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rokiatu: Theres just something about doctors that freak me out. Even when am sick, I get well on my own unless the sickness is really serious as in serious SERIOUS.

Bad I know.

thank God you know its bad
but, sincerely, there is nothing or little to be scared of about a hospital or a doctor, you can even go along with your hubby, if need be, if that will help ammeliorate the fears.
You just book an appointment, and face where you are going, without looking at those ugly things in the hospital, get your medical check-up done and be rest assured that you know what is happening in your body system.
May God help us all.

byvan: She obviously didn't bros,at that point my mum had to keep nodding to her sob stories.Two of her babies were born right inside her house due to negligence,she ll always claim is an act of God because God is aware that she can't afford hospital bills.

see how some people just they use negligence to kill themselves, so, if she had died during the process, na so dem go say its "amuwa Olorun" and my own God is not a God of confusion, God knew we are going to need some things, like those preventive measures we are talking about here, and he made the appropriate provision by putting it in the mind and brain of some people to make them available for us and for our use.......hhhmmm, na wao!
May God help us all.

Some Nigerians!!!
We like work, we like to struggle, we know how to look for money, but never have time for periodic comprehensive medical check-up.
To some, they will say, they dont have time, some, claims no money, some will say they are not sickly, as if its only the sickly that hospital are made for, some will say, its better for them not to know that a particular illness is in their body, to such, its a preventive measure for them, as what one does not know anything about cant make you worry.
However, we should all know these things, its better for us, some ailment are better dealt with if they are diagonised earlier, even, when you are checked-up and the doctors affirm that you are perfectly alright, they wont just leave you to go like that, they will definately supply you with tips that will make you to maintain your good health.
Some usually complain of "no money, but sincerely, its not really expensive, one can just decide to reduce the junks one takes daily and save the money that is supposed to be used on them for six months, and before one knows what is happening, you have even more than what you need for the medical check-up.
Let us all stop the habit of going to hospitals only when we are suffering from one ailment or the other........a stitch in time, save nine, sometimes, even more than nine......
May God help us all.
As for me, i did my own comprehensive medical check-up about two weeks ago, and i was told that im alright, except that ihere is a hole in one of my teeth, of which i was given an appointment of when to come and fill it, which i have done.
So, lets share ours, when last did you go for comprehensive medical check up.
Thanks for sharing.

Well, to some it may be, but e get some couples, ehn, who can never look alike, no matter how many years they have been together.


However, some people are just saying so based on how they think the couple should be, not the thing they really saw, for exanple, there is a couple, i know very well, who said some people claim they have started loooking alike, but to them, they knew its all a lie/flattery, those people were seeing what they wanted to see and saying what they thought should be.
May God help us all.

The fact is that we've all been there at one time or the other........the best thing for you is just to let go, engage in your favourite activities, play your favourite music, make and visit more positive-oriented people, pple that will add value to your life, and always remind yourself that, 1. Its a phase, it will surely pass, 2., that human beings will always be human beings, forgive him and forget about him, "omi ti eeyan ma mu, ko ni san koja e"......look beyond him and it shall be well.
May God help us all.

There is nothing wrong my dear, inasmuch as you know that none of you is pretending to be okay, for example now, me and hubby have not been intimate for the past 8 days and im sure that we are perfectly alright, all we've been doing on bed, is gossiping , gisting, handling, till one or both of us sleep off,.
However, to avoid any doubt as regards your concern, you can open up a communication in that regard, then, you will be able to get his own part. But, i think, with the way you described your relatinship, i dont think there is any need to be worried.
May God help us all.

Have you gone for pregnancy test? if yes, and you are confirmed -ve, then follow d advise you are already given on this thread.
It is well.
May God help us all.

biolabee: CC and , sweet points!

thanks!!!

biolabee: Madam greatgod why damn!
Good morning

i meant....you got it there

chaircover: Hmmmmmm. The devil is a lair o! may we never come across destruction in our lives amen. I hope ur hubby wasn't injured. It is well.

Yes . . .there are many many reasons. so long as the couple have good reasons, they dont refuse each other too often and they dont just outrightly reject/push away, but they still "fa oko/iyawo won mora", they make an effort to make it up to the other person asap & they still do other things to show that they still love their partner and find their partner attractive.

you are absolutely right ma!
oh!!thanks and thanks, he wasnt, they only went away with his gadgets and some cash, with d car also, but d car was retrieved within hours, because of security car track he installed on it............ Its long time ago, close to 4 years, its in our past. Thanks for your concern ma.

koolet: Mynd U... for a well organised family, d husband should be the last person 2 return from work nt d wife

and mind you too.......not in all cases, no two marriages are the same. Thank you!

Some of them are and some of them are not.
We all know and identify good deeds, if you discver that a certain elder is not worthy of emulation, then, dont emulate him/her, and if an elder is worthy of emulation, then, get close to him/her in order to gain some of the attributre that he/she possesses, simple, we all know and can differentiate/distinguish between bad attitude and good ones, so, its left for us to do the right thing, you dont blame your bad behavious on some other people.
We are all answerable/responsible to whatever happens to us through our deeds, not others.
May God help us all.

koolet: D child wuld learn 2 do it itself when both parent re illitrates jor when i was little i do it maself nd now grown old 2 teach ma younger siblings bt on a good day its da mothers duty ..nt after when the father returns from work nau...

and who said the mother do not have a place of work to return from, except, the woman is a full house wife, your last statement is an insult to a working class wife/mother.
To me, anyone that is less busy at the point in time can help the kid wit it, its a pleasurable and proud thing to do.
May God help us all.

Both!!
Whoever is less busy at the point in time.

chaircover: greaterGod I am glad that we are now getting into the "realities" of marriage that some people are going through.

When you opened this thread, the title made me laugh. I knew that unless people were going to be very very honest, you will only be hearing never never never!!!

I can count on my fingers lots of other reasons why men and women will turn their partners down for sexx but this is nairaland and only the brave come out and say it as it really is what about men that have to watch porn before they are aroused, what about people who have terrible body odor? what about when you have just lost your ogas $20 million on the stock exchange, would you be interested in sexx that night? so many reasons oooooo!

and that is why i opened the thread in the first instance, to learn, to be educated, to share, and we are really getting there, i know that this thread will be helping or teaching some others apart from me, and sincerely, i have learnt alot here and on this thread.
Just this yesterday, my hubby was going thru this thread, and he told me that i've lied, that, did i forget the day he was robbed at gunpoint, he said, d second day, while you made a move, didnt i turned you down?........he said...."inu didun lo nmu ori ya"(pls, help me to interprete that), i said, yes, o, but i couldnt remember again, he said, a partner turning his/her partner's intimacy down, does not mean there is no love btwn them, so many factors could be meaningfully and unavoidably be responsible......my sister, i've learnt, i tell you.
May God help us all.

chaircover: You are absolutely right . . . Lets just say that the bedroom is the engine room of the house and the most serious life changing and the most silly conversations in that our bedroom. No bedroom and we might as well be strangers.
it def promotes bonding

thank you ma!!! eeeehmmmm.........behind closed doors.....ehn, ehn.....hhhhmmmmm...
May God help us all.

van bonattel: Some people grew up as loners, enjoying their privacy as they grew up and all through adolescence. It will difficult to adapt easily with anybody trying to share your space. Some people are so different, some pray at night, some read at night, some need to focus and think deeply without distractions at night, man or woman.

believe me, marriage with the right partner, with the person you really love, is a medicine for loneliness...........and for those things you highlighted above, you can do them together with your better half(your spouse), and the ones you cant do together, you can excuse yourself out to another room when you want to do them.
May God help us all.

ileobatojo: Could you clarify what types of things you need space for? Both during the day and in the middle of the night please.

thank you for those highly intelligent questions.
May God bless you.

Many wise sayings up there.
He that has ear, let him hear what the spirit is saying........separate rooms is not advisable for couples, when you get married, you are supposed to become one, so i dont really see any space that some are clamouring for here, its good, its encouraged, its beneficial, its biblical and yes, polite for husbands and wives to sleep in the same room.
If you think your spouse do not worth sleeping with in the same room, if you see it as impolite to sleep in the same room with your spouse, then, its advised not to tie the knot with him/her.
It has so many benefits, of which are.......
1. Close companinship.
2. Improves efficient and effective communication.
3. Breeds closeness/oneness.
4. Promotes quick settlement of disagreements/ misunderstandings.
5. Facilitates spousal warmth.
6. Promotes interesting/meaningful lovemaking.
However, the risks/dangers/disadvantages are the opposites of the points highlighted above.
Meanwhile, im speaking from experience.
May God help us all.

Baba Oyo: You know na.....that kain thing!!!
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haaa...a ki i gbo buburu l'enu Baba Oyo abore o!!!

pls, baba oyo, shift your base to jokes section......

toofine765: Sometimes you don't want to say no to your partner but then he comes home late smelling of alcohol, not sure if he cheats but you discover he wants it badly but because you are not happy with his drinking act, you refuse to respond. men in the house is anything wrong with saying no when your hubby is drunk just to prove to him that you are not happy with his drinking habit or do you still play the good wife and pretend all is well?

damn! This is serious, i was never in this shoe before, therefore i may sound somehow.........to me, alcohol is a total turn off for me.............., i cant even stand the smell/odour/heat that the man would be emitting after gettin drunk, so, i cant allow him, no, but lets wait for other people's comment, we are all here to learn.
May God help us all.

biolabee: Bolded
One - Sounds like a war cry Iworiwo!

Two - True sounds freaky icky a little but still true. It is better to have loved at least once than none at all

Three - Excellent

Four - strive for better but contentment at the present

Sweet!

damn!!!

Serendipity: Okay my dear. It should be in the subjunctive mood
Subjunctives are used when we are making wishes, saying things that are contrary to the fact
Example: If I were rich I would marry Tonto Dike.
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If were the owner of Nairaland I would ban 19O and SExkillz.
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If I were you I would dump that guy.
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These statements are contrary to the fact because:
'I am not rich and so will not marry Tonto Dike'.
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I am not you so the issue of dumping the guy does not arise.
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I am not the owner of Nairaland, so am just imagining it, wishing.
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Other examples are:
I wish I were taller.
I wish I were more intelligent.
Also, remember Beyonce's ''If I were a boy'' song.

So the title should read correctly::
IF I WERE A MAN....

NOTE.
''Was'' can be used on rare occasions when there is high possibility that something happened or did'nt happen.
Example:
Was I rude to you at the party?
Oh! If I was rude, I apologise.
HERE, I am not sure whether or not I was rude to this person at the party, probably I was or was not.

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I no wan bore u with details but if u get any confusion just tel me as i will be glad to elucidate.
Cheers!

are you an English Language teacher?

jeffizy: qudos to biolbee, jidegirl12, and that yeye man...baba oyo.
Almost forgot its my thread. I tot i was watching (reading) wedlock of the gods!

omo l'ile ko se fi fun ekun pa je

you are the baba oyo..........
hope i guess right?

Infidelity.
Physical abuse.

k2039: [color=#660033]Another 6 years and I will have a practical answer to your question.[/color]

may God help you.

k2039: I suppose the interesting part had to do with her observation.

I wish I could write a thesis on this, it will make a good phd thesis. 'Why I think Nigeria can still be united'.

It's obvious the tendency for unity is there when the masses are happy, the bulk of the work thus lies with the goverment, fulfil your campaign pledges, give the masses the necessary things that only goverment can. Inspite of all this we will still have bad eggs, but they will be minute.

you are very right bro, there is nothing impossible, if d govt plays their part well, d citizens will be happy with one another and not even remember anything about racism, i believe we will get there by God's grace.

chaircover: errrrrrrrm Brother Cooger, what if wifey wanted in in the 9 months that she was pregnant nko?

You do know that some women feel hornier when they are pregnant?? abi those text books that all "hands on daddys" like reading as soon as their wives get pregnant didnt mention that bit or you just skipped it

abeg, Madam, CC, i dont want to believe oga coogar jare, so, if his pregnant wife is in d mood, he will turn her down because she is pregnant?, so if d preggy is obvious from 4 months old, oga coogar fit wait for about 5 months that d preggy will mature for delivery plus at least 6 weeks after delivery.........hhmmmmm....
@ coogar, pls, come back and tell us how you are going to turn her down o and how you are going to cope when konji dey worry you during d time you are in d mood.....................im expecting you sir. Thanks.
May God help us all.

vivian chinaza: Life is too short to give a rat's azz about someone who doesn't give a rat's azz about u! Move on! There are over 7billion people in the world!

Life is too short for regrets, worrying about past mistakes. Learn from it and move on, cos u get better with time!

Life is too short to play games, when u want someone, go get him/her! Live in the moment and deal with the mess later!

Life is too short not to believe in yourself! Not to defy gravity! What's the worst that could happen? You fail? Oh yes, when you fail, dust your azz, get up on your feet and try the hell again!

Life is just to short not to pamper urself, enjoy the goddamn money, cos once you close your eyes, others who do not know the hell you went through to get where you were will cry a little and enjoy your money for u!

Life is too short not to understand how simple our existence actually is, but our ignorance makes it so complex and complicated. Ask for wisdom which is the principal thing, to understand the principles of life and thus, simplify it.

Life is too short to keep blaming others for your misfortune! You can blames fate, parents, government, circumstances all you want, or you can fight back, embrace the word 'fortitude' and shape the rest of your lives.

Life is just too short not to be you, cos you are unique the way you are, and you are the best thing that ever happened to you. Don't let anybody tell you otherwise.

Life is too short to give up on urself. Cos someday u would resent urself for it and wished held on a little longer. By then it will be late. So whatsoever is it you are facing right now, just know that things only get better. Someone somewhere is passing through a whole lot more! Just know that by not giving up, you give other people the courage to live their lives.

And finally, life is too short not to love me *winks* I know I suck sometimes but I could also be fun most times .

Slante!!!!

wonderful!
You just made my day, thanks dear, i just hope people will realise these facts and stop making life too complex for themselves.
May God help us all.

ayobase: Hmmmmm...words!

And life is also too short for not believeing in God, and not accepting Him as one's personal Lord and Saviour!

Very very short!

Nice write up dear!

thanks!
Your signature is damn finny!
May God help us all.

chaircover: Yes life is too short and we should enjoy it, but in our quest to enjoy it we shouldn't become selfish in the way that we live it . . .so yes we should spare a thought for what people will say about us, because it could be that you have genuinely offended them without you even knowing.

We should not spend our money lavishly when there are people close to us with serious need.

We do sometimes have to satisfy people to dissatisfy ourself because there is someone out there and at one point dissatisfying themselves just to please me too. No man is an island and even Jonathan is relying on certain people to do certain things.

But yes, life is too short, and because no one knows when exactly ones time will be up one has to live the best life that he/she can and of course think about making Heaven, because that gan gan is the koko. It is well.

as usual, madam CC,always making sense.


However, remember that when you are even trying to dissatisfy yourself to satisfy some others, people will still have something to say or something to complain about, so that is why i said, we should always do good and not be concerned with what people think or say about us, of course, a life that do not touch another lives positively, is a wasted life.
May God help us all.

biolabee: *****jejely watching across the street

by play, by play, this thread just became another thing, even d person wey opened d thread don run away from d thread.........abeg, at everyone, i beg, e don do, biko, e don do. Thanks.
May God help us all.