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Starman007:
De gea or De basket

Don't get it twisted. De Gea cannot be compared with the likes of Courtois.

YoungFr:
my problem is how and when did they install all of the power lines
Someone wish me well please, tomorrow is my marriage and my wife had an accident this morning

All will be well.

What made you decide to date each other in the first place? Both of you just broke your relationships and started dating. What was the goal or reason for your dating?

After discovering that she couldn't keep her legs together, you still continued. Why? Someone that is recklessly sleeping around.

Now you are convinced that she has no control and doesn't care about your feelings... what advice do you need? You can decide to stay and create another thread soon about how she has given you an STD.

paul1995:
Then you should have fixed it for him and make him happy..what hurts a man the most his when he is not living to his expectations in terms of finance ,shelter and comfort.. you for just leave the poor child alone ..besides just move on you will only get hurt if you don't let go..

Make him happy indeed. He was apparently with her for the papers.

Book of Love - Peter Gabriel
Give me Love - Ed Sheeran
Turning Page - Sleeping At Last
Need You Now. - Lady Antebellum
Leaving on a Jet Plane- Janis Joplin
The Closer You Get - Dido
Unchained Melody - Gareth Gates
Wrapped -Gloria Estefan
Bed - J Holiday
Lost Without You - Robin Thicke
From this Moment - Shania Twain
Crazy. - KC and JoJo
One Night - The Corrs
Dreams - The Cranberries
Love in This Club. - Usher
Desipacito. - Louis Fonté
Want To Want me. - Jason Derulo
You Sang To Me - McAnthony
Touch Me Now - Seyi Shey
Unconditional. -Katty Perry
Bilando. - Enrique Iglesias
My Immortal. Evanescence

My all time romantic songs.

barallanee:
Thousand years-christina /twilight
Need you now-lady antebellum
Primetime ft Miguel
Coffee-miguel
Everybody knows-john legend
Sweetest devotion-adele
The only exception-glee cast










And so on

I love "need you now" and "a thousand years"

funmisticqueen2:
I disagree. A man should stick by his decision whether it is to abandon a pregnant woman and thereby his child or to accept his responsibilty whether he is prepared or no.

Do men really expect to come whrn everything is said and done and expect the child on a platter of gold. Most of these men dont receive sense, look at airforce1, still acting irresponsible and chasing skirts when the excitwment of the newborn child has died down.

If you as a man want to be in your chi'd's life, come as a fully fledged father, not as a family friend who visits when it is convienent for him. That is all i am saying.

So as long as he wasn't there before, the child should be deprived of the father's attention because of personal conflicts? That is not how it works.

I have mentioned here before about a relative of mine in a bad marriage. In her case, they were even married but the guy is such a terrible person. He never even bought one thing for his daughter before and after she was born(not even a face towel).

She bought every single thing. He even refused donating blood for her to start ante natal and she was alone during that period even if they were married and living together.

They eventually separated. They are not cool but guess what?! She doesn't keep her daughter from her father when he asks to see her. And those times father and daughter spend together makes the daughter happy. He buys ger things too. That's all that matters to the mother and not the issues they have. They want the girl to grow up well without resentment that would scar her.

If such a case should go to court where the biological father is asking to be part of the child's life, he would win because he is the father regardless of whatever they may have been through. But it's just revenge and hurt that would make a woman turn her child against the father.

funmisticqueen2:
nope, i wont have a child for a man i dont deem worthy enough. Who love epp sef. Maybe we should even make an open marriage arrangement that will benefit both parties.

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Ok. But there are people who got pregnant by mistake as they might put it and the guy initially abandoned her but decided to be part of the child's life after birth. After all said and done, the child should not be deprived of the father's love. The lady should not pitch the child between her and the father. That's what the thread is saying

funmisticqueen2:
Any man that denies his child will be operation abort mission. Cant allow him to have a change of heart after the storm is over. If he is really repentatant, let him pay brideprice before he sees the child, if not he is not the father, simple.

So you wouldn't mind being in a loveless marriage just so you can give him access to his child?

anthonyuncle:
dz is one stupid stunt that they pull, it works on da offsprings at a tender age, but when they grow up,they realise da truth & grow hatred for their mum

Yeah!! It might not matter now but later it will manifest.

MissRaine69:
Someone with sense
You get my point.
This is why some mothers get so upset and feel cheated when a child opts to go and live with the absent parent. That child has developed a relationship with the parent despite the mother “poisoning” their mind. If the father is a dead beat dad, let the child see that.

From this thread, you can already see that this issue you raised is rampant. Women poisoning their child against their father because of hurt and personal issues. It takes maturity and selflessness to allow the father despite all issues.

Mums need put their selfishness and revenge aside and do what is in the best interest of the child. It makes the child more balanced with love from both parents. Poisoning a child's mind against a parent could scar them for life.

Biglittlelois:
@bolded is what I'd never agree on, two people had unprotected sex, no party was hijacked into anything, once unprotected sex is involved, the unexpected should be expected, a guy that wants to be involved will not deny the pregnancy at first, he will be a man and accept it in good faith, my point is he should accept ownership of the pregnancy and be responsible after the birth.

A guy might not show interest during the pregnancy period. He might even abandon his pregnant lady but when the child is born and he wants to get involved, i think he should be allowed. You have to put your personal hurt and revenge aside for the sake of the baby. It is about the baby.

Many children from single mums yearn to have a dad and in some cases, the dad doesn't care. But if one has decided to be involved, i don't think he should be deprived. He doesn't have to date or marry the babe to get involved with his child. He should not be held to ransom because of it.

wetdick:
not all men but most men. they keep up with bullshits and pretend that all is well for peace and sanity sake

Ok. Keep looking out for and taking notes of the negative one but turn a blind eye to the positive ones. You will find what you are looking for

wetdick:
this is not a negative situation, this is the reality of many marriages in Nigeria, the only thing that has helped career-minded men that have been able to carry their career along even though been married is that they have learned to concentrate on their careers, stay in office for long, come home at night, eat and sleep, provide for their family, wake up the next morning like usual and continue the cycle even on sat and sun.

And you haven't met the ones that are happy with their lives and family? Are you saying that all men are in this situation?

victorian:
That's how life is meant to be. Free your partner, let him or her enjoy the little things of life that makes sense to them. Honestly it's useless. We manage to last two weeks and that was it. No more
I like being myself and been free. I hate been stifled all in the name of I want to marry you or I love you. It's madness!

The op seems to be drawn to bad marriages. I hope he doesn't end up in one

wetdick:
truth be told, i have seen many men lost their dreams all because of a women.

you will see this very agile and strong man when single, man that can say his opinion anytime, onces he gets married, everything changes, he grows big tummy and he becomes lost in a box, that he has to take permission for anything he wants to do, his wife monitors him at all time and wants to be at the same place, he has to attend weddings he is not interested in or visit people he hates, just because of his wife.

he no longer has friends, no hobbies, no life, all his life is center around the woman, he cant even take his backpad and plan his day for hiking except his wife is involved, it just get me irritated, i know understand why the woman are always happy during the marriage ceremony and the man sad.

do you know how many men have lost their career and education ambitions just because they sacrificed for their women.

You seem to know so many guys in the negative situations. And you don't know the ones who have good marriages. Probably, you attract what you always think

victorian:
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At the bolded, same can be said with guys
A guy who wanted to date me said on our chats, that I should stop making up, I shouldnt even apply powder on my face. And I was like what? Are u for real?
He said yes and he prefer me looking natural. I was like really? So I'm not natural like this? I don't even do heavy makeup.
I replied at him, I will look plain if u want but going to work I must apply makeup, sorry. We argued for hours, then he said OK I can apply makeup.
Then later he said I should stop my church and go to redeem church. I asked why, he said he just does not like my church.
I looked at this guy in wonder and I was like which kain control be this for God sakes.

We've not even started dating, just because I like his looks and all.. He's already giving me rules and Regulations in my own life? NA WA o.
We argued back and forth and mind u, he doesn't even go to church o.

To wrap it up, guys stop this over bearing attitude of trying to control ladies u want to date. It's annoying!

Lemme breathe Biko.. Don't be too controlling around me. It's not cool at all.

Control from both parties always proves to be counterproductive. It is useless. I still hang out with friends, do my sports and activities and he does his. We just always put the other in mind.

wetdick:
you cant change my opinion, i have seen it already with married couples, where the man lost all his ambition and dreams just to sacrifice for the marriage. And, when the marriage breaks down, the woman still blame the guy.

So ALL the marriages you have seen, the guy lost his dreams and ambition because of the lady? It's ok

I am not trying to change your opinion. Your opinion is just yours and doesn't reflect the whole world. Your opinion doesn't change the fact that many men are happy with the their dreams and hobbies not killed by anyone.

If you are looking for a reason not to marry, congrats!! You have found one

wetdick:
in my opinion, i dont consider football as anything, the only reason why you are a strong football fan is just to make your husband happy not because you like it

lets imagine, your husband decides to take another hobby outside the home, something like biking, hiking, cross country biking, car sport, something manly and will not involve you and he makes this new hobby his first priority, will you support him or not try to sabotage the effort.

I have my own hobbies(dancing, swimming,etc)that he is not involved in. So why should his own be a problem?

About the football, i wouldn't have cared much or watched it as much as i do. But now, even when he isn't around, i watch matches.

Contrary to what you may believe, women are not out to destroy a man.

hubtiva:
Will that bring the dead back to life Nawaooo

No but you know what it will do for his memory. Besides, the hospital needs to be punished for such a stupid and thoughtless act

I see why my daughter is soooo smart

Raalsalghul:
But the thread doesn't refer to the bolded which begs the question of why are you so pissed.

If anything I think the rate of single ladies might increase in the future (No intention to bash here).

Reason being that most guys of marriageable age aren't financially ready.

What are my even saying, aren't you happily married?

The topic covers the bolded. Or doesn't it talk about ladies that are not married for one reason or the other? And who says i am pissed? You are actually the one acting pissed.

The fact that i am not single doesn't mean i cannot contribute on a thread that i have knowledge about. Don't put into the "married" box.

Funny that you say the rate might go up. People are still getting married every weekend and it's not a marriage between two men. Those that are not financially ready, will be one day. But it won't stop people from getting married every day

PharoahIII:
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This one has just confirmed her age and relationship status online. ashiri e ti tun

Keeping quiet might make you sound more intelligent, rather than displaying your ignorance openly.

barackodam:
Whether you admit or not, Nigerians have abused the word God. Every damned thing, it's always God. Even when knowingly doing the wrong thing. Afterall, just like you said, "He's a forgiving God" They waste away their productive years, and later start calling God. E don tire pesin. It's irritating to hear. I'm not a hater of God, but I'm a hater of what we Nigerians have turned it into

Well i am not speaking of those that call on God unjustly.

Besides, some ladies are single not because they committed any sin against God but probably because they put other projects ahead of marriage plans.

But the truth is that no matter how men insult older single ladies and call them old newspapers, they will still get good husbands

barackodam:
Don't we ever get tired of using God to just all things? What the OP said, may not exactly true, but he has a point, it's what we all see. In both male and female. Our youths waste their youth, and then we all start blaming God on every damned thing!

It's so so sickening. Let's learn to accept blames for goodness sake. It's not always about God.


Did God ask anyone to fornicate about, or waste their youth?

But when they are unable to marry because of their actions and inactions, it becomes God's plan for them.

Shior

Shior??!! What is "shior"? A guy makes a point and then says " shior". What kind of guys do we have here?

My mention of God is about the fact that He forgives when people go before him sincerely. And since He sees the heart, He cannot be deceived. Unlike men who have wicked hearts and are ready to stone the prostitute

RemyAndre:
Good day to you all. I need a baby mama. Might sounds funny and weird but I'm an adult and married. In my 30s but I believe the beat for me is to get a baby mama, have one or two kids, take care of them and their mama.

I'm a working class, planing to leave the country this year, my wife is yet to conceive, our marriage will be two years in few months. My wife works in Lagos, I was transferred to osun state last year, she comes every 2 weeks. I believe if I leave the country it's better I have a kid here. I'm not getting younger, our families are beginning to ask questions.
I might sound selfish but I'd rather have kids out of wedlock than adopt a child. You are free to bash me but what would you have done differently if you are in my shoes? I believe responsible ladies are out there, working class, who won't mind have a kid for someone like me. Pm me if you don't mind.

Leave your families out of it and focus on each other. Do not entertain family interference...it is not their business. The children are first for you before them.

You are not a patient person or you do not truly love your wife. Because two years is too short a time to start thinking of this option. I hope you don't bring unnecessary problems with your actions.

The idea of living together should not be encouraged.

Why did you allow a colleague that you know she isn't comfortable with visit when you were not around?

If it were the other way around, most guys would have said she slept with the guy. But as it is you...a guy, it is fine.

She obviously has trust issues especially as you have not given her prior reasons to distrust you.

Constant relation with the other guy is bound to spark up something. That's the way women are. She might not sleep with him but she will get emotionally attached.

Has she given you reasons in the past for you not to trust her now? If she hasn't and you believe you guys can still be together, you both should talk before ending things

MhizzAJ:
Any man that wants to be destroyed will be destroyed.

Nobody should put the blame on women.

A real man should have a mind of his own.

It is only dummies that parade themselves as men that will be destroyed and I see a lot of them on Nairaland...

About 90 percent of the comments I read on nairaland comes from men, not even constructive ones but very meaningless comments...they have refused to engage in useful activities, why won't their lives be destroyed.

You took the words right out of my mouth. The men that get destroyed are weak and don't even stand for something in the first place.

When they now get swindled by a lady that takes advantage of their dullness, they come and create countless threads insulting ladies.

mekuso89:
I remember living school for three weeks just to go hustle for uyo to pay my ex house house rent cus her people no too hold, when she saw another guy (rich) and she was about breaking up with me i was begging her to not to go and that she should remember all we shared together and all the sacrifices I made for us, she said to me "so you left school for a girl" for once I doubted my ear. I managed to answer yes baby I did that for you. she then replied "that's stupid"

well long story cut short she broke up with me I suffered so much for it. later went back to school tried so hard to concentrate I came out with 2.1

lol

I would not even advise a guy to do that for my sister.

You should not even blame the girl too much. You should blame yourself for leaving school that your parents probably worked hard to send you to and going to hustle to pay rent for a girl.

We would say that it's things we do for love. Love should be reciprocal... meaning that the girl should also love you enough to tell you to stay in school. Thank God you turned out fine

IamPlato:
Na Wa For This kind Analysis o... Bro Women Are Not That Bad Na

Thank God a guy can defend us.

If a girl takes a guy away from the things he loves, then he should know that she isn't good for him especially hobbies that are not dangerous to him.

Me for instance, i am now a strong football fan. My husband watches all his matches at home. I don't disturb when it's match time(stuffs i leant from marriage counselling).

A lady that keeps a guy from his friends or things he loves is not helping herself.

The way female bashing threads thrive on NL is so amazing. It gives a lot of guys a different level of satisfaction that they cannot even explain.

If you guys like bash o, insult, badmouth...a 40 year old lady will still marry a single fresh guy. You guys are not God...thank God.

No matter what any guy says, ladies will still get married to men. And you guys will get married also to non virgins. So take a chill pill