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abdul824:
Distance usually have a bad toll on relationships. you communicate more with those around you, most of us here are leaving in cities, when last did you have a 5 minutes long conversation over the phone with a kin in the village? you see! they are now replaced by neighbors and colleagues from work place.. it's just life, not hard feelings.

lies from the pit of hell!! If I wooz you eh, u go stop that lies u are telling there, nansense

For your jnfky, I have friends who are Doctors in UK, Australia, very busy schedule, some in the US military, some nurses, and still they make out time to call me or WhatsApp or Facebook, so who u be , its all about money, if your friends in Nigeria are doing better than u abroad u will be the one connecting back to them.



If El Rufai son or Buhari's son or Rochas Okorocha's son is your friend in Nigeria and you are in US working hourly job, will you ignore his message if he wishes you happy birthday, swear it, ode



Na fear of poverty, once a poor Nigerian person travels abroad, he or she feels he has escaped poverty by the grace of God and therefore must avoid any poor or struggling person (friend oh, relative oh) from Nigeria


Its all about the money, get money and the world is yours no matter where you are, Baba God I thank you so much for your blessings in my life, I wonder how people for de treat me


To all the broke and struggling people out there reading this, don't give up, God will reward your hardwork, keep on working and keep planning and dreaming big, just time.


But when you make it in Nigeria or travel abroad, don't be like those mumu people abroad op is talking about, be a difference.


I speak what I am doing. I am a blessing to all my friends home and abroad and even those in the village and I want to even become more blessing to more, so help me God!

SoccerUSA:
As seen in the topic, I have two friends that travelled to the U.S, One travelled 2014 and the other one 2017, though before they left we had a good vibes we were both close if not best friends before they left.

The one of 2014 stopped texting me at 2018 or so even when I wished him birthday wishes and same with the other. I knew this because I only texted them on Facebook and you will know when they read and not reply.

I don't hold any grudges against them though
Did you guys think it's normal? Like if I leave Nigeria, Would I also ignore my friends text even if they do not request anything from me?

Please can someone just explain to me so I won't see my friends (maybe former friends) as bad ones.

It is more common among ladies.


Guys only ignore their friends in Nigeria when they travel abroad mostly if their friend in Nigeria is broke and not doing well financially in Nigeria.


If your friends abroad see you as a burden or if they feel you are broke and struggling financially, most will ignore you because they are scared you would start asking them for financial favors which they believe they labored so much to make $1 and therefore no person deserves a dime from their sweat, poverty mentality



Another reason is, life abroad is hard, some work 14 hours, 16 hours, 18 hours a day to meet up several obligations and be able to save to send back to Nigeria for investment or family projects, so that hour they spend at work changes their normal good mood and turn them to angry people who now feel that people in Nigeria are lazy and idle while they work their ass off, but as stupid as some of them think, they forget many Nigerians in Nigeria are ready to even work 24hrs but they can't even see any job to do.



lastly, those were never your true friends. Anyway, ladies are never true friends to their fellow ladies sha, na competition friends ladies are to their fellow ladies.


99% of my friends live abroad, but they know I can be in that country they are any moment I wish if not for Covid-19, so they no born them well not to call me in a week, not even me calling or texting them, na me de form busy for them cos I am truly very busy more than coca cola production line



So my dear face your life, once your financial life becomes sweet or once u marry a well to do man like us, na those your friends go de rush you oh cos you will be going on vacation and returning back to Naija at your own will

smiliyB:
Jesu I like your truthfulness but it's very painful... I can't stop laughing @he had already fvcked you in his mind

no be their fault, na nature do am like that, if not men for no value women and women for suffer well well

Because I was scared of my future and the future of my family in Nigeria, I acted smart by selling my land, my car, my properties to send my wife to study in Australia to secure our family's future in a better country that offers better opportunity. Today my wife has helped me secure a better future for my family and I, I can now sleep knowing I will never go broke again


This is what the man wanted to say, don't mind the type

ccffwx:
Emotional blackmail. Another way of saying young women should not aspire.

Your sense is leaking oil, maybe Mobil need to come set up oil rig for your head platform, what do you think?

smiliyB:
You don't have to be disappointed, you really tried.... Just keep it up, but make sure you're genuine not that you want to play game or deceive someone's pikin

99% of the time, what pushes a man to approach a girl is sex appeal, him wan chook him prick inside her ocean, along the line, he may change course if the lady proves to offer more than sex or sex appeal.



But bear it in mind, whenever a guy approaches you, he had already fvcked you in his mind, it's not a crime, that's how men are naturally wired even though many will lie and disagree to appear holy

TimeTraveler369:
So you have never approached a woman before and you expected to score the first time?

Dont be like me, I dont waste time with women, I prefer the gold diggers, cos I prefer to focus on money and women who love money will always figure out how to toast me.

Any woman who doesnt like money shouldnt come to me.

I love this. The mindset of extremely successful guys.


And I always tell guys, there is nothing bad in a girl loving you because of your money or cars or house or whatever you have, to me I see nothing bad in it, money is made to be spent on things that give us joy.


At least the girl you approached, you liked her because of something too, could be her big ass, her legs, her height, her boobs, her shaky shaky body and all that, so guys should learn not to complain that ladies love them cos of money cos it feels good to have nri umu nnunu na acho

Necksonnel:
Maybe you're broke. If you're loaded the confidence will come from nowhere. This is me. When am broke I lose this confidence to approach some girls but when am loaded, I fit approach you no mata how big you are if you turn me down i see am as your loss

another point.


When a financially buoyant guy approaches a lady and she says no, most times the guy will feel pity for the lady cos he knows that the lady just missed some bags of goodies, that's why woke buoyant guys rarely get upset when a lady turn them down, because they know that as Miss A says no to him, Miss B, d, f, r, q, p, Z, X, c,v, etc are praying for someone like him to come their way, so he only laughs at Miss A for her loss, especially if he had good plans for her.


Single ladies really need lots of prayers and spiritual guidance to open their eyes to see when their destiny helper is coming their way in the form of a stranger toaster

Parablesonmarble:
I pray you get to meet someone nice before you become proficient at the job. Once your kind become good, they go gaga, toying with every woman in sight.

That is how ladies abi girls unknowingly push so many guys into becoming playboys.


The harder it becomes for the guy to get a girl that meets his taste, the more daring he becomes, and the more perfect and confident he becomes in wooing just any girl, and by then, ladies will start to admire and fall for him faster which will lead him into the playboy lifestyle of hit and run, which has become a societal syndrome today.


Dear ladies, you should understand that it's not easy for a stranger to admire you and also develop the courage to walk up to you to express his feelings for you, even if you are not interested in him for any reason, try and be nice not for your own self alone, but for other ladies that guy would meet, and for the guy you would love that will meet you someday who must have passed through bad experience with another girl he tried to woo some time ago.


This thing is a cycle, be nice to your chikers, unless they approached you in a rude or arrogant way, if not, there is no reason to be stupid or snubby or foolish towards strangers admiring you, it's a good thing that strangers admire you abi you want evil spirits alone to de admire you ni

Openbusiness:
Lol, most guys commenting here don't understand the point the OP is making. The OP is not saying you shouldn't date a successful woman. What he means is this: it is an open secret that Lekki na the headquarters of hoelosho runs babes for this Lagos. So if a girl tells a guy she is single and living alone in Lekki, the perception any woke guy wey sabi that scope automatically might change and he will view the girl from that angle as a possible runs babe, so he might just try to mark her register and jaappaaa . That's what the OP means. Oga OP, abeg am i correct?

Your papa didn't waste his money sending you to school walayi

Berryli:
Few weeks to my 25th birthday, last year, I ran into my Neighbour and we exchanged numbers, then the chatting began, we became friends and he offered to take me out on my birthday but It didn't happen.

Fast forward to the lockdown, I would go visit him we would chat and he appreciated my company as he was alone. He eventually started to make moves, getting all touchy which got me a little surprised and uncomfortable since as friends that was improper, which got me thinking if he wants more than friendship.

He has a great career, intelligent and all but not my spec, and I'm not attracted to him. We are very different people, socially and even our views about life. I enjoy his company but that's all there is. As a result if I use to visit twice in a week, I reduced it to once in two weeks and eventually monthly, and reduced the chats just to not give him the wrong impression.

He stylishly refer to me in future as his wife. What do I do? Is he starting to have feelings for me and how do I stylishly turn him down since he hasn't asked me out or do i wait for him to do so? cos there are people who just draw close and start dating without d while toasting stuff or is it just his flesh loosing control, which I doubt cos I try to be as decent as possible wen visiting him.

Do I just go with the flow since I'm currently not in a relationship? But won't that be me deceiving him and myself cos I don't like him in that way. or I'm over thinking the whole thing?

You are a very good lady with human empathy, and I commend you for that.


But in as much as I commend you for your empathy towards a fellow human's feelings, I must tell you the saddest truth; you will definitely end up with a wrong guy


In this life, take it from me, when it comes to settling down, nature gave man that absolute right to decide...that's why nature gave ladies that heart to accept just anybody that show them sincere care and affection unlike men.


You as a woman, you are created by nature to accept a man who shows you sincere affection, commitment, affection and respect......but western civilisation media exposure and whatnot have made women to believe they can chose their spec of a man; mostly based on physical looks which is not how women are naturally designed, they only got influenced, and majority if not all of the women that use that word "not my spec" or "I am not attracted to him" while neglecting the guy's sincere interest and commitment towards them always end up with the wrong guy, and its always too late for them, so think twice.


All the best

Angelfrost:
I have actually seen couples glued together while in a 'missionary position'!!!

So, what lesson exactly??! That there 'acceptable' coital positions for adultery??! I am confused here!

lesson to learn: don't let your wife's boyfriend put magun on your wife's something before u, put it first, always stay ahead

WoundedLamb:
You can't feel the absence of someone whose presence you never felt. This is a fact and there's no point pretending otherwise.

I think it's naturally a matter of how famous one was. People die everyday but only a few get such attention and regardless of how we view it, it remains a fact that people only celebrate the lives of people they felt connected to. It's not a matter of where one comes from. I cried when Micheal Jackson died but didn't really feel anything when Yaradua died asides pity for the family, yet I'm originally Nigerian and he was the president. That was because I hardly knew Yaradua but I felt connected to Micheal cause I grew up listening to his songs. All the plane crashes that have happened in the past had someone piloting the planes, how many of them got such attention? They were not less human but you can't share their pics pretending to be moody about their demise when you aren't.

Chadwick death isn't being talked about just because he was an actor. He got the attention cause a lot of people knew him when he was alive. His followers will miss his tweets, his fans will miss his face on the screen, etc. He represented a height for blacks in Hollywood. His existence was significant to a lot of people. On the other hand, people didn't really know Chika when he was alive so even though he died a hero, the connection wasn't there. To his friends and family, his life was far more significant than that of Chadwick and they must be feeling his absence more. But for the rest of us, nothing really changed and we can't pretend otherwise just to appear good.

May their souls rest in peace.

it's a lie. If the pilot was an American he would have tended too.


That black guy killed by American cop was he popular

Americans respect and value life more than Nigerians.


Nigerians are hungry, a hungry man is an angry man.

When the poor die nobody remembers them but when the rich dies the poor join to mourn them like they lost their own life.

Americans are like the rich while Nigerians are like the poor. Nobody celebrate poor people, but everybody celebrate rich people.


Nigeria need a total restructuring for things to start to change for good, if not

If the man die there he died a hero, something must kill a man



And na doggy him de fire before Amadioha abi sango come vex, lesson to learn: don't do doggy if no be your wife

baralatie:
of all successful it is the late that came to your head
are you that scared?

oh I forgot brother, go for Oprah Winfrey

baralatie:
a member of the category of men scared to the bone of successful women has spoken

Yes oh, you can go and marry Margaret Thatcher, I will grace the occasion as kimsen

ArcFresky:
Lol, feminist will soon come for you.

their loss, our gain

If you are a single lady that is not from a well known rich family background or you have a well known and established career or flourishing business, don't ever make mistake of going to Lekki or VI or Ikoyi to live alone.



I am advising you single ladies as a concerned brother, of course the bad guy side of me love it but the good guy side of me told me to tell you single ladies to desist from that move.

Nigeria is not New York neither is it London.


Nigeria is located in Africa and every nation is shaped by their culture, tradition and values. Nigerians irrespective of wealth, exposure or what have you are shaped by our Nigerian culture, tradition, religion and societal values.


If you think it is a wise thing to do, ask your fellow Nigerian single ladies living in Canada, London and US how market!



Don't expect Seun Osewa's parents to be like Tyler Perry's parents. Our mamas and papas are Nigerians, there are things they will neglect in their son's girlfriends but will never dare when she is about to turn to their sons wife or DIL!


Forget the opinion of some Nigerian guys trying to form Americana, I am telling you sisters, the moment you meet a guy that have a good intention to wife you or date you for keeps and he asks you where you stay, and you mention Lekki, Ikoyi, etc and you are not living with your parents or uncle or brother or elderly relative, forget it, he will reduce your score by 60% on his score card and activate his Playboy mood to chop his own share and run!



A word is enough for them wise fifulu

Redman44:
And you think you have spoken wisely, abi? Do you know Kunle Afolayan and Tunde Kelani? Do you know Funke Akindele? There are Movie Producers who are doing well in Nigeria. Their movies are on Netflix and they live in Nigeria. Do you know how much Kunle Afolayan is actually worth in Naira and Dollars? Do you know Funke Akindele's bank balance? Please, drop those negative views and thoughts you harbor about Nigeria. Cheers.

If you had enough sense to comprehend my initial comment, you won't even quote me to say rubbish you just typed above.


Go school and learn simple compression, you won't, you prefer to be taking tramadol while your mates are studying, now you see your life

In as much as we celebrate Tyler Perry on his success, let's not equate it to Nigerian scenario where we have millions of hardworking, smart thinking, creative youths wasting their lives jobless, no hope for job, no capital to startup a business, no mentor to help them, no basic amenities to keep them going and hoping, just helpless and dejected and hoping on luck and destiny to remember them...while some end up committing crime out of no other option.


Only lazy, foolish, gangstar life loving youths end up poor forever in America as citizens!


America, Europe and many developed nations give their citizens great opportunities to become just whatever they wish to become in life, its just a matter of choice and dedication to achieve it which many of their citizens throw away out of laziness, drug addiction, gangstar life and foolishness.


If Tyler Perry was a Nigerian guy, he will be in his remote village today stealing fowls to survive, so there is nothing to celebrate because being an American citizen alone made him a success.


Yeye de smell

GOAT weh pass Goat de ......abeg penaldo hoodlums I didn't mention name oh

cnandy:
This is not joint account

Your father added her.

Please you need letter of Administration and death certificate

I'm a Banker

last last he will still get the LOA if not he has enriched the bank by whatever amount his late father had with the bank lol.


If his father had a will, then there may not be need for LOA.



Only a will can override LOA, though I am not too sure a will override a LOA, but it should.


So op go and process a letter of administration to have access to all your late father's estate.

kolagbemi:
OP don't waste time and money...go to the High Court and get the LOA. No lawyer can help you bypass the LOA. A lawyer is suppose to know that the moment a bank request for a LOA, it means the mandate is both to sign, if it's for either to sign, they won't ask for LOA except if the staff that attend to you didn't check well. All you need to do is go to another branch of the bank, if you are told the same thing. Jejely go and get the LOA...only the probate Court will get you the money. Good luck

Don't mind them.


LOA is a must to have access to any late person in Nigeria under Nigerian law.

Nobody can bypass LOA!


Lawyers know the truth but some wicked ones won't tell the op until they have collected enough money from his lean pocket lol

zuma4k:
Please fellow nairalanders, I need your opinions on this and if possible front page. It's quite personal and goes like this.
1. Mr Adam (my father) opens a fixed deposit account with X Bank. He subsequently submits his wife's details and makes her a co-signatory to the account with the *express mandate* that upon his demise, his wife exercises automatic access to the account and it's proceeds. Does this amount to a valid contract between him and the bank?.

2. Note that after his death the bank reneged on the primary provision of his directive, stating that a letter of administration must be procured (at an exorbitant cost).
Stated Reasons bothers on the fact that under banking laws and the principles of a valid contract, a contract between a depositor and the bank terminates upon the demise of the individual thus rendering the *mandate* unenforceable and invalid.
Please mods I need this on front page. Thanks.

Nigerian law stipulates that once a person dies, his or her assets can only be accessed through his assets administrators which can only happen through a letter of administration processed through the court.

You the son, your mother, any of his brothers or parents must be included as the administrators.


And government will collect a percentage to issue the letter.


The bank is only obeying the law

Erica is a disgrace to classy Igbo ladies like my cousins and nieces.

She has been disgracing Igbo women since she entered that house, spits!


No wonder the Bible said train up a child in the way of the Lord, and he shall never depart from it. Erica had a very bad parenting, courtesy of her single mother





#TeamNengi
#TeamLaycon

He failed in all sectors my Lord but your Yoruba youths who have been bewitched by Tinubu's Bullion van agbero owomida collection will abuse you for saying the truth because they want to deceive Buhari and the North to help make their thug master Tinubu the next President

Yorubas can continue with their mockery of Igbos saying that Igbo will never produce the next President, but one thing I promise the Yorubas is that, Bola Ahmed Tinubu will never rule Nigeria dead or alive!!


Tinubu is a notorious political criminal, one of the most corrupt politician in the whole world. A brutal politician who deletes his fellow Yoruba political opponents like one deletes text on MS Word, such a wicked, callous, dangerous criminal will never become Nigeria's President.


Just imagine the effrontery, gullible Yorubas want to foist a thug, a criminal, a killer on Nigerians as President, kolework!!!


Go and check history of Nigeria, nobody like Tinubu has ever won the Presidential election, the man who was almost like Tinubu, Abiola won, did he ever live to rule


Yorubas think Hausa-Fulanis are stupid people just because they see them liter Lagos streets selling kunu, fura and polishing shoes. As illiterate as you think the Northern guys are, they all know that Tinubu is not electable outside Yoruba land.


Tinubu can only be a political godfather in Yoruba land. He is a criminal, a selfish political criminal, so forget it because packaging cannot work for his level of rot as a politician.


I will be glad if APC will hand over their ticket to criminal Tinubu and let them watch him humiliated nationwide at the polls.



Yoruba's best options since selfishness, greed, wickedness and hatred won't let them bury their selfish 2023 presidential ambition as a sacrifice to unite Nigeria, are Prof. Osinbajo, Akinwunmi Adesina, Seyi Makinde.


Tinubu is a political criminal who uses thugs and egberos to silence opposition to win election in Lagos, without his use of agberos and assassins and thugs to instill fear in the hearts of opposition, PDP would have taken over Lagos many years ago, and that thuggery politics he plays won't work outside Lagos state!!



Tinubu presidency is nothing but a hoax!

heendrix:
There's no way you can hurt guys in retaliation except you'll want to sleep with his best friend to and guess what guys do? They'll laugh over u and still get together whilst you become the foolish one.

except you wanna kill him and spend the rest of ur life in Jail. well good luck to u cause life continues

op @loyaquin, this poster told you the truth.


There is no way to retaliate a man, the only thing u can do to hurt him is to attack his finances or health, those are every man's pride.

Lol

positive11:
so na tinubu be nigeria problem or yours?

Tinubu is an inspiration to every Nigerian politician of today to start looting massively to acquire as much wealth as he acquired through Lagos state. Tinubu inspired Rochas Okorocha to loot Imo state dry, he inspired Adams Oshiomhole, Ganduje, etc.


Jailing Thief Bola Ahmed Tinubu will help change Nigeria's political looting game that APC and PDP politicians are doing

Buhari should stop dancing around the fire, just jail this political criminal called Tinubu already.

Even his response to the allegation of Bullion Vans found in his compound on election eve indicted him as a corrupt thieving criminal that ought to be jailed and forgotten at Kirikiri maximum security pirsons

Jail Tinubu today and watch Nigeria rise to greatness


If Buhari mistakenly selects Tinubu as next Nigeria's President, Nigeria is doomed, it will be a joke, the world will know that Nigeria is forever doomed!


Yorubas why must you guys present criminals as best option to lead the great Yoruba nation that have men of integrity like Akinwunmi Adèsina and GSM


Instead of Tinubu, we can manage Osinbajo even though he has been stained by the present terrorist government in power, let's try new breeds like Adèsina, Okonjo-Iweala, myself and many other great Nigerians.


Say no to blood thirsty criminals in power!!