₦airaland Forum

It always helps to have a big ego, whether you can "back it up" or not. I consider myself a quiet man to some extent, but I always assert my authority and dominance (albeit in a calm way) from the very beginning...sexually and otherwise. Even when you have issues or slight quarrels, you should make it clear that it's your way or the highway... And thereafter you can pet her and show her your sweet, loving, apologetic, and considerate side if she behaves well. Doesn't matter if she earns more money than you or not. Your ego has to reign supreme.

A man without a big ego in his relationship with a Nigerian woman is finished. They will toss you around mercilessly and feed you bullshit till eternity. You should never settle for a woman that can't submit herself. Better to let her go and look for someone else that knows her place - so that you can be the sweet, lovingly quiet man you naturally are without facing undue pressure everyday.

As long as the venue of the alleged 'rape' was the guy's house or hotel room, and as long as the evidence of the so-called rape boils down to the girl's unverifiable accusation, then I will ALWAYS give the guy the benefit of the doubt. Even if my own sister is involved, I will still support the guy. Period. Unless there is video or audio evidence to the contrary.

Stupidity should never be encouraged. If you know you are not willing to have sex with a guy, and you are not really sure what might happen if you end up in seclusion with him, do not visit him in his house.. In fact, if it is a hotel room, then may God punish you if you come and scream rape. You have no business visiting a hotel room in the first place unless you know what you want. We have to encourage decency and common sense, otherwise more demonic girls will keep using false rape accusations to tarnish innocent men's reputations.

kITATITA:
http://www.thisdaylive.com/articles/uproar-over-n4bn-budget-for-first-lady-s-office/138107/
http://sunnewsonline.com/new/fcts-2013-budget-proposals/

The FCTA setting aside funds to build an office (permanent edifice) is not the same thing as a budgetary allocation to RUN the Office of the First Lady. Is it not the same office that your hypocritical Aisha Buhari is now using? So what exactly is your point?

kITATITA:
Wife of the President performs nominal and ceremonial roles in other countries of the world. What's repugnant like we had in the last administration is budgetary allocation to an office not recognized by law. Are we going to lock her up in her bedroom because her husband won an election?

You and the idiots that liked your post should borrow some sense. Show us evidence that there was budgetary allocation to the office of the First Lady during the last administration or get ready to be struck dead by thunder. It's ridiculous how people just wake up and allege any rubbish they like just to prove a foolish point.

bushdoc9919:
So, you want us to pretend that oil is still above $100 per barrel.?

Besides....if the economy had been transformed by PDP as you PDP followers claimed....we won't be in this mess...and Buhari wont be in charge.


What is happening is what happens in a resource dependent society. When the price of your resource falls....you raise taxes....or go cap in hand to IMF to borrow money.

Thanks to your PDP's fiscal indiscipline of the last 16 years....we are here today.

Anyway....Buhari must get us off oil .......or he is a bad leader.

Raising taxes across board is not a magical solution to the problem of dwindling government revenues, especially in an unproductive economy such as Nigeria with high poverty and unemployment rates and low purchasing power. For a government that knows what it is doing, there are more intelligent and creative ways to boost revenues rather than simply plucking the low hanging fruit by raising taxes - which any daft Dullard can do. How about slashing the overbloated recurrent expenditure? How about blocking the drain pipes and loop holes through which billions (if not trillions) are lost to inefficiencies and misappropriation annually? How about raising taxes on LUXURY goods and services so that the masses would not feel the effect?

This Daura D.ullard would soon begin to receive the wrath of Nigerians. Shebi Yar'Adua tried to increase VAT soon after he became president, only to rescind the decision after Nigerians showed him pepper.

Buhari the Dullard promised heaven on earth during the campaigns... The so-called change. Shebi that was why he easily deceived his fellow abokkis in the North and their oily slaves in the South West. Let us see how much longer his goodwill will last if he implements these kinds of obnoxious policies that impoverish and immiserate the daft Nigerians that voted for him.

Kiss Daniel's Laye should be in the top 3. Infectious track.

Umuchoke:
Don't get the message wrong; I'm not totally against involving families in marriage but I feel it's better done after the young man and lady has tied the nuptial knots in the court of law. I've seen many cases where a guy would take a girl to his parents to introduce her as his future wife. The parents may accept initially but there would always be one grandpa with so much history in his bald head to ruin the show. He would tell you how the girl's people treated his own village in 1857, and for that reason the marriage shouldn't hold. This can be just so frustrating, especially when the young people involved are seriously in love with each other. Since bigotry and tribal sentiments can't be removed, I suggest we limit families involvement in marriage affairs.

That is (one of the MANY) difference(s) between Oyinbo people and Africans. Hard to say, but the truth remains.

They wil tell you about some stupid tradition, tradition that hasn't benefitted mankind in any way.

Princeparix:
Just two singles


Well.... Dia mata

Those two singles are 'sweeter' and more successful than what some musicians would have in their entire career.

CG of Customs is a very "juicy" post indeed, more so than all the other service chiefs combined, even more than the likes of CBN Governor etc. Only the GMD of NNPC is juicier than it.

I'm sure many people attributed the fuel scarcity earlier this year to Jonathan's "incompetence". Now that we have a 'competent' Dullard in charge who has been in power for almost three months, yet the fuel scarcity hasn't abated, who do we blame? And why shouldn't we support this lawyer?

uboma:
Same reason I want to leave my current place...

A self acclaimed man of god, whose church got demolished (reasons not too clear to me), turned his house to a place of worship. He mounted these loud speakers at strategic locations and as early as 5am and late into the night he is already disturbing the neighbour-hood.

I wonder why some people have no regard for others. Those of us who approached him to reduce the level of noise are now his enemies.

If you find an answer to this question, then then have found the answer to the greatest evils that have been afflicting mankind since creation... Why do people kill others, why do people lie against others and put them down, why don't people share with others even though they have more than enough, etc etc?

Having no regard for others is a form of perversity on itself, and far too many human beings are guilty of this. It defies any rational explanation.

There can't possibly be any rational explanation for a supposedly sane individual putting up loud speakers to disturb the peace of his entire neighbourhood. It is understandable if this happens periodically, say a party or some sort of occasional merriment. But doing this everyday without any sort of sensitivity to the feelings or wellbeing of others takes some degree of evil mindedness and fanaticism (assuming we have ruled out outright insanity).

That's what you get when loafers and people without meaningful income procreate beyond the bounds of common sense, giving birth to miscreants and deviants who would later constitute a menace to society.

Birth control is an imperative policy to pursue, something similar to China's 'One Child' policy. Why should a miserable couple who cannot even feed themselves keep giving birth like chickens and end up with 7 children in a one room face-me-I-face-you apartment? These children would inevitably be thrown into the streets where they will grow up to foment trouble and disturb the peace of society.

If care is not taken, the security situation in Nigeria would be unmanageable in the next 10 years with the current rate of uncontrolled population explosion.

This dullard is just chasing shadows all over the place. When will you start governing, which is what you were elected to do? All these useless talks about recovering looted funds here and there is making him look like a delusional ghost buster. We have law enforcement agencies (EFCC etc.) statutorily empowered to handle that. Give us a clear policy direction and start fulfilling your campaign promises, Dullard!

Load of rubbish. Futile image laundering attempt by an APC newspaper, The Nation. Even if you dress a pig in the most ornate and beautifully designed robes, it remains a dirty pig nonetheless.

Buhari has been in power long enough for all to see that he is a clueless Dullard. No amount of image laundering by The Nation or any other APC mouthpiece can deceive discerning Nigerians.

Obijulius:
Deviating from the elitist and isolationist philosophies of the APC, Mr. Ambode is fast gaining prominence as a socialist who understands the diverse and yet unique needs of a multi-cultural city like Lagos.

I love the policies I see him implementing so far and I must say this is a man who desires to unite all.

I am impressed by this move.

Bravo Governor.

I can't help but agree completely. I loathe the APC and everything it represents, but I am beginning to like Ambode seriously. His practical and down to earth approach to governance is a refreshing break from the despicable style of that arrogant, elitist and overrated idiot - Fashola or whatever they call him.

Who else is going through hell in the hands of Zenith Bank, at least in Abuja? Throughout yesterday August 3, I could not access my account. Even an important credit transaction posted to my account yesterday (for which I received an alert) somehow reversed and has not been credited to my account up till now. This is pure madness. The customer service reps have not been helpful in any way. I mean, how can a Bank's network collapse for more than 20 hours without any meaningful response? If this is not the worst form of incompetence and insensitivity, then what is?

Besides, I have been battling with a failed POS transaction with this same Zenith Bank for which my account was debited.. and for more than 2 weeks now, the money has not been returned to my account. Is this how we are supposed to graduate to the so-called "cashless society"?

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anonimi:
What stops Africans from finding a vaccine for HIV to counter what you allege is an ulterior motive

Don't mind these escapist conspiracy theorists. All they know how to do is cling on to unfounded and totally baseless ideas and offer ridiculous excuses for our backwardness as a continent. It's really shameful to read such commentaries.

Our so-called Nigerian/African professors would be prancing about in a pompous manner 'forming' over sabi, and lamenting about how they earn less than Senators bla bla. How many of such innovations have they pioneered? What really entitles them to the preferential treatment and esteem that they crave so much?

The oyinbo masters have come to the rescue, yet again. Very sobering.

Are you kidding me? Never knew Falz was Falana's son! That guy is pure talent and he's shooting straight to the top of the game with his refreshingly unique style. Who would have thought.

And in terms of cost of living, Abuja is generally cheaper (transport, etc), with the exception of accommodation and maybe services (mechanics, phone repairers and such). Security is much better in Abuja too, partly because of the controlled population in the main city - largely due to the exorbitant accommodation costs. Without meaning to sound insensitive, it is probably a good idea for things to remain this way.

I dread the day that Abuja would become an all-comers affair - with all the criminal elements and other undesirable characters trooping in to make this city less safe and less livable than it currently is. Population explosion must be discouraged here by any means necessary. Abuja should not be allowed to decline to the level of Lagos were robbers, area boys, street gangs, cultists, and all categories of animals are on rampage in virtually every corner. If artificially high house rents is the way to keep these nuisances out of the city, then so be it.

Those who have lived in both cities and yet prefer Lagos to Abuja can be likened to psychologically impaired females who prefer abusive/violent lovers than gentle/caring ones. For normal human beings who value quality of life and sanity, Abuja is a billion times more livable and FAR FAR FAAAAARRRRRR better than Lagos. I have lived in Lagos for two decades, and I currently shuttle between both cities, so I know what I'm talking about.

From the first time I set foot in Abuja some years ago, it was love at first sight, and I instantly knew within me that this was a place that I would call home sooner than later. It was a breath of fresh air...Fantastic city (by Nigerian standards) that oozed sanity, tranquility, power, and opportunity. Subsequent visits accelerated my love for the city and opened my eyes to the hell that I have been enduring in Lagos.

Why are they wasting time in arresting people over this animal's death? The police should invest their time and resources in better things.

Many secretaries and subordinate females are guilty of this. How person wan take marry these things for God's sake? From my experience, it takes only a very decent or sexually indifferent boss to avoid this. The power is hardly ever in the girl's hand (no matter how "holy" or "principled" she claims to the outside world). If most girls encounter a randy boss in an organisation they truly like to work in, they will rather become his sex slave than lose that job. Period. Later they will form decent for their boyfriends or toasters outside. It is a very frightening reality. Working class girls indeed.

chat2deen:
Cadets are plumming! Plumming 101 pde. They are just causing small chawuzing nah, cracked fire eaters! I feel u guys! That kind regular tins! I guess crabs don finish prep winging and dey wanted to do shake up.

You are a retarrrded buffoon. All the rubbish you just spilled makes you look like an idiiot. Why not come and cause "small chawuzing" with your bare fists against an average male civilian, without the help of your fellow cowards in uniform?

I like this Nigga. He killed the Mastercraft hit, Indomie.

Hard for me to define it. But I know a submissive woman when I'm befriending one, and God knows I always go to the end of the world to please this sort of woman and treat her like my queen (within my abilities). In fact, she ends up having her way on most issues, without the need for us to argue or fight.... something the typically 'I too know' or 'I sabi my right' kind of confrontational and unyielding women would never achieve with me.

I don't know the psychological process that underpins this fact, but it is a fact for me nonetheless.