₦airaland Forum

MariaLavina:



Across the border, these powerful, outspoken dictators are loyal puppies.


They can't deny it.

loyal puppies.

So you mean someone like TonyeBarcanista will be a puppy

koyyes:
The child was very fortunate. Doesn't in any way make this practice any less barbaric in 2019 where there are alternatives to explore.

When blood transfusion came about, the health care system was a little advanced already. But lets assume it wasn't even till now...would you agree to drink up a bowl of another person's blood sip by sip to save your life?

What makes it barbaric? Are the alternatives readily available in Nigeria? Does it now justify letting the child die?

The JW can afford lengthy court cases. Why don't they invest that money into building hospitals and employing JW staff. That way they can practise their beliefs

helpee:
lies. Supreme Court judgement can be interpreted anyhow by court. This is just a judicial precedence meaning it can only help your case if you are in court for a similar case but it won't prevent you from being sued. And remember, Jehovah witness is a stubborn set. Even if the case is straight forward, they will still take you to court for transfusing their sect members and will still pursue the case to the supreme Court. Wether you win or not is Immaterial, the stress, the money and the time and the emotional trauma that you will pass through will be too much . Moreso, remember the baby didn't die yet they took them to court. Imagine after transfusion the baby still dies.... creating another scenario. They will now say even with the blood the baby died.... meaning the blood was not necessarily what would save the baby etc. There are too many scenarios in law and medical practice, a doctor should play safe and smart so they won't use you as a scapegoat

I guess they should stubbornly build their own hospitals and employ JW doctors, nurses, staff...so that they won't keep suing for suing sake

anonymuz:
its a basic bible principle.

That we should not eat animals with their blood.

aribisala0:
No it is not madness, it is jurisprudence. Not always comprehensible to simple folk.

Sometimes better to observe in silence

Yimu

koyyes:
People take in blood and still die, contract hepatitis/ aids, discover allergies and mutated blood group/genotype etc . Who gets sued when these happen?

That is always their argument. Are they praying or hoping that their child would contact any of these? What is the ratio of those that contact them through blood to the ones that don't?

In this case, did the child contact any?

stargazer22:
Is this not commonsensical Africans still have a long way to go sha

It's not an African thing. In the US, the parents would win the case. I read that the doctors hardly interfere with the JW beliefs as regards blood transfusion

tactius:
Sounds more like a rumor than fact.

No name given, year was not given, just q twitter rumor

Lol. I heard it that year too. Then he wasn't accused of wastage but gluttony/greed... something like that.

dingbang:
a choice she should accept. Like I tell any girl that wants to go into a rship with me, this is the kind of person I am oo, not when we start, you begin to tell me I am this , I am that. I won't take that nonsense.

Even if you love her, you will still see her flaws. People don't become without flaws because of love. And telling you you are doing something they don't like is not nonsense...it is communication.

SmellySperm:
another feminist on the loose

Lazy defence.

Don't set yourself up by going for the new guy. The grass is seeming greener on the other side. Tend your own grass...try to create excitement in your relationship and communicate what you want and what will make you happy.

dingbang:
Why fall in love with someone who is boring. My girlfriend says sometimes I am boring and she tells me she is in love with me and I am like Why so confused?

If you like me then you should be able to understand and accept my personality, if you dont like my personality then how can you say you love me?

Or maybe you love the fact that he gives you Money?


Pls dont be confused.

Love is not actually blind. Her loving you doesn't stop her from seeing your flaws. She only chooses to live with it because she loves you.

I am sure it is for the mindset. Older men hardly have the mentality that young guys have. They have outgrown youthful ignorance and are more mature in their approach to life

Only TuBaba qualifies to be on that list. Where did Rooftop MCs pass to enter the list?

What about Style Plus, even Olu Maintain sef.

The way sex is just driving people crazy and controlling them as if it is a new discovery.

lakesider:
Everybody will come here to abuse the nanny, the qution is, how much does this nanny earn per hour or per month..
It's only in Africa u will give police man a gun to protect you and pay him salary that cannot feed hi. For the month.

It does not justify beating a sick toddler. She didn't have to take the job if it wasn't ok for her

Unrated900:
Kudos to you my brother,you must be a marriage counsellor from the ST Anthony Catholic church.

Kudos to the counselors at St Anthony. More grease to their elbows.

Datazone:
This generation and love for sex is indescribable. Everything is now "sexified". No wonder recent study has shown that ladies with big ass & boobs seem to have more confidence than ladies with masters degree on social media. What a way to die!

That's why you will always see threads here on where to get sex joints as if it is food. People that don't care about their own welfare.

incogni2o:
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SMH4U

Hold it well sha

My point...it is wrong to draw hasty conclusions. Are you a family or friend of Olajumoke? I guess not

incogni2o:
Please state one of my assumptions.

Have you gone through her instagram page?

Everything you stated that is not a fact confirmed by her is an assumption.

What people put on their IG page doesn't always mirror the truth. They put what they want you to see

incogni2o:
I know people would try to play on the "benefit of the doubt"

But I am sure with her attitude, she was immature for the fame especially with her being married.

She needed a loy of advices and mentorship which i guess she did not get.

The modelling industry is not somewhere to venture in without a strong mind.

And you are still concluding based on assumptions.

How do you know she is immature? What if he is the immature one?

You can only conclude and judge her based on facts. But you don't have any considering you are not an insider.

Donald3d:

I got married recently, I am probably much younger than you are, I was practically in your shoes .
I wouldn't want to give to much details, because privacy is important, but I would say this :
No matter what happens, stand your ground, there is only so much resistance a father can give no matter how strict he is or thinks he is .
I didn't give her belle, I married her because she was a gem I couldn't afford to lose.The kind of girl you only see in fairy tales .
If your wife to be is that kind of girl, don't lose her because of your father's decision.You would regret it for the rest of your life. Just be sure she is worth the fight, if she is. STAND YOUR GROUND.You are a man .

Try and find diplomatic ways to resolve it, pray also a whole lot, you have no idea how much prayers can move mountains.Every man has a weak point, find your father's weak point and use it against him, play the fool if you have to and at the end of the day the end goal is getting your wife.

If the drama gets too much she might leave you, trust me, women don't like too much drama no matter how much they love you, especially in this case when she has been with you this long.

If your father is still "doing strong head", please go to your in-laws collect the list and pay her dowry . You already said they trust you. She is marrying you and not your father, from what you said, its not like he doesn't like the girl, he just wants to be stubborn. But I know he would come around, find his weak point and use it against him and win him over, that's what I did.

Don't suffer a life time of regret losing the love of your life because you couldn't stand up to your father.This is one of of your first tests of being a true man.Please pass it
Marriage26

UPDATE : Since you are Christian consider this bible passage. I reminded myself of it almost everyday :
The king's heart is in the hand of the Lord, as the rivers of water: he turneth it whithersoever he will. Prov 21 VS 1
Make sure you and bae pray and fast fervently together. No battle is insurmountable as long as the person no be God, there is a solution.

Marriage26 please go with this advice.

Not all parents act in wisdom, they just act according to their selfish interests and try to show that they are boss.

Forget all that getting father's blessings or whatever and elder sees sitting down nonsense. Sometimes they use it to manipulate their kids. Act like a man not a kid that is scared of his papa

incogni2o:
This girl will live to regret this thing she did if true.

And it is also shameful that TY Bello left her on her own not mentoring her appropriately.

All I can only see is that TY Bello used this girl for her own public glory, If not she should try and talk some sense into this girl's head,

Oh! I just remembered she sef never marry. Hope she is wise enough though.

This girl just fell victim of sacrificing family for career. Modelling is not a job for her.

She will keep falling victim.


Edited.

TY Bello is married with Twins.

Thanks to people who replied me.

I think we are quick to jump into conclusions.

Were they legally married? Was he caring for her before the fame? Or did he just tag along when he saw that she had blown?

Is the man himself happy and fulfilled in the marriage or he is just there for the fame?

There are many questions to be asked before tagging her. But Nigerians are too judgemental especially towards women. See that one openly calling her "olosho". It is a pity

lilwetdick:
thank the gods, you agree that money is important...

That's the only part that you caught. As i said, experience will teach you better, not assumption.

Nothing can keep a man that doesn't want to stay. If you like kneel down to give him his food, hang your leg on the fan, if he won't stay, he won't.

AntiBrutus:
He simply means, BUY SUBMISSION.

Why then do they cry when some women say they do not want broke men?

I don't even know why people are attacking him, he only said the mind of lots of Nigerian men. Wasn't it on this same Nairaland that one went on a 2k date, only to come back emasculated because the girl gave herself a treat.

If you see the average Nigerian man talking about his worth in a relationship, it ends at MONEY. If you see his female counterpart talking her own, it ends at WIFELY DUTIES (sex and domestic chores).

The man is scared of the woman having more money, because he will lose his hold, since he knows he has nothing else. The woman is scared of the man being a hit and run because she wonders how many more will hit and run.

Outside these things, they are totally clueless and useless to someone who desires and wants more.

Gaspardd and evercurious won't like this.

JONNYSPUTE:
In marriage there's nothing like MY but Ours. So she's free to make all the money

Yeah..story of my marriage. ATMs are not exclusive. He could be with mine and i could be with his. He uses my account and I use his. It's just a funny arrangement but it works for us

Jman06:
Nigerian women love to be controlled with money!

The Nigerian women in the box you created

lilwetdick:
i know that you are married, if you were to choose between Mr man without no house, no job , lives with his parent because of lack of cash but you love him AND Mr man with a self contained house, have a job but little pay but with potential, does live with his parent?

sincerely speaking who will you choose?

And if you read my post, it said a man does not have to be a millionaire or billionaire to be in marriage but he needs to have some amont of money for upkeep and taking care of the house.

Even a slow person knows that a man that still lives with his parents is not ready or even qualified to get married.

Again I say... money is important but it is not what holds a marriage together.

When you go for marriage counseling before you get married, you will learn a lot. And after being married for a while, you will know that money is very key but it is not the foundation for a marriage.

Were they married in the first place? Was he even taking care of her before the fame. Maybe he just tagged along and was forming husband when he saw that she had blown.

Whatever the case...good luck to them

Johnnycife:
All this people attacking the guy, just pray you don't enter into this kind of mess. Because where I live, I mean the house. The woman is richer than her husband that's how she shouts on him every time. Infact the man has no other option than to leave the house when her madness starts. In this life that's a way you'll talk to a man as a woman, you'll talk out the N from the spelling of MAN, and the man will become Ma.and that's exactly what she does because of her money. All this rich woman they behave like confused people most of the times

That is just one that you cannot use to judge everyone. I also know of a family. It was after the husband died and the inlaws were coming to claim property that they realized that the woman was the breadwinner. Even the children didn't know because she would give the husband the school fees to give them.The respect they had for the woman was huge.

There are many homes where the woman is the breadwinner and there is peace. We always like to cite the negative stories especially when dealing with gender issues, marriage, etc.

Jman06:
Having a good self esteem is different from being egoistic.

If women can be richer in peace and not see their men as less a man for being poorer, then no problems. But the issue is that many Nigerian ladies would see the man as a weakling and less a man the moment they start earning more money than the man.
The result is usually an unhappy wife who is always angry and bitter at whatever the man does or says.
That time they'll start wishing they were that dependent housewife next door who stays at home gossiping while their husband goes to work.
In fact, some of such ladies would even start cheating on the man with other men whom they consider richer and alpha males.
No man wants to put up with all those drama, hence they kuku go for a fulltime housewife with whom they can manage the much they earn.
It'll continue that way until Nigerian ladies understand that they are not being sent to schools and given high paying jobs only for them to become a liability to a man.
Until that time when they'll not only love to work and earn money for themselves and families, but would not wish otherwise.

Many men cannot handle it because money is their way of controlling their wives. They wield power because they are the ones with the money.

So it is hard for such men to relinquish that power by letting the wife have more money. They can no longer be the god they want to be.

The best way is to live without competition or lording over each other with money. It is just a terrible orientation and mindset that has been fed overtime.