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Chirolechick:
Ah!! You haven't read this thread @ all o, the name of the hospital is HNWMC- Houston North West Medical Centre

Hi dear,

Congrats on the birth of your new baby!!! Please do you mind sharing the hospital name and any contacts.

Gracias

Chanbaby:
Just summarize my bill based on the pm I receive. Sorry I missed out the induction and epidural bill

DR Xydas- 1700
HNWMC- 2000 (discharged after 2 days)
Epidural: $650
Induction - $200
Pead Visit - $714 ( had to call several times and battled with them cos initial bill given was $1428). I told them that I'm a self paying patient not insurance and I'm paying the complete money.
First visit- $30
Birth Cert $23 (for 1 copy)
Passport 165
VOA $200

Grow up!!!

ObikeNkem:
We Igbos support Apostle John Suleman. Apostle Suleman is greater than all Igbo men both dead and alive.

Suleman is greater than ojukwu
Suleman is greater than chinua achebe
Suleman is greater than nnamdi azikiwe
Suleman is greater than nnamdi kanu

Penance for her, not the child na

Kondomatic:
So you want the Church to lower its standard because you have repented and your child is pure?
There's always a little penance for every sin.

Can the wife send her husband packing if he does something wrong too? Or wat dumb law empowers husbands to send their wives packing? After peeps'll be complaining that women don't contribute to a household's finances. After shes paid rent, ure wondering if she can be sent packing. Wat happened to dialogue, applying resolution techniques or the good ol kissing and making up?

Toonice:
Some women we start misbehaving, that's y am asking if it is normal. When the wiffy did something Wrong can the husband send d wife packing since she is d one that paid for the rent.

Hello Oly, I feel your pain but I beg you to remember your condition. All this man wants is for the public to have a good opinion of him and he clearly doesnt mind treating u shabbily at home.

Listen to me now, your priority is delivering that baby in your stomach safely. The last thing u want now is a miscarriage. Do not provoke him as it only gives him ammunition to paint u as a bad wife. Remember he successfully fooled your mum, so fooling your uncle is no big deal.

How much do you need for the hospital registration? Focus on that first. As for the machine, u can start working with / for someone.

cuteoly:
Thank you all for your advice. Let me give you an update. I went far this time, I broke our wedding pix, hide our marriage cert and told him I hv cut it into pieces and also told him I hv sold our wedding rings and will still sell mor of our properties since he swore he won't be contempted me. I asked him to settle me with the machines so I could leave him and find my way with my kids.
Packed out of our room to another room. So when he saw a different me, he ran to my uncle and told him that I hv gone mad. When asked what he did he said I found a condom he left in his pocket since his Nysc and then siezed his car keys and documents when he asked me to return them, that I harshly told him I won't, that he should trek with those women today(I admit telling him to trek to hotel with them but that condom is a new one) is it possible that a condom that was in existence since 2008 that he served will expire in 2019?
I will attach the pix. He didn't want to mention other cases I caught him at all.
I have to open up to my uncle and his wife and they were asking why I didn't keep all my evidences that he showed them the texts I sent him calling him a womaniser, that it was all those text that provoked him.

To my surprise, I have been asked to go home and plead with him. My aunt said that all marriages are like that including hers. That cheating is in men's nature. But the worst of the advice is that I should go and apologise to him. That some women are looking for a place where they could just call their home even if it means beating them 3times a day. Talking about the machine, he told my uncle he provides everything I need in the house that he doesn't want me to stress myself for now. That he will do that once he is done with his project.

Please (re) define slightest provocation

divinelove:
if everyone shld divorce at d slightest provocation[i][/i] no one will be married for up to 5yrs including ur pastor n d wife

Yeah, safe sex will help prevent infecting the wife but it's not like she gonna be able to ensure he follows her bidding. It's not going to stop the emotional connection and bond that a couple should share from ebbing out. n that's y women snap sometimes. It's always a long time coming. U never know how she might react to a 'minor' incident cos she's been brooding and fuming for a long time. My heart goes out to her. I doubt u know the emotional torture this woman is going thru

divinelove:
U shld go back and read d next sentence dt follows d safe sex part, it's merely a change of strategy sometimes u can't change everything by force. Besides safe sex will help prevent d worst dt is infecting her wife, so is like a lesser evil. So I am nt supporting cheating but trying to see if d man comes back to his senses

Personally can't imagine a discussion with hubby bout practising safe sex. I mean the guy is already cheating with no remorse. Isn't that like a licence to cheat. U hear of people practicing open marriages and then the guy and other lady hook up to wife's annoyance. I wonder wat the world is turning to.

Acidosis:
I'm not against forgiveness as people make mistakes. In this case, the man is adamant, he's seeing nothing wrong in his actions and even claiming to kick out his own baby from his wife's womb..

That's crazy, I don't exprct such from a normal human being

As if that wasn't enough. He beat the lady in his MIL's presence.

Thats enough to send him to prison

I doubt that Acidosis is advocating divorce. He's only contesting your suggestion that she should advise her husband to have safe s.ex.

Yeah, maturity and wisdom is required but does not equate condoning extra marital 'safe' sex. After all, who's gonna enforce that her hubby conducts safe sex.

Do u actually realise the dangers of extra marital sex? Look at this lady sacrificing and asking her hubby to route all his money to his building project in the hope of a better tomorrow yet without registering for antenatal at 7 months.

Can't u see his affection and resources are being diverted?

divinelove:
U are a complete idiot dt may never see the wisdom in my opinion so I may not bother to engage u. It takes a lot of maturity n wisdom to manage a troubled marriage and dts beyond the understanding of kids like u.

Divorce can and shld never be embraced at d slightest provocation in marriage.

I feel u big time. We keep reinforcing bad behaviour wen we make all these nauseating generalizations. Stereotypes are introduced from childhood and the effects are sadly wat results in posts like this.

chrispratt:
My dear I'm married oh and just like you, I appreciate him so much when I see posts like this as well as the *advice* people have to give. All the popular ones like

Love him more
Don't provoke him to beat you
Buy him condoms and lube to help him cheat safely
Watch *war room* (a fictional story by the way)
And my personal favorite: Men are polygamous in nature.

I'm married to someone who neither cheats nor beats me, he loves me, treats me with respect and is a great dad. I'm know now that is a rare occurence. I'm happy that you also have peace of mind in your home.

Wen a guy that has vowed to protect u is bold enough to humiliate u in the presence of ur mum.....

There are good guys and I pray u find urs. My hubby isn't perfect but posts like this help me appreciate him more

Stay blessed

chrispratt:
I don't know you, but this is one of the best things I've read on nairaland. Your post made me smile.

Nigerian men scare me.

This is such an important message. Rather than preach bout heaven , healing, 10 commandments, the beatitudes or even rapture...it's to preach about a national contest on whose manhood is large enuf. SA, i hail o

I guess I don't have enough willpower, then. I was already vexed reading bout the annoying hubby but that guy's post escalated my vexometer. U actually hit a pregnant woman in the presence of her mom. Wat utter disrespect and what was that bout pregnancy being a trigger for cheating husbands?

I guess I just had to respond so he could see that I wasn't buying into the warped version of emotion, he was referring to as love. N y everytime someone says, I love u I bliv its in good order to find out wat u mean by love. In the words of Tina Turner, wats love got to do with a randy, disrespectful, over - annoying ,disgusting specimen of a hubby sef?

Viking007:
It took me a lot of willpower to ignore that useless comment You quoted. Some people deserve some hot e-slap for posting rubbish.

You must be a genius to see the obvious love seeping from the tyrant of a hubby. I mean he hit a 7 month preggy lady and threatened to cause her miscarrying.

With love like this, who needs hate? With love like this, i'm sure those over pampered wives are missing the pummelling of a lovin hubby wen mum is around.

I bow indeed to your superior wisdom , knowledge and foresight.

holocron:
Madam, u have no problems. Your husband loves and cares for you. Give him his private space. Stay off his phones and stop snooping around him. Eavesdroppers never hear good of themselves. You are 7 months pregnant, and such can hardly satisfy the sexual needs of your virile husband. At least condoms confirm that he practices safe sex, and nothing is lost. Things will normalize when you are fit again. Create a conducive atmosphere in your home and watch your marriage flourish. Stop making your home a hell on this earth.

Hehehe

Damned if u do, damned if u don't.......

eyinjuege:
It will still be the wife's fault for giving him too much food, and for not pushing him to exercise.
Meanwhile, if she also portions his food and insists on healthy diets, she will drive him out to some other woman that can serve a meal with 4 pieces of cowleg, 3 of shaki/towel, 6 of pure beef, 2 of tendon and 3 bottles of chilled stout.

Wat bout all those pot bellied men cheating on their wives. Y reduce men to puppets unable to adapt. Yuck

burticious:
Also remember satisfying your man food and Sex craving are very important in marriage.. If you do well wit that two.. Probabilities of your man cheating on you will be minimum.. If he's not feeling your food and you re not giving him adequate Sex.. Then I'm sorry

I'm soooo sorry for u. U are unable to make your points without resorting to insults. Now look for your mates to play with. Next!!!

femi4:
Gullible slut? So the MOG is supposed to take advantage of a gullible slut.

Are you always this daft?

Yeah at the end, she's still the loser, proving herself as a gullible slut. The info shows how intimate she CLAIMS they were, not necessarily how close they r.

femi4:
At least the info shows how intimate they were even though some blind followers will not think outside the box

Too much Information o

Whether ure lying or telling the truth, only u, God and the Apostle know and He'll mete out judgement accordingly but this is just too much info from u

Y'all biko remove your account details from this thread.

How much, dear?

onpointme:
Also available! Contact us today.

Thats not the info i have from peeps that are doctors and lecturers o

masterchi:
Rivers state dey up to date with salary

The ones dey have, dem never pay. Una doh o

God blesssss you

tolulinks:
There's 608k in your account but your woman is in debt of 10k and you are asking for..... for what exactly? Something about you smirks stingy.

@op - u wanna divorce her because of 10k and 5k. How much du pay ur maid sef? How much is cab fare for ur numerous battalion girlfriends? U should be asking urself y ur WIFE doesnt have a cosy relationship with u and has to resort to petty thievery.

Next u'll be saying the poor lady is unappealing, hence ur legion of side chicks but how much is it to fix a nice weave on, or a spa session. Just thank God, she didnt take you to the cleaners. If for nothing, for putting her at risk of STDs and stop emphasizing its ur money, thats money that would have been better spent on ur kids.

Trust me, u most likely would have been doing way better but the way ur 608k is tripping u, probably getting in the way of more blessings God has in store for u that ur character cannot handle. Ur time could also be better spent developing urself than on girlfriends. Mchewww

God blesssss you

tolulinks:
There's 608k in your account but your woman is in debt of 10k and you are asking for..... for what exactly? Something about you smirks stingy.

@op - u wanna divorce her because of 10k and 5k. How much du pay ur maid sef? How much is cab fare for ur numerous battalion girlfriends? U should be asking urself y ur WIFE doesnt have a cosy relationship with u and has to resort to petty thievery.

Next u'll be saying the poor lady is unappealing, hence ur legion of side chicks but how much is it to fix a nice weave on, or a spa session. Just thank God, she didnt take you to the cleaners. If for nothing, for putting her at risk of STDs and stop emphasizing its ur money, thats money that would have been better spent on ur kids.

Trust me, u most likely would have been doing way better but the way ur 608k is tripping u, probably getting in the way. Ur time could also be better spent developing urself than on girlfriends. Mchewww

but he's already told u to run for your life....caveat emptor, let the buyer beware

She shouldn't leave them with the father cos it's likely he will abuse them too....Yeye man

Thanks, I appreciate

Sophiamax16:
Oakbend hospital bill is 2500$, Dr 's bill depends on d Dr. From 1900 to 2300$.

Please how much are Oakbend's fees in total and do u have any contact you could link me up with?

onyijess:
Dear Mamas in the house, I planned given birth at Oakbend hospital earlier and also paid the hospital bill associated with the delivery. However, my baby came at 35 weeks shortly before I could travel. Please how do I get a refund for the hospital fees from Oakbend? Thanks in advance.