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No point staying. Happiness comes from within and you don't need anyone to make you happy. But a spouse should contribute to your happiness. If he or she cannot, that person aint worth it

Chubhie:
He should pay the hospital bills and dowry. This is when approaching things from a place of peace.

Pay dowry? Marriage is not something to be taken lightly. He should marry from a family that is bound to give him problems and probably shorten his lifespan.

Saying he should marry her is a bad advice. There are too many broken marriages that could have been avoided through proper reasoning

Do you guys know how much her husband earns? That money might be pocket change for him. Or you think he earns 70k or 125k.

Do you know if he doesn't want her to work? It is not every guy that sees women as parasites. Some men love to spend on their wives and not being stingy and feeling cheated like many of you here.

You guys are just hating. They might be a kind of family that entertain guests a lot. I know of one.

And the list could also be fake to get reactions from guys. And it is working.

lwise:
I always have this unpleasant experience anytime I switch on my AC (Hyundai Accent 2008).At times in traffic the car stops completely,I have to switch OFF the car then ON it back.

Can anyone help with the possible solution.

Thanks

I had same issue... exact same car. Is it the AC that came with the car? I think I had to get a compressor

He should apologize. OAPs these days are always running their mouths up and down

lawaljuliuss:
you mean all those Arabs in Dubai that s**ts on you? yes, they have private jets and yatchs

Ever since this Dubai story started making the rounds, every celebrity lady or lady with money is now termed porta potty.

Not all of them are o. Don't be quick to categorize everyone.

drharry:
Marriage is for oneness, but that does not mean each spouse has same likes, profession etc. Staying in same or separate rooms is just for convenience and choice. Nothing more. You can as well say, husband and wife should always, work in same office, wear the same clothes, bath together etc.. If I have a duplex , then my wife can stay in any room, but if na two bedroom flat and you get 5children then wifey has no choice but stay with husband in one room..

We don't lose our identity in marriage. Off course we have our different likes and activities. What i mean is that when you get married, it is no longer all about you. You have to put the other person into consideration before making decisions or major moves.

Divay22:
Might not be that separate. But lemme have a room to myself where i can talk to myself.
As an introverted being, my space is my sanity.

When you get married, you give up "my", "myself" "me", for "we" "ourselves" "our".

aanuoluwami14:
it's not good, sound sleep comes when you feel someone's presence besides you

And when you can put your leg on the someone's body and sleep

Mutemenot:
Yeah but nor for someone with 200k bro. Is marriage the only responsibility he's going to face?

Even if it is only marriage, the 200k won't even be enough.

Op hope you have given your wife some good loving .

Your body is no longer exclusively yours

Oluromantic:
Madam. Just be plain with whom you're arguing with o. Don't involve me. I don't argue

You don't argue indeed.

You quote me and call me a small child and expect to be treated like an adult. Just run along and don't quote me.

Oluromantic:
What do u gain to win over everybody. You have issues o. Sha don't involve me

Now you miss the point. Or is that your defence? You start what you cannot finish and now turn it around to make it about winning or losing.

If you cannot be objective in the way you reason, don't quote my comments.

bamidelee:
I don't have your time my daughter

Ok. You have enjoyed your one minute of fame on NL. You can run along now

UniQue84:
Una too like unnecessary argument for nairaland sef, the moniker Oluromantic was trying to say if men can go out of thier way sometimes by petting ladies, buying dem stuff, taking dem out so that the atmosphere (emotionally and psychologically) can be conducive for sex, it is not also bad if the op wife replicate same w.r.t what the op said and I quote " But if I don't make a move 3 days in a row, she would start quarreling with me and everything. She won't ask for it but start fighting me unnecessarily. "

That is he may not be in the mood cos of stuff he stated above the wife should also learn and practice the ideal of putting him in the mood by doing the stuff Oluromantic listed that men do for women so that the pussy can be all wet and ready ( in this case the dick ) .. and I dont think that is bad ideal instead of putting up a fight unnecessarily.

Women and thier entitlement mentality even in sex sef...and pls dont preach the I will start to look outside if am not getting it at home for ordinary 2weeks for me ,abeg na outside dey those women eyes before just looking for justification to showcase their whoreism.

People like to assume, generalize and jump into conclusions. I asked the op if he would withhold sex for "2months" if business is not going well. The op responded with more wisdom than oluromantic who was crying more than the bereaved.

If it were a lady withholding sex from her husband, a lot of guys would have come out to play saying how bad it is. But here is a man doing that and the story changes.

The person you are defending doesn't know how to disagree or argue objectively without prejudice

greatnaija01:
Bro.... before she had sex with U did she DIE?

OR IS SEX WITH YOU SO POWERFUL THAT A LADY CAN NOT BE USEFUL IN HER LIFE AGAIN?

Stop giving yourself credit o. It is only your side of the story we are reading now... maybe she will have a deeper tale to tell.

your story shows YOU BOTH NEVER GOT BACK TOGETHER... you are just wanting to USE HER AGAIN.... and not for love or a proper relationship... just for SEX.

Whether she is lying or not, she is demanding her respect to prove to you that.. YOU AINT THAT HOT, AND YOU ARE not as USEFUL or NEEDED as you think.

Its rebound sex you want with her. So calm down bros, the RELATIONSHIP IS LONG OVER and nothing is leading NO WHERE.


Be a man and end it clearly and zip up and walk away. Have the dignity of LETTING HER HEAL and if you really want to be with her and be FAITHFUL then start with something as harmless as FRIENDSHIP... it doesn't kill.... because after MARRIAGE... that is what will be the most important o... sex fades over months and years.

Now, chemistry of sex with her for 3 months consistently... she got addicted to SEX and NOT TO YOU.... get that fact clear through your senses.

Stop coming here to ask for expo when you didn't take time to prepare your self for a relationship psychologically and get emotionally mature before entering one... then its when you have already taken the plane into a height that you are now calling us her for MANUAL on what signals the plane is giving? lol... rofl... MY BROS, NA TO CRASH BETTER CRASH LANDING and pray you come out whole and sane.

Jeez!! See analysis. You finish work.

They have no right to force you. They have lived their lives, this is your own life and you will live with your choices alone.

Just be silent whenever they bring up the issue... don't argue or contribute. When they are done, say "ok". Marry when you can.

vingeophysicist:
You better comply with her.She is right to complain about you denying her sex.Your body is hers now .

Some children on this thread do not understand that with marriage, your body is no longer exclusively yours.

What is NKST? In writing, before you use an abbreviation, you must have written in full first.

bamidelee:
everyday is ok by you since you're a sex object

Can you at least try to respond with objectivity and intelligence? Just try...even if it isn't something that comes naturally.

I even said 2months. So a woman who complains after two months is a sex object?Guy try to use the brain that God gave you and put aside your prejudice towards women.

ashewoboy:
why i sent her pm is stated there? Besides, does she not have a vjayjay? it doesn't matter whether she is pretty or not. Guys just want to phuck. We just want to phuck.

Your reason is whack...agbaya

funmisticqueen:
Thanks jare. It2 is just hell. Especially the food. As if they are feeding small children. I never went to boarding school.

Lol ..pele...aje butter.

Camp was piece of cake for me because i didn't just attend boarding school...i went to Command. So the soldiers, jogging, etc were familiar.

ashewoboy:
if she no gree. What is your own? I sent you a mail to see more pictures of you with another hairdo since you said "except your hairdo". You think say i want toast you? Phuck out of here. Reply the mail if you wanna show me the hairstyle or you phuck out of here.

Hahahaha . So you sent her a pm after all your mouth...chai!

Oluromantic:
You don't even recognize assumptions from facts. This isnt about a quote argument. Its fact whether u agree with it or not.

What facts did you give in relation to what you quoted? See my statement below:

So if business is slow for 2months, you will halt on sex until everything picks up? How does that sound to you?

You just commented with preconceived notions, a mindset... without reason and with unfounded assumptions. What has your comment got to do with my statement?

Oluromantic:
Stop following the bandwagon...think outside the box. The same way it takes a man to buy you gifts, take you out and pampers you before you start getting wet again. So it is for men. If you are still of the thought that men are rocks, then you are a small child

What bandwagon? Buy gifts... get wet. You must have quoted the wrong person because a person with a sound mind and who should be mature would not have so much assumptions in one post.

Jogunomi1:
My sis, depression can kill appetite easily na.

This is what they accuse women of...not being in the mood. A man will use it as an excuse to look outside for satisfaction and everyone will even blame the wife.

So the question is, if your wife happens to look outside, will you pardon her?

Richy4:
It's just a cultural thing...

It's just like how people feel addressing someone by their first in name Nigeria... it's seen as one being disrespectful. .. you have to call the older person uncle, aunt etc..

That was one of the challenges I went through way back when I travelled out of the country....

I couldn't just figure out how to call my boss then (two decades my senior ) by his first name..... I recalled then that it sounds pretty weird to me.. call him sir, he felt I was insulting him by making him old... but when I became familiar with him, I began to address him as sir just to annoy him..

Nowadays it comes natural as if I was born to call people by their name.. though a little challenging when in Nigeria association.. u don't know which of the elderly ones that might like it or not...

A lot of people make things complicated. I worked in a bank...here in Nigeria and first name is their policy even if you have white hair. Our regional manager would even scold you for calling him "sir".

A name is the identity we were given when we were born. I don't see why calling it is an insult. You can't even call some women from some tribes "aunty" and attach their names. It is still an insult that you mention their name especially if they have children.

I discourage friends that try to call me mummy this or mama that. The fact that i have a child doesn't erase my own identity. Some people carry respect as a sign post or banner.

robosky02:
imaima abadia

Idioko

So that she can open the gate

Start preparing dinner. When it's cooking, i UnCloth and cool off

So if business is slow for 2months, you will halt on sex until everything picks up? How does that sound to you?

You should be able to solve this issue yourself. Dating is a time to get to know each other. If you cannot live with the flaws she has, then you move on.