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Jidibia:
Lol...ma hear. Except no be better soup be that. 1200 for one kilo of meat, money never finish? So how 2pots of soup wan take komot plus one pot of stew join? Shebi u know how much be milk cup of egusi for market now? I never talk of ogbono and ugu leaf o.... Abi u no go garnish your soup with dry fish and okporoko? Anyways, come up with your own maths let's see how 1400 will give you a balanced 3pots of soup.

I don't know that kind of maths o

Jidibia:
Lol...ma hear. Except no be better soup be that. 1200 for one kilo of meat, money never finish? So how 2pots of soup wan take komot plus one pot of stew join? Shebi u know how much be milk cup of egusi for market now? I never talk of ogbono and ugu leaf o.... Abi u no go garnish your soup with dry fish and okporoko? Anyways, come up with your own maths let's see how 1400 will give you a balanced 3pots of soup.

You are not a wife material

Jidibia:
2weeks data money. Lol.....

2 pots of soup and one pot of stew money

kunleweb:
I have problem. With that comment big one. Come private I wanna talk to you about sonething

I don't even know how to dm on NL

kunleweb:
Shatap before I tear you slap there. Don't steal the show

Kunleweb i used to respect you. Don't spoil it with your loose words

queenitee:
Permit me to say you have a problem. She wasn't being full of herself, it wasn't like you paid and she told the waiter to return your money, she simply helped out. If she was being full of herself, she wouldn't have laughed it off when you told her the amount you had, she would definitely make you feel so bad about yourself verbally and with her actions, which she didn't do and judging from what you posted, she told no one. What's with guys and ego self? If she was being full of herself, she wouldn't have allowed you pay her tfare.
You really need to work on your self esteem bro

Their egos are their undoing. Very annoying.

I remember a guy inviting me for a date years back. He came by public transport and i drove. Can you imagine that the guy refused to enter the car for me to drive him down the road. He said we should trek instead...in the hot sun.

If he had known that i would drive, i bet he would have cancelled the date. Big ego problem

Gaspardd:
We all have our roles to play, i am the man and shld act like the boss. This is not me being paranoid its about she being full of herself

You are the man and should act like the boss, yet you took 1,500 with you.

INDUSTRIALFAN:
if he went with 5k, he still wouldn't have spent it all. I don't think he is ready for such things. If he goes into marriage with this mentality, I just pity the unlucky girl.

1,400

To buy bottle groundnut and garden egg and zobo

INDUSTRIALFAN:
calm down.. He and the OP don't represent all of us guys. They re both confused.

Personally, I love independent women but no matter how buoyant she is, I like to take care of everything myself except she insists. I wonder why someone will invite someone for a date and not want to go all out. That's prison mentality.

I know

This "tramadol and codine" boys making the good guys look bad

Rilley:
Shut up jare! how many girls will spend on guys? unless those that have rich parents, 95% of girls in Nigeria are leeches, they are broke, hungry and stingy.

You are obviously a child with a loose tongue.

If you cannot communicate sans insults like a civilized and stable person, avoid my mention. I have low tolerance for immaturity.

RTSC:
Because we want Women to be better.
We want them to be independent.

That We are uncomfortable with independent women does not mean we don't like it.

Keep doing it and we will get less uncomfortable with time.

You want independent, yet you are uncomfortable with it? I don't think you know what you want.

We should keep doing it like we are trying to please you, get your approval or warm up to it? Who has that time?

The double standard is too glaring. You can't handle an independent woman yet you will curse out a dependent one. Be true to yourself

All i see is two kids playing games

leonard002:
Op, how old are you

Good question

RTSC:
It's not that we don't like independent Women, we are just not used to it.

Most women are dependents.

If more women start being independent, men will get comfortable over time.

So why do you guys curse out girls that depend on guys? You guys will call the leeches...olosho and all the lewd names to belittle them. Now here is an independent woman and the ego cannot handle it.

Gaspardd:
There is this lady at work, she works for the client and i work for the contractor. She has a nigga friend who is my padi and he has been talking to me about her, after so much persuasion, i said fùck it and gave it a shot.

Really she was so receptive than i envisaged and since then we've been casually saying hi and stuff.
On saturday i called her and asked about her weekend, she told me she wasnt doing anything, i suggested we meet on sunday(ytd). She said she wud call me wenever she's back from church.
She called around 5pm, i dressed up, all my clothes were creased so bad so i had to borrow a niggas Tshirt, pocketed 2k cus i am cheap and i live cheap, so i cant spend more than 2k on a date.

I got to d venue, she was waiting already, she was putting on a gown revealing some cleavage which was a very nice sight but really unlike her as she always dress modest to work.
Long story short, i ordered for drinks, all was 1400 naira, which was within budget, d 100 naira change will be for my TP and i will give d maruwa guy 500 for her own TP to give her d remaining change. Everything was going according to plan, things were going fine , what a good time to be alive. Suddenly she said she feels like chewing sth.
I initially made as if i didnt hear what she said, she said it again and i interjected with "NOPE, CHEWING IS BAD FOR TEETH" She laffed and beckoned on the waiter to come over. In shock i yelled wait wait, i brought out the whole of 1500, dropped it on the table and told her this all i have with me, already she knows there is 1400 payment to be made.

She didnt give a shìt, she called the guy, brought 2 plates of meat, i was just feeling awkward watching how the whole shìt wud play out. At last she brought out her purse, gave d guy some money, i picked the 1500, gave it to the waiter but he returned the money, said the money she gave him is complete.
Seriously i was ashamed of myself, i wanted to talk about it but i decided to let it slide so as not to overflogg the issue.
Later we were done and i saw her off, i gave d driver 500 for her TP. Some hrs later i saw 3missed calls from her, i texted her back and she responded with... see you tmao. While i dont know wht that means but i know she is gonna tell everybody at work about what happened, about how i am a stingy pig. But i aint stingy, i just priotize things i spend money on.
Today i told my niggas what happened, i have only two niggas, but neither i nor any of them has heard about the parol from another source. But then i am sure that if words get around, my reputation = Ruined

But you know in your mind that you are stingy. Prioritize indeed. The solution is...do not hang out. That is a sure way to spend money and it is not really for people on a budget

It is sex that will kill some people las las

R2bees:
This could be the last boar in Nigeria... 9ja make una get sense na

There is no food in the land and you want them to preserve the animal from going into extinction abi? If i hear!

kidap:
Who Pope marry? And for Tchidi marriage don hit Rock since

Tchidi is married to Nuella(an actress)

Op what about Nobert Young and Gloria Anozie, Jide Kosoko and wife?

Jayslicky:
Move on and forget about all these, if you over spent your income because of a date will she be there when you will be going 101 for the rest of the month?

He should have stayed at home and if she agreed to come over, he would have cooked for her. That is way cheaper. It's not a must to hang out when the money is limited and end up feeling awkward and embarrassed.

Gaspardd:
There is this lady at work, she works for the client and i work for the contractor. She has a nigga friend who is my padi and he has been talking to me about her, after so much persuasion, i said fùck it and gave it a shot.

Really she was so receptive than i envisaged and since then we've been casually saying hi and stuff.
On saturday i called her and asked about her weekend, she told me she wasnt doing anything, i suggested we meet on sunday(ytd). She said she wud call me wenever she's back from church.
She called around 5pm, i dressed up, all my clothes were creased so bad so i had to borrow a niggas Tshirt, pocketed 2k cus i am cheap and i live cheap, so i cant spend more than 2k on a date.

I got to d venue, she was waiting already, she was putting on a gown revealing some cleavage which was a very nice sight but really unlike her as she always dress modest to work.
Long story short, i ordered for drinks, all was 1400 naira, which was within budget, d 100 naira change will be for my TP and i will give d maruwa guy 500 for her own TP to give her d remaining change. Everything was going according to plan, things were going fine , what a good time to be alive. Suddenly she said she feels like chewing sth.
I initially made as if i didnt hear what she said, she said it again and i interjected with "NOPE, CHEWING IS BAD FOR TEETH" She laffed and beckoned on the waiter to come over. In shock i yelled wait wait, i brought out the whole of 1500, dropped it on the table and told her this all i have with me, already she knows there is 1400 payment to be made.

She didnt give a shìt, she called the guy, brought 2 plates of meat, i was just feeling awkward watching how the whole shìt wud play out. At last she brought out her purse, gave d guy some money, i picked the 1500, gave it to the waiter but he returned the money, said the money she gave him is complete.
Seriously i was ashamed of myself, i wanted to talk about it but i decided to let it slide so as not to overflogg the issue.
Later we were done and i saw her off, i gave d driver 500 for her TP. Some hrs later i saw 3missed calls from her, i texted her back and she responded with... see you tmao. While i dont know wht that means but i know she is gonna tell everybody at work about what happened, about how i am a stingy pig. But i aint stingy, i just priotize things i spend money on.
Today i told my niggas what happened, i have only two niggas, but neither i nor any of them has heard about the parol from another source. But then i am sure that if words get around, my reputation = Ruined

You budgeted 1,500. You would have budgeted 720 naira . Hanging out is not compulsory or by force. You could have as well stayed home and put the 1500 hard earned cash in your piggy bank.

Now that she paid for the outing it is an issue...lol. i love that girl. Next time, stay at home if you cannot handle a lady paying since you refused to spend.

Teespice:
at this rate, take anything these dudes say here with a pinch of salt.

changing opinions like chameleons just to suit the narrative.

It's really pathetic. They can't even handle an independent woman with their kind of ego yet they complain if she isn't.

Typical example of "you cannot please human beings"

Op i need 45million. Only

What do guys really want? .

She doesn't pay, she's a leech.

She pays...male ego

united442:
your instinct are always right..

but meanwhile,if she's a student, flirt way too much, receive alots of calls most especially with a sexy tone, get attention from guys,and if she's way too beautiful,just comort ur mind and emotional whatever from her body and activate the Bleep boi mode

she may like you but she's wont be loyal,she's cant date you alone...

i may be wrong,but if am not and you still want to continue, since you are that jealous type,it will be very difficult for you to coup especially in the area of trusting her..

#dropmic

Not when he seems paranoid

The girl doesn't seem interested. Why are you stressing so much about her. It's better to let her be. You might push and push and end up in a toxic or problematic relationship.

Get yourself busy and set her free from your mind. You will be fine eventually

collinsfhk:
There are two people that are problem here. The house help and the pastor. The house help has to leave that home. And she is likely possessed. Secondly, the pastor knowing this is a married couple should help enthrench peace in this home and not help mare the marriage. Building the wife to be the best she can be to the husband is the key thing. Obviously the pastor is not doing his job right. Even if God revealed to him the things he tells the woman, he should handle it in a matured manner. The woman is likely not matured to handle such. More so build her spiritually to be able to stand the wiles of the wicked. However, the first step is that the house help has to leave the house. Please never encourage separation as this does not call for that. The pastor is not guiding the woman right.

2 Corinthians 5:18 And all things are of God, who hath reconciled us to himself by Jesus Christ, and hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation;

You are so wrong.

The two people that are the problem here are the husband and wife.

For not knowing how to live together with their differences and love and respect each other.

For not loving and respecting each other.

For allowing a third party come in between them(pastor and niece)

For being gullible and not having a mind of her own.

For not being on the same page regarding church and spirituality.Husband doesn't attend church but wants to choose a church for wife.

Wife not managing her freedom well and keeping countless late nights all in the name of church (what exactly is she looking for?)

Husband lacking conflict resolution skills.

Both of them are responsible for their marriage,not the pastor or niece. So they are at fault for allowing them have a say in it.

But why is that it is the maids that start behaving so rebellious and wanting so much freedom even if you treat them like your own?Your own child will not try all that... going out to see boys and all.

I think it has more to do with upbringing and inferiority complex. I couldn't think of branching a guy's place at that age when sent on an errand. In fact, i wouldn't even stop and talk to a guy when it's dark. This your maid has serious nerves and what my people would call "nsong eyen".

Following

Googleinc:
what a way to learn R-U-B-B-I-SH
IMAGINE THE RUBBISH LISTS YOU JUST QUOTED UP THERE. DOES THAT MAKE SENSE?

Some people wouldn't recognize sarcasm even if it was standing close to them.

But people learn a lot on Nairaland... stuffs like what is olosho, how to masturbate and perform aanal sex the right way, where to get LovePeddler houses, how to be an alpha male and how to pick up girls successfully and have a fling.

You also learn how to insult women and get likes and get applauded doing so. You learn to defend yourself...in fact the list is endless. There is a lot to learn on NL.

tohyorsih2:
yes he is.You may not find him funny if you do not understand yoruba

I speak Yoruba more than my own language but i still don't find him funny...him and Woli Arole.