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This has nothing to do with Paul and the lady.

The hatred will come from those ladies that are way pass their prime. This reminds them that they can't take back yesterday. The competition is getting younger but older than 19.

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beelon1020:
OP sorry about this ordeal.. this is very condemnable act...
however when Tinubu proposed to recruit 55,000 army, people are mocking him,.. will you now agreed with me that with the heavy presence of military personnel nation wide, the kidnapping issues will be a thing of the past?
Food for thought!

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If you like recruit 1,000,000 into the army, when there is no zeal, it will be a wasted effort. People were being kidnapped a few meters from military checkpoints and they turned blind eyes. The roads leading to PH from every axis are littered with checkpoints sometimes a pole apart. So what happened? It hasn't occurred to you that the police/army are colluding with kidnappers.

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Gerrard59:
Fair points. However, not everyone who japa'd went to the US. So, the student debt of a thing or mass shootings sounds like Greek to a Nigerian settled in the Netherlands. Also, other West African countries or even few in Southern Africa offer almost similar advantages and are very safe when compared to Nigeria. My major issue with Nigeria is insecurity. I don't like a place where the elites aren't doing anything about the insecurity situation even if I am tucked inside Banana Island.

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Unless you have lived outside Nigeria, made a lot of money; you can never understand. The serenity you seem to enjoy abroad will get boring over time. Even when some people travel to many other countries for fun, they quickly realize that it is mainly for bragging rights because once you have been to one, you have pretty much been to many others. All developed nations look the same. All shithole countries look the same.

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Good for him.

After crying that IBB prevented him from amassing a lot of wealth like other ex-Presidents, providence provided the opportunity to get even. And boy! He cleaned house. Neither OBJ, IBB, Abdulsalami can stand toe-to-toe against him in wealth after 8 years in Aso Rock. As usual the gullible Nigerians believed that he was coming to fight corruption. With little acts garnished with emotions, anyone can scam Nigerians. Buhari is a living proof.
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Basketmouth and Paul Okoye are some of the luckiest men alive. If their divorces had happened in US, both of them would be slaves to their wives for the rest of their lives.

If you are doing well in Nigeria and wifey starts goading you to relocate the family abroad, don't do it! Well ..unless you are ready to start life afresh. But if you are barely hanging on, then go for it because you can only die once.

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The only reason that crime rates are low in Middle Eastern countries is because they have low to zero tolerance for urchins.

Western style of justice is very slow. Start cutting off hands of urchins caught in the act and this nonsense will stop overnight.

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The only reason you are thinking about it is because deep inside you know that that's one hell of a good offer.

Let her provide the evidence of the 50% first, you only die once. Those who provided 100% for their marriages didn't go home with any guarantees either. If the marriage doesn't work, your loss is minimal. Now compare that to those who spent 100% and ended up losing their children and half of their networth.

If she is ok, do it If a man with a better offer shows up anytime, your current gf will dump you in a heartbeat.
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Supreme145:
My babe is an only child and a fashion freak so she has loads of cloths in her wardrobe. This is a student that doesn't even have a reliable means of income and I don't give her much. She opened up that she has been saving to get my mom a gift.

How do I handle this situation, I don't know what to do with these items, I can't return it to my girlfriend cos it will really hurt her.

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I respect your mother on this one.

Why would she receive gifts from a student with no means of income? Sometimes it is better to go hungry than drink from a poisoned chalice.

If not poverty in you and the fact that freebies (especially through begging) has become a culture in Nigeria, you will see why this is not normal. In your circumstances, can you marry an only child fashionista? Dating vs marriage are two different things
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awosejo1955:
In NIGERIA, our politicians are busy wearing the garment of corruption and embezzlement claiming Jagagban!!

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They will never sponsor tech startups. The only thing they do is distribute N5k every four years during elections and even the downtrodden engineers will join in praising them. Blame the masses and followers. Don't blame the politicians afterall the only reason they do what they do is because they believe the masses are fools and the masses oblige them.

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Kdsml:
Merry xmas every1. Hope you all are having a great night. I nid advice pls

I am married with a kid, my husband traveled out of the country for a greener pasture, I moved out of our rented house and relocated back to my mom's place.

We had sold our properties for 300k he told me he doesn't know how long it will take him to get a job in the new country and I should use the 300k to start up a business so i will be able to take care of our daughter until he will be stable in the new country.

I have decided to start selling foodstuffs in the front of the house and i will use the remaining money for my daughter school fees in January.

My mom asked me to borrow her 120k to pay for my brother school fee and i refused explaining to her why i can't give her the money and she has been giving attitudes and refused to speak to me, i went to the market today i bought xmas clothes for my daughter and a wrapper for my mom she rejected it.

I know she is doing all this for me to give her the money but i will not give it to her no matter what. I don't understand why she is angry when she knows that my husband is not around i should use the money wisely because if i am broke i have no one else to help me.

Am i wrong for refusing to help her?

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Apparently you have nobody to help you.

If you blow this little opportunity, those you think you are helping will be the first to stab you in the back.

Under no circumstances, even if the heavens are falling, should you give out (even as a loan), any part of your money to anyone in this your situation. Doing so is a financial suicide. Even the gods will not forgive you.

NB: This is a lesson for others. Don't get married first, have kid(s) and then start looking for stability in life. Your husband did things in reverse.
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ecolime:
This is the same way some experienced site laborers call themselves Engineer, builder etc.

Some draftsmen too call themselves Architects.

Naija na cruise

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Titles are of higher priority than competence in Nigeria.

If you attend a public function and listen to the introduction of guests by the mc, you may throw up.

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I still don't understand how a woman would build with her husband for years, then abandon her house to a slay queen because of cheating. If you leave your house and everything behind, the slay queen wins because that's her ultimate goal.

May is wise! Staying back will be more traumatic for Yul than her leaving.

Yul has effectively been emasculated. Why would a man tender a public apology to a wife when both of them could discuss privately at home? I guess many men are redpillers until it is the time to prove it Then they fold under pressure. Wimps everywhere!

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2015: Empty promises from APC. Nigerians cheered.

2019: Empty promises from APC. Nigerians cheered.

2022: More empty promises from APC. And some people who would love to be referred to as humans with brains are still cheering

I thought they said stick no dey poke person for eyes twice.

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Fountainofyouth:
I'm guessing the "all of us are poor" applies to you, your family and enclave, if you are bereft of the meaning of the word "poor", a dictionary or Google can help you.

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Miss Google:

What's the meaning of "us"?

Evidently the intelligent ones have japa leaving behind numbskulls who lack basic comprehension.

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Quantity of crude oil export? Nobody knows.

Quantity of naira notes printed? Nobody knows.

Nobody is in-charge in Nigeria. The country is on cruise control. Who do you blame? Everyone! The citizens always find ways to elect the same or refurbished past leaders.

I wish everyone luck.

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Fountainofyouth:
Yet poor people are also getting married every week and also getting divorced, what then is their reason to divorce when money was never involved in the first place? Where exactly did BM specifically say the wife divorced him because of money?

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All of us are poor. Poverty get levels.

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He reached the point of diminishing returns and the marriage tolerance exceeded its elastic limit.

Spinsters are rushing to Shiloh to ask God when while married ones cannot wait to exit.

Who said life balance?

Divorce is the new trend. Expect Nigerians to copy and overdo every bad new trend. 2023 and beyond will be the year of random divorces. I expect all the divorcees to form an association soon in Lagos and start welcoming new members -- Sisterhood!
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I thought they said that this only happens in polygamous families.

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If you reduce your life to money, you can never be happy because you can never have enough. I find all these debates about money as silly as it can get. How come Elon Musk, Trump, Bill Gates, Dangote, Jeff Bezos; all of billionaires ended up divorced but folks earning N100k or less per month are dragging themselves about finances?

I don't know at what point women will start taking responsibilities for choosing irresponsible men for marriage. He proposed. She said YES. So she should spare us the crocodile tears

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The Western media and hype. Everything about Elon Musk reminds me of SBF and FTX. They hyped Zuckerberg all the way to $135 billion networth. This year alone he is back down to $35 billion. They hyped SBF with FTX valuation at $35 billion, now he is down to $0. Listening to SBF, one can't help but wonder how seasoned VCs handed billions of dollars over to the pointdexter. He took down the integrity of Kevin O'Leary (designated O'Liary) with him.

Did Elon found PayPal? No! Is Elon the founder of Tesla? No! The more one listens to his ramblings, one can't help but think about listening to SBF in interviews. I hope one day they won't wake up and decide to smack him down to $10 billion networth. It could only be a tweet away.

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Toosure70:
Abeg who be this one again?

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Look at the source of the news.

Think of the party.

Then reminisce on the last gubernatorial election in Anambra State.

Connect the dots and you figure out the hustler (Afro3) on the beat.

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hammer567:
SEUN OSEWA IS NEXT, E DON TAY WEY, HIM CUP DONE FULL FOR HERE.

I DARE SEUN TO DO POLL, FOR HIMSELF AND MYND44.

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Nairaland has no corporate structure.

It is a one-man show.

Twitter is a public-traded company with Board of Directors and a CEO (who can be voted out).

Try voting out Dangote or Adenuga. We only pretend in this country.

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Blessedmercy8:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=etgq4ZGHExE

Africas richest man looks on in his sick bed in the hospital as his family fights over his properties. What a world.

See how everyone is busy laying claims on his investments and properties.

Men, please when they say stay in one place, make una dey hear word. The problem you people always create and leave behind is not good. Haba!



https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2022/12/family-members-of-ghanaian-business-tycoon-asoma-banda-clash-over-his-wealth-as-he-battles-for-his-life-on-his-sick-bed-video.html

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If na me, I go will my wealth to Ghana Military. Make they go collect am after I check out.

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This is more like J.S.S 1 exam paper.

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Give400:
On a norm I wouldn't have accepted her but because I wasn't in a relationship then and konji was so on my neck I had no choice than to accept her back.

Thats how we came back and free sex was enough.we lived together I was the one paying the rent.

Fast forward I found out she was in contact with one of her exes. I even stumbled on their Facebook chat where she was asking the guy why he got married.
So this girl kept disturbing this guy she will call him even though he told her was married she didn't stop.

So this girl proposed a business idea and since I had spare funds I wasn't using then I found it cool and I gave her 200k to buy 20 bags of groundnuts.

So she sent me an account number to send the money to... Alas it was her ex's account number because the account name matched with the Facebook name. When I confronted her she denied at first but later opened up and promised me not to worry that the guy was only going to withdraw the money and give to the woman as she didn't have a bank account. I kept cool even though I felt betrayed



So I waited and when it was the right time which was December we sold the groundnuts and I got profit of 100k. Cos it was sold at 20k each. So in total I made 300k. Minus my 200k that's 100k profit. Anything can happen when people go about saying they will hurt you. Help a brother with the right thing to do. Thanks

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I think the best the gods can do for you now is to take you out. You are a waste of human space. If I were you, I will marry her so that c'est fini!.

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The currency recoloring is the most stupid decision ever taken by any egghead in-charge of a Central bank no matter the geographical location.

Some things just don't make any sense and this is one of them.

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Let's hope and pray that it is not one of Alexreports' polls because whoever pays always wins in his polls.

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Yul can marry 100 women for all we care.

Only losers will be drinking Panadol for another man headache. Do you think productive people have time to think about who married how many wives and be forming unsolicited opinions?

Mental idleness is a disease indeed.

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Ambitious people don't care about this kind of stories because it numbs the spirit. They cross the bridge when they get there. If old age and death are inevitable, why worry about them?

Don't forget that death still occurs in this world and it is permanent.

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piecuntie:
HI NAIRALANDERS ;
I am about to seperate from husband who sponsored me in school because I am fed up.

I came from a very poor family. I met my husband when I was 19. He wasn't doing well either, he told me he was an engineer in a public hospital but as time went on I got to know he was a level 3 plumber in the civil service.

Well I was young, naive, hungry and blindly in love. He went to trade school and I encouraged him to go back to school for HND or bsc but he said he was going to sponsor me first. I got pregnant for him in my first year in school when I was 20yrs old, my mom was against it. I got to know he was 13years older than me while pregnant. HE TOLD ME HE WAS 26yrs old.

My mom wanted me to abort it, instead i packed my things and stayed with him.
He abused my mom and I defended him. I gave birth while in school and he continued to support me both financially. We fought during those period, series of red flag but I decided to ignore it as long he wasn't beating me. He abused me emotionally. He knew my family was poor and there was no where i could go.

I finished school and my friends told me not to marry a plumber, I declined and told them he promised to go to school.

I finished school and i was scared of depending on him with my child, we were not doing fine at all.

I had no choice than to date a rich guy who helped me with a good job in the year 2017. HE got to know about the guy and i broke up with him. I apologized and we GOT MARRIED LEGALLY and got pregnant with my second child. We spent only 150k.

All the money i made from my salary, I made sure i supported him, i moved out of the family house in the year 2019, we have been there for 8yrs, he couldnt afford to rent a house, I spent 400k, both of us had no friends, we only had each other. I helped my brother and they did well in business. I asked my husband to go back to school, he was still adamant.

We went to a traditional person and they told him there is a curse on his head that i should bathe and do some sacrifice for him, which i did.

By year 2020 he was doing fine, we didn't even go hungry during the lockdown, I supported him with 2million naira and we did our traditional marriage.

IT was his business patners who were notorious cheat and neglected their wife that did his groom men, They introduced him to an association, i have asked him what is the aim of the association, he cant tell me, it is a secret.

3 months after the wedding, he started cheating and even beat me for the first time on our wedding anniversary becaus of the girl,
When he saw i withdrawed all financia assistant like paying half of the rent and paying one of the kids school fees. he called family members to beg me and we settled and i bought a family car for us to use.

Since then i have been walking on eggs around him, he tells me i should respect his age that we are not mate, he beat me again last 3 months saying i am as proud as my mother and i abused his mother back.

This monday i had to run after bus to go to work because i told im i was looking for mOney, and he said i just call him a thief. I had no money on me i had to call my brother to give me money. He wasnt even bothered. He doesn't call me again, WE DONT GO OUT AGAIN


I don't stress him for expensive outing our wigs or phone.
I bought my phone or trip myself out. He would rather hang out with his friends. He tells his friends and the kids i wear cheap outfits.

My mind is now strong. I don't cry again if he offends me nor complain.

I want to divorce him , sell the car and use it for this UK study route and take my children as dependent without him knowing. I am tired of the marriage already. He is 44 while I am 31. i want to move on with my life.

Sorry for the long write up

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Your life, your choice.

It is extremely difficult to advise women knowing that they are quick to run to social media with sobby stories even when they are at fault.

Do whatever you want.

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In this era of heightened insecurity, some supposed adults have their children out in the middle of the night doing holy rosary procession.
The stvpidity of some people is beyond redemption.

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limeta:
State money
Corruption in the highest order

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State money? Yeah right!

You don't know Hope Uzodinma. Tinubu will pay through his nose with this man


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