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Raalsalghul:
I've been reading your comments since and notice you always bring up food. Haba!

What is a date?

Maybe you guys should define it well and use the right term..."we are going out for a drink", etc. A date and what is required on one should be looked up

Gaspardd:
Been reading your comments and then i sense a correlation btw ungratefulness and your views. This mentality of yours is the reason why Nigerians dont have nice things cuz they go after shining(on the surface) things of which at the end there of its all destruction.

Sorry of that's how you see it. It still doesn't justify going on a date with 2k. So 5k will deprive you from having nice things? Keep consoling yourself with that

IronPants:
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Ohhhhhh, so it's now my responsibility to feed her? I see.
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Get her something within my planned budget then.

Ok I see.

Enjoy the rest of your day

pansophist:
What if he told her he is hungry what should she do?

Note that he was the one who invited her on a date.

If a guy takes me on a date and says he is hungry and doesn't have money, i will buy him food. But off course i would wonder what kind of guy takes a girl out with an empty pocket.

neyobills:
Olomoge onisharwama life is not that hard,if u order for chicken and chips then u should be ready to pay, that's the norm for any sane person, are u a baby or do u expect us to clap for u been responsible for your meals,which one is happily pay again,kukuma dont sadly pay na,nah body go tell u,however I can decide to be benevolent and decide to pay based on my discretion but it's not an entitlement only that your like take advantage of the benevolence of your dates to satisfy your cravings and stuff your tummy.

Ok then. As i said, you can go on your 1,400 date since that is what you can afford.

Enjoy the rest of your day

neyobills:
Olomoge onisharwama the 1k isn't the problem but the mindset,if I ever go for a date with your likes that like to turn dates to food stamps,i will form a call and excuse myself for an emergency and let u enjoy your feast because that's all that matters to u anyway,and that would be that last date ever because I would rather waster my money than sit with you because time lost can never be regained and time wasters like to waste their time with others.

Next thing now you will start singing"olodo rabata" . And you are supposed to be a man o.

Calm down. Life is not that hard. I don't eat what i cannot pay for. If i order chicken and chips and it tears your pocket so much that you run away, i will happily pay for my food.

Your mindset is the issue here. You think 1k food is a feast and you are already singing insults like a market woman. Breathe!

IronPants:
Keep beating about the bush aunty.
My question still stands. What's a date? A meet or an eat?

Even of you don't believe it is for eating and she says she is hungry, what would you do?

IronPants:
Madam, what's the essence of a date? To meet or to eat?

Why not Google it and see what you come up with.

Maybe you shouldn't call it a date if it is not that. You can call it a meeting ,stroll or you describe what it is you are going for.

Nonstoprain:
Eyen Eka Abasi odiong fi ye ufork mfo.

Amen ke eyin Obong Jesus!

neyobills:
You were the one that kept ranting about sharwama and juice as if your life depended on it and not the other way round,wobia olojukokoro!!!

Why expose yourself this way now? So i have been talking to a kid? You can't even disagree objectively and with maturity. You are already ranting like a distressed child.

How is shawarma giving you high blood pressure like this? On top 1k. Well done

IronPants:
What is all these subtle talk about worth and class? This obviously carries an undertone of materialism. The concept of class is birthed from materialism which is exactly what you are pushing subtly with all your comments.
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Are you saying some girls are bigger than water and doughnut on a date which is going to last an hour at max?
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For christ's sake I am going on a date with you and not dinner with you. The whole essence of a date is stomach pleasure from the angle of the average Nigerian girl. You have gone a long way to prove that point.
Date simply means to meet. To someone. From the definition, did you see "to meet someone and eat shawarma or pizza"?



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In reference to your last mention, I can bet my left balls that I am older than you.

Are you saying that you get there and say "it is doughnuts and water we are taking o" or you call the attendant and say "please give her doughnut and water" without asking what she would take?

Where does materialism start and stop? If i go out on a date and i eat chicken and chips with a bottle of soft drink, am i materialistic? How much is that? You are looking at it in relation to your pocket?

IronPants:
What is all these subtle talk about worth and class? This obviously carries an undertone of materialism. The concept of class is birthed from materialism which is exactly what you are pushing subtly with all your comments.
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Are you saying some girls are bigger than water and doughnut on a date which is going to last an hour at max?
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For christ's sake I am going on a date with you and not dinner with you. The whole essence of a date is stomach pleasure from the angle of the average Nigerian girl. You have gone a long way to prove that point.
Date simply means to meet. To someone. From the definition, did you see "to meet someone and eat shawarma or pizza"?



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In reference to your last mention, I can bet my left balls that I am older than you.

Are you saying that you get there and say "it is doughnuts and water we are taking o" or you call the attendant and say "please give her doughnut and water" without asking what she would take?

Where does materialism start and stop? If i go out on a date and i eat chicken and chips with a bottle of soft drink, am i materialistic? How much is that? You are looking at it in relation to your pocket?

The funny thing is that i hardly eat out because i love to cook and i can be too critical of the food outside. But i would feel offended if a guy took me out and just ordered for me without asking.

IronPants:
It's always good to have a back up plan. Now, the extra cash is your back up plan and not your actual budget plan. The plan is to work within your budget and when things go south, you call for back up.
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Even if I am going to the market to get food stuffs, I go with extra cash so it's not new here. But I try as much as I can not to deep into that extra cash. So it's nothing new.

You have said it all here.

YOU DON'T LEAVE THE HOUSE WITH 2K EVEN IF YOU PLAN TO SPEND JUST THAT.

This has been the point all along and you have been beating about the bush since

neyobills:
Why must you eat sharwama and juice on the date, why not buy it on your way home after the date if u are craving for it,cant u afford it, oh I guess it's one of the seven wonders of the world to you so anything just to have a bite goes right and any fool that buys u a, sharwama has already won your heart I guess,it's like going for a meeting and expecting to be welcomed by the smell of jollof rice and chicken,you could be served with just bottled water or nachos with cheese enchiladas but u are entitled to nothing at all,get it?

I see that shawarma and juice is luxury to you as you liken it to one of the wonders of the world. And spending is an issue. You can go on your date with 1,400 as long as that is what you can afford.

kunleweb:

Lol...i hardly ask. I would rather disturb my brothers or sisters. That was when i was "one"

iLegendd:
Ah, I trust una. Una be betta pikin, but na we sabi the "tin" pass sha.

I hear you.

neyobills:
Of course if she has any cravings then she had better be able to afford it and not turn a date into a banquet after all no be only tissue paper they una bag,if the lady thinks she is worth more than, that then she should be ready to spend her worth,my dear bottle water is good enough for a date until your gluttonous instincts kick in I guess.

Of course I can leave home with 2k and my ATM handy and with money transfer on my phone I'm sure I can never go wrong,is there a dating rule that u must eat something on a date,if u are classy an ant to do some grandstanding do it with your funds not mine,a date isn't an avenue to massage your vain ego.

So shawarma and juice is a banquet? I think it has to be the upcoming men thinking this way. That water is enough and she can buy whatever she feels like eating .

Why not just leave her to drink her water at home? Or must you go out on a date?

Your response of having your atm handy just proved my point and nolified all the claims of you and the op. You might end up spending 2k or less but that is not all you leave the house with. Case closed!

The best way to get things from your man is to never ask. Never ask for anything. It even increases the lady's value. He is the one that would keep asking if you need anything

Charelsz:
And the wife look hot

At least now we know it is not about being hot and beautiful

neyobills:
Of course #1400 would still buy 2 doughnuts and two bottles of water in any average eatery in Nigeria so that should do, it's about bonding and getting to know each other and not a banquet at the ballroom of a Chateau,i can however decide to spend way more depending on the connection,if the, connection is right then we can then proceed to go for a banquet if I'm willing and able.

What if she says she wants juice and shwarma and she is the classy type that can buy it herself? Or are you saying you only take out babes that are worth doughnuts and water?

The point is not if you would spend 2k or less. Would you leave your house with only 2k and not plan for eventualities?

Some of your points refers to my state especially tribe issues, marriage, oil, scholarships.

They hardly expect us to marry from our tribe alone. We are more liberal minded and free.

I love the freedom and liberty especially in the terms of not being bound under the tradition of calling people who are not so much older "aunty" "brother" especially among siblings.(my brother is over 10years older and i call him by name).

Even after giving birth, you are not mandated to call mama this or papa that .

Our delicacies are unique and a lot...ekpang nkukwo, editan, ataama, afia efere, afang, ukom, etc.

My people are sexually aware and they talk about it freely. Even in our traditional marriage ceremony, the guy has to show that he is fit especially around the waist area .

Many more stuffs but that's it for now.

Proudly AK

IronPants:
I am going to create a new thread with a new moniker and pretend all I have to go on a date is 5k. You will be surprised at the bashing I will get. A lot of people would come and say I am stingy and broke and shouldn't even talk to ladies.

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This has nothing to do with mentality. It's about not letting others set a standard for you knowing well how materialistic these same people are.
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Your claim of food poisoning here is rather subjective, not objective.
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Ironically, I won't be going on dates ever again. Thanks to my ogas, it has to be on my bed now or no where.

Whatever makes you sleep at night.

I never went out on a date where a guy picked what i would drink or eat. What i am used to is a guy asking "what would you have?" And not him deciding for me. And i would usually ask his budget and how much he is willing to spend.

I guess these younger guys have a different orientation. And i guess it is ok especially with the standard of girls they usually take out.

Jayneek:
Thank you so so so very much my dear. You just hit the nail on the head. Many of them been talking shit since. At the end you got the answer. Why didn't he just carry only 2k in his pocket.
No one is asking you spend heaven and earth on the date, but hold some good cash because anything can happen. Let's say after everything her slippers cut or something and no shoe maker around, at least you can buy bathroom slippers for her to go home with abi they will prefer use ordinary leg back home. Na wa ooo

It's a mentality for them basically. It is in the mind

Welcomme:
I graduated in the year 2015 and did my NYSC in the year 2016 to 2017. Ever since, getting a job has been something else. Well, last year I took up a teaching job in a private school and the salary is around 26 thousand naira. I have been on it for a year now. I hardly have time for my self considering the number of classes and periods.

I recently got a job with Stanbic bank as a Direct sales agent (marketing) with a salary of about 50 thousand.
I am afraid of taking up the offer because of all these bank targets and how to meet up with the target. I am afraid let me not lose the job I have now and take up this offer and can't meet up with the target.

Pls those that have done this DSA job and others can do well to advise me and give me first hand experience and way of meeting target.
Thanks.

Working as a DSA in a bank is like being a 2nd class citizen. You see your peers who are also graduates as full staff earning 4times that amount while doing almost the same job.

The targets and push are usually aggressive and it may come with a lot of bashing.

I once went for an interview for a DSA job. My senior from secondary school happened to be the one conducting the interview and he advised me not to take the job. Later when i got a job in a bank as a full staff and worked with DSAs, i understood his advice more.

The choice is still left to you

IronPants:
I already answered your question. It's my date so I fix the terms. It includes divulging my budget and me doing the ordering although it's gonna look a bit awkward.
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5k is not luxury per say but they are a few girls who would spend that on date. They are so rare you wouldn't find them on this thread.
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Choice of restaurant or bar the key here. The higher the class, the more expensive stuffs would be there. A regular restaurant would sell burger for 400 huns.

The underlying issue here is not about spending money, it is actually about the mindset and mentality that you and the OP share.

IronPants:
I already answered your question. It's my date so I fix the terms. It includes divulging my budget and me doing the ordering although it's gonna look a bit awkward.
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5k is not luxury per say but they are a few girls who would spend that on date. They are so rare you wouldn't find them on this thread.
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Choice of restaurant or bar the key here. The higher the class, the more expensive stuffs would be there. A regular restaurant would sell burger for 400 huns.

Your assumption at the bolded sounds shallow especially as you don't even know the faceless people on this blog.

Hamburger of 400 naira is bound to give someone a runny stomach but if that is your standard, it's fine.

If 5k is not luxury or extravagant, why would you prefer to take 2k and pinch it? Because girls don't spend that much? If you have that mindset, then why ask out in the first place?

Evercurious:
And what is so special about a first date?

You don't know the person well and don't know what she would want. It's a time to know if you will proceed further

funmisticqueen:
if someone plans to take me on a date with 2k, he should tell me in advance so that I will give him a 2k first impression. I will come in a hairnet, no makeup, my old t-shirt and bathroom slippers. I cannot make a loss abeg.

Let gaspardd and his supporters kukuma marry a village girl. It is not by force to date Lagos babe. Shoe get size,okirika get quality

Haba! Hair net...lol .

He is getting support from other guys here. Guys that if they are truthful to themselves, they cannot leave their houses with 2k for a first date

IronPants:
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I will do a little calculation and estimation here. My answer would be based on it.
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At the bar or restaurant.
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Maltina: 300 x 2= 600
Hamburger: 400 (don't know the price, est. price) x 2= 800
That is 1200 abi?
Transport for bae: 500
Transport for G: 100
Altogether 1800
Balance 200
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Buy a can of malt 200 for her as take way.
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Now the average Nigerian girl is going to see you as stingy or broke. Why? Because we live in a materialistic society where people are showing off like there's no tomorrow.
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This won't go down well with so many girls but as for me, this ain't bad. I give it a 5/10

You still haven't answered the question. Will you leave your house with 2k while going on a first date you initiated? Please answer.

How are you sure that she likes burger? Are you the one that will pick what she will eat? What if she prefers chicken and chips? Is that luxury especially if she can afford to pay for it herself.

Is 5k on a date luxury or materialistic?

By the way, hamburger of 400 is the one in show glass on the road. Hamburger goes for between 1k to 2500

IronPants:
See, personally, I don't live my life to impress any one or any girl. I will even tell the girl my budget before stepping out on the said date. No single shame.
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It's not by force, neither is it an avenue for money to be spent recklessly (guy's money).
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Seriously, if not for guys, some girls will never taste things like pizza in their entire lifetime. This goes a long way to show how gluttony and materialism is wrecking the ladies of this generation.
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He is smart and that's why he set a cap to what would be spent on a date.

A date, especially a first one is a time to know a person and if you will see the person again depending on how it plays out.

Secondly, 2k cannot even buy something basic to eat for two people. And the 2k included 500naira for her transport and 100naira for his.

Forget spending recklessly or being prudent, would YOU invite a girl you like on a date and go with just 1,400 to spend? Please answer sincerely

IronPants:
I do not know why you are trying hard to justify the path you have chosen to these folks here. Most of them have never gone on a date before.
Baby come my house na, baby come my house na is all they do.
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So they prefer you take a girl out and spend 30k on her in the name of "date"? Some of these girls have nothing meaningful to contribute to your life, these same girls would go home and start telling their friends about a maga they met once you start spending recklessly on them.
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You don't owe anybody anything, not even an explanation. What a world, filled with materialistic people and bunch of people with unhealthy sense of entitlement.
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You are smart and you should be proud.

What about he sits in his house and saves his money? He could have stayed home and avoided spending. Going on a date is really not by force.

My thought is that the op opened the first thread to get some kind of validation from fellow female bashers on NL to help repair his ego. Instead he got more backlash than a pat on the back, even from guys.

Instead of licking his wounds and accepting his folly, he decides to stubbornly open another thread to stick to his 2k date as per "i don cast. Let me stick with it till the end"

However you want to see it, leaving the house with 2k for a date you initiated is really low.