africa. It’s so embarrassing and I need to stop but I haven’t had any success.

One day I took my little cousin to braid her hair and as I sat down waiting for her hair to be done, I was furiously shaking my legs unconsciously. A stranger screamed in Yoruba at me , saying I shake leg like an old lady.

I’m shaking my right leg right now. If I don’t feel movements from my legs, I feel Unproductive.

I have a lot but my favorite is

Psalm 145:14

Which says” Jehovah supports all who are falling, and raises up all who are bowed down.”

Whatever I’m in a sad mood, that scripture gives me energy, life and focus.

God is wonderful. Whatever your situation, he will support and raise you up if you believe.

buhari is the worst president ever! i can't wait for him to leave.

some girls have no shame! i can't understand why she have to come daily to your house cos of TV and she calls herself an adult!

see how she degraded her boyfriend before o.p all for TV, empty brained dummy. I'm thoroughly disgusted, o.p you better tell her you are busy whenever she comes to watch telemudo , she will get the message and stop coming to your house.

a guy in my hood got a girl pregnant due to same scenario, i shame!

Schrodinger2:
My Sri Lankan colleague once hinted this.

i saw your dm but I'm unable to access my mail cos i lost the passwords associated with it. what was it about?

musa234:
Do you really plan on getting married at all? You talk as if you just want to be left all by yourself.

i will, when i feel I'm mentally ready. i intend having the best marriage life so i am not in a rush. I'm working on myself first.

I'm from delta state.

this your banga rice no represent us o. we first boil the rice half cooked , then add the banga water to it, lace it with correct fish, fresh pepper, onions etc. it's usually soft when it's done, not this strong rice I'm seeing in your video.

if urhobo mothers cook this food for you, you fit naked baf!

urhobo wado!

LINSAR:
Wahala oo.
Why do you want fuller boobs?
Aunty leave your boobs alone

is it yours? leave me alone.

Medianna:
So you just decided to break that innocent guy's heart just like that even before the love story began??
You should have seen it coming from the very beginning babe
You fall my hand small sha. Maybe you didn't value the guy as much as you thought you did.
If not the best person to marry is your best friend!

lolz babe, it's complicated. i value him very very much but I've had history of doubts . i doubt and question things a lot, even if i were to meet a good guy i would hold back my feelings. it was this year i realised i may be going through a childhood trauma that left me with personality issues. so many things didn't make sense about how i get scared , drive people out of my life, I'm like an island.

so I'm happy i didn't risk the bond we had , it won't have gone well. being friends with him, allowed me the liberty to be myself without being questioned and we accepted ourselves just the way we were. if we had been in a relationship, my personality would have overshadowed and burden him.

I'm working on myself to unravel the trauma, heal and be the best. i was attracted to him too but i let it slide, i didn't want to spoil the friendship.

well.. i wish him good. the thing i was scared most happened but we both left with our dignity intact.

Shugargal:
Like seriously?

yes it does work for me. i was having issues with my sleep habits and that was how i came to know it. do research on the benefits of onions and red palm oil in the body and see for yourself.

my boobs feel fuller whenever i take it. I'm not joking. maybe its my body though, I'm having a cup right now as I'm typing this. you can use red palm oil to massage the boobs too, helps in making it supple and fades off stretch marks.

toujurs:
the odd motivations you girls, feel is right is what render you girls emotional broken. And toxic. I am very sure you don't even have friends the way you are, now that one person that has distanced himself from you, you feel its okay for him to have done so. And that putting in extra efforts to bring him back is not worth it. Now you said you aren't doing any bestie with the opposite sex, like you are the only girl in this life, who cares. You will just render your life boring and dull by your self

I'm introverted and you know nothing about my life same way i know nothing about yours!

i don't even know the direction you're coming from, you are all over the place with your assumption. did i, in anyway suggest to you that i was the only girl in his life? i rarely bond with people let alone let them into my world, i bonded with him and we became best friends. he had girlfriends at some point so what are you saying? pls move on, i don't have time for this.

red palm oil and onions. I'm not playing.

what you gonna do, before going to bed slice one big onion and put in a cup. then boil water and pour into the cup with the onion, add two tea spoons of original red palm oil (not those fake coloured red oil) allow to steam and cool down , then drink.

cures so many general illness like body pain, weakness, low libido, lack of appetite, lack of sleep, gives fuller boobs too.

100% works!

we don't use it, I've eaten a soup made with this stuff once and didn't like the bland taste it gave.

Demigod22:
About three years ago I was in the guy's shoe. I have been friends with this particular lady, a very dear and genuine friendship we had. I supported her dreams, she was my adviser and I never took the friendship for granted. Then the feeling set in and she confessed she wasn't in any relationship, but then she turned down my proposal when I asked her out.

The friendship crashed and we became familiar strangers.

it always end this way. sensitivity and awkward movements suddenly creep in to break it all.

Charismatic107:
what do women want

this your question

cumoverna:
I've been there myself, its not easy. Trust me.
We have been friends for close to 2 years, I noticed she had a boyfriend, I even prayed to God that if they break up, let my proposal go through smoothly,

They broke up, finally (God pick my call) I was so happy,then I poured out my heart, because I really liked her and hoping it will work out the way I want

It didn't work out. so I stopped calling and visiting, I moved on.

She still calls me, saying why I stopped chatting with her.

so sorry.

FERNANDEZISBACK:
He's just a baby..you should be glad he left ya for good..me feel ya.. I mean the bond and all..but me still feel that any dude who can't handle rejection shouldn't be there in the first place..

focus pan yuhself as yuh seh a tap bothering yourself..the issue shouldn't badda yuh cos yuh did wah yuh feel did right..and mi si no reason wah mek yuh should feel bad bout it..
^Understood?

ya. thanks. but he's not a baby though... we have come a long way.

blazingblender:
Shai sorry

thanks. I'd be fine. must we be in a relationship? huh? what if the relationship crashes and we ended becoming each other nightmares?

make i go play * Akon lonely * first