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@op, there is nothing to be ashamed or feel bad for here, this is how about 50% landlords started, and today their stories have changed, they are no longer under the threat or maltreatment of ungodly landlords or housing agents. Therefore, you need to be grateful to God first for the privilege He gave your parents and then to your parents for getting their priorities right.
I pray to God to continue to bless you and your folks to be able to build the house to completion and also give you and your folks the grace to enjoy it for long.

It is well.

@op,
First, is your sincerity in searching for a soulmate, when trying to look/search for a prospective spouse, make sure you marry a person you actually love, someone who possesses almost every qualities you want in a mate, in order words, if you really love a tall person, dont settle for a short person out of frustration or influence, dont settle for less, or else, you might be tempted to run after that quality you initially wanted in another man or woman. There is no quality that is not relevant in searching for a soulmate, marriage is supposed to be committed to, not giving excuses for cheating, therefore, in rder to guide against such excuses, when choosing a mate, do not deceive yourself and do not allow anyone to deceive you that it doesnt matter, look for what you want and go for it/them.

I never dated any short person in my life, because i wouldnt like a situation where i will be looking at another man lustfully.
Then, comes your determination/decision, that no matter what, you will not cheat on your spouse, you will keep to your marriage vow.
Another thing is that, variety(inside marriage) is the spices of life,one has to make his/her marriage interesting and lively, not a boring thing, anyone who is boring at home, especially on bed is tempting the spouse to look for a better "acrobatic" person, who can make him /her exploit all the "exploitables".

Above all, the fear of God is the beginning of wisdom, one has to have the fear of God in order for one to be faithful in every aspect. Naturally, humans tends to be unfaithful, but determination, genuine love towards one's spouse, activeness in one's marriage and the fear of God are what can help us all out.

May God help us all.

CC, i believe in a yoruba saying, which is "omi ti eeyan ba ma mu, ko ni san koja e".
There are still people who loves unconditionally, if she has opened up a little, even if not all, the man or any other man who might love her unconditionally may accept her, and even, if she wasnt accepted, i think that is better than the emotional traumma she had put herself into now.

And as for the man passing through complex divorce processes and for once been in a failed marriage, i think its not only the man alone , the woman is also affected with it too, in addition to the trauma shes already in, i think pouring out earlier would have saved her from all these.


It is true that, she is just been unlucky, but have you heard that "nkan ti taye ba se, to ba mu je, kehinde le ma mu je". Some might actually done worse that what she did and have a wonderful marriage still, but that does not mean that everyone will scape through like that.

Meanwhile, i would rather be rejected for saying the truth than be accepted for telling lies, which most definitely may work against me in the future.

I wish her goodluck though, everyone has his/her past, but her own past has refused to be in the past.
May God help us all.

In my own opinion, this thread should be in the jokes section.

My hubby

PRODUTIM1: If we would spend the same amount of time praying for our leaders in power as we do talking about them, we would get better results.Do you agree? Should we continue to pray for president Jonathan even in His confused state?

yes, you are right, and prayer too has its place too.
PUSH
P.....Pray
U.....Until
S......Something
H......Happen

Sorry, didnt have time to read the long article, but according to the heading, as far as it Lagos that is concerned, any business can certainly bring you breakthrough.


This is just to remind ourselves that government alone cant do or fix everything.
May God help our nation.

No, he isn't bribing!

He's sowing seed of faith.

In addition, let me be honest with you, that man may never come back , especially when the family of the man is already aware of what is happening and it seems they are all in support of what his actions and inactions, therefore, tell your friend(if not you) to move forward with her life, but not repeat the previous mistake in her subsequent relationship, the man that really love her will stand by her and help in finding solution to her problem medically, and can even suggest to her for them to go for adoption, if the problem seems incurable or beyond remedy.
Wishing her goodluck.

Personally, i think the man abandoned the wife because he felt she fooled him. If the wife had confided in him before hand, maybe the man would have decide to stand by her to fight the battl to the last, now she fooled the man into marrying her knowing fully well that she has a shady past and after all she did with her life while in school and you said the man shouldnt run away.
The mistake many people make in marriage is that, they are always afraid that the potential spouse will leave them if they open up, forgetting that, the person who really loved you will stay regardless of the lifestyle one must have lived, afterall, everyone has a past.
Now, shes paying the price of not being open to the man, and i wouldnt totally blame the man for running away.
Therefore, tell your friend(if not you) to live with it, its the price she has to pay for not being open to him and for her past lifestyle.
May God her and all of us.

In addition, let me be honest with you, that man may never come back , especially when the family of the man is already aware of what is happening and it seems they are all in support of what his actions and inactions, therefore, tell your friend(if not you) to move forward with her life, but not repeat the previous mistake in her subsequent relationship, the man that really love her will stand by her and help in finding solution to her problem medically, and can even suggest to her for them to go for adoption, if the problem seems incurable or beyond remedy.
Wishing her goodluck.

Personally, i think the man abandoned the wife because he felt she fooled him. If the wife had confided in him before hand, maybe the man would have decide to stand by her to fight the battl to the last, now she fooled the man into marrying her knowing fully well that she has a shady past and after all she did with her life while in school and you said the man shouldnt run away.
The mistake many people make in marriage is that, they are always afraid that the potential spouse will leave them if they open up, forgetting that, the person who really loved you will stay regardless of the lifestyle one must have lived, afterall, everyone has a past.
Now, shes paying the price of not being open to the man, and i wouldnt totally blame the man for running away.
Therefore, tell your friend(if not you) to live with it, its the price she has to pay for not being open to him and for her past lifestyle.
May God her and all of us.

Good compilation, though i have 2 observations.....
1. Those artistics works are yoruba gods and goddesses, not representing the africa gods.
2. This thread is better put/placed in culture section than family section, because i dont see how this is family oriented.

My opinion anyway.
Thanks.

Someone that is suppose to be leading by example, na wa o!
And im sure that, if he context the second time or for anothe public office, he will be elected....

Smh

That is not new now.
Only God actually knows those that are His.

I think I have a different opinion.


They probably see many children as investment, as people that will take care of them when they are old, and that the more they are, the better for them in terms of being taken care off.

Another reason is that, they have this mentality that, when there are many children, their burials will be talk of the town, in terms of the burial ceremony that would be held for them.

The most annoying reason is that, the poor have this mindset that, any child can die at any time, so it's better for them to have them in many, so that, even if some couldn't make it, some will definitely make it.


And for the training of the kids, they know there's always rich/average people around to help them take care and train their kids for them.



Hhhhmmmmm, every man is the reflection of his mindset.
May God help us all.

@op, sorry for derailing your thread please, we are sincerely sorry, just that we're catching fun, please.

bellong: No wonder he attracted a great woman. JOGS people sabi better thing..

Abeg, stop flattering me joor


I'm a product of OLASS, same in I-ode.

bellong: The only school worthy to attend in Awujale's land ... I rep (JOGS) Ijebu-Ode Grammar School.


@Funkybaby, loyal subject

my hubby is also a member JOGS family.


As per the Awujale palace, abeg, leave "tori" for another day.

^^
If he doesn't, who will

There are 3 mysterious thing about death to humans and they are
1. When (the time) to die.
2. How (the type of death) to die.
3. Where (the place) to die.

Rest in peace dear Bishop, the message is that your time is up.
May God console the family he left behind.

bellong: Do you live in Awujale's palace? ..

I schooled in Ijebu-ode. Love the newly built palace, one of the best palaces in the country.

Where did you school in I-ode?

Im not a muslim but i love the burial rites of islamic religion and the second thing is the unity of their worship.

bellong: Some decisions if taken on their own can mar their destiny. It is better children are counselled in taking good decisions. As parents, once we can identify the end of such decision, best bet is to look for real and practical examples of those who thread such path to let them see the end. It is better they become bitter against us for not allowing them take such decision than allowing them to become an eternal regret. Sooner or later, they will appreciate the effort.

However, as you rightly said, they should be given freedom to take independent decisions. The grooming starts from childhood by nurturing them in the way to go so when they are old, we will have peace that they will most times do what is right.

There is no sane parent that wouldn't have properly guided their kids before allowing them to take decision. In essence, I'm not saying that they shouldn't be counseled when they are taking decision, but after counseling and proper upbringing, they need to be left alone to grow up and remain up, to take decision and face the consequences. If for any reason, any child decide to go against the good upbringing of his/her parent, I think IMO, such a child should be left to face the consequence. By 18 years of age, our children should be independent, they must have been exhibiting the good upbringing that has been imparted into them by allowing them to take some independent decision.
Just my opinion anyway!
May God help us all.

This thread is an eye opener!

Good parents will allow their sons(children) to "grow" up and best parents will allow them to remain up.

In essence, if you really love your children, leave them to take some decisions on their own and let them learn from the consequences of the outcome of the decisions taken, be it good or otherwise.

Not allowing them do this is tantamount to not allowing them to grow up.
And if you don't allow them to grow up, they will forever remain kids, which is one of the major reasons we have "mummy boys"as husbands and daddy girls as wives these days.

Therefore, I'm appealing to everyone not to just read or go through this thread as mere entertainment, but as lessons to learn from.

May God help us all.

Baba Oyo: When wil you write something beautiful about fathers?

Abi we fathers never did anything good for
you ?

this is the same question my hubby asked our son on sunday when he was singing "iya ni wura iyebiye". The boy didnt know what to say to his dad and i quickly come in that there is a song for dads too which is "jigi mi o gbodo for ooooo, jigi".....jigi here connotes dad.



Sincerely, sincerely, dads too deserve to be praised, not all dads are bad, there are exceptionally good dads out there, for example, whenever im nursing baby, im aint the only one who wakes up at night, its shifting, presently, i can count how many times i do bath for my kids, i can count how many times i take them out for sight seeing, my hubby is more known in my kids school than moi, on PTA days, he would take permission off work and make sure he attend, everymorning, he's the one who spoonfeeds our youngest kids, he's the one who wakes them up in the night to pee, he's the one who helps them out in their homeworks, except the day he comes back from work very late, infact, fathers (responsible ones o) also deserve praises, im thinking of asking my first son to write a poem for his dad, to appreciate him, he's a wonderful hubby to me and wonderful dad to our kids, sometimes, i wonder why God didnt give me a dad like my hubby(isn't that envying my kids?). It makes me love him more and more.



MINE.........i know you will get to read this, from the bottom of my heart, with the voice of our kids, i say thank you for the way you take care of us and sincerely speaking, you deserve an award for the best dad in the world. I love you and if i have to choose a man over and over, you are the one. Keep it up, we are both going to reap the fruit of our labour on these children, nothing bad or evil is going to happen to any of us.
I love you, your children too loves you.

Anytime i see threads like this, i just thank God for the type of MIL God blesses me with, i dont know why God love me so much, such that He surrounds me with wonderful people with beautiful hearts.

As for giving her money, she will complain and complain that she's comfortable with her pension and that we need money to raise and train our kids, that her pension is sufficient for her, that she prefers us to be looking beautiful with our money to giving her money, and she is just a retired teacher o, this is such a person that open account for my kids o, for almost 10 years now, we've never had a single disagreement, except the day i flared up for over-pampering me.

@op, i dont know what i can say, because i've never been in your shoe, but i believe that posters above me have talked well and have really helped you out of your situation with your MIL.






God please, i dont want to lose my MIL now, God pleeeeeeeeeease.

Is middleman (alarina) still relevant in present day marriages?

Acidosis: Hello ma'am

hi sir

I just hate the word "order" in this context.
Something like "appeal" or "persuade" would have been better