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iReport: How, why founder of RCCG woke up from the dead the first time • Plus his last moment on earth, as revealed by his daughter
Saturday, March 28, 2009
Perhaps, not many people know that the founder of The Redeemed Christian Church of God, Reverend Josiah Olufemi Akindayomi, was the head of the prayer warriors of Cherubim and Seraphim, a white garment church; that when he died the first time, he had to be brought back to life by God to settle his scores with The Apostolic Faith after being shown his house in heaven. The life of this great man, who cut off from all family affairs towards the end of his life, is by no means full of mysteries as reflected in the spiritual growth of the church today.

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Mrs. Deborah Akindele, daughter of the

founder of The Redeemed Church







In this interview, the daughter of the founder, Mrs. Deborah Akindele, gives an insight into the private life of the man who founded the fastest growing church in Nigeria.

Insight into the family make-up.

My mother had eight children, with only three of us remaining now. That is Mrs. Titi Adewale, Mr. Ifeoluwa Akindayomi, and I. There are also two other surviving children, they are Mrs. Funlayo Olukowajo and Mr. Kolade Akindayomi.

Personal decision to become born-again?

As early as primary six, I was conscious of my parents as ministers of God. I joined the choir at 15. I answered the altar-call at age 20. Those days, when you responded to the altar-call, you pray very hard, plead for God's salvation. And you will know that something had happened to you, then you will begin to cry. That’s why they used to call us Church awon to Sunkun (Church of the Sobbers.) And from that point on, it will really be very hard for you to do ungodly things. You see, I used to be a very tough and hard youth. Now I have cut off old ways, now I am born-again, and now a pastor.

What roles did your mother play in the church?

Mama used to deliver pregnant members of the church, though she had no formal training as a midwife. I believe she was taught by the Holy Spirit. Mama Pupa (also called Mama Olu,) and others helped Mama during deliveries. Whenever delivery proved difficult, Baba would come and pray, and the delivery would come easily.

Mama taught us the way of the Lord. She discouraged us from anything that Baba did not like. Being members of the church has affected our life-styles. That is why we are all humble and contented.

Reactions when Papa left the old church?

Baba was the head of the Prayer Warriors: He was called Baba Tonriran (the one who could see visions.) He just prayed for people, and would not demand money. Even when you received miracles and bring him money, he still would not take it. There were both physical and spiritual reactions from members of the C&S church.

One day, when our mother was feeding my elder brother, Joshua, he suddenly stretched his body, and got very sick. It resulted in a mental imbalance that lasted till his death at the age of forty. Also there was money problem all the time. So Mama resorted to selling provisions. I would sell before going to school. And it was the money that I made that we would use for feeding. Food was eba everyday, without meat.

There was no money for birthday or Christmas dresses. But like Apostle Paul, we could handle both abundance and lack. Baba reluctantly agreed to build a house, saying his house was already in heaven.

How did Baba receive his call?

He was not comfortable with happenings in the old church, where people would go to the cemetery to pray, and do fetish things. God told Baba that the C&S church was only a stepping stone. That He was preparing a greater ministry for him. He had the message that he had to move forward. But the leaders of the C&S church resisted.

How did Baba get the name The Redeemed Christian Church of God?

After Baba formed his own church, he named it Egbe Ogo Oluwa (Ogo Oluwa Fellowship). Later, he renamed it The Apostolic Church, but members of The Apostolic Faith Church said he took their name. He wrote a tract under the name of The Apostolic Church, and The Apostolic Faith Church opposed it, and he had to burn the tracts. It was a bitter fight that the first time he died, God had to send him back to life. He said God showed him his house in heaven, and told him that though he had done almost everything required of him, he still had to come back to settle his old score. So he quickly went to reconcile with The Apostolic Faith Church. The name Redeemed Christian Church of God, came to Papa in a dream.

When he was sleeping, the name appeared to him on a blackboard. When he woke up, he wrote down the words. He even pronounced it when he was telling his pastors, though it was in English. He added that the Lord said He would provide all the needs of the church, and that He would meet the church when He came back.



Founder of The Redeemed Christian

Church of God, Rev. Josiah AkindayomiWhat kind of a father was Baba Akindayomi?

A disciplinarian. He was a no-nonsense man. When he is ready for church on Sunday, and you are not ready before he entered the car, you will have to find your way. And you must get to the church before him! and that included Mama. He used to cane people; his children, even members of the church, including pastors.

Anytime we were coming home from church, Baba would hide near the Casino Cinema to make sure we did not play away. Then he would just show up behind you. One day, I got into trouble with him after a fellow came to visit me during choir practice. I had to tell him not to come again after Baba caned me.

But Baba was also kind to his children. He really loved children. When I had my children, Baba would come to my house at 9, Willoughby Street. He lived at Mushin. He took my husband as a son. My daughter, Toyin, lived with Baba. We only brought her back for secondary school when it looked like Papa would spoil her. When I was working at Igbobi, Papa asked me to resign, and he opened a shop for me. When I was selling food, Baba would come to help me. When I told him not to do that, he would sit down, and say he didn’t mind if anybody saw him there.

What was Baba's attitude towards having boyfriends and how did you meet your husband?

My husband joined the church while he was living with his sister, Sister Alaba. He and I were in the choir with Sister Shade, now Mrs. Aderibigbe, and her husband, now Pastor Aderibigbe. When I went for choir practice, I don’t talk to people, because of Baba. But maybe my husband was noticing me. He may have told Sister Shade that he had an interest in me because one day, Sister Shade said I should come to her house. I got there and met Pastor Akindele! They served drinks and biscuit.

Pastor Akindele talked to me, but I didn’t give him an answer. But he kept on talking about it until after one year when I relented. Baba had already told us to marry only born-again Christians, and also to marry within the Church.

But it was difficult to tell Baba about marriage so I told my mother and Baba Segun, now Pastor Ademulegun, who was then a policeman. He helped us tell Baba. Baba did not agree immediately, but he later agreed.

What was Baba’s conduct towards the end of his life?

Baba was very much liked by ladies. Some would not even mind if they had no children for him. Towards the end of his life, Baba cut himself away from worldly affairs. He no longer got involved with family affairs, even though his children were living with him. And he made marriage restitution though it brought him problems. It was easy to do away with wives who had no children. But the one that had children, he told her to take anything she liked. He encouraged her to marry someone else. But he took care of all her children.



Pastor AdeboyePastor E.A. Adeboye’s succession as General Overseer?

Even at the beginning of the church, Baba had been making utterances that his successor had not come. He had said that his successor would be tall like him, and would even be able to wear the same size of his clothes. One day, Engineer Chris Fajemirokun, employer of then Brother Akindele my husband, brought Pastor Adeboye to church. After the service, Baba told Mama that his successor had come, even though he had not talked to him. The following Sunday, Baba told his pastors. When he told them, after service that day, Baba followed Pastor Adeboye home, as part of normal visitation to new comers. Pastor Adeboye was surprised. Later, he then sent for Pastor Adeboye, who was then afraid. Baba invited him to the house, and both of them went into Papa’s bedroom, and had long discussions, and Bible lessons together.

But when Baba finally told Pastor Adeboye that he would succeed him, Pastor Adeboye ran away to University of IIorin. Each time Baba told him about the succession, Pastor Adeboye would thought Baba was joking. On a trip to America, Baba asked those present to pray for Pastor Adeboye as his successor, but Pastor Adeboye was praying that God should make Baba to change his mind. But he finally accepted before Baba died.

Baba gave Pastor Adeboye one rod which he brought from Jerusalem, and he prayed for him. When Baba was about to die, he knew it, so he sent for Pastor Adeboye, who could not come due to some reasons. But Mummy GO (Mrs. Folu Adeboye) came, and was there when Baba died. But later my husband, handed over the papers and everything to him,

Changes introduced by Pastor Adeboye?

Pastor Adeboye introduced clapping, and serious dancing into the church. Baba would never allow it. Even though we danced, but not like it is today. Though the pastors and the older people resisted it, but the youth loved it.

Courtesy: Master Key.

http://odili.net/news/source/2009/mar/28/609.html

MRbrownJAY: ^^^^ as i stated earlier, its all about peace of mind. so if you believe that you know everything you need to know about someone after 6 months, then marry them but IMHO, just to make sure, you should let it play out. i mean MARRIAGE is not going to run away from this world, so waiting cannot be hurtful to your r/ship...... or can it? so why the rush, unless you are desperate?! we all know that desperate people dont think rationally because they have an ulterior motive that will erase whatever common sense they may have. so if anyone feels that someone will get their bf/gf before them then it means that they were never meant to be with you.

as for you mentionning God on this matter, pls lets not start a whole new debate.....but keep God out of Marriage pls, as only the participant are to be blame for its failure or success NOT GOD!



forget about dating/marriage for a minute and then tell us all how a man should care for his immediate needs, if he cannot get a job?! traffic light begging maybe? highway robbery? 419? drug dealing?



lol, NL never fails on the comedy part......see this comedian bringing out all his tricks!

justirich: There was a rich merchant who had
4 wives. He loved the 4th wife the
most and adorned her with rich
robes and treated her to delicacies.
He took great care of her and gave
her nothing but the best. He also loved the 3rd wife very
much. He’s very proud of her and
always wanted to show her off to his
friends. However, the merchant is
always in great fear that she might
run away with some other men. He too, loved his 2nd wife. She is a
very considerate person, always
patient and in fact is the merchant’s
confidante. Whenever the merchant
faced some problems, he always
turned to his 2nd wife and she would always help him out and tide him
through difficult times.
Now, the merchant’s 1st wife is a
very loyal partner and has made
great contributions in maintaining
his wealth and business as well as taking care of the household.
However, the merchant did not love
the first wife and although she loved
him deeply, he hardly took notice of
her.
One day, the merchant fell ill. Before long, he knew that he was going to
die soon. He thought of his luxurious
life and told himself, “Now I have 4
wives with me. But when I die, I’ll be
alone. How lonely I’ll be!”
Thus, he asked the 4th wife, “I loved you most, endowed you with the
finest clothing and showered great
care over you. Now that I’m dying,
will you follow me and keep me
company?” “No way!” replied the 4th
wife and she walked away without another word.
The answer cut like a sharp knife
right into the merchant’s heart. The
sad merchant then asked the 3rd
wife, “I have loved you so much for
all my life. Now that I’m dying, will you follow me and keep me
company?” “No!” replied the 3rd
wife. “Life is so good over here! I’m
going to remarry when you die!”
The merchant’s heart sank and
turned cold. He then asked the 2nd wife, “I
always turned to you for help and
you’ve always helped me out. Now I
need your help again. When I di*,
will you follow me and keep me
company?” “I’m sorry, I can’t help you out this time!” replied the 2nd
wife. “At the very most, I can only
send you to your grave.” The answer
came like a bolt of thunder and the
merchant was devastated.
Then a voice called out : “I’ll leave with you. I’ll follow you no matter
where you go.” The merchant looked
up and there was his first wife. She
was so skinny, almost like she
suffered from malnutrition. Greatly
grieved, the merchant said, “I should have taken much better care of you
while I could have !”
**************** Actually, we all have 4 wives in our
lives a. The 4th wife is our body. No
matter how much time and effort we
lavish in making it look good, it’ll
leave us when we di*.
b. Our 3rd wife ? Our possessions,
status and wealth. When we di*, they all go to others.
c. The 2nd wife is our family and
friends. No matter how close they
had been there for us when we’re
alive, the furthest they can stay by us
is up to the grave. d. The 1st wife is in fact our soul,
often neglected in our pursuit of
material, wealth and sensual
pleasure.
Guess what? It is actually the only
thing that follows us wherever we go. Perhaps it’s a good idea to
cultivate and strengthen it now
rather than to wait until we’re on
our deathbed to lament.
Let's talk......

justirich: There was a rich merchant who had
4 wives. He loved the 4th wife the
most and adorned her with rich
robes and treated her to delicacies.
He took great care of her and gave
her nothing but the best. He also loved the 3rd wife very
much. He’s very proud of her and
always wanted to show her off to his
friends. However, the merchant is
always in great fear that she might
run away with some other men. He too, loved his 2nd wife. She is a
very considerate person, always
patient and in fact is the merchant’s
confidante. Whenever the merchant
faced some problems, he always
turned to his 2nd wife and she would always help him out and tide him
through difficult times.
Now, the merchant’s 1st wife is a
very loyal partner and has made
great contributions in maintaining
his wealth and business as well as taking care of the household.
However, the merchant did not love
the first wife and although she loved
him deeply, he hardly took notice of
her.
One day, the merchant fell ill. Before long, he knew that he was going to
die soon. He thought of his luxurious
life and told himself, “Now I have 4
wives with me. But when I die, I’ll be
alone. How lonely I’ll be!”
Thus, he asked the 4th wife, “I loved you most, endowed you with the
finest clothing and showered great
care over you. Now that I’m dying,
will you follow me and keep me
company?” “No way!” replied the 4th
wife and she walked away without another word.
The answer cut like a sharp knife
right into the merchant’s heart. The
sad merchant then asked the 3rd
wife, “I have loved you so much for
all my life. Now that I’m dying, will you follow me and keep me
company?” “No!” replied the 3rd
wife. “Life is so good over here! I’m
going to remarry when you die!”
The merchant’s heart sank and
turned cold. He then asked the 2nd wife, “I
always turned to you for help and
you’ve always helped me out. Now I
need your help again. When I di*,
will you follow me and keep me
company?” “I’m sorry, I can’t help you out this time!” replied the 2nd
wife. “At the very most, I can only
send you to your grave.” The answer
came like a bolt of thunder and the
merchant was devastated.
Then a voice called out : “I’ll leave with you. I’ll follow you no matter
where you go.” The merchant looked
up and there was his first wife. She
was so skinny, almost like she
suffered from malnutrition. Greatly
grieved, the merchant said, “I should have taken much better care of you
while I could have !”
**************** Actually, we all have 4 wives in our
lives a. The 4th wife is our body. No
matter how much time and effort we
lavish in making it look good, it’ll
leave us when we di*.
b. Our 3rd wife ? Our possessions,
status and wealth. When we di*, they all go to others.
c. The 2nd wife is our family and
friends. No matter how close they
had been there for us when we’re
alive, the furthest they can stay by us
is up to the grave. d. The 1st wife is in fact our soul,
often neglected in our pursuit of
material, wealth and sensual
pleasure.
Guess what? It is actually the only
thing that follows us wherever we go. Perhaps it’s a good idea to
cultivate and strengthen it now
rather than to wait until we’re on
our deathbed to lament.
Let's talk......

HumbledbYGrace: As I was watching a christian movie called "Fireproof" the was a song about love,I checked out the lyrics and came to realise that,I have never loved a man and I have never been loved in return.well the way love is defined in the bible.

"Love is not a fight"


Love is not a place
To come and go as we please
It's a house we enter in
And then commit to never leave
So lock the door behind you
Throw away the key
We'll work it out together
Let it bring us to our knees

Love is a shelter in a raging storm
Love is peace in the middle of a war
If we try to leave may God send angels to guard the door
No, love is not a fight but it's something worth fighting for

To some, love is a word that they can fall into
But when they're falling out
Keeping that word is hard to do

Love is a shelter in a raging storm
Love is peace in the middle of a war
If we try to leave may God send angels to guard the door
No, love is not a fight but it's something worth fighting for

Love will come to save us, if we'll only call
He will ask nothing from us, but demand we give our all

Love is a shelter in a raging storm
Love is peace in the middle of a war
If we try to leave may God send angels to guard the door
No, love is not a fight but it's something worth fighting for

I would fight for you, would you fight for me?
It's worth fighting for

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CFCfan: Fellow Nlanders resident in the United States and Nigeria, did u guys watch Michelle Obama's speech? I always thought she was an effective surrogate for her husband in the campaign. But men, that speech was almost Earth-shaking. Even some cable news pundits (from FOX, MSNBC and CNN) said it was the best political speech given by any U.S. First Lady. Any thoughts?

her speech:
http://www.nytimes.com/video/2012/09/05/us/politics/100000001760461/michelle-obamas-speech-at-the-dnc.html

Full Text



http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/election-2012/wp/2012/09/04/dnc-2012-michelle-obamas-speech-at-the-democratic-national-convention-full-text/?tid=pm_politics_popitchell

maclatunji: 11. Average people believe the markets are driven by logic and strategy. Rich people know they're driven by emotion and greed.

Investing successfully in the stock market isn't just about a fancy math formula.

"The rich know that the primary emotions that drive financial markets are fear and greed, and they factor this into all trades and trends they observe," Siebold writes.

"This knowledge of human nature and its overlapping impact on trading give them strategic advantage in building greater wealth through leverage."

12. Average people live beyond their means. Rich people live below theirs.


"Here's how to live below your means and tap into the secret wealthy people have used for centuries: Get rich so you can afford to," he writes.

"The rich live below their means, not because they're so savvy, but because they make so much money that they can afford to live like royalty while still having a king's ransom socked away for the future."

13. Average people teach their children how to survive. Rich people teach their kids to get rich.

Rich parents teach their kids from an early age about the world of "haves" and "have-nots," Siebold says. Even he admits many people have argued that he's supporting the idea of elitism.

He disagrees.

"[People] say parents are teaching their kids to look down on the masses because they're poor. This isn't true," he writes. "What they're teaching their kids is to see the world through the eyes of objective reality––the way society really is."

If children understand wealth early on, they'll be more likely to strive for it later in life.

14. Average people let money stress them out. Rich people find peace of mind in wealth.

The reason wealthy people earn more wealth is that they're not afraid to admit that money can solve most problems, Siebold says.

"[The middle class] sees money as a never-ending necessary evil that must be endured as part of life. The world class sees money as the great liberator, and with enough of it, they are able to purchase financial peace of mind."

15. Average people would rather be entertained than educated. Rich people would rather be educated than entertained.

While the rich don't put much stock in furthering wealth through formal education, they appreciate the power of learning long after college is over, Siebold says.

"Walk into a wealthy person's home and one of the first things you'll see is an extensive library of books they've used to educate themselves on how to become more successful," he writes.

"The middle class reads novels, tabloids and entertainment magazines."

16. Average people think rich people are snobs. Rich people just want to surround themselves with like-minded people.

The negative money mentality poisoning the middle class is what keeps the rich hanging out with the rich, he says.

"[Rich people] can't afford the messages of doom and gloom," he writes. "This is often misinterpreted by the masses as snobbery.

Labeling the world class as snobs is another way the middle class finds to feel better bout themselves and their chosen path of mediocrity."

17. Average people focus on saving. Rich people focus on earning.

Siebold theorizes that the wealthy focus on what they'll gain by taking risks, rather than how to save what they have.

"The masses are so focused on clipping coupons and living frugally they miss major opportunities," he writes.

"Even in the midst of a cash flow crisis, the rich reject the nickle and dime thinking of the masses. They are the masters of focusing their mental energy where it belongs: on the big money."

18. Average people play it safe with money. Rich people know when to take risks.

"Leverage is the watchword of the rich," Siebold writes.

"Every investor loses money on occasion, but the world class knows no matter what happens, they will aways be able to earn more."

19. Average people love to be comfortable. Rich people find comfort in uncertainty.

For the most part, it takes guts to take the risks necessary to make it as a millionaire––a challenge most middle class thinkers aren't comfortable living with.

"Physical, psychological, and emotional comfort is the primary goal of the middle class mindset," Siebold writes.

World class thinkers learn early on that becoming a millionaire isn't easy and the need for comfort can be devastating. They learn to be comfortable while operating in a state of ongoing uncertainty."

20. Average people never make the connection between money and health. Rich people know money can save your life.

While the middle class squabbles over the virtues of Obamacare and their company's health plan, the super wealthy are enrolled in a super elite "boutique medical care" association, Siebold says.

"They pay a substantial yearly membership fee that guarantees them 24-hour access to a private physician who only serves a small group of members," he writes.

"Some wealthy neighborhoods have implemented this strategy and even require the physician to live in the neighborhood."

21. Average people believe they must choose between a great family and being rich. Rich people know you can have it all.

The idea the wealth must come at the expense of family time is nothing but a "cop-out", Siebold says.

"The masses have been brainwashed to believe it's an either/or equation," he writes. "The rich know you can have anything you want if you approach the challenge with a mindset rooted in love and abundance."

From Steve Siebold, author of "How Rich People Think."

http://finance.yahoo.com/news/21-ways-rich-people-think-differently.html?page=2

joanana: The movie “Act Like a Lady, think Like a Man” inspires this article.

This one is mainly for the Ladies…

Any woman who thinks she can control a man by incorporating what she learnt from a book into her relationship might just be making a huge mistake. In a relationship, I believe the man is the head and the woman functions effectively as the neck. Now, while the head contains 80% of our senses, the neck controls the head. If the neck decides not to move, the function of the head would be limited. Ladies, learn how to be his neck.

Most of you would wonder how you can become the “neck”of your man. It’s as easy as ABC – Men love to be pampered. We gave birth to them…ergo, they are our ‘babies’ and they must be treated as such.

It’s absolutely necessary to make your man realise that you and him are a tag team. Don’t let him feel as if you’re against him. After all, it’s you and him against the world. You therefore need to work as a team to keep things rock solid.

One of the lessons I’ve learnt in marriage is that even when your belly is full and you feel you’ve had “enough” to eat, you still have to chew something called the “Humble Pie.” Learn to say “I’m sorry” and “Thank you”. Its amazing how these small words can help us avoid the big fights. The little things, like courtesy, that we take for granted are actually very important to the other party.

People also need to realise that what works for “Miss A” may not necessarily work for “Miss B”. You need to adopt your own strategy in dealing with issues in your relationship, and these strategies would most likely change as the men come and go because no two men are the same.

There’s no hard and fast rule as to how long a man would stay with you based on strict conformity to certain guidelines or instructions from a Rule book. Why would you even allow a book dictate your next line of action in your relationship?

Whether you decide to release the “cookie” from the Cookie Jar on the first day or after a year, if he’s gonna leave you, he’ll still leave…

I know someone who’s married to a man she made out with on their first night out together – they’ve been married for 15years. I also know someone who kept the ‘cookie’ in the Cookie Jar for a year before she finally allowed him in, and guess what? The guy dumped her a month after she let him in. **I’m not telling you to copy anybody o**

Some relationship rule books would say “If he loves you, he should be the one that would always make the first call”. How can your man be the only one making the first call everyday? Does that even make any sense? If you follow them, your relationship will hit the rocks!

Ideally, I believe one of the secrets to a long lasting relationship is effective communication between both parties. [/b]You need to communicate constantly! If you have something to say to him, please say it and stop bottling it all inside. If you want to talk to him, you don’t have to wait for him to call, you can pick up your phone and call him.

[b]Getting into a new relationship is like starting a new business – you’re not sure if it’s going to work out, so you can only hope for the best. It’s a risk you should be willing to take because it may (or may not) work out. If it doesn’t work out, then both parties can go their separate ways (hopefully, with no hard feelings). It’s very important to remember that both of you are from two different homes and if you want to make it work, you have to be ready to fully “accommodate” his character.

I had a conversation with a few friends about who should say “I love you” first. Most of them said they would never ever say it to a man first while a few said there was no big deal as to who said it first. That’s left for you to decide, it should be a personal thing! I hear there are some married couples that have never even said “I love you” to each other…. that’s really serious but it’s gist for another day.

When I was in school, I had this room mate called Bisi* who was dating one really quiet Chibuzor* guy that she was really crazy about. Bisi had no secret(s), she would sit us down in the room and tell us everything that was going on in her relationship. She always said she felt better every time she poured out her heart to People, and she really didn’t care who she was telling what. Some of our other room mates would go about gossiping about her and spreading her gist but I was wise enough to learn a thing or two from her.

One night after a long lingering kiss, Bisi looked Chibuzor straight in the eyes and said “I’m crazy about you and I love you very much”. She said she caught him off guards and he almost choked. He replied her by saying “I love you too”. After that day, he opened up to her in a whole new way and he would always tell her how much he loved her. He started expressing himself to her more than before and that even made them closer. Please, note that the fact that it worked for her doesn’t necessarily mean it would work for you o!

Someone once told me that one of her greatest regrets in life was the fact that she never replied her late fiancee every time he told her he loved her. She said she felt she would look ‘cheap’ if she said it back to him. Sadly, he died in her arms after a terrible asthma attack. As she watched him battle asthma, she kept screaming “I love you baby” until he took his last breath on earth. I believe he would have appreciated the words more if only she had told him while he was alive.

If you have a man, make sure you show him all the love you’ve got inside of you. Don’t hold back on anything. Make sure you give him all the support you can, talk to him nicely, tell him how you feel about him and how he makes you feel. If you miss him, let him know. Also, send him sweet messages. Don’t be known as the chic that sends texts or BBMs only when she needs something. Life is too short for you to hold so much inside, you need to let it out. One life to live baby, why live it hating on him all the time when you know you actually love him…

And if you’re about to get into a new relationship or you’re on the verge of mending an old one or even if you’re man-less at the moment…please remember one simple thing – there are no hard and fast rules. In fact, break all the so-called rules if you want, enjoy your life, just be happy.

Go out for a drink and chat with the girls sometimes; be approachable; smile; make friends; be positive; stop the constant shouting; maintain a cool voice; be well behaved; don’t be lousy; be confident and most importantly, be yourself and pray to God for your Prince Charming. Before you know it, you’ll be swimming in his pool of love.

Merely thinking about how to make a relationship work can make one feel feverish. It’s simply left for us to play it how we want to. So are you really going let the ‘fever’ hold you down and mess up your relationship? Or are you going to rise above the ‘fever’ and work on how to make your relationship successful? I would choose the latter.

Then again, the choice is yours….

Dosopseh26: my dear, their are so amny ways to assists ur man is not only financially. if u can concentrat well on doing the home job sincerely, ur husband will be satisfied and God will surely bless you.

HumbledbYGrace: Its my best song ever by Jesus Culture


I can hear the footsteps of my King
I can hear His heartbeat beckoning
In my darkness He has set me free
And now I hear the Spirit calling me

Wake up child
It's your time to shine
You were born for such a time as this

I can hear a holy rumbling
I've begun to preach another King
Loosing chains and breaking down the walls
I want to hear the Father when He calls

This is the anthem of our generation
Here we are God, shake our nation
All we need is Your love
You captivate me

I am royalty
I have destiny
I have been set free
I'm gonna shape history


The way it speaks to me,I hv collected Healing Rain by michael W Smith,worship again and the second decade.I even downloaded all the tracks from the movie Fire Proof,OMG.I Love Praising and worshipin God all the time but M.W.Smith and Jesus Culture does it for me,Wait!CHris tomlin and hillsongs

acidtalk: THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER DO AT YOUR WORK PLACE.

* Never get to talk about your colleagues to fellow colleagues especially what you can't say openly. It has no other word but you being a GOSSIP. Those same people you gossip with are most likely going to tell others what you said and how you are such a bad gossip.

* Avoid lending money or other items from colleagues. Its better to look outside for your financial, fashion and other needs rather than looking for your helpers within the office environment. You always lose respect from colleagues when you take your needs to them.

* Avoid discussing your family, emotional, financial and general problems with colleagues. In the office place, there is always something to be said and the day the office lacks gist, a secret shared with a colleague might just pop-up to be the discussion of that day.

* Never talk evil about your bosses, colleagues and job. The office setting is like a jungle. It is always survival of the fittest. A colleague who is the bosses' enemy today can turn around and seel you out to gain favours from the boss and remain in their good books.

* Never buy things all for the purpose of impressing your colleagues. While you are busy doing fashion competition with your fellow colleagues, always remember that your days to exit their company is drawing near. Either through retirement, retrenchment, resignation or even sack, one day you will have to leave that company. So rather than waste of frivolous items to create a 'fake personality', try to have savings to help you out during raining days.

* Don't always offer to pay for meals and other items for your colleagues when you go outing. Since you all collect salary, then don't make it a point of duty to always pay for colleagues. If you do it consistently just to create a 'nice personality' image, it will be taken personal by colleagues when you try to stop.

* Let your colleagues know your turnoffs. In as much as you should avoid quarrels, confrontation and malice at the office, it is always good to point out to colleagues when they do anything to you that you aren't happy with. Let people know when they are crossing the line of familiarity.

* Never be too dependent on a colleague. If you have a colleague who has a car while you don't have one and go your direction, don't always make it a point of duty to follow them every single day of the week. You get a salary and part of the expenses you need to incur is yours transportation so don't be too miserly. Even though the need to save is understandable, don't make anyone believe they are doing you a huge favour. There's nothing wrong if you decide to take public transport even while your colleague is heading towards your direction. That way they will not only respect you, but also realize you can do without their favours.

* Where and How one finds love is something that can never be predicted. But if you can totally avoid having a relationship or falling inlove with a colleague then the better for you. It saves you from subject of office gossip, uneceassry pressure, fake life, self denial and a lot of other vices associated with dating a colleague at the office.