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Evaberry:
Blacks really suffered.

Thank God i wasn't born then, with my rascality and stubbornness, i would have suffered more and still hung by the neck because I would have killed at least one oyinbo

I am chatting from the devil's triangle.

Jenny1010:
A guy would be sent home if his dick is showing. you can't expect the school Authority to allow a guy walk around the school with his dick conspicuously out.

Her bwests were not showing, perhaps the contours, yes.

They should have sent her back because of her teeth. But wait oo, could guys be sent back for not wearing briefs or boxers, just asking.

amnesty7:
Modern superstition. Tell that to the Marines.

That stuff defined me correctly. I am type B.

harbjar:
Just wondering what these people will go and tell God

Who told you they are going to God or anywhere else for that matter

Eyop:
You are correct. It's still being practiced but not all parts of akwa-ibom. Some parts if the wife cheats, it will affect the husband i.e if he knows and still eats her food and sleeps with her while other parts it will affect the wife by instant death or strange disease except she openly confesses and some rites performed before she can be free.

Most part of the riverine areas in AKS don't have such and a lot of married women in that territory engage in those atrocities.

I know of a woman with 5 boys that recently died as a result of that. It's all about tradition anyway

We have this where I come from in Abia State. It only affects the man if he knows that the wife is foking outside or he deliberately turns a blind eye to highlights

lightblazingnow:
1, Those who in their life time have never acknowledged the supremecy of Christ Jesus the anointed Son of God Almighty who is given authority to control heaven and earth, and that every knees should bow to him both in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, wether they be thrones or dominions or powers, and that every tongues should confess that Jesus Christ is LORD.



Psalms 2:5 Then shall God Almighty speak unto the unbelievers in his wrath, and vex them in his sore displeasure. And he says 2:6 "Yet have I set my King CHRIST JESUS upon my holy hill of Zion.

2:7 Then CHRIST Speaks "I will declare the decree: the LORD God Almighty have said unto me, you are my Son; this day have I begotten thee.

2:8 Ask of me, and I shall give you the heathen for your inheritance, and the uttermost parts of the earth for your possession.

2:9 you shall break them with a rod of iron, authority; you shall dash them in pieces like a potter's vessel. 2:10 Be wise now therefore, O you kings: be instructed, you judges of the earth.

2:11 Serve the LORD God Almighty with fear, and rejoice with trembling.

2:12 Kiss the Son CHRIST JESUS, lest He be angry, and you perish from the way, when His wrath is kindled but a little. Blessed are all they that put their trust in Him.

2. Those who loves the evil ways, there is only one way to get to where you are going, but there is this evil voices which tries to swift you of the rewards of obedience, therefore rubbing you off the Blessing which does not fade away and far from decays. But you know there are folks who just love to disagree, of course they lack understanding and knowledge of the truth, yet they won't admit that they need help. They keep pilling up punishment for not only THEMSELVES but for as many as are in partnership with their evil company. Corrupting good manners, the same way they corrupted your country Nigeria.



2 Peter 2:2 And many shall follow their pernicious ways; by reason of whom the way of truth shall be evil spoken of. 2:4 For if God spared not the angels that sinned, but cast them down to hell, and delivered them into chains of darkness, to be reserved unto judgment; 2:5 And spared not the old world, but saved Noah the eighth person, a preacher of righteousness, bringing in the flood upon the world of the ungodly; 2:6 And turning the cities of Sodom and Gomorrha into ashes condemned them with an overthrow, making them an ensample unto those that after should live ungodly; 2:7 And delivered just Lot, vexed with the filthy conversation of the wicked: 2:8 (For that righteous man dwelling among them, in seeing and hearing, vexed his righteous soul from day to day with their unlawful deeds 2:9 The Lord knoweth how to deliver the godly out of temptations, and to reserve the unjust unto the day of judgment to be punished:


3. Those who love monies and have an insatiable craving for wealth will never see the face of the righteous one who dwells in the light which no mortal men can see nor have seen, all of their scheming is all about making a business out of you, that means to gain from you, instead of building the Saints, they are caught up in reaping from the Saints. They are not going to make it all the way to heaven, never. Because their God Almighty is their stomach, and the glory they seek is their shame



2 Peter 2:3 And through covetousness shall they with feigned words make merchandise of you: whose judgment now of a long time lingered not, and their damnation slumbered not.



Philippians 3:17 Brethren, be followers together of me, and mark them which walk so as you have us for an ensample. 3:18 (For many walk, of whom I have told you often, and now tell you even weeping, that they are the enemies of the cross of Christ: 3:19 Whose end is destruction, whose God is their belly, and whose glory is in their shame, who mind earthly things.) 3:20 For our conversation is in heaven; from whence also we look for the Saviour, the Lord Jesus Christ: 3:21 Who shall change our vile body, that it may be fashioned like unto his glorious body, according to the working whereby he is able even to subdue all things unto himself. Amen


4 Foolish women who expose their bodies for pleasures and wicked lust won't be able to see the face of the Glorious God Almighty and CHRIST JESUS who abolished death and brought immortality to light, that means, he gave us the Spirit of God Almighty to realise Eternal life.

This is eternal life, that they might know you, the only true God Almighty and Jesus Christ whom you have sent to declare thus to every believers.



2 Timothy 4:2 Preach the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine. 4:3 For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; 4:4 And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables.



2 Timothy 3:1 This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. 3:2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, 3:3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, 3:4 Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; 3:5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.

3:6 For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts, 3:7 Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.




5. Those who would not respect the big word "SEX"

They play with it and abuse it, they have no respect for the established authority of the lord God Almighty, they cheat on their partners and law breakers as I rightly pointed out early, the signs and perilous lusts of the pagan.


You can add yours

The holy book asks, who are we to judge? Judge not so you shall not be judged adversely.

The Almighty God is all knowing and he alone will determine, with his divine justice, whom he chooses to spare for reasons unique and peculiar. Perhaps if judgement was left for humans, great great grand parents who never knew Jesus will remain dead with no choice of resurrection. Have you wondered about localities today where Christianity has not been introduced? I saw on youtube where a tribe has refused to relate with humans from anywhere in planet earth. Videos recorded about them was from a distance in the air.

I read somewhere in the holy book that there will be a resurrection of the righteous and the unrighteous.

I am not joining issues, just thinking aloud.

itsdumebi:
Below are photographs of the dreaded Kidnapper, Chukwudumeme Onwuamadike a.k.a Evans as he arrived in Court today in Handcuffs.

Photos below;

https://politicsngr.com/2017/10/27/photos-dreaded-kidnapper-evans-smiling-handcuffs-arrives-court-premises-photos/

How many were arrested, how many are facing trial, where are the rest? Everyone is presumed innocent until proven guilty, say no to extra judicial killings, it could be you.

selflessmaya:
when ppl say never hit your wife, they mean never become the aggressor. what is happening to to you is domestic violence and your wife is abusing you emotionally and physically. you need to leave that woman fast. she's poison! don't try to change her, don't blame yourself for anything, just, cut her loose!

EDIT: so I just read the old article you included in the link, i change my mind. with more insight to this:
OP, I dont mean this in an insensitive way, your wife has some deep issues and must have suffered some intense psychological trauma to cause her to feel a lot of bitterness and act out in sadism when angry, the knife, the fork, hitting you with a shoe on your head and not stopping when you didnt even react!! this last one is a huge red light, something is really wrong with your wife, she loves to inflict pain and if her personality is as contrast as u say, that everyone thinks she's this sweet girl, then whatever is wrong with her runs really deep, it's not normal at all to keep hitting a person with a shoe on the head when they're not fighting back, she wants to hurt you, she wants u to feel pain.

I'm honestly convinced your wife has suffered sexual assault at an early age that led to a break in psyche, she's mastered suppressing her feelings, her nice girl act is not an 'act', she's actually that nice. but when she's angry, all the bitterness buried beneath the surface emerges and she finally deals with all the buried emotion in its magnitude, it overwhelms her and she wants to act out to hit something or punch a wall etc. when she's alone and unhappy, even when she lived with her parents, u really dont want to see/imagine what your wife does to and says to herself, this anger she shows you, she's lived with it for a long time, she's been her own victim till now when she made u her victim. there is nothing she has done to you that she hasn't done to herself times hundred.

if you choose to for better for worse it, find a psychiatrist or psychologist and go with your wife for counselling, your wife, with or without you will never change till she finally begins to work on whatever buried bitterness she's had to live with for years. try to get help together as a family or get a divorce if u would rather not go through it. it's really that simple, your wife will live with whatever has happened for the rest of her life but how she manages the accompanying emotions, her anger and abandonment issues can all be taken care of with a good psychologist and emotional support on your part. educate yourself on the topic of sexual assault and learn the necessary sensitivity training and triggers. counselling will teach you all this.

no, i'm not thinking too far, your wife ticks a lot of boxes:
-extra charming cos of distorted/low self image and need to be accepted
-her over-religiousness is for closure that she needs and like u said her prayers are always for her god to attack ppl for her. even her relationship with god isnt healthy, it's a coping mechanism. the idea of a protector that will attack on her behalf.
-she talks from 12am to 4am alone when you're asleep, OP, your wife is full of a lot of buried emotion, she really wants to talk to someone about something.
-despite being a nice girl, before you married her, she had no friends
-she's very quiet, hardly finishes her words (withdrawn personality, mastered suppresion)

you should never have raised your hands to hit this woman, when she froze for 5 minutes, it's not that she was thinking she overstepped her boundaries, she was actually coming back to her senses, when your wife gets angry, she loses her mind and forgets who she's dealing with. even worse when the person who angered her is male, she reacts with more venom cos subconsciously he represents her aggressor and she wants to hurt him to make him feel pain. she probably has conversations with herself and imagines herself confronting her abuser and being able to hurt him back and make him regret his actions and cries alone cos it's only in her imagination that she can deal with him. when a man makes her defensive in her personal space, she attacks. till u actually hit her, u just represented something that she has bad blood with and now you've added yourself to the list of men that have ruined her.
she has stopped hitting u cos she has buried the incident of the slaps too but OP, the same place it's buried is the same place her demons she's battling are buried, she wont touch you but when her bitterness surfaces when she's alone, this time you're one of her enemies. the resentment is growing and when she sees u, she's filled with such bitterness she shoves u. if u do not intend to fix this marriage OP, walk away NOW. a lot of bitterness is brewing in this woman and if you add yourself to the list, we will read about u in the news the day this woman snaps. the same way u never saw her eyes so red the day she yelled, u will never believe she has it in her to go the extent she'll go, your wife will surprise you.

nigeria does not have a good support system for ppl who have had to deal with the trauma of sexual assault, society takes it lightly too but this is 2017, ppl should educate themselves on this, when we read here everyday '6 yr old girl raped in lagos by 43 yr old man', that girl is someone's future wife and she will NOT just be like everybody else, the scars of her trauma will show one way or another and she'll need extra sensitivity cos she's a "special" case. your wife is not a naturally aggressive person, that i can tell u and it's sad that another human being created this monster in her. OP, this is really not your battle, it's not you she wants to fight, you did not give her all the bitterness she's carrying, so let the slaps u gave her be the last, you wife is a very very bitter scorned woman whose hurt has taken years and years to germinate, the person who hurt her isnt dealing with it, u are. if u add to her bitterness and it gets too much, the person who created 99% of this mess will not be the scapegoat, again it will be u. i haven't dealt with sexual assault personally or with a family member but i have met closely with some of the victims and the effects of sexual assault are too underestimated. ppl should be killed for damaging another human like that.

if u do choose to save your marriage:
apologize profusely for hitting her and become super sweet, if u choose to undo this mess, u have to be ready, sensitive, patient, very educated about this issue and strong for the both of u. if u choose to walk this path, u will watch her fall apart and u have to be ready to help her reassemble.
don't let her hit you, hold her hands and keep holding it and talking to her till she calms down. your wife is actually a very sweet person, the person you knew her to be when u married her exists, just buried under layers of bitterness. i dont blame u at all for hitting her, there's nothing illogical in hitting someone who came at u with a knife, i can understand why u snapped but let it be the last time. your wife wants to talk to you, listen to her, she talks when you sleep, when you leave she follows you, it's annoying but it's her subconscious, she really wants to reach out. listen to your wife! make out time and let her rant, she will talk about so many things, no matter how messed up it sounds, keep listening. then talk back about whatever and if she interrupts and tries to talk, let her talk, just listen. u can stop the midnight talks by changing it to day time. stop sleeping in your sitting room, move back to your bed.

when you're ready to make the move, try pulling it out of her, on top of your new sweetness, be extra extra sweet to her for the whole week like her sh!t dont stink, on a friday(so if she spills, you'll both have the weekend to grieve), make sure she's in a nice awww darling mood and when you're holding her, just brush by a conversation u heard at the office that made u really sick "about a dude that assaulted some teenage girl and how mad it makes you that men like that are still walking around breathing and if they ever dared it with someone u care about, u'll deal with them and how no matter what she was wearing or where she was, no one has the right on another person's body without consent and the worst part is there are girls out there who have experienced this and told no one and the animal didnt get caught"
stay on the topic of sexual assault and follow body language, dont change the topic, be gentle, when she cracks, try to get her to talk, say what u have to "she can tell u anything, u wont judge, u love her from here to japan, if it affects her it affects you, u are both one and she can confide in u etc" when she talks, encourage her to keep talking, show that you're listening, console her all you can, cry with her even if u have to force the tears though i doubt you'll have to force them, make her see that whatever sunken place she's in, you've somehow gotten there too but dont cry more than her haba. tell her that both of u will go for counselling together, find a good therapist and go with her till she makes progress to go alone. make sure u find a therapist before u try to get her to talk about this and once she talks, the upcoming monday, begin therapy. and dont expect to work this out in 2 days, give yourself time like 4-6wks to build the emotional environment of trust and zero judgement to be able to access her when the time comes. note: she has to open up to you before you can go for therapy.

-u can expect her to go into depression for a while, she might need anti-depressants, sleeping pills too, she will be dealing with a lot of emotion once she finally lets someone in.
-NEVER EVER make a joke about her incident or say something mean to her about it... NEVER EVER!!! NEVER EVER!!! I MEAN IT OP.
-if u want to divorce her and not work through this, which is honestly the easy way out for you, then pls dont bring up anything i just told u here, dont taunt her over this, dont ask her about abuse or anything, just let the marriage end and pretend u didnt even read this. she will still live with herself so she has it heavy already.

i really do sympathize with you, u have found yourself in a very unfortunate position and no decision u make will be easy. sadly enough, i feel sorry for your wife too, she's really lived her hell and she's putting you through it. both of u dont deserve this. i also applaud you for all the grace you've shown, it's very hard to break the cycle of abuse, abused ppl mostly pass it on to others, maybe not in the form they received it but they leave their mark, so i can imagine how strong a person u were to endure all the emotional & physical abuse. and no, slapping her back was not abuse, u defended yourself full stop! dont feel sorry for yourself, just do what u have to do: stay & do the work to mend this if u can or leave if u cant.
u have to accept that your wife has issues that cause aggression when it flares. in time, u will also notice she's protective of children or animals or things she pictures as defenseless, it'll show in her mothering, not wanting your kid to go out, being too clingy to the child, convinced the big bad world is out to get her child, all that u will both work through in due time. once you can get your wife to show you the dark place she's in, it'll not be her safe place anymore, she can't hide there anymore, whatever comes to surface will be dealt with by both of you and u will finally live with the smiling smiling girl u married. good luck OP

Your write up is long although the last paragraph portrays a well written analysis and well thought out recommendation and advise.

LifestyleTonite:
See how people rolled on the floor during one of the Church services of Apostle Johnson Suleman of Omega Fire Ministries.

The Pastor is reported to have resurrected a dead child few days ago.

https://www.wotzup.ng/apostle-johnson-suleman-rolled-floor/

We're they dancing one corner dance

alexistaiwo:
Did he die?

The heading said shot dead. Are you daft?

prettyboi1:
What an ignorant person you are...all due respects. How long do people like you want to keep isolating yourselves & then turn around to shout that "federal government is marginalizing us?"

I see your wisdom. Federal Government's medical largesse is not what we need currently, not having due regard to the latest face off. While i am igbo, i have my views about ipob and NK, and further views about the senseless killings and dehumanization of people of that ethnic extract. If refusing to surrender to uncertain death means isolation to you, so be it.

kitaatita:
Dr. Ezeife is part of the problem. Thus man probably enjoyed Federal Government scholarship and has access to first class medical facilities abroad. Now he wants to deprive children of impoverished Igbo families from preventive inoculation.

Preventive from what? All manner of air and water borne diseases are raging in the north, the idps are also there with the propensity of escalating and getting worse, why should the eastern igbos be a recipient of these drugs. We say NO.Better kill us with guns so the world can hear us than inject us with lethal substances just the way the Egyptians wanted to kill all male children for Israeli test.

balogun16:
if I am her boyfriend, I will break up with her straight away. those kidnappers might have use her toto to play table tennis. those aboki nor dey use eyes see toto oo. with their long black condo. you can't let another man to smash you and still call your self my girlfriend . I hate girls who sleeps around with passion

Did she invite the kidnap on her self.? Do you know what sleeping around means? Some kids will never grow up, or you are a fool.

presholala:
I'm so sorry for those words..... the grammars were just too big to comprehend..... abeg no vex for me

Not a problem sir. When in doubt, say nothing or at least be nice. Have a good night's rest.

presholala:
....u still refuse to have sense

Lol. It's ok. I thought you understood i was agreeing with you, you obviously did not. I apologise for mentioning you.

columbus007:
people no longer live long in the heart of their love ones when they die again,ordinary 5days they have forgotten

The dead stay dumb

The living move on with life

Sad but hard fact of life

presholala:
suffocation after someone has died.... man come and see me.... I reserved sense somewhere for yhu

This line of reasoning is encapsulated in the maxim, actus non facit reum, nisi mens sit rea

There is also a locus classicus on all fours in your trend of thought.

A good lawyer will explore this reasoning to the fullest.

bakynes:
You Igbos are too Clannish, when our daughter Asisat Oshoala was firing in goals from all cylinders for the super falcons, did you hear any Yoruba person say she is a daughter of Oduduwa and Nigerian? I don't think Iwobi even knows anything called Biafra.

You accuse them of being clannish and you premise your post with, you ibos....

I am igbo, but the post you have referred to is not only childish to me but completely silly, so what does it make me and what does it make you?

Maturity doesn't come easily, perhaps.

dingbang:
Only for us to lose again at group stage... So what's all the celebration for? Let's only celebrate when we win world cup cuz I am tired

Of the 32 teams, only one will lift the cup, participation is key. Some countries will give almost anything to hoist their flag in Russia.

Do you recall how Germany embarrassed Brasilia in the last world cup? If it were to be Nigeria, we wouldn't have heard the last of it yet. Qualification makes some of us very happy as we are motivated to at least watch the group stage and see our country maul or mauled.

In any case, if we don't qualify, we can't aspire to lift the trophy, or can we?

gemale:
More like 60% loading. Not to sound like a wet blanket but the 2nd leg against Cameroon exposed the mediocrity that is very prevalent & celebrated among Nigerians. We went to Yaoundé to achieve a draw not bothering to aim higher for a win. We could have beaten the Cameroonians in Yaoundé the way they played. If we were half as sharp as we were in front of goal as in the first leg, we could have scored a 2nd goal. The midfield (especially mikel) went on break for most of the 2nd half leaving the wingers to bear the brunt of initiating attacks. Our profligacy was punished when the referee gifted them a penalty (which IMO was unwarranted) which they converted to level the score. We were fortunate that the referee became vigilant afterwards because the Cameroonians started diving in an attempt to win another spot kick. What would have been our fate if he was deceived? Yes, a draw wasn't a bad result but we could have done better because the Cameroonians didn't exactly step up to give us a really tough time. We should have punished them. That is what separates the top teams from others. They are ruthless and offer their opponents no quarters. They don't rest on their oars. They rest when the job is done. Yes, we currently lead our group but that is no excuse to think we have already qualified for the world cup. If we lose our next 2 matches & zambia wins theirs, we wouldn't qualify. Yes, it's highly unlikely but it's possible in the realm of football. If we won at Yaoundé, we would have been 5 points up, thereby making it more difficult for Zambia to try & mount a comeback. Now, Zambia are 3 points adrift & we play them next. Imagine if they beat us at uyo. They would be equal on points with us. It's possible after all, we did beat them at ndola. Didn't south africa beat us in uyo? Playing at home is no guarantee of a victory for us. It is not over until it's over. Can you remember how we qualified for the 2010 world cup? Tunisia led the group until the very last match day when they slipped up. We need to guard against complacency & thinking we have already arrived. That's the reason why since 1999,no Nigerian player has won the african player of the year. Even top teams & players challenge themselves to do more.

Nice piece, well written, very logical and straight to the point. Kudos

Tolexander:
Though the aim is to make the players play at their most brilliant levels, won't this make the players play individual football, spoiling the game.

Remember, "too much skills, spoil the show"

I still believe in award given/promised to the team than individual.

A Zambian could also qualify as man of the match....

potent5:
Op, you make sense dye.

A story between the cunningly wise Tortoise (Nnamdi Kanu) and the FOOOOLISH dying elephant that wants some dead bodies to accompany him on his way to hades.

Favour me with a brief of the elephant and tortoise fable. I don't recall having listened to it

kingkardesh17:
pls am tired of this biafra news on my screen.

Then break your screen

Intrepid01:
I concluded it was fake when I saw KPMG on that list...which KPMG...Nigeria or Coutonou?

Even Meristem Securities. I will continue to laugh oo.

Paying well is relative though, but i know a few recent hires in my office from some of these companies.

Anybody can claim anything though.

dokiOloye:
Lolz.
Fire on,Mr Senator.
We dey your back

When slap come, remember to bring your face oo