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Safe and joyful delivery in Jesus name.

Anytime from now, the cute angel will be out.
Btw, Mr Apoti, are you still doing the doing?

Holuwahphemy: *she's my girlfriend, not my wife and won't be*

you know she won't be your wife, yet, fighting to suckle her ni pples.

Don't worry, "give and it shall be given unto you, good measure, press down and running over, with the measure you give, it shall be measured to you back"-Luke 6:38.

"Do not be deceived, God is not mocked, whatever a man sow, he shall reap"-Galatians 6:7.

Hope you have told her that she can't be your wife?

[quote author=#1-stunner]m so following dis thread.... very refreshing n educative...[/quote]you can say that again and again.

[quote author=e-estate]beat or send away what is your option?[/quote]what type of question is this gannn

if you cant cope with her again, abeg, divorce her, instead of this beating beating you are talking about.

Not that i support adultery, but cases like this require maturity to handle, whatever the decision you want to arrive at, do it honourably. Talking about beating your wife, an adult, is degrading.

Holuwahphemy: Let her have her way, there are many fishes in the ocean. If she no do, another chick go do

i fear o and i pity the lady that will end up marrying you, except if you're just joking.

You are still a boyfriend and you're talking like this, what will now happen when eventually you become a husband.

kreami diva: oga op,hope say u never commit any of the above o

i doubt if he has not committed it/them.

yagsidy: y do parents neglect last borns after training the odas.. because I've been at home for more than 2 years without dem saying anything about how I'm going to go to school.. rather the use u for their errands and later give excuses about not having funds.. It has made me lose interest in school.. Advise needed please

open a thread for this. Only then can you get your desired result plus the needed advice.
This thread is for request and complaints.

pickabeau1: which church is this...

#LookingforNewChurch

where you can be lip-kissing and hugging, abi?
God dey see una.

@mod, this thread is so educative and interesting, it has a lot of stuff to learn from, i therefore recommend it for FP. Thanks.


https://www.nairaland.com/1547351/no-one-seen-us-quarrel-tunde

Such is life.
When you are in problem, they pretend they are praying/having feeling/sympathising with you, but when God answers your prayer, they become envious. The bible says...."human heart is desperately wicked, who can know it". Such is life joor.

What can you do?
Ignore them, pretend as if you dont get their feelings towards them, and be careful as well.
Jesus said......."watch and pray".


Got my drift

eliment: but is there any verse in the bible condemning it?

So, it's only what the bible specifically mentions as wrong that is wrong, what about those that are morally and culturally bad/wrong.
Betting is morally and economically wrong.

Escalze: I think her case is no2

how do you know

Nobody is in position to opine whether someone is going to heaven or hell. It isn't anybody's business, it's God's business to do that.
Stop turning yourselves to a celestial judges.

Why lip-kissing in the church, when the person involved is not your spouse. Anything apart from pecking, handshaking in the church isn't allowed, and also hugging between the same gender, with right intention sha o.

eliment: I am not saying baba ijebu or pool, I means football betings that you predict the outcome of matches to win your price. Is it wrong

why betting as regards future occurence, it's gambling. It is an uninsurable risk in insurance, if it's not acceptable in man's sight, how much more in the sight of God?

Escalze: I was at the 8am mass today and I was lucky to have sat beside a pretty young lady who was well dressed.I was really shocked when she started sleeping right from the very beginning to the very end.It was very funny as she was swaying her head from left to right and almost fell off the seat.It brought a question to my mind which I would like nairalanders especially those who do it to tell us why people sleep in church.

it could be due to one or more of the following.

-when the service is not interesting/impactful.
-hang-over from yesternight party or clubbing.
-when one's mind is not in the service; (absent minded)
-when one is too tired to attend the church but forced him6erself down to the church.
-sickness/illness.

Etc, etc.

Nothing wrong with it, but what does it cost you to carry your bible with you when you're leaving home for church, except you are going directly to church when coming back from a journey.

kulyie: Awww,what a breadth of fresh air.so many things to learn from them individually and as a couple.at least away from husband strips wife naked in public,husband slaps wife,wife pours acid on husband and girlfriend and all those pseudo husband and wife settings,aka aso ebi husband and wife and warriors at home

i just hope this particular thread makes FP, because there are a lot of lessons that other couples can learn from this celebrity couple.

kulyie: Awww,what a breadth of fresh air.so many things to learn from them individually and as a couple.at least away from husband strips wife naked in public,husband slaps wife,wife pours acid on husband and girlfriend and all those pseudo husband and wife settings,aka aso ebi husband and wife and warriors at home

Hi sister, not all marriages are bad. Just have that mindset, and you will be free from the thinking that marriages are battlefield.

berem: Wunmi has a stronger gene. All wunmi's sliblings look alike. Its possible that all her kids will look her too. Just my observation though.

your observation might be right, because i've opportuned to see her daughter and she's exactly like her mum, i don't know of others though.

slimyem: One of the few cases where I believe love is blind.

I hope those three children take their looks from their father

aunty Yemi, what are you insuniating? That Wunmi isn't as good-looking as Tunde. Well, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, she isn't bad anyway, only that she's extra size.

yellowpawpaw: What a couple!
C family managed with wisdom!

I can deduct up to 20 wonderful words of wisdom that makes this family rock.
Hope others will c that too.
One of the best and practical article ever read here.
, thanks for sharing.
Bookmarking it.

thank you my sister.

Sincerely, i learn so many valuable lessons from this interview, and that is what prompted me to share it. I hope many couples have the privilege of reading this, it will go a long way in redeeming so many marriages.
Personally, i've learnt so many from them and i wish others also will do.

Continuation.......


Any regrets been married to each other?


Tunde:No, not after 25 years of being together.


How do you handle your fans?


Tunde:There are some who prefer Wunmi and some prefer me. A lot more like us as a couple and they get inspired by our union.


How do you relate with female fans?


Tunde:I have learnt to deal with everyone with respect and dignity and they see me as a brother.


Do you get mad at some wayward female fans?


Wunmi:First, we are artistes and cannot erase the issue of having fans-male or female. Whenever I am with him, I don’t have nasty experiences from any fan. Moreover, I trust him to be able to handle such matters if they ever occur. He is mature and intelligent to handle it.


What gives you the assurance that he will not fall into temptation?


Wunmi:I have seen him react in the face of temptation several times and I trust him. We have come a long way.


What if anyone tells you something about him?


Wunmi:Women have to keep it at the back of the mind that idle talks destroy any home. Why is that person telling you something about your spouse? Even if it’s true, you apply wisdom and go about it carefully. My maxim is, what I don’t know would not hurt me. I don’t have to go through his phone to check call logs or read text messages. A man, who is inclined to adultery, when he is caught, will not change; rather, he will be more careful!
Tunde:If a lot of women had allowed certain situations to simmer, not fester and pass away, they would still have their homes. A man you put under pressure to the point of frustration will walk into the hands of another woman.


What are the most valuable gifts you have shared?


Tunde:The kids she gave me. I have bought some things which I know she appreciated but I believe it’s the thought behind the gift that matters and not monetary value.
Wunmi:Five years ago, I lost my engagement ring and one Christmas, he bought me another one. The ring had three stones on it and he said it represented our children. I was touched by the way he gave it to me because that was what he would have done if he had proposed. He went on a knee and put it on my finger.


Do you share same friends?

Tunde:We do have one or two friends.
Wunmi:It’s good to have friends as long as they are genuine but we have been stung a lot of times and withdrew. We enjoy our own company and are close to our siblings, acquaintances and adopted younger ones who we welcome to our home.


Who is stricter as parents?


Wunmi:He is but I take extreme measures sometimes.
Tunde:We are both loving parents and sometimes we warn ourselves to be strict with them.


Are any of them toeing your path?


Tunde:It’s our daughter but she has to face her studies squarely now. We allow them to express themselves musically but it’s not yet time to come near a microphone. They should face their studies and not allow any distraction.


Are there challenges working together as a couple?


Wunmi:No
No crisis over finance?
Tunde:When we started, we had nothing and every kobo made was worked for. We can’t forget those days now that our bank accounts are healthy. Money can never be an issue and we have arithmetic of sharing money when it comes in.


Any joint account?

Tunde:Yes, but that is the business account. We have our individual accounts, which are for our personal use. That has never posed a problem.


What’s your husband favourite dish?

Wunmi:Ppounded yam. His mother told me before she passed on that an Ondo man likes pounded yam, so I learnt how to prepare it.


Do you have pet names for each other?

Wunmi:I call him Tee.
Tunde:I call her Wunmi.

http://www.punchng.com/spice/celebrity-couple/nobody-has-seen-us-quarrel-tunde-and-wunmi-obe/

Tunde and Wunmi Obe have blazed the trail as one of the best couples in the entertainment industry. They are both artistes and in this interview, they share the secrets of their 15-year-old union.


When and how did you meet?


Wunmi:That was 25 years ago. I was in the University of Lagos and joined a campus band. Meanwhile, he had come from Lagos State University to rehearse with the band. Initially, there was nothing between us. We were just friends and we got talking. We discovered we had some many things in common. As time went on, we discovered our passion for music and television as well.
Tunde:We both became friends as a result of the band and when we began to talk, we understood we had many things in common. We became deeper in our thinking and found out we had more than an interest and that brought us closer.


When did you decide to marry her?


Tunde:There was no proposal. There is a way you bond together and you start thinking of getting married and moving in together. We were business partners and registered our companies together before we got married. I believe we were meant to be.


When you were courting, did it cross your mind that he could disappoint you?


Wunmi:Not once. If you know your partner, you would know what to expect.

Was there any opposition when you wanted to get married?


Tunde:Yes, it was my sister. We were very close and like most sisters, she was very attached to me and didn’t want another woman to have me. Ironically, she is closer to my wife than me now.
Wunmi:There was no opposition from my family. He was a very respectful and focused person and he didn’t show any negative traits. The only skepticism was from my siblings who kept asking how sincere ‘this fine boy’ would be. They thought he would be a playboy because of his looks but he proved he was not. They saw he was comfortable in his skin and focused. At a time when his mates were misbehaving, he was serious-minded.

How many years have you been married?

Wunmi:15 years.


What has the experience been like?


Wunmi:Just like any other marriage, we have had our challenges but if you love each other and are determined to make it work, it will. It depends on how you view the marriage and your partner. Also, it depends on if you got married for the right reasons. We are friends and we enjoy each other’s company. We talk, argue, throw banters and make each other laugh. Every marriage face challenges but thank God, it’s been good and we remain each other’s friends.


Do you quarrel?


Wunmi:Of course. It will sound fake if we don’t quarrel.


Who apologises first?


Wunmi:I do.
Tunde:We don’t quarrel, we disagree. We devised a process, where we don’t use abusive words when we disagree. There are no shouts, no noise and each person makes their point known as if you are in a boardroom. We normally agree at the end of the day. I apologise too but Wunmi is always quick to say, “I’m sorry.” We thank God that our disagreement has never got out of hands. Nobody has seen Wunmi and I quarrel, not even our children.


Not even a third party?


Wunmi:We don’t allow a third party because there was no third party when we decided to get married. A lot of couples involve third party because they don’t know how to deal with each other. When you are determined that this marriage would work, you will take steps without inviting a third party.


You are always in same clothes…


Wunmi:Not always but when we do, it is because of the brand, T.W.O. The brand is different from us as a couple.


Are you always going out together?


Wunmi:No. We have our individual lives. Even when people see me in the malls or markets, they ask why didn’t I come with him. We do move about together but we still do things separately. We have same business but we don’t have to be together always. He could go for meetings outside Lagos and I would be with the children. We have our strengths which we combine for our benefits. We do different things at different times.

Splendoured: House
How I can stop this
I just want to be my normal self again
I can't make love to my husband if am not tipsy
I must have taken a good amount of alcoholic drinks before it puts me in the mood
My marriage is just 3 years

does your hubby know about this? If yes, what has he done or said about it or is he satisfied with it(which i guess he can never be).

Were you like this before? if no, when did it start and what do you think caused it?

Have you ever being cheated on by your hubby after your marriage, which you were privy about?

Is your hubby's body attractive to you? Does he have body odour?


All in all, i think you need to be yourself and be open about it to yur hubby, so that both of you can jointly find a permanent solution to this problem, you cant afford to continue like this, something like seeing a psychologist/counsellor may work out.

May God help you.

Using this medium to reach out to those who want this type of miracle, may God in His infinite mercy answer them and grant them the desires of their hearts and cause them to testify to His goodness. Amen.

One more thing, always remind her not to feel ashamed to ask her doctor any question that may be bothering her, that is why they are paid.

Once again, congratulations and happy parenthood in advance.

Congrats my brother!
The good things that God has started in your family shall be made perfect.

As per registering for ante-natal, there is no time that is too early to register. If you like, you can choose to register after 2 weeks or later, all depends on how madam wants it and how she's feeling.
Let her register with a gyneacologist, and get ALL tests done, especially the Rhesus factor test.
As per the SHOW, dont blame her, this is her first experience and it is normal to be afraid of it, but with proper education and enlightment, she will come to realise that, being pregnant is not a disease and shuld not be a disturbing factor, infact, she really needs it now, for the betterment of both her and the baby and the family in general. One thing im happy about is that you are ready to cooperate, and that is going to go a long way in making things easier for her.
Some of the things to watch out for, so that it doesn't meet you unaware are....
- she may experience morning sickness, it's nothing to worry about, she needs a lot of water to replace the lost of fluid.
- pregnancy induced hormone may come to play, she may have mood swings, and may also be more emotional at this time.
- try as much as you could to help around the house, as she may be easily worn out.
- ensure she takes a lot of fruits. It is very good for them both.
- a lot of fluid, especially water is also essential, apart from it replacing the lost of fluid in the body, it's also good for the regulation of amniotic sac water, the sack with which the baby lives and growsin the uterus.
- prepare for strange cravings, don't be annoyed when she wakes you up to demand for what you people have not eaten since you got married, it's caused by pregnancy hormone.
Etc, etc.
And feel free to ask questios, im assuring you that there are goood people in this section that are very experienced and will be more than willing to answer your questions.

nikkypearl: madamm greatgod hw u deyy?

i dey fine o.
How about you?

Encourage him to start small.

Not all men are mean and cruel.
Some can not even kill a fly.