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Praying in all forms is useless. Don't bother wasting your time

We are looking forward to it

middlebelter:
Here is my own suggestion to you. Don't move out yet, because if you do, you will be exposing yourself to what I call avoidable preying eyes of men that have no good intentions but to satisfy their lusts. Except you know you are capable of resisting lustful advances without compromise.

Secondly, silently, go online to either aliepress, jumia or any online shop and buy a spy camera or fisheye bulb security camera for your house. With N0k you will not only stop this nonsense but silence your mother on such accusations. I am making this suggestion because it is cheaper than going out to feed yourself and pay rent with attendant risks of singles.
Remember, this woman is your mother and you won't want to end relationships with her on a bad note, so, use wisdom. Don't tell them how you got the video of the thief, just show the video to your mother on your phone and let her direct her anger to the right place why you live in peace.

He's a man. Why will men want to satisfy their lists with him?

samicine:
Greetings one and all. I'll try to make my lamentation as short as possible.

My mother accused me of stealing her 2k, but I assure you, I didn't. The money got missing on Thursday night according to her and my 13 year old brother. I won't do such a thing, because the times are hard and the pandemic is fueling this hard times. I'm not lazy, I kind of work from home, I write for opera news hub and to some extent I get money from there, currently I have 19k in my account. I have no motive of taking her money, but she insists I took it, and is currently threatening to throw me out of the house.

This is not the first time such thing has happened. When I was still in secondary school, money got missing often and she'll blame me, beat me and starve me for stealing her money, but God helped me and the culprit was found, my other brother was caught, he is 18 now and doesn't stay with us anymore. He stays with my dad. She never apologized for what she did and the scars of that emotional and physical abuse still ripples across my body. But this time I'm not sure I will forgive her if the money is found. I'm planning on leaving home and starting my life somewhere, it's hard, it might just be my naivety speaking, but I need your advice.

The only skill I have is writing and web designing, which I'm almost getting good at. I just need help and guidance. I'm a 200level student and I major in psychology. I'll be 21 by November.

Let me not say much about your mom because she is simply a typical African mom.

But this is what I'll say to you.

Number one, you are lucky you have skills and you already know how to earn money. What you should do is to start looking for a one room apartment. You don't need much for now.

With your laptop and phone you should be able to start out on your own. With time you can get a mattress, pot, stove, tv etc.

But there is something more important when you start living on your own. Friends. Have them but NEVER bring them to your house. Friends are okay when you meet on the street but they can quickly be a source of distraction when you bring them too close especially friends of your age.

At that age most of your friends will be just as dumb as you and before you know it you will be drawn away from your goals and into smoking, drinking, womanising and other dumb shit.

Stay away from women. If you must fvck either you find an olosho, bang with a condom, pay and leave or you abstain totally. You can use your konji to workout, build your body, start training boxing or anything related to self defence. Boxing is good for a start.

Make sure your circle, ie your friends, are people that are better than you. Not necessarily older because fools grow up too but people who work, have their own businesses or are doing what you want to do and are already successful at it.

Have an offline business. Make sure the area you pick an apartment doesn't have constant electricity and set up a small phone charging business. That will get you out of the house and get you some prestige in the area and also give you daily income aside from your online business. It can also serve as your office so you can do your online things and have access to constant electricity since you will need to power your gen to attend to your customers.

Remember, no friends and girlfriends. Only people better than you.

Good luck

Nyamve1:
Why sleeping with a lady when u haven't make ur wife officially? Now u are calling them "evil" girls. I will blame those girls that their legs can easily be opened especially to those guys that does not have anything to offer in a relationship

Address the op and stop filling the thread with useless comments

gypsey:
The same way one gyal claimed to be pregnant for me on one of my visits to nigeria, she rang me after 2 weeks after sex to say she is 2 weeks pregnant, can women be 2 weeks pregnant? i don't know, anyway, i said to her NO problem! she ask what now? i answered nothing! when you have the baby i will do a DNA and i will look after you and the baby! she asked, you na go marry me? i answered NO! after 2 weeks she rang and crying said she lost the pregnancy.

I was confused, till now since february she told me that i am still confused. was she ever pregnant? did she terminate? I don't know. but i really wanted that baby desparately, she could have just had the baby and let me have it and raise him/her myself.


Funny thing is, now in May 2020 she wants to get pregnant again for me even without marriage, i am even more confused.

Guy, RUN!

pocohantas:
I have no pity for Nigerian men. None at all...

Your frustration is everlasting

Joyousjoe:
I'm currently face with this same experience and I need advice!
I have known this girl for about four months now and we have been making out severally strictly with condom.
Few days ago I.e. May 14, 2020 she chatted me up that she did a pregnancy test on herself that she was pregnant just 10days after we last had sex which was on may 4. I was shocked and surprised. she saw her mense last April 26 and the next one is over a week ahead.
So I suggested she come over to my place so that we can go for a confirmation test. she said she had no money for Tfare. I sent her money through her acct. she promised to come the following. the following day she said she didn't get alert for the money I sent and couldn't withdraw either. No one to borrow money from too. I asked her to send her sisters acct detail which she did. I made another transfer through her sister and called later to inform her that have sent the money, she should notify her sister and equally make plans to come the next day so we go and confirm the test. All of a sudden she got angry and said she doesnt like it when I say 'confirm'. what is PT test that she can't do. infact she isn't coming again. I will see it after few months when I see her. I should leave her alone that she can handle it. the pregnancy issue is none of my business. she will clean it off in such a way there will be no trace. she thought I love her.
I have been so confused and don't know what to do or believe. I will appreciate some advice here

Hahahaha. She is lying. That money you have sent to her is enough.

If she comes back with a kid insist she pays for the dna test.

Progress2468:
This sh!t has happened to me twice, two to three weeks into relationship, booom! pregnancy. However I dint even gbensh the first day we started dating. I will insist on scan (to know the exact pregnancy duration) which usually brings big conflict. Imagine scan showing as 5weeks and 4days when it's not up to a month we started dating and we had the first sex not up to two weeks ago.

Meanwhile aunty was already telling me how traditional marriage is not expensive in her place.

Forget these my talk o, those days were emotionally draining.

After having this experience back to back, nobody advised me to zip up

It even happened to a friend recently.

The babe said she was pregnant after like one week of gbenshing and when I friend told me she asked for N7,000 I told him straight up that it was a lie!

And the funny thing is I was there when they met. That same evening she came to our hood and my friend took her to his place. He said the babe went and started sucking his dick and they banged right there and then.

You won't believe that later she admitted she was not in fact pregnant but she just wanted to see how he'd react as my guy no gree give am money.

Ladies are really manipulative abeg and the annoying thing is that society doesn't punish then for it.

farem:
Chai, the godless are troubled. What a life outside the counsel of God.

Romans 1:28 (KJV) And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;

DumdDumb

Both ladies are strong Christians. I guess that's what they learnt from Mary in the bible

Stacyomolola:
U could be married but there are still chances for a second wifey

I no even know wetin to talk

Lalasticlala how far?

joinpreneur:
I'm aware a good number of antichrists are positioned strategically here to attack the Gospel of our Lord Christ.

I'm aware that they go as far as deceiving people whose convictions are not strong to stop obeying the Truth ordained before the creation of heaveans, earth and the sea and everything in them.

I'm aware strong believers, rather than permitting their gibberish they called theories, pray for them in Love — that those who have become one of them by false teachings will come out of the blindness and proclaim the gospel, carrying the bell and Truth in their hands.

Hence, I tell you; it shall come to pass that one of these Antichrists agents who regard themselves to be atheists will encounter Christ.

When?
Where?
How?
Do you have the video?

Vyolet:
Everytime a woman leaves a poor man or reacts badly to him, the man always end up having a well paying job and the woman always want to come back...
Op, you forgot to write the part where she is willing to come back and live with you in Lekki .

I doubt it's Everytime. Not every man is able to turn his fortunes back around and not every woman leaves her husband when he's down

espn:
They are playing. This will be so stressful for the teachers. Social distancing at this stage where kids of this age are meant to mingle within themselves. I dont think it is a good idea. Abeg let Bill Gates provide his vaccine. God is bigger than him. We need to go back to a normal life with no fear of corona...

Let god provide a vaccine if it is so big

MJBOLT:

these guys are beyond insane,why would anybody attack a hospital of all places

Because they are beyond insane. Duh

Lexx129:
I know some other true men of God sha

The others are fake

Lexx129:
Only true man of God??

Mmm

Yes!

Who wouldn't love the indaboski pahose, the liquid metal himself!

The only true man of God in Nigeria.

A pastor #istan

goldbim:
Hmmmmmmm sincerely,Dating a big girl is not the issue but with time won’t the guy feel inferior as time goes by?my little experience makes me feel like most guys feel less of a man when the lady is trying to call the shots herself without waiting for any man..
At a point ,the guys start feeling like you are hard to please whereas you are just trying to live your life to suit yourself ..All in all,the key word is humility and it takes the grace of God!!

What a "big girl" needs from a man who isn't as financially capable as she is is ambition. Lots of it.

Like a guy who has well laid out realistic plans and she came come with the finances. A man that will be willing to pay back the initial capital with profit even if there is no agreement to it.

A man that will work hard enough to later take the financial wheel and sort bills without the lady's assistance but still won't mind when she chips in at her discretion.

A man who will give her ideas on how to increase her income and invest wisely so her wealth can grow and feel comfortable with it.

Too bad there are not enough men like that

Interesting read. Op, please add proper paragraphing. Reading it as it is is tiring

Conze:
Just spend little from that money and consult an architect, he will guide u, u will be confused here

He wants "free" info.

He doesn't want to be "scammed"

AstralBody:
Where are all our Nairaland zombies?
Specially buhariguy!
Is either hunger or coronavirus don kill am.
Buhari zombies are tired of their DADDY! What a shame. I spit on their useless heads! Idiots

And . You can never see "them" on threads like this

Oluromantic:
I expected to see a girl with water melon size of breasts

I expected to see pictures of the brain she is talking about

Pics?

MJBOLT:

anytime he returns,i will be waiting with my hammer and nails to nail him back to the cross.

Ode

Visualize:
Now, he's on a full speed driving to hell...


Lemme just leave this warning here for our Owambe brothers.

@ your picture, TOO LATE!

Trailblazer1:
it's a simple stuff


He should just name a price for any successful whistle blower, like say 10k


Whistle blowing will turn to a full time job for some Lagosians

I was just thinking the same thing. If the FG can offer incentives for reporting corruption I swear corruption will cease.

Show me a Nigerian who doesn't love free money

raptex:
Capslocked

Hahn

Seun

Martinez39s

Hakeem12

Lordreed

Come and see something

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