₦airaland Forum

Good job, Gov Fash.


Sincerely, we still have a long way to go in this country. How can our people be turning the roads to selling points and car wash centers without making appropriate provision for drainage resulting from the business. This is one of the reasons our roads aint durable. The govt will spend a lot of money on the construction and renovation of the roads, only for our people to mess it up in less than a year, and they are the people that will be shouting that the govt aint doing anything. In addition, selling on the road poses a threat to their lives. These people need to be checked.

If President Jonathan decides to join APC, there is no prblem. He would even be warmly welcome, afterall, majority of APC members were formerly PDP members, and immediately they defect to APC, they instantly become saints, that is exactly what will happen if President Jonathan becomes one of them, they will start singing his praises, see others who are still in PDP as his enemies, promise their supports for him, and so on.

But the truth is that, there is no saint in any party, not in PDP, not in APC, they are both the same with different political names. Therefore what we need to do is for we citizens to start asking them to be accountable and that God should touch their hearts so that they will be willing to deliver what they promise to deliver.

Changing their party is not going to have any effect, it is like putting old wine in a new bottle.
May God heal our political system.

And by the way, @op, how is your baby and madam doing. How was the christening ceremony. Thanking God for you and your family. Hugs!

2015 election is gonna be fun to participate in and watch. May God spare ur lives till then.

The rate at which PDP members are defecting to APC makes the whole things look dramatic, and it's also making me wonder if there is going to be anyone left in PDP by Dec 2014.
Well, not that i believe in any of the party sha, i just love the way the drama is going on, It's fun.

Chillisauce: I'm so sad

I thought we will be welcoming another nairaland baby to the family.

Take the test abeg. I love babies

we need baby from you too. Abi what do you think?


@op, im happy for you, why? Because if it's me, i would have felt the same way you felt.

The fact is that no form of violence should be allowed. Both emotional and physical abuse should not have place in marriage in the first instance. The woman was guilty as well as the man, but personally, i think the man got it wrong there and then, because two wrongs can never make a right, for him to have stoop so low to come down and drag his wife out of the car in order to beat her says a lot about the man himself. It means he himself is also a violent man, and i can bet it that, that would not be the first time for both of them to be washing their dirty linen in the public and in the presence of their kids.
Bottom line, like attracts like, both of them seems to be of the same page.



@Efe, you've never supported violence in any form, you're even always against hitting a child even when he/she errs, you always insist on non-violent way of approaching matters, but why you have different opinion on this matter is known to you, probably, because you are angry at the fish mouthed wife, and sometimes when one talk out of annoyance, one may break a principle, so, in this case, just admit that it was a slip of tongue/fingers and we will all understand and everyone will free you, afterall, we are all humans and we are prone to anger/mistake.
God bless our homes.

pro01: Abeg make we hear word. All the mörons here who relentlessly insult the person and office of the president, how many times have we seen you caution them? All the "Retardeeen" and "Jonathan" crusaders. . . .why have you not cautioned them? Or is the president (and the esteemed office he occupies) not "elderly" enough? The troublesome Obasanjo is the only elderly man in Nigeria?

Hypocrites!

first of all, i'm not an hpocrite.
It seems you people are misinterpreting me, i'm not saying what Obasanjo did or is doing is a noble thing, i'm neither his fan nor his relative, what i'm saying is that we can point out our opinions without resorting to calling names, it is unafrican for us to call elders such name, imagine somene calling Obasanjo "ode", haba, the opinion of his can be made without necessarily calling him that name. I am a mother, and that is the type of training i do give my children, "never call an elderly person an awkward name", it doesn't show that we're respectful or have any moral.
The same goes to anyone who abuses the president or the office of the president.

Mark my handle, i have never and will never abuse anybody, be it young or old, so, that rules out that i'm being hypocritical.
Thank you.

Political prosti tute!!!

Anyway sha, they said there is neither permanent enemy nor permanent friend but permanent interest in politics, maybe that is what Pedro is proving here.
Waiting to see how Tinubu will react.

payless: Imagine this fraud was brought to the attention of Jonathan but he looked the other way. Something is really going on for these officials to be acting with impunity. It means the president is involved in this graft without any doubt. There is more to what Sanusi Lamido has revealed. It has become a pattern. They have perfected this plan since Jonathan became president. They never thought it would come out.

Jonathan must go!

Jonathan must go
your last sentence is what got my attention, do you know what the next president is capable of doing
Note: not that i am in support of GEJ or any other candidate, but talking like you know what the next president is capable of doing is what beats my imagination.

ckkris: Does Obasanjo conduct himself like a responsible African elder?

leave that for posterity to judge. It's unafrican to call elderly people names.
Thank you.

@post, No matter the uproars between OBJ and GEJ now, let's just remember that they are both politicians, if they are ready to settle their differences today, they will, they know how to go about it, so, let's be careful how we meddle into their matters. All politicians, especially Nigeria politicians know how they use blackmails to have their ways.
It is well.

[quote author=Warri _Pikin]Obasanjo is a common criminal.Such criminals only thrive is dysfunctional societies as Nigeria.But i see his cup is finally becoming full.He should stop hiding under smokescreen of letters and make a real attempted coup and see the result for himself.

Ode![/quote]you can make your opinions known without calling OBJ names, he is old enough to be your grandfather. Let us learn to respect elders, so that we also can reach old age. Calling him such names says a lot about you, afterall, you're an african. Hopefully, you'll turn a new leaf.
May God help you.
Thanks.

[quote author=Efemena_xy]That beating will teach her to shut her trap whenever her husband's driving.[/quote]you mean you support the man beating her in order to correct her

Both of them are not matured enough to get married. The people i pity most are the innocent kids. If care is not taken, those kids will grow up believing that is how marriage should be, the males will believe they have to beat hell out of their wives in order to command respect from them and the females will believe that, there is nothing wrong if their hubby beat them in order to correct them, afterall, that is how daddy use to correct mummy.

Smh, now we will be blaming the leaders and the society, is it not families that constitute societies? In other words, families are reflections of what happens in the society.

May God help us all.

[quote author=Efemena_xy]^^ well then, majority.

You cannot deny that they do this more, no matter how distasteful it sounds.[/quote]accepted

wirinet: Instead of facing the real issues facing Nigeria's main problem, which is greed, avarice and vanity, we are skirting around the problem. They think that the problem is the national cake sharing formula. Please can someone explain to me how a singe tenor term for governors and president can help tackle corruption which is our number one problem. Besides how does single tenor stop a president from imposing his own stooge as we have witnessed in Lagos and just recently Anambra?

What we need is free and fair elections, independent and corrupt free judiciary, independent legislature and true federation. You don't need a genius to figure out Nigeria's problems.

so on point.

[quote author=Efemena_xy]At the risk of sounding racist - na oyibo madness.[/quote]please stop it. It's not only peculiar to oyinbo people. There is a popular handle here who have said/typed it severally here that if she had kids for her former husbands, she would have killed them all, that she can't live with such people's offsprings, and the handle is not an oyinbo.

This is another marriage we can also learn from. It's full of marital wisdom.


http://www.punchng.com/feature/octogenarian/i-cook-my-husbands-meals-every-day-80-year-old-retired-nurse/

Atawewe27: Single term in Nigeria- not possible.

it is very possible if we really mean it. Take for example, in Oyo state, no governor has ever been allowed to go for more than one term. So, it's possible.

Strange world with strange couple.

kado: Have come to realise that good,respectful ladies change in character after childbirth,becoming selfish and not wanting to see the same inlaws who gave their blessing and approval for her marriage to their son? It like hidding a devil within? Is this okay or someone has a better explanation? The 3rd incidence just happen recently in my family.

talk about your family and be specific. Not all ladies do that.
Thank you.

Am i still on Nairaland or another forum?

Many a time the inferiority complex intensifies from the surroundings. Your friends, family members, relations and and so on.
Check your friends. When you're in groups,if they usually find a scape goat and start making fun which demoralises, that's where the inferiority complex creeps in. Same goes with the family members and your BILs too.

Change your friends circle who talk positively and give constructive criticism that's good for progress.

When it comes to relations, see if you could change the topic and bring in some positive thoughts that motivates everyone. If not move away from that place when such conversations take place.

Remember all these people who make fun of you, criticise and who contribute to this inferiority complex are worth nothing.
They're not going to help you when you're in trouble. They are only trouble makers. So please check your friends and surroundings and change for good.
As for your husband, communicate with him humbly and extensively by letting him know how displeased you are when he talks to you in such manner, especially when other parties are there.
May God help you.

If this tattoo is a permanent one, then, it's a crazy idea.

How can she explain this to her children when they start coming, if she hasn't already started having them?


And by the way, is this life all about pussy or what?


Craziness of highest order.

Is your baby the first born? If yes, then, that may be one of the reasons, as in there is no one ahead of him in form of a kid or kids to drag him about, and i'm sure you the parents have also not been doing that.
There is nothing wrong with him, don't worry, he will just surprise you one day the way i surprised my parent when i was a year and 4 months, they said i refused to walk at 1:4 until an uncle of ours came around and put me and a cat in a room, left us for about 3 minutes before opening the door, they said, immediately the door was opened, i ran out with my 2 legs and that was how i started walking.

Madam, i'm not asking you to lock your child and a cat in a room o, but what i'm saying is that, an event may happen which will let you know that there is nothing wrong with your child.

And one more thing, stop comparing your child with another child, he is a unique individual, with his own unique way of doing and reacting to things.
My regards to him.

I have seen some hausa-yoruba marriages, but i'm yet to see that of hausa-igbo.
Personally, i think culture and religion plays major roles, because hausas are majorly muslims and igbos are majorly christians, and Yorubas are majorly both.

Romantic love is gradual. Before it gets to the peak, genotype comes first.

Yes, it is possible.
All she has to do is to go to a hospital and let the doctors get sperm injected into her uterus. If she's a virgin, she will remain virgin, and she also have her baby born through CS, which will make her hymen to still be in contact.

Who doesan't know that OGD is a Maradona, just like IBB. If he likes, he can be in 10 different political parties. Very soon now, we'll hear about his new party.

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Express appreciation. Tell your children how much you appreciate them. Draw attention to their talentsandgood behaviors:"The table looks great! Thank you for setting it so nicely."Or"I can always count on you to help me out. Thanks."
Write love notes. Write short notes of loveandencouragement. Slip them into your children's lunchboxes or backpacks. Examples include:
Thanks for helping your sister clean up her room.
That was a good idea you had for our family vacation.
You're special to me.
Will you come with me to the store when you get home from school? I enjoy having you with me.
Remember the power of touch. Don't hesitate to give your child alovinghug, comforting hand-squeeze, or congratulatory pat on the back.
Be a friend. Spend time playing with your childrenanddoing things with them that they enjoy. If you need to, schedule time with your children in your planner:"8 pm: Read stories with Rachel,""2 pm: Go biking with John."
Declare a love week. Have everyone in your family write down (or draw) what makes them feel loved. Maybe your first-grader feels loved when you read to him. Maybe your teenage daughter feels loved when you go with her to the library. Post the ideas in the house where everyone will see them. Then, every day for the next week, encourage each family member to do something for another family member that helps them feel loved. Even very small efforts can yield big results.
Written by Megan Northrup, Research Assistant,andedited by Stephen F. Duncan, Professor, School of Family Life, Brigham Young University.



http://www.google.com/gwt/x?hl=en&u=http://foreverfamilies.byu.edu/Article.aspx%3Fa%3D11&q=Being+loving+and+nurturing.&sa=X&ei=DayrUpTRGcuShQethYGoAw&ved=0CCAQFjAA

BEING LOVING AND NURTURING.



The Family: A Proclamation to the Worldstates:"Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in loveandrighteousness"(¶ 6).
It's no accident that the Proclamation lists"love"first among parenting duties-nurturinglove is the most important characteristic of good parenting. It's so important that researchers sometimes call it the"super-factor"of parenting. Goodnurturingmakes children feel lovedandcherished,andresearchers have found that without that feeling, there's little else parents can do to make up for it.
Urie Bronfenbrenner, a renowned expert on child development, says every child needs parents who are crazy about him or her-an"irrational relationship."Children are wired to"fall in love"with their parents,andthey deserve parents who fall in love back.
Beyond the obvious benefits ofnurturinglove, research shows thatlovingandnurturingparenting is linked to better child behavior at all ages.Nurturingparents build strong bonds with their children, providing them with a sense of security that helps them grow into confidentandlovingpeople.
How can you be a morelovingandnurturingparent? Here are some ideas:
Learn your child's love language. Each person feels love in a different way. A wise parent carefully studies how a child likes to receive love,andthen sends love in that way often. Without this care, actions that a parent might think arelovingcan be perceived as unloving. For example, one mother came home from a long day at work, met her little boy at the front door, ruffled his hair, told him"I love you!"andwalked to her room. He followed herandreplied,"Mommy, I don't want you to love me, I want you to play catch with me!"
In another example, a father invited his teenaged son to hunt big game in Montana. The father thought the expedition together would be a great way to spend time with his sonandshow his love. But what the son really wanted from his father was less dramatic - he just wanted his dad to go with him occasionally to a nearby reservoirandwatch the ducks take off.

How can parents learn their child's love language? One way, according to parent educator Wally Goddard at the University of Arkansas, is simply to notice ways you've already shown love that your child asks for more of. One father says his children love their outings with him one at a time. They frequently ask,"When are we going on our one-on-one?"His youngest daughter is emphatic about wanting to go swimming for their time together. By honoring her request, he shows his love for her in one of the ways she can best receive it.
You can also learn about your child's love language by noticing how she or he shows love, according to Goddard. Children often show love in the way they like to receive it. Or you might try recalling when you felt especially loved by someoneandidentify what that person did, then treat your child similarly.
You can also take the direct approach-ask your children what you do or say that helps them feel loved. Answers might include hugs, bedtime stories, one-on-one outings, midnight pancakesandconversation, playing a game together, or a special gift.
Have I told you lately… Keep a record of yourlovingactions toward your child. Write his or her name at the top of a 3x5 card, then write the following questionsandanswer them:
What have I done lately that really helped Katy feel loved?
How does Katy prefer to receive messages of love?
What are some different ways I can send messages that communicate love to Katy in ways she can best feel it?
What will I do this week to show Katy my love?
Speak kindly to your children. Compliment their good behavior. Say"please"and"thank you."Don't say anything demeaning or sarcastic. Even good-humored sarcasm is easily misunderstood by childrenandcan result in unintended hurt feelings. Instead of saying"Can't you leave the dog alone?"say,"Please leave the dog alone."Instead of saying,"Will you get out of my way?"say,"Excuse me, I need to get by."

jmaine: Minister of what if i may ask ?

minister of comedy.........
Anything is possible.