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Communication is key here.

Listen to what she is saying. Please listen lovingly and attentively. You will see if she is making a sincere point or she is just being greedy. If the point is about prices, other items that centres on the food and she convinces you, then respond well according to your pocket. Be sincere too. Don't be harsh.
But if here reason is because she needs to buy stuffs that do not concern the food like clothes, make up, etc. Or she is comparing you to someone else, shun her straight and firmly. Let her stop that nonsense.
After all you take care of other needs and give her pocket money.
Control your home. You are the man.

There are risks in marrying single mothers...but it's not a certain failure.
My problem with you now are two
1. You have a low mentality on getting younger women. You need to go passed that level. If you marry her now, in the future you mat start feeling like you didn't put yourself first. Like you settled for less. That can make you disrespect her and create a hostile home
2. Age pressure. 37 years can make you feel like you are under pressure and you can go for who will not give you a hardtime to win. Forget your age. Your own happiness should come first. Look for the best. Marriage is very long-term. Think long-term.

But then marrying a single mother is not a 100% guaranteed to fail as many are suggesting. Of course she will put her child first, who will not. That's what makes her a responsible woman. But noooo she will not go back to the father of the child. She may be too jealous and insecure because of the trauma she has gone through from her baby daddy. With time, you can heal her. At 37, you will also have your baggages for her to deal with.
Just go to the legal process of making the child yours. If the father says no (which he has the right to), then you both can come to an agreement how the child will be taken care of
Pray and follow your heart. If you are finding yourself having too many doubts as you are already showing by coming here to seek for advice, then you should probably be honest with yourself and quit.

Explore the option of remote court. Ask around

Have a budget on the car you want.
Divide the amount into 12
Open a new account
Transfer that money into it small small
If you are able to do that for 3 to 4 months, you will be committed to see it to the end.

Just make sure you don't have ATM card for that account and liv a low profile life. Tell anyone that is closed to you that this is what you are saving for.

But if you take a car loan, apart from enjoying the car immediately, you can make the car partly finance the payment. You can go into picking up perssengers when going to work or coming back (no go dey do father christmas for your neighbours, colleaguesor, relatives or friends). If you know how to drive well, you can do bolt on weekends to support your pocket. At least, let the car buy it own fuel and feed you 3 times daily. The bad side of this is the car will die quick too if you are a learner on this Nigeria road...so you must be a very good driver that knows how to slow down on bad roads and avoid accidents and crashing of the body of the car.

IceDune:
Also I did nothing wrong of which her conscience will tell her.

My brother, you are correct not to say you loved her. She sef need help. She's too fast about everything .

She was flowing with your profile message though but she need sense

Mind your business. Stop behaving like a village man. Don't ever discussed it with your neighbours...they are all aware and are minding their businesses

Communication will solve some of these problems. Ask him what he wants to do in bed but he's too afraid to ask. Celebrate him. Shower him with love. Then tell him about your fears and findings.
Don't quench fire with fire.

I love your post op.
People are clearly ignorant of spiritual forces.
Somethings can be explained as natural. But there are more to them.
There are witches and wizards. There are deities of family, communities and places that keep people under for a long time.

If your forefathers have worshipped a deity before, that deity will demand continuous worship and will do anything to call back attention. The God of isreal was like that towards the isrealite. He frustrated them and caused them to go into slavery all because the people rejected him. This jealousy is not peculiar to God. Other deities are like that.
Witches are never for anyone Good. If you have one in your family, it's serious trouble.

A word is enough for the wise

Don't leave the house. There are many things you have to do before you consider such extreme move.
Your attitude: this 700k net may have made you to be proud and bossy. You need to humble down.
Take her out: take her outside the house. Lounge in a hotel with her
Buy her things.
Involve third party.

It's normal. It's natural. It will go with time. Once she marry, you both forget yourself. You are feeling this way because there is vacancy.
About her own feelings, na women mumu sense. They always feel this way after you get married. When you are still single and begging them, they will be acting stubborn like you have committed an unforgivable sin

Report them to police

I don't know what you studied. But try and learn how to drive. Then apply for driving job. Or get a car you drive as a bolt driver. That can keep you going until you get a job. My advice

webmonkey:
No investment on earth can afford that can of return.

There are many that pays more. Check Daisy to start with. Research and get facts. You want to sound intelligent right? Do small research

GABUJABOY:
The Criminal dey even build hotel close to dangote refinery.
This guy will even be worse than that guy at the USA prison

Yeah. That one dupe rich folks. This one wreak the poor.

Here he was with the CEO. Poor boy then

This is the hacker interview on Vanguard

NEWS
April 29, 2023

From Passion to Success: A Journey with Oluwasesan Abayomi, Founder of FIDORAY Autos
From Passion to Success: A Journey with Oluwasesan Abayomi, Founder of FIDORAY Autos
Oluwasesan Abayomi, founder and CEO of FIDORAY Autos, has made a name for himself in the car dealership industry. With a deep-rooted passion for cars and an unwavering commitment to his work, Abayomi has built a successful business and transformed the car buying experience for his clients.

Born and raised in Nigeria, Abayomi completed his Bachelor’s degree before embarking on a journey of self-discovery, traveling to countries such as Kenya, Dubai, Turkey, Paris, and London. It was during these travels that Abayomi began to envision a career in the automotive industry.

FIDORAY Autos was born out of Abayomi’s passion for cars and a desire to create a customer-centric car dealership. Since its inception, the company has grown exponentially, earning a reputation for its honesty and dedication to customer satisfaction. Abayomi’s commitment to excellence has resulted in numerous awards and recognitions for both himself and the company.


Currently based in London, Abayomi is now focused on expanding FIDORAY Autos by investing in innovative projects and exploring new opportunities. As he continues to grow his business, Abayomi remains committed to providing exceptional service and value to his clients.

In a recent interview, Abayomi shared his thoughts on his journey so far and offered advice to aspiring professionals in the car dealership industry. When asked about the inspiration behind his career choice, he simply stated, “I love cars.” Despite facing financial challenges along the way, Abayomi’s determination and hard work have led him to great accomplishments, including the successful growth of FIDORAY Autos.
For those looking to follow in his footsteps, Abayomi’s advice is to “be honest and keep striving hard.” He believes that a strong work ethic, coupled with integrity and persistence, can lead to success in any industry.

Abayomi’s personal motto, “Money stop nonsense,” serves as a reminder that financial success can be a powerful tool in overcoming challenges and creating opportunities. As he continues to expand FIDORAY Autos and make his mark in the car dealership world, there’s no doubt that Oluwasesan Abayomi’s passion, perseverance, and dedication will continue to drive his success.

jackcanfield:
They wreck you na well well o .. hope you na go recover.

Sure na. It takes less than 2 months to recover

This should be pushed to front page. Beware of scammers that will flood this posts with fake addresses. Contact me only

Their cars now up for sales

Still more pictures and largesse of the hackers

More pictures of the hackers

Pictures of the hackers

If you wish to join the platform, contact me via my email here. Currently we can't register new members. I will keep you informed when we can.

AAS is an online investment platform. The CEO is Jesam Michael. It pays about 68.5% returns in 38 days.

The platform stopped operating from May 15 2023 due to the activities of hackers.

Good news the hackers have been caught

This is the post from the CEO in the official Telegram group of the company
Jesam Michael:
AAS WAS BUILT ON TOPNOTCH SECURITY ARCHITECTURE THAT DEFENDS ITSELF AGAINST AGGRESSIVE ATTACKS FROM EXTERNAL FORCES. THIS WAS DEMONSTRATED MANY TIMES. HOWEVER, THE SECURITY OF A FORTRESS STRONGLY FORTIFIED AGAINST INVASION CAN BE COMPROMISED IF ONE OF THE OCCUPANTS OF THE FORTRESS LEAKS SECURITY INFORMATION TO EXTERNAL INVADERS AND SECRETLY OPENS THE GATE FOR THEM. THE ENEMY WITHIN IS THE DEADLIEST ENEMY TO CONTEND WITH: FRIENDLY BUT EXTREMELY WICKED AND RUTHLESS.

AAS EMPLOYED ABAYOMI SEGUN OLUWASESAN ON THE 15th OF JUNE 2022 TO WORK AS A WEB DEVELOPER. BY VIRTUE OF HIS JOB, HE WAS PART OF THE AAS BUILDING PROCESS AND WAS ENTRUSTED WITH SOME SENSITIVE DATA FOR THE SMOOTH OPERATIONS OF THE COMPANY.
OVERWHELMED BY GREED, WHEN AAS STARTED BOOMING ABAYOMI SEGUN OLUWASESAN DECIDED TO HIRE THE SERVICES OF OTHER CYBER CRIMINALS NAMED FEMI OKUNADE, ADENIYI ONIFADE, SAMSON OLORUNTOBA AND THEIR GANG TO HACK INTO AAS THEREBY DISRUPTING ITS SMOOTH OPERATIONS.

ALL THE HACKERS MENTIONED ABOVE INCLUDING ABAYOMI HAVE

BEEN ARRESTED AND TAKEN INTO CUSTODY. THE HACKERS HAVE PRESENTLY CONFESSED TO INTERPOL NIGERIA THAT THEY HACKED INTO AAS USING THE PRIVILEGED INFORMATION GIVEN TO THEM BY ABAYOMI - THE AAS EMPLOYEE. THE CRIMINALS WILL ALL FACE THE FULL WRATH OF THE LAW.

FROM ZERO LOW LIFE TO A BIG BOY
FROM JANUARY TO MAY HE HAS TRAVELED TO UK 3 TIMES WITH FIRST CLASS TICKET FLIGHT

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HIS PERSONAL CAR STAND FOR SALE OF CARS

The fact is when you go against the norms you will be judged. Over covering is against the norms. Under covering is against the norms. It's not only in Nigeria; it's worldwide.
Piercing Is not welcome by the majority. If you do it, you have fallen to the minority groups.

You will attract lesser guys and have fewer relationships. Hold tightly to the one you have now because market no too plenty.

You also make it difficult for some guys to take the relationships to the next level. He will be thinking about how his family, church and friends will see you.

These things matters oh

fadilaMaikiriki:
Hmmmmm! Even when I dress very responsibly?

You will not dress responsible. It's hardly possible for people with multiple piercing to dress that way.

How much is director salary in civil service? How much is a teacher salary? How much is a police officer salary? How much is a soldier salary? My brothers and sisters, the people that are earning above 100k are blessed in the above categories.
Talk with sense. Complete your university and apply for jobs and good luck

Just finished reading this. Angela na she be your Downfall oh

Use soft soft take talk na.

I consider your advise wrong. He is right no to give her money. She lacks shame and dignity. Hope you are even joking.

Jennyclay:
Two things are involve here. It’s either you’re chatting with yourself or you’re cursed with the spirit of poverty .

Ordinary 3k you should have sent to her would have stopped you from disgracing your broke linage on a public forum like this.

Did she pull a gun on your broke head when she asked you for money If you don’t have money, just tell her poverty is about to send you to your early grave and I’m very sure she would understand rather than coming here to disgrace yourself.

Shame on you!! Big shame!!

Just stand on what is the truth op. Saying things that you can't proof makes people to call you bluff. What you have mentioned as a reasons not to sleep with married women is your imagination.
It's enough to say it is a sin. It's morally wrong. It destroys the family systems. These are provable and evident. That should be enough for the wise. Anything extra makes you to sound a liar. You can't use a lie to preach good.

elated177:
You don't know what you are doing to yourselves.

There are some married women who prey on some unmarried guys out there. Know that married women will not prey on "empty" guys. Nope! They seek out and go for guys whom they know have "substances".

Why do they do such?

So that they will steal such virtues from them. What they steal from you through sex, they deposit in their husbands. Yap! Through that sexual relationship, whatever they draw from you, they plant in their husbands.

Help yourself, desist from having sexual relationship with married women. I have always been, and will always be, a proponent and preacher of sexual purity - abstinence. I believe that sex is to be enjoyed by only two people - male and female - who are married to each other. I will never support sexual immorality of any kind.