₦airaland Forum

GreatResearcher:
Actually that my comment was to make that girl feel sepcail and a bed sticker and not to downgrade any gender.

But you ended up doing both and even more for the latter. Implying that we are not intelligent is a false conclusion and really low of you.

ibotic:
Muumuu.....where did I blame government

Why so quick to throw abusive words?

LuciferOverseer:
Feminists there can always console themselves with this ring since no right thinking man can waste his time to give them one.

Don't be surprised when 50% of Uniben's admission list for 2019/2020 are women over 30.



*spits

You and this your obsession with feminists

Is this an advert for clients?

GreatResearcher:
Is this ur own point?

Yep... to your comment

trapQ:
Stop supporting nonsense. So that person wasn't disgraceful when you were spending their money and only became disgraceful when you became rich?

Try to understand the point and don't be ready to pounce. Both parties need to keep developing themselves.

Compatibility is important in marriage, it bridges gaps. And as i said in another post, it doesn't mean that the couple won't be married forever, it would just help enhance the marriage better.

Lefulefu

GreatResearcher:
Why am I feeling that the person behind this moniker is a male? Females hardly have good brains.

Thanks dear. This are nice points u put out. Esp 4 and 3

A reflection of the females in your family? What a pity!

TonyeBarcanista:
By my philosophy as a man, I am primarily responsible for bills and that's my responsibility as a man... I won't even ask my woman for any contribution sef! Reason I work hard!


However, her submissiveness must be 100%...

Don't waste your money. No woman can submit hundred percent. Can you love someone else 100%?

Samshumy:
Lol there are still so many women that will do such: I’m actually doing anyone I’m gonna marry a Favour and so she should be happy that I’m marrying her

Ok

Voted

derrydinny:
the virgin lady, she must have dated so much men because they left because of her stance on virginity

Or has probably done everything aside penetration...i mean EVERYTHING you can think of

UyaiIncomparabl:
ImaIma1. You have time to yarn words with that overgrown adult baby.

Don't mind the cultural man only in chores

The empty promise part can be annoying... guys that can just have mouth.

Samshumy:
So asking a wife to do all chores means she’s a slave?

As i said before, you can marry a slave or a maid if you so desire. There are still women that will not mind your arrangement.

Samshumy:
Isn’t it funny how you are comparing technology with right family settings ?

But you are a cultural man. Are you not aware that there is a set of people in Nigeria that have stuck to their old ways and culture and even refused to accept the new ways including technology.

So please you can't claim to be cultural because you want a slave as a wife alone. Do everything that a cultural man does

Samshumy:
Doing chores has always been the work of our mothers since 10000BC. We can’t change our culture because of equality or nonsense feminism

If you want to stick with the olden days, i wonder what you are doing with a phone. You should be using town criers to deliver messages. You should walk about with only your crotch covered and not wear modern clothes.

But here you are conveniently picking out the one that works for you and saying olden days up and down. Why not go to post office and post your response to this my post?

GavelSlam:
They are the elite based on the 'hustle' of their parents.

Question now is, what is their hustle?

What are their expectations?

If they have a car and home already, I'm assuming they want more.

All well and good, but is that a realistic expectation?

If you have all these, then your only rightful complaint should be issues relating to insecurity.

Wherever else you find yourself you would hardly have more than a car and home.

Is just having a car and home enough? Our society and economy makes the hard work and struggle of a common citizen yield very little.

Not everyone is satisfied with just having the basic because with the way the country is going, soon the basic would even be stripped off.

I am a Man Utd fan but I am glad they were beaten black and blue so that the heads of the club will realize that they don't have a team.

They need to spend good money to get worthy players. Not managing Smalling that is a minus on the field. Or Fred that i have no idea what contribution he makes. We don't want off and on players but consistent players.

Samshumy:
So you’re telling me house chores would make the wife look anyhow?

No. I am telling you that you can choose to do whatever you deem fit even if it means marrying a maid. At least you already have divorce at the back of your mind to rectify any situation that may arise.

Samshumy:
The guy is right. So many things are wrong with women of nowadays

What i see wrong is the need for Nigerian men to dominate the woman like it is the very air they breathe. There is actually no competition as many people try to create one.

I listened to a message where the person speaking asked the men that if after 5years of marriage and their inlaws come to see their daughter...would they be glad they gave her to you for marriage or would they regret it because she looks worse than she was as a single person.

sisisioge:
Whew! What a husband you've got.

You didn't notice all these before marrying him? Good luck with managing the whole situation around him. All those things he used to say about your contract job is demeaning enough. Hian!

By the way, there are several clones of your husband here! How did Nigeria raise so much backward men? Hiaaaaan!

You didn't see the guy that was bragging about his mother coming back from work to pound akpu... exposing his father's idea of marriage.

Young03:
What your husband is doing is not bad but he's over doing it

new genration wifes baffles me

my mom will leave house by 6am comes back at 8pm n will still cook akpu

and before she leaves in the morning. she sweeps the compound


Reduce your working hours


Do u even support the family with 40% of your earnings?

Your mum's ways was not the standard for every home in those days. We had husbands who cared enough to reduce the burden for their wives.

My mum always had people in the house reducing the burden and she worked from home like the op. She was a seamstress. The fact that your mum would come back home at night tired and still pound akpu while your dad probably sat with a newspaper doesn't mean it happened in all homes.

My husband for instance, grew up in a home where his father cooked for everyone a lot of times and was very involved in the children's lives despite the fact that he went to work daily.

So there is nothing wrong with "new generation wives". Not all of us grew up in a house where our mothers were slaves.

Being a leader/head is a lot of responsibility. It is different from being a boss. Your wife should be better off after years of marriage and not worse off and looking like she is carrying a burden.

That job should not have been an option at all with those insane requirements. No girl with respect for herself would accept such an offer. The girl allowed desperation push her into that kind of arrangement.

I just feel she's slow and unwise. She has the brains for academics. But she lacks the brains to know how to comport and value.herself.

Freeze can never see this. He is patiently waiting for news that would make him attack the church

Why is her family trying to make your life difficult? And you said your father in-law called you later and asked for forgiveness. Please tell him to redeem himself by telling the family that he collected the dowry. It is not about apologizing in secret.

If you decide to leave their daughter and move on since they say you are still single, what will they do? Won't she and her family be the ones to lose?

Samshumy:
I have friends who are married and that’s how it should be. I can’t be providing for the family and still doing chores. A real man doesn’t do any chores apart from washing his own clothes

Ok real man

davenaija:
Why stress yourself my lady

I wonder o

davenaija:
Mental awareness. Until people become conscious of their destructive tendencies and empathise with their actions, change is impossible. Actions are poured out for our " internal mould". Unless these moulds are broken either by external brute force or personal will of the doer, their mental pathway continues making it impossible for change to occur or even the possibility of them K owing their actions are wrong. It takes Grace for one to be attentive to personal misgivings

But he on the other hand doesn't see anything wrong with his actions and mindset. To him, he has to be a god in his home. He will love only when it is convenient and wouldn't want to be disturbed with the process of running the house.

His upbringing has made him selfish. And he already has divorce as an option even before getting married. Not everyone should get married. Selfish people should not bother themselves with marriage

UyaiIncomparabl:
He's both. An egotist will always have a trace of narcissism in him/her.

You should have decoded that the guy has some upbringing issues. It has affected the way he treats women and besides when he gets married, real life will hit him

davenaija:
Different strokes my lady. My father was abusive. In fact all the great guys I see today many had abusive dad's. Self realization and cognitive ascendence helped us understand things better in order to chart a different course than our dads.


Best guys for ladies to date..

Guys that are on the path of awareness, mild and positive self consciousness and improvement, this breed strives to be better day in day out. Anything less is a no brainer.

But he decided to follow his dad's footstep even if he probably saw his mum stressed. It shows he regards women very lightly.

Samshumy:
I can’t do chores because chores is meant for a woman. I’m a man and not a woman. Before marriage, the wife would know the kind of person i am. So I’m not forcing her into what she won’t like. The only chores i can do is my own clothes. Any other thing must be taken care of by her.

Where did you get this orientation from... that chores are for women?

You are not married yet and are still looking at marriage from the point of view of boyfriend and girlfriend.