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It’s always good to consider all possibilities, no matter how ridiculous, before judging.

Rebuke:
Kneeling before her is the only way to ensure orderliness?

I really commend the woman for her kind gesture in a time like this but making people Kneel to collect money from yhu, older women at that, ah, nooooo!

The type of leader matters.

Once in awhile, one comes along and restores the hopes of the people.

There’s a time lag. Most logical explanation I have.

jetwonder:

But Prices of good is still high!
Government should look into this.

Could be the only way to ensure orderliness.

Could also be a symbol of activities at a higher dimension.

If you know what I mean.

It’s always on loan.

You can’t own it.

Once you realize that the negative and nay-sayers will always be amongst us, you gain the power to ignore them.

This is a high-value article.

Thank you.

lawyer:
Omonilelawyer

Nigeria and drama

chisomkachy:
https://dailytrust.com/kaduna-schoolchildren-its-not-important-if-ransom-was-paid-or-not-gov-sani/

On a certain level, women are used as currency.

These GenZ people are just getting introduced to the real world.

It will be epic.

Dalohad:
Since this Gen Z buffoon cannot keep her mouth shut, she should be ready to have her certificate withdrawn.

Everytime you idiotts just open your mouths ceaslessly on social media. Please don't cry to us when you certificate is withdrawn, since you have confessed that you did not meet their moral requirement.


Look at Chioma, if she had kept her mouth shut, she won't be suffering in the hands of Erisco.

You will end up becoming the enemy.

Unless the relationship is reaaaally close and the man is wise and mature.

Some men will tell their wife that “so and so said…” and just like that, you have two enemies.

Minding your business is wisdom.

Wawelexy:
https://www.nairaland.com/8040185/friends-first-son-doesnt-look

The comments some people are making in the thread above really amazed me, and makes me wonder if some nairalander really make use of their brain.

Even if it's ordinary skin colour that looks weird or questionable among your kids, my broda quickly opt for a DNA test.

And please don't mind your business when you noticed something like that too with a sibling or very close friends, advice them too. Women are devilish... We can't keep losing our men to heart attack which could be avoided.

You see something, say something... Provided you are really close to them.

Don't trust any woman

Next

Fineman2:
“If My Husband Tells Me He Wants To Do A DNA Test On Our Child, I’ll Divorce Him” Nigerian Lady And A Pastor's Daughter Says




https://www.facebook.com/100068376034740/posts/pfbid02P7LwZ7Hg4QXzkTwa6ACD5opCKYQuHgMzUy5igDEQXmV8WSmdEz1L72EbM5yuLkNbl/

It’s disrespectful to your wife.

I believe this is a fake post.

No one can be this insensitive in real life.

Goldenfinger5:
The first attempt at discussing with my wife about the possibility of marrying her elder sister's daughter as my second wife into the family just passed the first reading. It was a tug of war and tears.
But is polygamy that bad, or is it the choice of wife I have chosen.
I thought the Bible supports it or maybe the society just hates it.
I know polygamy has it's flaws but so is everything in life. Let's see how it goes

That entitlement mentality is a disease.

Men have it too, but in general are more appreciative of gestures.

Usmanovic95:
Women and entitlement mentality,to avoid this sort of situation, men should try as much as possible not to disclose their earnings to their woman, e get why. Asake must have revealed the multi million he earned from the deal for the girl to feel 2m is quite meagre for her.

Mind your business.

MadeINchenzen2:
Paternity fraud is not a new trend with today's women, each time I see my friend and his kids I see the odd differences between his son and the rest of the kids... The boy doesn't look like his siblings or parents. Do I tell him to run a paternity check? Or I just mind my business?


What do you think? Suggestions and advice are welcomed, feel free to insult the OP if you can't help it. Thanks

Yes.

They also keep a mental record of what they e spent.

dalitigator:
Recently, Nigerian ladies have been discussing the monetization of relationships in Nigeria. Hence, most Nigerian men now prefer to marry ladies from outside the country.

The general notion is that men are designed to spend on Nigerian ladies while the ladies only bring sex to the table without more.

This brings me to my question. Are there Nigerian ladies who date guys who are way poorer than them and will gladly spend money on them and change their lives of these guys?

This is a silly statement and a waste of mental energy.

Each tribe has incredibly beautiful girls. More or less.

Lol

Kingnelson9:
Check out the new Zenith Bank CEO , Is there any yoruba woman prettier than her?

Our ladies (Igbos) are the most pretty in this world .
No bragging, pure facts .
Take a look at Chimamanda Adichie too...

Make I pause here

That’s a lot of money.

chisomkachy:
NDLEA launches massive raids in Lagos, Edo, Ondo, seizes 44,948kg drugs, 11 vehicles

. Busts cocaine, heroin, meth syndicates in Abuja, Kano, arrests 4 kingpins



https://www.facebook.com/share/p/XY1dbnmsDBCiNkou/?mibextid=oFDknk

Exhaust all other options before you go down this road.

There is always a better way.

MONEY247:
Hello..
Anyone with information on who need kidney transplant and how to get about it should please email me...
Or any hospital or health institution I can go for details...... for procedure wether online or offline...
I have two functional kidneys.... I am willing to sell one....


Thanks in advance

Yes.

Make sure you’re with the right person before you start “enduring”.

I advice you draw up a realistic (sensible, non-delusional) list of what you want in a man, based on your new found wisdom, and trust that life will arrange for you to meet such a person sooner than later.

If you don’t learn from your mistakes, you’re bound to repeat them.

Happytravels:
I left him because he cheated on me twice online within 1 year, and was very distant from me. Any little problem he would turn his phone off and not reply. Sometimes I was hurting so much, yet he would still ignore me. Any small problem I tried to talk about, he would just tell me I was a headache and then he would stop talking to me again. But not just that, all year he did not have job. I even give him what little money I have for his mother and himself. He asked for money and told me it is very hard to find job in owerri or Lagos and he won't make much. If I did not give him money, he would have no food. I felt bad. We were getting married in two weeks time, but I was just over his treatment of me. He did not do things I wanted in a man. He said he would get himself together when he would move in with me, but I don't know. In the meantime I met someone who was everything I wanted. A good job, a nice place, always communicated with me, always make me feel happy. I had to make a decision to stay with my fiance (soon to be husband) or leave for this guy who is much more my type of man.. so I left my fiance of 1-2 year.

Nothing was changing much with him. And he would not listen on his to keep a woman happy.
I am very heart broken about this. And his sis told me she does not know were he gone. He left her house and went "crazy" she said. I don't know if he is trying to hurt himself or not. He told me yesterday that he tried to end his life. He begged he would change. But he said he will change many times but never does. I feel so bad and worried for him. But he did not care much for me when I was suffering so much and even wanted to die because of his mistreatment. I am hoping he will not take his life. I hope he is just hurting now. And I am hurting too. But sometimes you cannot change someone who does not want to be a better person. Who hurts you daily. And cannot be the man you need.

Do you think I made a good or bad decision?

Lack of traffic

Omooba77:
What do you Love about Sunday?

I witnessed it live. I couldn’t believe it.

This Guy was wailing for a long time at the door of my Neighbour who happened to be a lecturer.

The girl was inside with the lecturer and the guy just kept on wailing, pleading, talking about the love he thought they shared, why did you do this to me… blah blah blah

Until the lecturer came out and shouted at him to leave immediately before the guy left.

Elzazzi:
Men eyes don see shege sha

But this thing dey happen sha

Whose idea was it to wear matching outfits

Testiebobo:
I dont know the reason why the church of today are against lovers who are yet to get married to wear matching outfits to the church, because we are not yet married( there is no point in this). Including my parents and my gf's parents they're both against it . It is just a sign of love and physical bondness. Or does it mean another thing? am yet to understand.

It’s all programming.

The truth frees from unnecessary mental suffering.

You will have peace no matter your situation.

9jagist01:
I’m 31, I have no husband, No child or house, Men I have been meeting are not serious- Lady cries out

A young woman has shared her feelings of loneliness and frustration on social media, responding to a video of another woman expressing similar sentiments about turning 30 without achieving certain life milestones.

see more below.....
https://www.naijabulze.com.ng/2024/03/im-31-i-have-no-husband-no-child-or.html

Provide an update pls.

Have you guys spoken since then? Did she apologize?

What ia your perception of the outcome of your decision?

AyobamiOluwole:
So this girl has been coming to my place, eat the best food and all that. I've asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said no. I do give her money without asking her for anything on return because I could see she is not the lazy type and she is really hardworking. I am very much ok with finances and I see no issues with some of her demands.


Yesterday I called her and told her that I'm not happy and that I need cuddle only and not sex(I lost so much Dollars from futures trading that night). She later called and said she will come to my place for that reason. In my mind I was thinking this will go down as sex and all, but I don't really want sex.

All I just needed is someone to cuddle and get distracted with that's all. This is the only time I am demanding something from her.

So she came during the evening time, and later that night we went to supermarket and I got her something's to eat at home for the night. We got back home and everything was going well. We were both on the bed when I reminded her why she came. This is someone I've been doing quite a lot for without even thinking twice out of pity. She wouldn't give in and wouldn't let me know why she can't just allow me to cuddle her.

Mehn, from the loss I had earlier and all that, I got infuriated and called another girl telling to pls come over for the night. Then I told this girl to leave my house since she can be that selfish. I sent her out of my house around 10pm. She was telling me she doesn't have money to go home, I didn't care and I shut my door against her. Though I was scared letting her out on that road and that time of the night but my anger got the better part of me. It was later after getting over the whole thing I confirmed nothing happened to her from someone else.

Pls is there anything wrong with what I did?

Modified: Anger is a bad thing. I am wrong sending her away at that time of the night. This is probably the judgement I'll get 😔

What’s the top thing you need right now, to make this happen faster?

Gerrard59:
Yes. Something like this: https://www.science.org/doi/10.1126/science.aad6359

The question is asked (stated clearly as the subject), a discussion begins followed by the results and final discussion which dissects the results. Researchers are mentioned and it is published in a scientific journal and across social media forums/platforms. The aim is to ensure there are fact-based evidence for any claim. Rather than I no fit lie give you, you see reasons why something exists or happens or cannot happen or did not happen or does not exist.

https://www.nairaland.com/7763389/top-jamb-scorers-where-today A thread about top JAMB scorers. This aspect is open to many questions in unravelling who are/were the top JAMB scorers, what they did eventually study, where are they today, those who made a first class, why did others not make the same first class even though their JAMB scores were high etc.

Reiki

nlfpmod:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DLvgNFV4eks&t=30s

I like the sound of that.

Will you be making the questions available to all?

Gerrard59:
In the process of applying. For instance, I have compiled close to 100 questions on socio-economic topics that must be answered with evidence backed by hard research. I decided to do this because of the too many I no fit lie give you answers Nigerians provide to general discourse. The aim is to employ journalists and researchers (graduate students and even professors) who will be on the ground to ask hard questions, get the answers, write about them and publish them in journals. Think about a science journal with lots of citations and references. Na so I wan do am.

So that if a topic is brought up for discussion, one can provide fact based evidence to support or demystify a claim. The era of trust me bro has to end.

Have you applied this in any way?

Gerrard59:
I am pleased someone found that thread worthy. If it were Twitter, I would have been lampooned because of kini kon. Thanks for the compliment.

To your concerns, the foundation for scientific development must be laid: basic mathematics, chemistry, physics and biology. Mathematics and physics need to be taken seriously, as those are the bedrock of scientific research. Chemistry and biology come in for medical treatments but are built upon the successes of mathematics and physics. For a start, we perform poorly at mathematics as we score poorly compared to the Chinese or Indians on the GRE Quant section. We even have lower verbal scores on the same test compared to the Chinese whose first language is not English. So, we have to start by ensuring the majority of the populace LOVE mathematics and logic. We have to inculcate a culture of questioning concepts no matter how sacred they might be. We have to grow a culture of curiosity in the populace. Curiosity and questioning, I believe, are necessary ingredients to kickstart basic research. Why? How? What? When? Who? These are questions people should be free to ask, and when no answers, they should press further for them or conduct research to know why there are no answers. In summary, people should be free to ask questions and get answers to them. No question is too sacred to be asked or institution to be questioned. We should do away with trust me bro, I no fit lie give you mentalities and sniffing statistics from the Bureau of Imaginary Statistics

Basic research, not applied, is the bedrock of scientific development, but it is a long term stuff. It is not something one does today and expect profits tomorrow. It is the reason Nobel laureates in the science category are judged based on works they did donkey years ago and in a few cases, some years ago as the recent winners in the Medicine or Physiology category because of COVID or Chemistry because of the speed CRISPR has grown and its applications. However, one of the reasons why basic research and its applied sister haven't been taken seriously is because we are at the nadir of the Maslow Hierarchy of Needs. People who have focused on the basic necessities of life would not be thinking of inventing or innovation. Na when person don chop belly full, him or her go begin think of discovering a cheaper or novel way of treating an ailment.

I watched a post by the BBC where traditional healers in the Southwest are paired with nurses and psychiatrists to treat or cure mental health issues. Sponsored by the World Bank, it is a good initiative as I have always questioned the efficacy of traditional healers. My argument is: that if they are so good at what they do, why are they not rich? Yes, if someone claims his or her solution is the best, they should commercialise it and become rich. Don't hide it. That is how the White man operates, ditto the East Asians. They use the proceeds of a discovery/invention/innovation to fund future research works. So, it is a never-ending journey. So, if the solution is good, then commercialise it. Make money out of it. If, because of financial constraints, it cannot be commercialised, publicise it so others fund the process and make money out of it. That was Artemisin was created by either Sanofi or Roche after the Chinese woman discovered the bark of the Artemisia tree could effectively treat malaria. The pharma company made money, and she won the Nobel prize in Medicine in 2015. So, anyone who tells you his or her solution to Problem ABC, tell that person to commercialise it or sell the methods to those who can. Any solution that works but cannot be commercialised is largely useless as it means it has no real-world application.



This is a good idea. If your watches are so good and stylish, you can pair with a good marketer and both of you collaborate to sell them. That is how to make money, which is then used to fund the company and future expeditions. So, you could find one of those folks who markets and sells watches at good rates and make a business out of it. Capitalism is the reason the white man progresses ahead of others. Humans are greedy, so money is important. Don't allow anyone to tell you otherwise. Capitalism remains the only economic system that has pulled people out of poverty than any other economic system. I say this because I read one Nairalander questioning whether capitalism promotes prosperity, whereas ALL prosperous countries today practice capitalism. A good way of assessing whether a country is prosperous is by checking the eligible countries under the US Visa Waiver Program.

So yes, there are countless examples. One is cassava processing into many by-products. We produce more cassava than any country, ditto for yams. So, nothing stops us from applying the basic research by IITA or NRCRI (they have been good with basic research into certain cash crops) into producing enough products from cassava. Cassava is a supercrop as it has many uses and derivatives. Thailand is the world's biggest exporter of its by-products. Sometimes, I think we are not risk takers; if not, why should the biggest crop producer not be the biggest exporter of any of its by-products? IITA and NRCRI are good examples of basic research, and to answer your thread, research output from those institutions should be commercialised by risky entrepreneurs who will put their money to fund the production of by-products. In return, the business environment should be free of any price regulation. I say this because should I, for instance, go into massive production of HPCF or ethanol, fellow Nigerians would moan that the price of garri has ballooned and the government should regulate the price of garri or set-up a commodity pricing board to dictate the prices at which farmers sell their produce. I hate price control; the economy should be FREE! God bless Milton Friedman.

A way to leapfrog research is by learning from others who know it. At this point in human existence, I dare say there is no point in reinventing the wheel. For instance, there is a research institution in Kaduna that studies a certain class of crop and the national chairman of its growers said the best species is in Serbia. In that case, the government can invite those Serbians to teach those in Kaduna. In return, publicise the research results so that risky entrepreneurs go into the large production of the crop and harness its entire value chain to make money. Making money is EXTREMELY important in research o. So, meet someone who knows it, pay the person to teach you. Once grasped, go on your own and build on it. That is what the Chinese did. Just know that when you are progressing so fast and even faster than those who taught you, envy will come in. The reason the US is fighting China is because of the latter's massive advancement in semiconductors and other advanced forms of scientific research. https://www.nairaland.com/7801886/multipolarism-versus-hegemonism-great-power

Finally, thanks once again for referencing my thread as that is the ONLY way to reduce racism. So if any clown cries of racism while sitting his yansh in the abroad, tell the person to move to Africa to contribute to its economic development as that is the only way to solve the issue rather than protesting and chanting wE wAz kAuNgS or bLaCk LiVeS mAtTeR. Black lives matter ONLY when the lives of sub-Saharan Africans have been improved tremendously and that work can only be done by black people. No one is coming to help us develop our environment.

What was it before

ogododo:
https://dailytrust.com/nigeria-has-become-a-killing-field-under-tinubu-atiku/

It is a gripping addiction. Triggers everywhere.

ValCon888:
They're talking as if sports betting is the problem of a particular region. Meanwhile, it's a plague that has bedeviled the entire country.

The politicians will never outlaw betting because they know it distracts the people from their corrupt activities.

Our leaders keep stealing while the poor continue to bet in the hope of making it big, but in the meantime, they're sinking further into poverty.