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Reinaldo:
Yes, it's correct to people domiciled in Aro psychiatric hospital

JasonScoolari:


I thought you're from the Amoda Ogunlere family in Iragbiji, Osun State.

JasonScoolari:
I just taya for this Ibkayee uncle.

nairamaniac:
It's too late for them to be honest.
This is something they have all planned for like past 10years. Since APC was formed.

Besides everyone around him is cashing out from the situation.


I would not even vote a fully-fit tinubu. How much more a Mentally/physical unfit one with questionable credentials.

For the fact that he's coming under a disastrous party APC, alone is a very Red flag.

Meaning he would now pack like half of these same set of people from this particular cabinet into his own carbinet.
God&Man Forbid BAT THING.

nairamaniac:
Hahhahhahha.
Make them strip this guy.

He is doing like all those toys we played with when we were kids.

Those ones that worked with Batteries. Then you see a Turning lever at their backs.
You turn it clockwise till it's end.
Then when you release it, it would perform all sorts of programmed actions.
Seemed like the battery was getting weak toward the end of his speech here


Nothing is funny here tho

JeffreyJunior:
You got it good then.

I had the opposite. Mum was and is still laid back, no worries of any sort but dad, hmm.

Thinking of it now, I think dad was kinda laid back too but had to step up since his wife was more of hakuna matata person.

Besides, if you had younger me as son, you wouldn't afford to be laid back unless you wanted to raise just another idiot.

JeffreyJunior:
I'm interested in knowing your father's reaction if he was around. Lol

As kids, my sister and I used to mess with mum like that but not when her super man dey around oo.

That one would release a brain resetting slap especially to me because he was always soft to his "precious daughter" but not his naughty son.

sukkot:
lol the black man is something else. if not because of the beauty of the skin color i would ask to be put in the ballot for another race lmao

sukkot:
charle

nairamaniac:
Okay, .

You are still one of the most adored ones here.

I hail

nairamaniac:
It's not toooo late for you to control your emotions irrespective of the magnitude of the sudden shocking news.


Your first proprity should be *FINDING OUT THE TRUTH*.

NEXT should be *EXPOSING THE TRUTH*.

Be surrounded with people that are more result-oriemted than Drama-oriented.

So their opinions are not currupted with a desire for Drama.

One thing that works for me, is that I never unjustly instigate even against my enemy. It makes me sleep well at night.
Yes, Turn up with a bouquet of flowers .

Cos that Op in that other thread handled things in a much better way. Even the father of the molested child wd never have gotten such positive closure without handling things the way he did.

nairamaniac:
https://www.nairaland.com/7510404/7-year-old-nephew-fingered#119724934

There is a similar thread like this one on front page.

It was even the father of the molested child that calmly got the uncle of the Child-molester involved.
CALMLY, TACTFULLY with Trust&Love for the uncle.
Also putting into consideration their relationship as *FRIENDS*.
FRIENDS/NEIGHBORS ooo.
Not even relatives/inlaw as we see in this very case

These were the factors I was pointing at for OP to put into consideration&operation.

CC
southsouthkin
mariahAngel
dettolgel
Ishilove
Ibkayee


Yes I know at times we are prone to be spontaneous, but please try to master the act of being more patient&tactful in your approach, albeit Effective.

iamoyindamola:

sukkot:
hmmm

nairamaniac:
It's definitely are concern. That's why she came here to ask for our opinions&suggestions.


Abi you no see the very end part of her original post?

It clearly says:
Hubby told me to forget about it, his brother told me not to try it. But anytime my daughter remembers this incident and brings it up, I become very disturbed. I don't know what to do.

Please advise me.


Before you advice someone, wouldn't you discuss with the person.

Abi one someone cry's to you about an issue and ask for your advice, after letting the consoling the person(which I also would do).
You would just enter battle field with the person with the matra of *that's the least of her problem now, to probe the person*??



As that how you operate?

nairamaniac:
Okay. You are right about me making conclusions about how the op and husband approached the other family about the issue.

I only got picture based in step by step narrative put in here by the OP.

Maybe the Op should be nice enough to tell us on how they approached the other family as regards the issue.
Were they more of accusative than interrogative?

nairamaniac:
you are free to have a n emotional reaction, but thread tactfully without extending undue hate&agression to extended parties.


All these extrapolations you and I are both guilty of would have been savaged if only the op had threaded carefully. She compromised her own investigations.

That's not all we know. We also know this in her original post:
"I broke down. Hubby had never become so mad at his family to the extent of turning his back on them, to the extent of shutting his dad up, but he did all these because his only child was involved".

That breaking down was immediately after the daughter repeated what she said to the father's hearing. The OP never mentioned of any moment they didn't conclude based on what the child said from the very first time.

U sayin im making assumptions on behalf of the accused family is SUBJECTIVE.
Iv not said the accused family is INNOCENT, NEITHER AM I SAYING THEY/THEIR CHILD ARE GUILTY of the OFFENSE.
My assumptions are not in favour of the accussed family. They are in favour of RATIONAL-THINKING&BEHAVIOUR as A HUMAN BEING.

Magnoliaa:
E really reach to mention am.

nairamaniac:
No it's not increminsting enough. People behave remorseful for several reasons. The other family/home may have a higher need for the relationship between both families than this particular has for the ACCUSSED-FAMILY.
The woman and her husband have already compromised the issue&investigation by throwing the entire family of the accused under the bus as a first-reaction.
Such reactions by this OP can instigate the Other family to start * BEHAVING CODEDLY AS THOUGH THEIR CHILD IS GUILTY*.

GloriousGbola:
I er thought head and lick mean the same thing

dettolgel:
Pharm sector - phase 3 and 4 clinical trial - to be precise.

Ibime:
That also means the 15 year old has also been codedly disciplined at home which is the best disciplinary outcome the OP could get from this.

dettolgel:
But not for money it should be done for free.

Anything I am doing now aside my day job is to give back to the society.

nairamaniac:
The reactions were wrong from both parents of the 4year old.

They are both minors, just that one is a child and other is a teenager.

As minors as they both are they both need close/tactical perental approach on delicate issues like this one on ground.

The parents of the child were tactless and volatile.

You are yet to point at the possiblity of the child to have seen the act from her own parents.
Or from ponoclips in the phones of adults around her.

Emaprince:
And you want the 15 yr old crucified..instead of getting help as well. Na so you sabi solve problem reach.

Succezcard:
I think you mean she's a bitch.
You are right.

dettolgel:
Software engineering probably swimming in ego.


After reading your responses on this thread, I started thinking about the possibility of starting a campaign on how best to combine our cuisine for a healthy meal.

The idea will be to form a working group consisting of lover of foods, people with nutrition and medical experience and people with good experience of the wide ranges of available food in Nigeria etc.

This group will come up with different food combinations (very cheap) and these information will be shared across the country using different platforms like online and religious centres.

This is just me thinking out loud, I am aware that it needs a lot of work and fine tuning and require people with varying experiences more than the aforementioned, but the above is just the core of what needs to be achieved.