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Nigeria ga agba afo iri ise na oge na adighi anya,Biafra emere ole ugbu a ?
Elos,helllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllo.
@All,Nke ga eri anyi abiakwutele anyi oh.Isee!!!!
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aisha2:
We need them in Abuja not lagos, transporting the clothes from there will cost more than the value of the clothes.

Im suprised u are worried abt transportation 
All u needed do was to call or mail them and state your case then leave the rest for them 
Anyhow,Goodluck.
BTWN,where are the kids staying?Its one thing to put them in school and its another thing to get them settled in and sorted permanently in life.

zayhal:
@Ify

May Allah grant you safest delivery and bless the babies. Having twins is a very wonderful experience. I always pray to have them, at least, a set.

LOL.
I have had the boys already,they are almost 2.Expecting more Insha Allah,so I claim ur prayer . . .Amin!
@Lagosboy,AR is getting haut and hauter daily Hes going to Hajj,Im jealous

Good for her.

jennykadry:
Every woman is sexually abused

No woman would say she has never gone through sexual harassment. I am telling you that no woman would stand up and tell you that she has never been sexually harassed since she was born. It may not be by pushing one down and forcefully despoiling her. It is very common to see men making passes at you and expecting you to return their overtures. There is no woman that would tell you she has never experienced such.

Government should help us

The government and policy makers should look into this. They should have good punitive measures for despoil, battery and use of acid on women. In the developed world, they don't even wait for the man to touch you. Part of their laws says that if you make a woman uncomfortable, if you use words that make them feel threatened, you will go to jail.

It makes their women feel comfortable. I am looking forward to a Nigeria that would protect not just the women's rights, but also children's rights. If there are no serious punishments to serve as deterrent to those that do this, they would continue with impunity.

@Bolded portion,she said so abi na journalist drop that one ?
O ga n.

kadman:
Actually that's not always true, my friend did his youth service in one in Yaba, he used to tell me how their loaded family showered the care workers with cash when they visited and only came once a month. I believed when I visited him at work and was told there are several others in Lagos.

While I agree that the concept is not the most popular in Nigeria, the poster who said "they will never work" is wrong.

. . .And if u check very well,some of those old folks dumped at care homes were parents that never had time for their kids.They were so busy chasing their career or whatever that they failed to give their kids the love they so needed.
Now the table is turned.The kids have dumped them too,afterall,they grew up at creches etc hence they see nothing wrong with that set-up.

Does he preach such sermons when Politicians worship,pay tithe and sow seeds at his church

Muhsin,If you are sure and think The Mod can handle it then fine.Im bothered cos i wud be hurt alot if this Thread gets to the gutters
Lagossbobo,lol.Point noted.AR has talked abt The ideal Muslimah.I wud have to read it then ASAP.
@Uplawal,im still waiting for the pics of flowing bubu and tents.

Write or call strong tower mission or Little saints Orphange,Lagos.
They wud help not just with clothes but with other things the kids might need.
http://stmng.org/home.html

I think the thread title should be" what i think is wrong with my tribe"

Yes,I dont understand how u feel but im suggesting ways to let the pains and hurt die.I know it hurts,looking at everything u said u did for ur wife but sweetie,we are NOT perfect,we all have our weaknesses and moments of madness.
You it seems,are seeing the slap as a sign of ingratitude for all u did for her but i dont think so.She lost her cool and reacted foolishly _{we all do once-in-a-while}
Nothing heals like forgiveness,Please forgive her.

Poster,u sound very bitter abt the slap and U have every right to be BUT please,find a way in your heart to forgive her . . .For the sake of the marriage and kids.2 wrongs dont make a right.Dont complicate things by scheming and thinking of ways to deal with her.
Like shes prolly regretting her action(done under 2 seconds of craze and loss of self control) u dont want to react too and maybe later regret.Look at it as another mistake or weakness in your lovely wife and forgive her Biko.

@Topic,As long as my parents did not Dump me at a kiddies home or abandon me at creche 6-6,they have no biz living or staying at any retirement/old people home.This is[b] my[/b] stand.

This is no case.They knew from the begining they were not compatible,they wanted to impress and please families by getting married against all odds so  . . .
I wudnt call that adultery as I dont see their union as marriage.They just had kids together IMO.The wife might be sh.agging in London,my only pity is for the kids from the union.

Arguments are bound to happen in any and every healthy relationship(parent-child,friend-friend,husband -wife etc).The koko of the matter is to be able to resolve every argument amicably,listen to the other person,try to see things from the next persons point of view,adjust ur stand to accomodate ur partner and finally arrive a conclusion peacefully.

Im Sorry but the title got me LMAO!
@Topic,done is done.Get over the slap and shock,it might be a reflex action which she might be prolly be regretting now.Maybe u said something mean that hurt deeply
Talk with ur wife when u are calm,let her know she went overboard with that single spine slap N PLEASE dont go telling her u are gonna slap her back next time she slaps u . . Just tell her u felt hurt and im sure she wud feel bad and apologise.
Finally forget the slap and move on.Shit happens.

Assuming its true,do we(Igbos) stand to gain or lose anything 

Mukina Thank you.

Lagosboy:
Mukina2 or Jarus could you post this thread on th main page , if Ify doesnt have any objections. Perhaps Allah might guide others to islam from her story.

"Nairaland Curiosity that leads to conversion to Islam - Story of Ifyalways" This might be a good topic. others what do you think.

No Lagosboy.Doing so wud corrupt the thread,we dont want to experience that  

Lagosboy:
I dey here o abeg i was a bit busy and not on NL. Accept my apology 

Now to books on veils , that book you layed your hands on i beleive is a good book on veil and there are a few others which i willtry to dig out for you inshallah. However , i would suggest to you to thread on a line of caution and read on other aspects of islam and concentrate a bit more on developing a strong love for God, purification of the soul and learning the basic "fiqh" to practise the five pillars of islam for a start.

The reason why i said this is i have seen some new muslim convert who fell unto the hands of some over zealous muslims and these muslims made them concentrate on outer appearance (niqaab,beard, clothing etc) alone and in the end sisters started to cover their faces without really understanding the other basic fiqh of islam like ghusl. In the end after few months the sisters got choked and took off not only the niqaab but even the hijaab. Some even turned their back  on islam . The bulk of the blame was on the muslim handlers who did not develop them un the love of Allah , islamic spirituality before the other super ragatory acts like niqaab  etc.

The veil as we all know is not compulsory on muslm women but what is compulsory is the hijab and not wearing figure hugging and tight  clothing. Let us concentrate on the fiqh of salah, ablutuion, purification, practical women issues like mensturation etc  and the seven conditions of the shahadah and we keep stepping up the knowledge inshallah.

As regards names there is an hadith that says the two most beloved names to Allah are Abdullah (Slave of allah) and abdul Rahman (Slave of the most Merciful). However any of the 99 names of Allah or other names are all good.  If you wish you could name the twins Abdullah and abdul Rahman  as Allah has showered on you the greates mercy he can to anyone  which is guidance. Also the prophet was called by Allah "mercy to mankind".

Thanks but theres really no need for alarm.Just like a newborn babe yearns for milk,im just yearning to know and understand more abt my Islam,when theres any conflicts or confusion,u know i wud come calling .

zayhal:
In as much as what you have said may be true and correct, I'd still say that you shouldn't discourage Ify on her inquiry about the veil.

We can never compare a Muslimah who wears the veil to those who don't just like we can't compare a Muslimah who wears the hijab to the one who uses only the headcover. If one wears it (veil), sincerely to seek Allah's face, then I'm in no doubt that she'll surely find it.

Moreover, wearing the veil doesn't prevent one from gathering more knowledge about the deen. The two (seeking knowledge and outward appearance) can and in fact, should go hand in hand.

@Ify

Abdullah and AbdurRahman,
AbdurRahman and AbdurRaheem
Habeeb and Khubabyb
Mudathir and Muzammil
Miqdad and Muadh

We are thinking abt those . . .Thanks.

muhsin:
Salam IFY and all,

Muhsin sounds good, isn't it? Wouldn't you name one with it?  

BTW, may Allah bless them, amin. Are they yours?

Muhsin and what?  
Yep,They are mine.

uplawal:
All these trying to make it look nice is so wrong and does not agree with women clothing acording to SHARIA,Allah says wear bubu as in loosed gown,without style,so dnt try to say like not too tight,reveiling,and so on,all women should wear is tent

Do u have pics of what u call "bubu" without style and Tent ?
Thanks all  

[quote author=BEDE.IKE link=topic=520680.msg6830646#msg6830646 date=1285598405]She doesnt stop at dat alone,atimes she'll come to my house wit a dvd plate she wants to view wit d excuse dat their dvd is not playing in their dvd player, she's got kids though n d eldest is abt 10, her kids r so damn rascal n silly n theyr always a big disturbance.when its time to contribut money 4 anything they r always reluctant n atimes neva pay.her husband is owing me 1000 which we all contributed collectively to repair d light,he has refused to pay me n jst act like nothing happnd. I tink im bgining to hate this people.[/quote]hmmn.
You just skillfully refused to answer my first question.
What are u doing/thinking,watching movies alone in ur house with a married woman.
Wait ooh,is this ur apartment "face-me-i-face-u"?
You follow contribute for wetin dey worry u,una all dey siddon watch movies togeda . . familairity breeds contempt.
You have the option of parking out,Yet again

Jarus:
Salam hajia, wow, u dey try o . . can we begin to call you 'scholaress' now or 'sheikhat'

lol.Salams Mallam Jarus 

I got a very wonderful book n its turning out to be a good read.Still on it though.Have any one read it?what do u think abt the book . . .
Beyond the veil by Fatima Mernissi 

Im searching for Islamic boys names and meanings preferably for twin boys.Every and any suggestion is welcome.
Jamaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaal 
Hajj anyone?

Tell them that u dont have whatever they come calling for or tell them plainly that u wont give them anything else if they dont return ur stuffs.
What are ur stuffs they keep?cups,water bottles or Meanwhile,hope u dont borrow stuffs from them or send their kids on errands ?
[quote author=BEDE.IKE link=topic=520680.msg6828165#msg6828165 date=1285569568]hi nlanders your candid opinion is needed. I jst moved into a new neighbourhood wit my family i've got these neighbours who r kinda geting so nosy always coming to borrow stuffs frm me witout returnin dem,they ask me 4 cold water dnt kno if theyve got no refrigerator n i do give em bt d problem is they dont return these things i always have to go n ask 4 them b4 i get em. Lately d wife is gettin too friendly.shes got my no. n calls me darling wen we r alone, Wat do i do?[/quote]what do u mean?Explain please.

OK,so who is he ?

Shes pretty but looks older than 19

cheeei.Kedu Darfur m


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ACQKvF_AwI8

Was she not suppossed to be in prison

@Poster,Are u male or female
For Females,i say YES YES YES over and over again,howver if u are a Male . . alot of things have to be considered.

Should this really be up for discussion ,whatever works for u n your marriage,stick to it.

@Poster,have u thought of changing enviroment or relocating?
Chaircover said it all.Set standards but make sure u are up to whatever standard u set . .
Goodluck

furacao:
Knowing how to pronounce names is not the qualification of nationality. If you knew how and where he was raised, you might appreciate it a bit better.

Yeah.He was born n bred in the moon.
Anchoring a Nigerian programme,on a Nigerian tv n in Nigeria but not able to pronounce T-I-T-I is so cool.

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LOL.
This explains it all.

Dis guy
Is he really a Nigerian?The way he was having problems pronouncing even Yoruba names on "deal or no deal" that he anchored makes me cringe.

Sallams Muhsin.
All our thirst wud not go in vain and may Allah(swt) purify our Islam.
For lagosboy,My prayer for him daily is that Allah(swt) count him and his family among those that wud enter the gate of Rayyan in paradise.