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There is nothing bad about the idea. Infact, i applaud the idea. Just last year, my foster mother remarried after being widowed for 7 years, we were all happy, i personally was happy, i even threw aso ebi for the wedding, because they were legally married in MFM church. The husband was also widowed 7 years ago. Hubby was 68 while she was 60 when they both got remarried. Till today, you will think they are young couples,(Romeo and Juliet) they are so fun to be together at all times. Each time i see them, i'm always happy for them, at least, they are both happy, but they have to be both widowed o

The way it is being looked at culturally is what is keeping people, especially the old women from remarrying, the fear of what people will say. Even my own biological mum didn't like the idea, i had to educate her more and more. At last, i told her it was her life, not people's life and she has every right to be happy..

Beat her seriously
As in beat her like a baby
With koboko or pankere
On her palms or buttocks
While kneeling or lying down
Na wa o!

*i sigh*

@op, have you paid Seun and other members of the admin for your advert?

[quote author=Efemena_xy]@OP, are you the runaway guy who impregnated this man's 23 year-old daughter?

If not, I fail to see how the family's business is of so much concern to you.[/quote]loooool

Nelson Madiba Mandela's life should be celebrated, not mourned!


He lived a selfless life and made so many positive impact to so many people's lives.
He lived long for a ripe age of 95 years.
His exit was a glorious one and should be celebrated.

Mrs mansson: My Ex proposed a similar deal.he was like his brother will stand for him and their are so many reasons why he cant come
I was just 23 sef so where i dey rush dey go
And his useless brother was already hitting on me
I took off

because you were wise and not desperate, if it were some gullible and desperate ladies, they wouldn't see anything wrong with it, they would even connive with the BIL on eating the forbidden fruit till the real owner comes around.

Good for you jare my sister.

[quote author=Ken_Jak]I think this is foolishness,is Mandela a Nigerian or from yorubaland? This makes no sense to me.[/quote]it is not foolishness, it is politics.

However, sweet is the remembrance of a righteous man. He can be remembered anywhere and anyhow, because he was a good man if he was otherwise, nobody, not even this Aregbesola will try such.

Good, even though it's all politics.


FOOD FOR THOUGHT


We're all remembering Mandela now, even children unborn will still hear of his history and wish they knew him, now the question is........
WHAT WILL ME AND YOU BE REMEMBERED FOR AFTER OUR DEMISE?
WHAT ARE THOSE THINGS THAT WILL BE SAID ABOUT US WHEN WE ARE GONE?

Nelson Madiba Mandela's life should be celebrated, not mourned!


He lived a selfless life and made so many positive impacts on so many people's lives.

He lived long for a ripe age of 95 years.

His exit was a glorious one and should be celebrated.

Put on something simple and decent.
And don't forget to be yourself through out your stay.

Dont be confused, in English language, he is your uncle and she is your aunt, but that does not mean you should address them as such, it's just their position in your family. If they are your mates or you are older than them, then, address them by their names, it doesn't change their positions in your family.

To be sincere, if he has not married before, and he's still a 30 years old guy, then, there is cause to be worried by the op and even the parents.

However, @op, are you sure your brother is not marrying this woman out of greediness? Hope it's not because the woman is loaded that he want to marry her? If this is the case, then he may not win, because that woman with three kids must have been highly experienced and matured more than him, which may put a strain on the marriage sooner than later.

All in all, after talking with him, if he still insist, let him go ahead, whatever that comes out of it, he's the one that is going to face it, be it positive or otherwise.


@Nashvile, i support your comments.

[quote author=Mynd_44]I will rather wait forever[/quote]abi o, when it isnot compulsory that everybody should get married.

deols: I have seen something like this before. The husbands younger brother represented him and the wife did all the kneeling and cake cutting wth him.

I found it disturbing. I dont see myself in such a situation.

can you imagine
And when that BIL is trying to play some pranks with her, she will start to shout and run to NL that she needs help, her BIL want to sleep with her, when in actual fact, it was she and the BIL that was joined together.
Confused people.

Fabulousuzo: Op 4get these your long list. What every Nigerian woman/lady understands is MONEY. Give her money the rest will fall in place.

if all the ladies you have been meeting are all interested in your money, then, examine yourself. Maybe, you don't have other good qualities that may attract the good ladies who are not after your money but your happiness.

Or maybe, you're so bad that the only thing that can make a lady manage you is your money.

Or maybe, you're not matured enough to know that you don't buy love with money, any lady that agrees to date you because of your money will not hesitate to leave you when you dont have money(broke) and also, will not hesitate to leave you for a richer guy, even when you're not broke.

Bottom line: Money cannot buy real love.

One good turn deserves another.

The summary of the post is "DO UNTO THERS WHAT YOU WANT THEM DO UNTO YOU".

Men, if you want your wife to love, respect and submit to you. Plant it and you will reap it immediately. That is one of the secrets of happy and successful marriages.
May God help us all.

yellowpawpaw: This woman and her absentee husband has indeed suffered. This should be around the third time a thread is opened on her behalf.
She made the choice, let her be. Amebos raise to infinity.

YPP, it's not about amebo o, we learn from ther people's experience.
How can a person descend so low, in the name of desperation, agree to this type of arrangement. Is it by force. Cant she go and meet him over there? If the man really love her, why couldn't he come down for the wedding, even if it's just for two days and go back. For a lady to consent to this type of arrangement, says a lot about the lady itself.
Even if there is a thousand thread on it, people will still be learning from it. Haba! Na by force to do noisy wedding?
Abeg, i don vex.

You have been adequately equipped and warned. ACT FAST.

Spotee: ah sad! my heart break watching this, too mush of chinese films dey worry the girl should be imprison for 30 years or else she will grow up to be a serial killer..

thank you!
Effect of too much violence film.
If your child must watch this types of film, it is very imperative for us to keep telling them that they shouldn't try it, we need to let them know and realise that what they are watching is only "film tricks" or "computer graphics", nothing real. With that persistent warning and education, it will go a long way to avoid scenarios like this.
May God help us all.
RIP to the little boy.

Maturity is not only based on age.
Once a person is physically, emotionally, intellectually, psychlogically and physiologically matured to handle all the ups and downs involved in romantic relationships, then, one is good to go, therefore, it's a personal evaluation and decision.

However, if you are my little brother or a son, i would have advised that, since you're still 18, and just in 200level, you still have a lot of time ahead of you, therefore, i would have advised that you wait a little more, so that the relatinship won't be a source of distraction to your education. If you and that lady in question are meant to be together, nature has a way of making you two meet again when you both will be ready for it in every aspect.
My opinion, anyway.
May God help us all.

How did he get the money?


Is he mentally okay?


Some people are like that, they're usually fun to be outside, but a terror in the house. I really don't know what causes this, maybe, upbringing or choice of lifestyle.

However, that is not to say that the lady who got pregnant out of wedlock has done an applaudable or honourable thing. She has to be corrected, but in a loving way.

Ile nje eeyan.


"ground dey chop person"

Chanchit: Bros', u dey see spiritual things o.
Anyway, I saw Oga James fecking Iya Sule, the wife of Alhaji Tanko. I jst watched in awe but I no tell Alhaji.

you should have told Alhaji now and receive the serious beating of your life.

I don't need to be rich to give her something. After God, she's next. Even now that i'm "rich" i gve her everything that i can afford, and most importantly, joy. She needs everything, especially joy in her old age.
Her health is very very paramount to me.
Her happiness as well.
The wisdom never to disrespect her even at once.
And so on.
May God help me.

byvan: People like OP is the reason why many marriages ll head to the rock,there is a thin line between a man's ego and his stupidity.

Which normal person ll think that washing the plate he ate with,tidying his home is demeaning.

dont mind those girls who end up with their types, when they see responsible guys who will treat them like their better halves and not as a maid, they wont agree, they will be complaining that he's not rich, he's not social, etc.
Thank God for me sha.

Miner13: well, what you are saying can't put an iota of belief in me, that you can do all this for your wife.
Easy said than done

some men do it.
Not all men are inconsiderate.
Thanks.

bigheart2013: The wise @greatgod2012 as usual, you are always on point, and see beyond! That's exactly my point. The only reason I mentioned her boyfriend in the post being an undergraduate is because I don't believe her claim that he was the one that bought the phone. Where did the poor boy get the money from?..something tells me that phone is from a much richer person somewhere. My dilemma is that it's mere suspicion, which can destroy trusts even between a father and daughter, talk-less of btw cousins.. Her parents are not educated, so I am more like her mentor on education. Therefore, I don't want to make her become withdrawn when she needs counseling most...A tight rope to walk actually!

thanks for your compliment, but pls, with all humility and due respect, don't refer to me as the wise, i am human and i will remain human, only God is wise. Thanks.


@post, the reasoning of that your cousin is somehow, if it was his bf that actually gave her that phone as a gift, she supposed to have questioned the guy as to where he got the money to buy the phone from.
On the other hand, she might not be telling you the truth as to who gave her the phone. If i were you, i will invite her over and have a serious and meaningful discussion with her, if she doesn't appreciate it now, she will do later.
May God help us all.

Slimmos: Mikey..i think say u b atheist...dem pagan9ja, macof, folkyaze brother....but surprised wen u started with oh budhha..u now say ''thank God'' my brother na wish one u dey....u better stay one place...dis ur here and there no go help u oooo.....

Abu mikey is not an atheist, he's a xtian, an Anglican.

The first five posters are very funny, but this is not a funny thread at all.
It is sad and pathetic.

If it's really accident, well, the governor's convoy are known to be reckless drivers and they have used their recklessness to waste a valuable life away.
If it's assasination(murder), then, those who did it must have forgotten that we will all die one day, but woe unto whoever takes another man's life. So, they are going to perpetually live with the guilt for the rest of their lives.

cdamsel: me way dey find u since nko?

dont worry my sister, you are in already.

Lol @YPP and Tayour and others that are insuniating that i want to contest for LG chaimanship, that one is too small for me, im going for a bigger post, but not on the platform of all this "yeye" parties around now. I will soon launch my own party, it'll be called GGPN meaning "Great God Party Of Nairaland"
I'm still collating the names of those that will work with me, definately CC, Tayour, Efe, YPP will be among.
Watch out!