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Laconfidential:
..."trust me....... I know what I'm doing"....

Sledge hammer

DarryOsh:
Sounds familiar... Can't remember

The Godfather

Do not let anyone know what you are thinking

cooljoe:
if you are gona shoot, shoot, don't talk

The good the bad and the ugly?

1Sharon:
When she used to act. Don't see her any more

She still does. And she runs and owns ROK Tv..channel 168 on dstv

Plankton2017:
Good day all,

My wife to be's character has been terrible since we did our trad. Now I dont know if I should halt my wedding plans slated for this Saturday.

Her and her family are very domineering and rude. She shouts at me at the top of her voice and does not respect me. I have done Trad and Court wedding. what can I do for God's sake

You are already married guy. You have done court and trad. That means you are legally married and you have paud the bride price and fulfilled the traditional rites.

do4luv14:
its a privileges to see a sweet chicks like you replying me, cos I wont mind spending an all nite with you babe, so I can reason objectively

and you know wat that means, it means the erotic smeel of your nearness will achieve that asap

on a more serious note, keep family outta it, cos am not APC, PDP or belongs to any political party,

and minds you am speaking of facts nake facts,

like the nude facts of spending a splendidly erotically night with you , so cheers

Pick a date and venue

It depends on what you are reading. Reading improves the vocabulary and spelling because as you read, you learn new words and also get correct spellings of words.
This article get as e be

do4luv14:
You can believe all you want, one tin is for sure, its all witch hunting,


they will continue to trace till they will trace even to hell itself,

have you ask them how much they have recover, what had they done with it


they should leave ALISON alone, and face the fight, cos this is not corruption they are fighting but, indirectly promoting it

Some people do not reason objectively at all. Try to reason based on facts not based on party or people. Alison doea not care about you or your family. PDP,APC are together. Think...think

Thank God for church wedding. They just send both of you to a hospital chosen by them. You do series of tests and the results are sent to the church. If you one party is infected, they can both still agree to go ahead. But it must be known.

Zizicardo:
I wish to have mine , it's 4 yrs now

It will come. Keep the faith alive

goldedprince:
why will i be travelling for the purpose of leisure and tourism, and you advice me to go for cheap hotels instead of the luxury ones.
better stay in naija instead

It is for those that are working on a tight budget. I am sure everyone would want to stay in a luxury hotel. But till when they can afford it, they have to make do.
Besides, those apartments are really beautiful and convenient.

lolaxavier:
I don't just get it. Smoking is a habit of choice. You do not smoke does not make you a better human. As long as it is not detrimental to your existence, kindly mind your business. Step out of your myopic comfort zone and try to see beyond criticism and self-righteousness. LIVE AND LET LIVE

After now it is the people that should mind their business that would be disturbed to donate money when trouble arises. Please it is our business.

goldedprince:
this is travelling like a peasant

How is it travelling like a peasant?

goldedprince:
this is travelling like a peasant

How is it travelling like a peasant?

TUBLEZ:
Lessons learnt
1.Don't take loan to start a new business, u can only take loan to expand an existing business
2.U can start with the little u have
3.Focus on one business first before diverting ur capital
4.Go for quality

Very true. Most banks do not give loans for a new business because of the uncertainty of it taking off. They rather invest in a business that has been tested and is running.

Geonigga:
When her month been the run like motor she did not know. Women! There can provoke men.

By the time he is jailed we will see if anyone cares that she has a runny mouth. For NO reason should a man hit a woman. Men can be very annoying, overbearing and pigheaded but who beats them?

If she kills herself, she won't see the children when they return. How will that help the children? She should take heart and keep praying they return to her.

desoul2004:
Then, wait till you get married. After 3yrs come back here and share your thoughts. Don't counter any married men again, because you're still far from the reality.

It seems some married people mess up their marriages and then make others and single people feel like all marriages are challenged and bad like theirs. Just the way men that cheat and cant control themselves say "all men cheat". Your marriage is not the standard. Each couple to their own. The outcome of each marriage is based on your decisions, choices, habits, traditions, commitment, mentality, level of wisdom or knowlege,exposure, liberality, love, consideration, responsibility...
There are couples that are enjoying their marriages without pretence. Not all marriages are doomed

ststyreal:
My friend, huhhhh, marriage is the practical and not the theory, when you enter you go understand.

Guy i am married. And i don't seem to understand what you are saying and i am not a newly wed. I married a liberal man as the other poster mentioned. No protocols or plenty serenre. It has never been hard. We have our misunderstandings but that is normal. Even siblings fight.
Both of you should not leave the marriage to work out itself. Work on it

Oyo,Ogun,Ondo, Osun Lagos,Akwaibom, Cross River, Jos,Kaduna, Abuja, Imo

BECALMBECALM:
Enugu,Imo,Abia Ebonyi Edo Delta Akwa ibom Cross river Benue Jos Nasarawa Kaduna kano Jigawa Katsina Taraba Lagos Osun Kwara Ondo Oyo Anambra Sokoto Zamfara kebbi Kogi Yobe Bauchi Ogun Rivers.

Na wa o...Ajala

Destined2win:

Oga abeg oo. Me sef don dey dream wedding.

I am just thinking maybe you need to spice up your marriage. I might be wrong tho

Don't let anyone discourage you or put fear in you. People that are not having it good like to make others feel like it is bad. I can tell you from my own experience that i have never regretted it for one day. I married a long time friend and marriage has been easy and what i hoped it would be. I was never under the illusion that it would be perfect. Afterall, we are both from different backgrounds coming together to make a life together.
My husband makes life very easy for me and i make him want to come home. We fight hard too.
Your marriage is what you make it not what others say it is.

FX:
It is not about compatibility. My wife loves me and I love my wife certainly no doubts about that. But if u add, multiply, subtract and divide everything, u will find out that marriage is burdensome. Check all the marriages of the world, no one is perfect. People are getting married because d society wants them to get married. 99% of married people are not happy but they cover up. The truth is that freedom is priceless. It is not about love, money and compatibility . You can still achieve everything without getting married. I'm married but when I see people doing wedding, I will just say in my mind that these couples don't know what they are getting themselves into.

You need to correct whatever is wrong or lacking in your marriage. Cos on my own part, when i see people getting married, I feel like getting married again and again to the same person...

Toks2008:
Its really amazing how ladies fear the possibility of remaining unmarried for a long time stretching into their late twenties and thirties.

I have seen countless number of naija spinsters visit many prayer houses to seek spiritual guide and advice just to be a mrs and while so many will quickly come out to say they are unperturbed,the truth is that deep inside of them they hope that they just find the "right man" fast enough and start raising a family before reaching their menopause age.

Many ladies do not need prayer and fasting and in most cases,there is no spiritual attack from anywhere but these ladies are their own pitfalls and the simple truth is that 90% of unmarried ladies in their late 20s and 30s have no business still remaining single.

Considering the present global socio economy siituations expecially in a country like ours,here are 5 very vital questions to ask yourself as a lady and the more you give a NO to each of these 5 questions the harder it may be for you to get a man to marry you.

1.Can you start a life with a man in one room ?: Many ladies have boyfriends who live in this type of apartment and infact they have spent some nights with him in that same one room apartment and the guy has lost count of how many times he has scr*wd you in any imaginable ways but when it comes to marriage you will foolishly say you can't marry into one room apartment.

Sorry is your second name and i strongly pity you.Most men who own mansions today started their lives in one room so if you are ok being scr*wd in one room but you can not marry same man living in one room then you are not only clueless but foolish and be ready to be dumped after he has really had you to his fullness.


2.Can you marry a struggling man who has no regular job?:Oh i can imagine some ladies answering LAI! LAI!,MBA NUNU! GOD FORBID and so on to this particular question but please let me ask you"why date a struggling guy or allow him srw you at will yet cant marry him?" strange and foolish i must say.

It is important to know that as long as that man is not lazy,his break through will come and must come.How many ladies have given up an affair because they feel the guy has no job just to realize a year latter that he is gainfully employed or he has started a profitable business and they start feeling bad for not being patient enough.

Ok what is even the guaranty that the ones who have good jobs or business can not experience a crazy turn around? many ladies have lost their chance with a vibrant vision driven man just because they are waiting to say yes to a man who has a job rather than for them to also find something doing that will make them financially independent while the guy has enough space to pursue his dreams.Believe it or not 95% of the rich or successful guys you see today have passed through a struggling phase.


3.Can you have a very low budget wedding?: Now i want every reasonable lady reading this to understand that marital union and marriage ceremony are 2 different things.

Most times when you hear words like "my guy is not ready yet for marriage" what this simply implies is that the guy is NOT READY FOR A BIG MARRIAGE CEREMONY and not that he is not mentally,psychologically and emotionally ready but because our young ladies are overwhelmed with that one day celebration,they will never ever plan any wedding with a man who does not have the money to give them a flamboyant wedding and this is one major reasons why many ladies remain single for a very long time.

Have you looked around to see many graduates still struggling in their 30s with no assurance that a job or business will come up tomorrow? Are you among the myopic ladies who get carried away by a flamboyant wedding ceremony rich parents organize for their children?

Who says you can't have a marriage ceremony with N50,000 budget where a man pays the bride price and proceed to the registry with you and when the money starts coming in you two can do another big time wedding ceremony so why put yourself in bondage of having a compulsory big time wedding before you can be a mrs? Why are you giving that guy a good reason to continue using you,saying he is not ready for marriage ceremony but doing all the imaginable things a man will do to a wife on you.

For my igbo sisters i will advice you to appeal to the elders at home to understand that the fact that few of you are lucky to have a guy pay so much or spend so much on a marriage ceremony against all odds does not erase the fact that countless number of Igbo girls are been courted but not married in a timely manner due to the high expenses involved.


4.Can you marry a man who loves you but is not your preferred spec?:Yes there is nothing absolutely wrong in having a picture of who you want and while some ladies are very fortunate to find such,many have lived in a fantasy world hoping to meet that man who has those qualities they dream of just to wait and wait until they become old waiting for an "ideal man"

In marriage there is nothing like a bad or good choice neither do we have an ideal or non ideal man but its about your choice.Many ladies want a tall,cute,rich.GOD fearing,romantic guy and its so amazing how some ladies will never shift ground and when that short caring and loving guy comes their way they hush him and start running after a prince charming that feels nada for them,what a shame.

Stop having this myopic belief that there is an ideal man out there,no man has it all and all you need to look out for is a man who truly desires and deserves you. If you like keep waiting and screening until you become the object of screening yourself. Be wise.


5.Can you marry a man with a wide age gap to you:This is one of the most dangerous mistakes many ladies make. For crying out loud, except a lady just wants to play around,i do not see why a teenage girl will be dating a fellow teenager or a lady in her early twenties will be dating a guy of just a year or two older than her because when she eventually becomes ripe for marriage, in most cases this guy is still jumping around and fulfilling his sexual fantasies.

Yes age is nothing but a number but in most cases, ladies who date or court guys with wide age gaps like 8years or more tend to end up as a wife to the guy while most ladies who at their young ages started an affair with guys of close age proximity are usually left heart broken latter in life because most guys in the 20s are probably still playing around and not even psychologically ready for marital union.

So when i hear a 23 year old lady telling a guy in his 30s that he is too old for her i just laugh at her ignorance. If you are a teenager reading this or a lady in your early twenties,i will advice that except you just want to play around,you should date or court guys with wide age gap to avoid had i known.YES THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS to this but most times my assertion holds true.

I hope these write up makes sense to those who want to see sense in it.

Good points except number 2. A man without a regular source of income should pause wedding plans. Marriage is funded with money. There are bills to be paid and food to be eaten. When a baby arrives, it is a different ball game. The baby doesn't care if there is no money.He or she needs to eat, poo and wear clothes.
Money issues can break up a marriage.

Protect your spouse from every external party. Defend him or her and make it clear that you people are one.
The way you treat/carry your spouse is the way others will treat him/her. Dont disrespect them and expect others to respect.
I learnt that from my sister's husband. He puts her up there and she does same. No one not even his family can talk to her anyhow.

Op Op Opppp....how many times did i call you?
Do not listen to advice from these single guys that think marriage is about agidi and oppressing a woman o. If you like break up with her and marry another. The next woman might have worse flaws. Everybody has their own. She too has to put up with your flaws.
I assume you have been married traditionally.You pipu have already started sleeping separately. Biko there is no "my room" in marriage.
I can't imagine my husband measuring resources for my sister. Infact he will do all in his power to make them feel comfortable. Families and mentality are different sha.
And what gas did you buy anyway? The regular 12.5kg was 3500 last week when we got it o.

400billionman:
Giving or helping people is a gift.

I wonder, did anyone tell him that giving out just N10,000 will kill him ?

Nnah, I have been watching the guy for sometime, the manner he gets offended when anyone approaches him for help.

I watch most celebrities, some will once in a while share N100k worth of recharge card maybe during their birthdays or New Year day.

Everyone to his own..

The fact that he needs the money to throw a party is the issue. I remember my banker colleague that only did a parlour gathering with only family and very few friends...not up to 25 people for their child's one year birthday. If u dont have, leave it. He will need money for other things. Next, he will beg whizkid for money for diapers. He should focus on the things that matter.
My cousin in the village was disturbing us for money to throw a party for his child's naming ceremony. I told him if he doesn't have, he should not do. I would rather send money for the child's upkeep. Even Onyeka Onwenu said "having baby no be joke o". He has not started yet.

richyblink1:
Mind you, hubby never confronted the sis in law, neither did he say they shouldn't allow her access to stuffs at home. He only directed that he be aware when sister in law gives order in his house.

It's a simple issue the wife failed to address that gave birth to all the many grammars. What stopped her from confronting hubby politely when she overheard hubby's instructions to his cousin. Must she shout to pass her message giving the fact that she started the whole drama by undermining her hubby.

Let me give you an example. My sis in law was already on her way when wifey informed me about her trip. How she presented it made me overlook it.
So I wonder why the wife felt shouting is the way out.

I never said the husband confronted his SIL but she heard the quarrel over her. So if the SIL says to the cousin "I am hungry, what is available to eat", the cousin should contact the husband even when he is not around and ask him if she should give her food before she does. He could as well just lock the kitchen and hold the key.
These things are not cast and stone. People make mistakes but compounding issues only makes it worse. Is it the gravest offence for his inlaw to visit without being informed by his wife? NO. If he cannot manage a little issue like this, what happens to bigger issues because as a married man yourself, you know they will come. His reaction and attitude only tells about the kind of man he is.
I can pack my load and go to my sister's place and my BIL will welcome me and even joke with me and then go inside and quietly scold his wife and let her know she was wrong not to tell him i was coming but he would come back outside smiling. That is maturity and wisdom.
If OP wants to measure yam or count gas, he shouldn't complain about his inlaws not liking him.

Primary...Mrs Sego

Secondary. .Lt col Omotosho, Lt col Ogunsemi, Lt col Udi...one every 2yrs

He is begging for naming ceremony. How is he going to afford diapers and baby food? It is the faaji he is thinking about and impressing people. If he cannot comfortably afford a ceremony, he should not do one.