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I really don't know why a guy will opt for a dependent chick, woo her with gifts and financial promises till they tie the knot and then get angry when she exhibits behaviour in sync with the expectations he set up for her during courtship. Apparently, the wife believes a guy must foot her bills n before anyone says the woman is unemployed and can't afford her phone, wat happened to cutting ur coat according to ur material? Not sorry for the guy, at all.

I'm sorry but this is rather scary

nairalife2013:
Some women are fast to react to emotions. Sometimes itz natural. But her own is much. I used to think my wife doesn't care abt our kids until I found out her mindset. She is so attached to me that she can hardly stay on her own for hours without me, she snuggles into my sides every now and then and would push our kids, even the last one of abt a year plus, to be on her own or with our maids when am around, so that she can have me all to her self. My wife would hardly sleep in d same bed with any of her own kids, except I was to join her there. I used to watch helplessly as they cry to their rooms almost on daily bases, after my fruitless efforts at convincing my wife to let them stay in our own room atleast once in a while. I was worried for my kids having such a mother, cos I found out my wife would not stop the habit soon. if I got angry and refuse to speak with my wife she would start running temperature before too long. If I tell u all u ll be mesmerized. If something should make me divorce her now, she will definitely become wrecked and feelingless. I had to fully come to terms with her nature and find a way to close-knit us as a family. I do not know d details, but in my opinion, yur dad didn't do well, letting yur mum go. Some women when u hurt them so much it kills their spirit so much too and d next thing they do is to beg God to take u away from their heart so that they can see u as any other person . This can affect what ever u gave to them, even kids they born for u. Itz a rare case. But itz there, even in men. Y'all become neutral in her mind. Pls go back to the distance and undo it and apologize, datz what I can tell yur dad. And for u her kids, she doesn't hate u, but am sure there is something on her mind that words can cure or affectionate action can heal. Continue to love yur mom against all odds. If yur dad loves u it means she loved yur mom. Something just happened along the way, I suppose. Pray to God for direction and take on a simple and forgiving heart. All will be well.

Y should u tell ur mum to f*ck off? Y shd ur mum worship the ground ur dad walks on for Chrissakes? Is he a demi god? I think u need to adjust ur expectations. Some of ur expectations are not healthy and I sense ur relationship with ur mum is toxic, with help from two of u.

Now if ur mum is really as horid as u descibe, suicide is not the way to go esp since u insinuate she'd actually be indifferent. Identify the negative tendencies ur mum has n work on not replicating them. If she's cruel to u, minimise ur contact with her and as much as u can, kill her with kindness.

Don't forget to honour ur mum, the first commandment with promise n pls realign your expectations.

Cheers

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Yeah right!!! Forcing her so called care of another's son down the throat of someone's child while she's alive doesn't seem right esp when the yeye care wasn't requested for. I always have a problem with love that has to broadcasted cos I always feel it's just publicity gimmicks. Abi is it by force?

N why cant Doris fight for custody of her son thru the right medium instead of on social media.

I guess they all understand their crazy child triangle.

For herself! That is the core reason!!

Ur opinion but I bliv my hussy is in a better position to assess the existence of core values or not

freelance777:
You are probably not married, so you lack the core values that enshrines the policies of marriage.

I thought I read somewhere that on knowing it was the guy, she ignored his calls. Guess, I was mistaken n IMO her letting the guy know that her phone could not be stolen is a subtle way of letting the guy know he was being ignored. I guess in all, our experiences and upbringing shape our perspectives. I truly don't have a problem with ur perspective, tho it differs from mine. I'm just not excited bout the way ure going bout resolving the issue.

freelance777:
But here is someone who still opened a chat communication telling a guy that the phone cant be stolen because of what? What does that translate to knowing fully well you implored not to establish any form of communication? Please dont be a feminist here.

U feel it's Ok to come online to say ur wife lacks discipline and fear of the unknown, whatever that means. Do u realise that communication is a 2 way affair and for it to achieve meaningful results, u have to clear ur mind of biases. U've already concluded that she's showing traits of infidelity n then u confront her. In the words of Madonna, U'll only see wat ur eyes want to see....U're frozen when ur heart's not open. Does praying sarcastically that God saves u from young women wife of nowadays stop this incident from repeating itself? Cos all I can see is blame apportionment, nothing like dearie in future pls wen a guy stops u, take dis action or that action

N to be honest, I'm not sure u know what it's like to be a nig female. Sometimes the more u say no, the more they hear yes. So be open minded n pls desist from belittling ur wife in public. Cheers!

freelance777:
Point of correction, tons of issues have occurred, that I never brought here which I had to handle myself. But there are situations where you need insight from meaningful people. Also, didnt you read the part where I said I confronted her? Isnt that communication? I also stated the aftermath of the confrontation which made me ask if I handled the situation well.

My opinion is that you seem to have a pattern of bringing your issues online, which is something I wouldn't be comfortable with, if I were ur wife. Ur the head of the home and women like men that lead without necessarily coming across as overbearing. Communicate with her. Ds is wat u did wrong, y did u do so. Listen to her n map out a game plan for the future.

If u continue ds way, u may end up with a hardened wife and ultimately lose her

Whatever u decide, please protect ur kids


May God grant u wisdom.

Yes o. Sharing chores means happy wife, happy home and better productivity at work for the head of the home n wifey

Gosh, I'm so sorry for all u've been thru!!! This relationship is a Toxic one and it's clear this woman is just using u. Ahn Ahn. I guess it's true that men really love bitches cos this doesn't cut it for me at all. Lai lai. Apparently, she sort of has a streak that's attracted to danger - dating younger guys, drug trafficking and all that ish.

Whatever u decide, please put your daughter's best interests at heart and that includes giving her a female positive role model she can learn from be4 she grows up thinking what her mum did / does is normal . You can start by ensuring you have custody over her irrespective of what happens. Protect urself too - HIV, STIs are def going be present in this kind of environment.

U sef u try. 7 years ur senior and such bad attitude...I guess u can take a horse to the river as per u're trying to force love when the signs were bloody so glaring from the start

N pls work on your deductive skills. u seem to be a poor judge of character, first off ur wife n now this 'çhurch' boy. Don't take everything at face value. U seem to be a Christian. Try and pray before making major decisions and listen to your spirit. Also, in future make informed and logical decisions rather than emotional ones. Wen u wanna buy a car, u draw up a budget, draw up a shortlist,read up reviews, possibly get second opinions and then u look out for warning signs. Here, u chose to ignore the signs, epele.

Now, since you believe that some attires are not ideal for married women, shouldn't this be communicated clearly before marriage? What I'm against is acting like u're cool with whatever the chick wears be4 marriage n then after marriage, insisting on a diff dress sense.

Acidosis:
Certainly, some attires are not ideal for married women.


When you're off the "market," you dress to please and appease the sanctity of your matrimony, not some f*kboys.

N lying and deception pre marriage is only done by females, right? I know a lady that dated a guy for bout 8 years with assurances he was AA n wen it was time for wedding, after blood tests, it was 'discovered' that he was AS.

Wat bout guys that lie bout their personal worth, where they work or their preferences as in I don't care if u wear make up or trousers and then change after wedding?

Don't get me wrong, deception on the part of females AND males pre marriage is horrible and sadly enuf, it's the woman that often lives with the consequences as she ends up either in an unhappy marriage or becomes an old maid.

If cheating is not always the wife's fault, why did u suggest that if we don't pack lunch for our hubbies, it will always result in him receiving and in this case, being receptive to that bright smile from a particular food vendor?

Ok, she packs his lunch daily and he goes to the canteen to microwave it and there's a colleague smiling brightly at him, everyday, Is that also wifey's fault? If he can't stop the particular food vendor, who's to say, he'll stop his colleague from flirting with him.

For whatever it's worth, I try to prepare bfast for my spouse every morn. Now, if I'm ill, out of town , or hurt cos of his actions n don't prepare his bfast, so cheating is justified?

Chidoks:
Ah! Read well na. I'm not blaming the wife, I haven't accused anyone yet. I'm only wondering what his wife's reaction would be if she notices the relationship they are kind of breeding. Yes I already know, cheating is not always her fault.

@ Onegai - I love u

@ Op - u have no clue what is going on in people's homes n u blaming the wife for ur colleague's straying eyes is quite judgemental. Or you've not heard of ppl who share their wife's well packaged lunch with their office crush?

The Super woman wife will wake up, get the kids ready n possibly head off to work n must still pack food for hubby. Yes she can, if the benefit does not exceed the stress but if the stress is too much, let hubby buy food n keep his emotions in check. Afterall if she starts looking worn out, that's another excuse for the bloke to cheat.

Mind u, cheating is not always the missus' fault.

Whatever, dude

Keep wearing ur exes n ur enormous propensity to cheat as a badge of honour

U try wella, u hear

Chanchit:
I think your husband is very nice, so if get small argument with my wife she would now pack to her parents house!? When many Ex still dey on BBM, whatsapp, fb, na when she finish her parent go come beg before I accept her back into my facility. But one thing is sure, I'm not going to their house.

Wedding or rag day

du guys help with the dpr stuff

ur friend?

if they can afford it, then they should get 2nd n third opinions

wen the gen hospital says they cant do anything bout it, does it mean the stitch is still in place? cos that means the thread is not gonna dissolve. Tho, i guess i'm stating the obvious

any reason why apc peeps never accept defeat?

Buhari never agreed he lost previous elections. Evn wen GEJ was gracious enuf to concede defeat, Buhari still had to insist that he had won previous elections.

Dakuku, go and restrategise, abeg. 2019 is coming and its def possible to win after u lose. Ask Buhari, if in doubt.

#IneversupportedGEJ

any more info bout ur family members, u'll like to volunteer?

Spill the 'church's' name, biko.

Just imagine how many ppl I'll be saving from a verified false prophet. Get ur family involved!!

Nonsense

Nkasiobi87:
my story is real and true, believe me this is what am passing through. but please because I have not decided on whether to revenge or not, let me leave the church name for now if he didn't change then I will publicize his name, the church name.for now all I need is how to deal with this situation at hand before they start thinking that am powerless and weak.please bear with me for not exposing the church name. but my story is not fiction .

loves u n is cheating on u? mutually exclusive o? Pls where r ur parents and wat r they saying in all these? Satanic agents of a hussy n mistress.

@ nkasiobi - this one has passed nkasiobi. i really wish you'd tell us the name of this filthy church. smh at such wickedness

wateva u do, get a job n become independent/ yeye dey smell

So, if we no show the belle, then we're uncomfortable.

Ok o, point taken

Speak for yourself, dahling or speak for the women in ur circle

nnamdiosu:
but when e reach time for school fees, house rent, this or that you women will not remember to help or be a help mate. but if e reach house work.....una brain go remember help mate. most women . ....deceiving themselves since eve gave Adam the apple.

35kg? R u for real?